sukkot:
indeed guvna indeed. the amicable way is always the best way out. no need enriching charge and bail lawyers na

Well said, you are a peaceful man big bredren

gisthit:
Too bad,how long will married women continue to suffer domestic violence.

Aminat508:
According to a Facebook user, Olubunmi Ajai Layode shared the photo of a woman whose husband allegedly smashed a plank on her head during an argument at their home.

Layode wrote;

SOS! I'm in private inbox with a lady who has fled DV She is in Abuja with her sister. Her family is putting pressure on her to go back to her husband. Her mother says 'da'le mosu' - single parenthood is not good. Her father who is retired is fending for her. Can we have Abuja helpers please! She sent me several pictures but asked me not to show her face. This one below is one where he smashed a plank on her head. And her family want her to go back to the man! They say there is no couple that don't fight. Yes. But how many smash planks on their spouses' heads? Can we get help in Abuja please! She needs a job, shelter. She's got kids. Her son wakes up in the night screaming 'MUMMY! DADDY IS GOING TO KILL YOU!'

See her photo belowdoes she have money


Source @ http://www.amiloaded.com/2016/05/husband-smashes-wooden-plank-on-his.html?m=0

uzolexis:


The bolded is wrong, you should NEVER hit your spouse whether it's a slap or two or with a plank, it is WRONG.

greenpasture:


Without making excuses, Nigerian men are highly emasculated. At work they are talked down on, poverty robs them of dignity and some are already not mentally sound. At the slightest provocation they , flare up to defend their non existent manhood we need lots of retraining on what I means to be male ( females too)

Body parts are not enough.

Once you see a man flaring up for no good reason, get on your bike.

GloriaNinja:
Domestic violence that women suffers are the trend of 2016, if she returns back to her violent husband, she will be dead.

remioshy:
Domestic abuse has been happening years and years ago, I prayed women will wise up and leave such relationships, I had the courage to leave an abusive relationship when I got lucky to be given another chance at living. I had been in an abusive relationship with my then boyfriend for about 2 years, he was so controlling , I was young and in love, he always beats me at every argument or provocation, I kept it to myself, I got pregnant for him in my final year at the university, heavily pregnant, he still beats me, but belts he on my legs and says you can beat a pregnant woman but only on her legs, I could not tell my mum because she didn't like him at all , I had a child for him and he still continues, I was scared to leave him cos I thot who will marry me now with a child, the last time he beat me, he was so angry he grabbed a plank and bang on my head, I woke up in hospital, his cousins took me there and they told the doctors I fell off the stairs, I realised there and then that if I don't leave him he will kill me one day, if I had died that day, his family would have covered for him, I didn't care anymore what people will say or who will marry me, I grabbed my child and left him, told him it was over and never to come bear me, removed his name from my child and made sure he won't be able to find us. It's been 20 years now and I never regretted leaving him. Anytime I hear of such abuse I always remember him and what a lucky escape for me. Women should be courageous to walk away from a violent and abusive man or relationship. It's just not worth it, for the children and for them

abbey621:


Everyone has a plan, until they get hit in the jaw----Mike Tyson

The quote above explains why the word never should not be used! I've seen many advocates with the same philosophy as yourself end up eating their words when they met a spouse or girl/boyfriend much more aggressive!

E.g- For a man, his wife held him by the neck and refused to let go of his shirt in the middle of the street, such a man would he continue to bear the disgrace or would he become aggressive?

E.g- A wife slapped her mother-in-law in the presence of her husband, would such a man ask his mother to turn the other cheek or would he use the law of Moses?

E.g- A man after working 10plus hours, comes home to find out his kids were left alone all day and are starving, the wife comes back around 11pm sweaty and hair messed up, the human nature of the man would cause him to do what?

E.g- A man brought another woman onto his matrimonial bed, the wife caught them. Would the wife get aggressive or just walk away?

E.g- A man left home for a trip of 2 days and didn't bother to call or come back for 2 months, wife received a call from a friend that she saw her husband at one hotel not too far, wife gets to the hotel and finds husband with a mistress. Such a wife should walk away right?

pcguru1:


Seriously why do people push these women to their death, even churches they will say go back and when she's dead it's a different story. I hate men who beat women, even my Dad was an example of men who beat women Pathetic man, I always hated him and people like that.

Left to me, i encourage women to have something for themselves so that in situations like this they can easily leave and fend for the kids.

uzolexis:


No, the woman should run as far as her legs can carry her away from the man. For her son to scream "Mummy Daddy is going to kill you" in his sleep indicates this is not a one time occurrence and children should not be raised in a violent environment, it scars them not to mention the life of the woman too. She should run.

uzolexis:


I have been in an abusive relationship before so i am talking from experience. Yes, you should walk away no matter what, violence is NEVER the answer, there are much more suitable ways of handling these issues.

pcguru1:


am happy for your decision

greenpasture:


Without making excuses, Nigerian men are highly emasculated. At work they are talked down on, poverty robs them of dignity and some are already not mentally sound. At the slightest provocation they , flare up to defend their non existent manhood we need lots of retraining on what I means to be male ( females too)

Body parts are not enough.

Once you see a man flaring up for no good reason, get on your bike.

abbey621:


And I've also dated a girl that would curse at me and throw things at me at the slightest provocation, the last straw was when she smashed my car's windscreen. Most guys have a plan not to ever hit a woman until they are left with no choice. We all like to behave like Westerners and be all civil but some women are animals and for such women no amount of dialogue will do! Why do you think the average Nigerian women is better behaved than their American equals? Nigerian men refuse to be p*ssies!

abbey621:


And I've also dated a girl that would curse at me and throw things at me at the slightest provocation, the last straw was when she smashed my car's windscreen. Most guys have a plan not to ever hit a woman until they are left with no choice. We all like to behave like Westerners and be all civil but some women are animals and for such women no amount of dialogue will do! Why do you think the average Nigerian women is better behaved than their American equals? Nigerian men refuse to be p*ssies!

Lucasbalo:
How many American women have you known or dated to say Nigerian women behave better. Women are the same all over the world. There is no excuse to beating a woman. Been married for over 20 years and never touch my wife. Violence is not the answer to marital problems.

9jatatafo:


Running away is one of the means of conflict resolution.

abbey621:


I've dated over 5 American women, I have uncles, cousins and brothers that have dated American women, I also have the experiences from friends, colleagues and neighbors regarding American women. Women are not the same all over the world, society and culture influences the way most people behave! Now congratulations on being married for 20 years without any violence but most people are not as lucky as you, no one is saying violence is the answer but to pretend as if there are no situations that would warrant couples to get aggressive towards each other is to continue living in El-dorado!