₦airaland Forum

freecocoa:
No woman should fight over a man but a woman should fight a man, when the need arises.

If she can't beat him one on one, then she can get help.

If she is wise, she will fight not to have him back but to hurt him no matter how small, for treating her like that.

Looks like the woman and sister lost more. One lost half her hair, the other one her shirt is torn. They were now shouting police. Just take a picture of him, note down his address. Trace his work place and get the family services in Lagos State involved to force him to take care of his child.

DjValency:
easier said than done, we are talking abt the man that fvcked her at 21 and she bore him a child, common we are humans

Ok, after fighting. Now what? Did the man give her money? Take her back? Restore her virginity? Take care of his son What did it achieve

Destined2win:
Some men Sha. Disgracing themselves since 1555bc.

The lady sef still like am. She for use that stick knack am for head small

Ha, I love that woman in stripe top, she has control of herself, she actually restrained herself, she most be somewhere from the village in Enugu abi na Owerri you call am. If na all these Lagos girl, that man would've either been in an hospital recuperating now or we for the read another story. Kudos to her. But who is the other woman in blue...?

Blessed are the peace maker, for they shall be called the sons of God. You are busy taking pix and video too bad. May God forgive u guys

MotherConfesor:
Oh! i might just bed real confessor... u never can tell

Ya right. ... Ok. Read my mind and ill believe u. Just stalked you and i must say, MotherConfesor now looks pretty and darker now. .... I guess Jim Ike is the real richard then

MotherConfesor:
Oh! i might just bed real confessor... u never can tell

Ya right. ... Ok. Read my mind and ill believe u. Just stalked you and i must say, MotherConfesor now looks pretty and darker now. .... I guess Jim Ike is the real richard then

vickylala239:
Okk....responsibility::: Culd she Hv been bothered, if she was working?

7yrs or 20yrs,u cnt force anyone to stay in you knw.....Infact seeing him culd Hv help her clear the air....not fighting......

Men are very different set of Ppl,if u Lik Hv a new born baby today...Jst tiwa's case...

To me wen u see your husband,Dat is wen he is ur husband... he goes out to work or buy something ,then at that moment u Dnt Hv a husband,wen he is bck from wrk you have a husband....

Lmao... Nigerians o. It this the new thing or it's just you?

baby124:
Looks like the woman and sister lost more. One lost half her hair, the other one her shirt is torn. They were now shouting police. Just take a picture of him, note down his address. Trace his work place and get the family services in Lagos State involved to force him to take care of his child.

She didn't plan her fight well, I agree but I can understand the need as to why she would want to fight the man. Not everyone is very calculative, nor can be able to not give into their emotions instantly.

baby124:
Looks like the woman and sister lost more. One lost half her hair, the other one her shirt is torn. They were now shouting police. Just take a picture of him, note down his address. Trace his work place and get the family services in Lagos State involved to force him to take care of his child.

This would be a less embarrassing, more civil and more fruitful way of handling the issue.
I wonder why people think that violence will solve anything? Revenge can at best give you a temporary relief but at worst cause a lot of trouble.

I understand why people seek to soothe their pain by resorting to violence BUT it is dangerous and myopic.

pweetychyka:
Nice points!

But to an extent u got it all wrong!
The Man in question who abandoned her n their 2 kids in d village with no communication talk more of remuneration/stipend to take care of their kids, is her hubby!

Some men r not worth living in dis world.

The man doesn't care about her or his son.

It takes a special breed of men to walk away from their own flesh and blood without an ounce of guilt. So why on earth would any sane woman want to risk life and limb over such a low life?

And more importantly, did she gain what she ran there for? Did he give her a Kobo?

Definitely not worth it. She's young, healthy, and has her whole life ahead of her. No point wasting it on a loser.

bebe2:
Aunty, dat one hard oo. A man lies to me gets me pregnant and abandons me for another woman.

He is begging my ghetto persona to come out to play. I must draw blood. Not kidding

My sister life is tough. If you get dealt a hard one, you weigh your options and turn things around to your advantage.

Him leaving her and his son is a blessing in disguise. Why? There obviously was no love lost between them in that relationship - especially from the man.

At least with him out of the picture, their son doesn't get to see the sour side of a relationship gone bad. i.e: he is saved the emotional trauma of witnessing of physical and emotional violence between his parents.

Sure it's pain but what happens after he sees your ghetto side and you've drawn blood? Will it open his pockets?

Men are naturally physically stronger than women. What if such a man permanently injures you in the process? Will it stop him from towing the path he's mapped out for himself? I.e marrying x number of wives and breeding z number of kids?

Abeg talk another one. It's best to let him go.

goingape:
no WOMAN, I repeat! no WOMAN is worth chasing, much less fighting over for. there are very useless WOMEN here in NAIJA.

infact NAIJA WOMEN deserve to be treated like goat!

Agreed. It takes goat to recognise a goat

rantmoniker:
If you cannot chase an husband you are legally married to from going astray, I wonder what you are chasing.

Why should I?

I value myself too much to descend to that level. Street fighting? Getting beaten up and losing half my clothes over what?

Abeg talk another one.

If he wants to leave, he knows where the door is. Marriage is not a do or die affair. Life still goes on and I'm certainly not done with living it to the maximum.

