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cocoama:
Op your story really touched my heart. I cant possibly imagine what you going through but i know how it feels like to be down and depressed.

If you need someone to talk to you can pm me anytime.

Dont commit suicide please. You can still find someone who will accept you for you. There are ladies too who are infertile who found love and marriage and there are ladies too who dont like sex.

I will also do a bit of research myself and will let you know what i find.

Julietcutie:
am so sorry op... jus hope on God nd try visiting other medical practitioners I believe der is still a remedy... one other tin suicide ain't d answer u would find someone who would understand ND accept u as u are...

Tonycart:
Bro out problems comes with different packages. Just few months to my eighteen yrs i hard a terrible accident that left me paralysed from waist down and by nest week it will be my fifteen yrs living as a paraplegia, why dis story is just to tell you to hang on cos greater things will happen. For now i can't stand not to talk of erection

grossintel:
While growing up I felt so different and did things differently. Naturally I am an introvert, my class mates in sec school would say I have a unique way of doing things. I felt so cool about myself expecially the ability to control how I feel generally. I am very handsome and the kind of guy girls easily throw themselves at, again I felt my ability to resist certain temptations was because I had self control. Growing up in a Christian home their are things we don't ask mom and dad, I would look at Lil bro and notice I had a smaller scrotum but I didn't feel something was wrong with me. All these years I never understood I had a real problem. Am all grown now but I can't keep a relationship!! My siblings will always crack a joke about how unlucky I was with finding a good date. First time I got a girlfriend, very loving and caring young girl. We started off for 2yrs without sex. It wasn't a problem for me I don't know what sex feels like but it was to her and she wanted it badly I knew I would loose her if I don't and she began to wonder if I was a man. First time we tried sex I couldn't get erected, I felt it was anxiety and she was supportive. Second and third was worse but we kept trying. She had to tell me to see a doctor fast because I am not okay. Sex ended up being an issue and we broke up. I dated two other girls and the last girl said it to my face "YOU ARE IMPOTENT" And that was when it occurred to me this is serious. I went to see a urologist and after the blood test it was confirmed I had low T. Low testosterone below normal. I couldn't believe I had a problem like this until I did a sperm analysis. I had oligospermia!! 95% abnormality. Further test showed I had Hypogondasim, it's yet unknown if it's secondary or primary Hypogondasim. I knew I had gone down that road where u look back and ask life
What did I do to deserve this?
How do I convince a girl to even accept to marry me?
Is their really a God?
Why am I a man if God won't give me what I need to become a man.
Every solution I have heard so for is impractical, expensive or ridiculous. Imagine injecting testosterone for 6 months before ur fit to make love to your wife? Or injecting my penis to stay up before sex? Alpha blockers like viagra has no effect on me at all. Apart from sexual performance secience is yet to understand male fertility and alot of things will be tried on me, this could take years!!! If it's so simple as doctor's will easily say why are their cases of 25yrs without a child some never have a child and just adopt. Why are their so many drugs and injections if one thing works. Am at the bridge of taking my life, I see no point making all these money and sit down in an empty house sad and lonely.

grossintel:
thanks A've been checked for infections and am free of that. The obvious reason the doctor said was my body wasn't producing the required testosterone I need to erect or produce active sperm cells. This alone is a broad topic because alot of factors can affect testosterone production including genetics( inherited from birth) supplements could help but won't fix the real problem, and might have to be taken indefinitely. Thanks for your suggestion I will ask the doctor tomorrow.

gidimasters:
why not marry him... since u stated dah u dont like sex

cocoama:
check your mail

cocoama:
lol you are funny. Where did i state that?

missyadorable:
This is what fits some of you guys

If your pen.is and hormones were working properly,by now you would be on nairaland bragging about your sexual exploits with hoes and bitch.es

Or be a baby daddy,impregnate girls and deny

Honestly,i dont pity you.

grossintel:
money and sit down in an empty house sad and lonely.

Decker:
Wow. I am really sorry. Had it been you weren't Nigerian or you didn't live in Nigeria, I would have advised you to visit international forums where you'd find ladies who aren't interested in intercourse, and just want the fore-play and other things that don't involve intercourse. There are women like that, I don't know if there are Nigerian women like that, but there is no way to find out is there? You can't go around asking girls that sort of thing, and when you create such kind of thread on Nigeria's biggest forum, NL, all you get is all sorts of negative and discouraging responses.

I honestly don't know what advice to give. Nigerian girls want to be penetrated by an erect dick. At least that's what applies to all the ones I have come across both online and offline. Notice my emphasis on "Nigerian," that's because that's how Nigerians are wired. We always tend to fall at the tail end of the "normal spectrum," except you don't want to date and marry Nigerian women?

But with the speedy advancement in medicine and pharmacy, maybe there is a cure for you. Maybe a hormone boost or something. Just do more research and hopefully, you'd find something that's worth giving a try.

Please don't contemplate the thought of taking your life. It's not worth it. There is more to life than sex. And like I said, there could be a cure for you. There are other things that you derive joy from doing. Spend time doing those things and try to keep your mind off your predicament. I know it's hard, but you have to try. I wish you all the best.