CACAWA:
is that why you prefer to chase boys?

Okay, no male is worth fighting / chasing / killing oneself / having sleepless nights over.

Satisfied?

freecocoa:
She didn't plan her fight well, I agree but I can understand the need as to why she would want to fight the man. Not everyone is very calculative, nor can be able to not give into their emotions instantly.

If you want to go violent it's better to involve area boys. But still that won't achieve much as you may all end up in prison and soil your future over a worthless man. Even if I want to fight back, I never involve myself. Hahahhaa. I cannot come and let one useless idiat, that his life has spoilt to come and add insult upon injury on my beautiful face that should attract better men. I go use area boys show am pepper if I ever go that route.

Iranu

Naughtysite:
So women are worth chasing abi ?


If i wooze you ehn ?

Men since time immemorial have been destined to blindly chase after women. It's entrenched in your DNA and can't be helped. Just accept it.

Now take your violence elsewhere.

EfemenaXY:
Agreed. It takes goat to recognise a goat

yeah! I'm a goat you are a goat we are all goat and everybody is happy!

DipoDee:
Sad!

Reminds me of a friend, her dad abandoned her mum and her siblings, remarried and moved to another town.

Mum struggled to raise 5 kids alone, she did not remarry though the husband left when she was 27/28.

I still wonder how that woman who enjoyed sex legally and often before the separation managed to survive.

The loniliness, struggles, fears, etc...while the man simply moved on, never looking back.

Sad!

It's the Nigerian way. Very sad indeed.

baby124:
If you want to go violent it's better to involve area boys. But still that won't achieve much as you may all end up in prison and soil your future over a worthless man. Even if I want to fight back, I never involve myself. Hahahhaa. I cannot come and let one useless idiat, that his life has spoilt to come and add insult upon injury on my beautiful face that should attract better men. I go use area boys show am pepper if I ever go that route.

Now we are talking.

I would never physically initiate a fight with a man, there's no sense in that but if a man hits me and I notice that the odds will likely be in my favour should I retaliate, I so definitely will, if na just two of us dey there, I go go, then come back for am.

freecocoa:
Now we are talking.

I would never physically initiate a fight with a man, there's no sense in that but if a man hits me and I notice that the odds will likely be in my favour should I retaliate, I so definitely will, if na just two of us dey there, I go go, then come back for am.

Chances I go that route are very slim. And it will be an anonymous thorough beating. Hahaha. The one that will leave him in pains and with hospital bill, but not near dead.

EfemenaXY:
The man doesn't care about her or his son.

It takes a special breed of men to walk away from their own flesh and blood without an ounce of guilt. So why on earth would any sane woman want to risk life and limb over such a low life?

And more importantly, did she gain what she ran there for? Did he give her a Kobo?

Definitely not worth it. She's young, healthy, and has her whole life ahead of her. No point wasting it on a loser.

Well said!

But wat kinda human being with blood flowing in all d arteries of his vein, abandon his family?

I can only imagine d kinda pain d wife is going thru tho!

It is well
#allsingleladiesouttaderelearnfromherstory

baby124:
Ok, after fighting. Now what? Did the man give her money? Take her back? Restore her virginity? Take care of his son What did it achieve

awareness, better to speak out than dieing in silence.... but the fighting wasn't part of her plans ,it just happened

baby124:
Chances I go that route are very slim. And it will be an anonymous thorough beating. Hahaha. The one that will leave him in pains and with hospital bill, but not near dead.

Only you is a bad girlz.

EfemenaXY:
My sister life is tough. If you get dealt a hard one, you weigh your options and turn things around to your advantage.

Him leaving her and his son is a blessing in disguise. Why? There obviously was no love lost between them in that relationship - especially from the man.

At least with him out of the picture, their son doesn't get to see the sour side of a relationship gone bad. i.e: he is saved the emotional trauma of witnessing of physical and emotional violence between his parents.

Sure it's pain but what happens after he sees your ghetto side and you've drawn blood? Will it open his pockets?

Men are naturally physically stronger than women. What if such a man permanently injures you in the process? Will it stop him from towing the path he's mapped out for himself? I.e marrying x number of wives and breeding z number of kids?

Abeg talk another one. It's best to let him go.

i see ur point my sister.

but e dey pain.

wat if i pay some area boys to just beat am, because i go still like to draw blood small

my body too hot oo

bebe2:
i see ur point my sister.

but e dey pain.

wat if i pay some area boys to just beat am, because i go still like to draw blood small

my body too hot oo

If revenge will help you feel better, go for it. If it won't, don't waste your time and resources.

The problem with MOST people is that they give others the control over how they feel.

Dyt:
Let her fight oo
Its her right

You didn't fight for Mr Efe?


*runs outta thread*

Chai!

EfemenaXY:
Men since time immemorial have been destined to blindly chase after women. It's entrenched in your DNA and can't be helped. Just accept it.

Now take your violence elsewhere.

Some ladies like violence. Why ?

They save violent movies on their phones. They slap their boyfriends.

Check it..

whao...na wa ooo...

Dude wouldn't let go of her hair ! .. What if he ripped out her scalp? I'm having goosebumps watching it, Too disturbing for my mental health.... Nobody deserves such treatment. What for?

montezz:
Chai!

Leave my sister