BiafranNigerian:
That sounds silly, talking about money, OP is just 24, how much can he possibly have, to entice me, I am not interested in money from someone who is in dire straits ? Fortunately for me, I am comfortable. What he needs to do is ask, in humility, beg for solution instead of suicide. Until he begs for it, he will not get the solution from me. People need to learn humility one way or the other. He can as well commit suicide if that is easier than begging.

grossintel:
thanks A've been checked for infections and am free of that. The obvious reason the doctor said was my body wasn't producing the required testosterone I need to erect or produce active sperm cells. This alone is a broad topic because alot of factors can affect testosterone production including genetics( inherited from birth) supplements could help but won't fix the real problem, and might have to be taken indefinitely. Thanks for your suggestion I will ask the doctor tomorrow.

grossintel:
While growing up I felt so different and did things differently. Naturally I am an introvert, my class mates in sec school would say I have a unique way of doing things. I felt so cool about myself expecially the ability to control how I feel generally. I am very handsome and the kind of guy girls easily throw themselves at, again I felt my ability to resist certain temptations was because I had self control. Growing up in a Christian home their are things we don't ask mom and dad, I would look at Lil bro and notice I had a smaller scrotum but I didn't feel something was wrong with me. All these years I never understood I had a real problem. Am all grown now but I can't keep a relationship!! My siblings will always crack a joke about how unlucky I was with finding a good date. First time I got a girlfriend, very loving and caring young girl. We started off for 2yrs without sex. It wasn't a problem for me I don't know what sex feels like but it was to her and she wanted it badly I knew I would loose her if I don't and she began to wonder if I was a man. First time we tried sex I couldn't get erected, I felt it was anxiety and she was supportive. Second and third was worse but we kept trying. She had to tell me to see a doctor fast because I am not okay. Sex ended up being an issue and we broke up. I dated two other girls and the last girl said it to my face "YOU ARE IMPOTENT" And that was when it occurred to me this is serious. I went to see a urologist and after the blood test it was confirmed I had low T. Low testosterone below normal. I couldn't believe I had a problem like this until I did a sperm analysis. I had oligospermia!! 95% abnormality. Further test showed I had Hypogondasim, it's yet unknown if it's secondary or primary Hypogondasim. I knew I had gone down that road where u look back and ask life
What did I do to deserve this?
How do I convince a girl to even accept to marry me?
Is their really a God?
Why am I a man if God won't give me what I need to become a man.
Every solution I have heard so for is impractical, expensive or ridiculous. Imagine injecting testosterone for 6 months before ur fit to make love to your wife? Or injecting my penis to stay up before sex? Alpha blockers like viagra has no effect on me at all. Apart from sexual performance secience is yet to understand male fertility and alot of things will be tried on me, this could take years!!! If it's so simple as doctor's will easily say why are their cases of 25yrs without a child some never have a child and just adopt. Why are their so many drugs and injections if one thing works. Am at the bridge of taking my life, I see no point making all these money and sit down in an empty house sad and lonely.

Ginaz:
So sorry dear,cant imagine how you will be feeling. Please don't get depressed. I which I was there to hold you, must have been shocking for you.

Don't forget I care, o.p please don't be depressed. When there is will, there is life.

"Hugs him"

grossintel:
not occasionally but I do. Last time was in the hospital for the analysis and it's over a week. Do I get erections when I do? A little and the moment I leave it, it falls very rapidly and won't last a sec. It could be psychological or physical but it won't be psychological if am diagnosed of real physical problems.

talk2oc:
Dear Grossintel. I can understand your pain. I have a similar problem and I was not aware until after my weeding. My wife and I decided to stay and fight together when we found out. First we went to hospital and ran series of test after which some medications we prescribed. Unfortunately non worked after one year. We did our own research and made a discovery of a certain fertility drug manufactured in Germany and we called our Dr.and she gave approval for us to use it. The drug was not here in Nigeria and we imported it from Germany. After taken it for 3 months we went for tests and I was completely healed and two months later my wife got pregnant. You can give it a trial and stay positive. Is never your fault

grossintel:
okay thanks I will check it out.

missyadorable:
This is what fits some of you guys

If your pen.is and hormones were working properly,by now you would be on nairaland bragging about your sexual exploits with hoes and bitch.es

Or be a baby daddy,impregnate girls and deny

Honestly,i dont pity you.

BiafranNigerian:
That sounds silly, talking about money, OP is just 24, how much can he possibly have, to entice me, I am not interested in money from someone who is in dire straits ? Fortunately for me, I am comfortable. What he needs to do is ask, in humility, beg for solution instead of suicide. Until he begs for it, he will not get the solution from me. People need to learn humility one way or the other. He can as well commit suicide if that is easier than begging.

missyadorable:
This is what fits some of you guys

If your pen.is and hormones were working properly,by now you would be on nairaland bragging about your sexual exploits with hoes and bitch.es

Or be a baby daddy,impregnate girls and deny

Honestly,i dont pity you.

hungryboy:
Oga grossintel bro, abeg if i talk say i feel your pain na lie i dey talk because na only you know wetin you dey feel ,
But no matter what, no commit suicide abeg cos na your family go feel am pass,
But in case you no wan take my advice abeg follow write my name put for your will,
I no dey joke for dis talk were i wan talk so oh, in case you meet doctor were tell you say him fit do prick transplant,
Come to me, i'll be your donor,

But no forget to come with 5million oh

BiafranNigerian:
Well, I think attitude is everything, I had expected you to ask me for the solution to your Erectile Dysfunction, which I took time to pen down, then what I got was you asking me to re-read your post slowly. Sorry bro, carry your cross until you get humble enough or be humbled by nature. It took me many decades to figure it out what I wanted to share for free.