Judith is my junior in office, I assisted her to secure the job in 2012 by pleading severally with our Chief Executive to retain her after her NYSC assignment with us. She worked directly me during her NYSC. She is a very hardworking, serious minded, down to earth and brilliant young girl. After her employment, I housed her for 5 months after leaving Corpers Lodge before she secured an accommodation at the staff quarters. She is very close to my family, we are like family members even though she's from Imo while I'm from Ondo. Her parent have been to my place several times since 2011, very loving family. After she got her accommodation, a particular guy started visiting her which l think is normal for a 23 year old lady then, she always smile each time I teased her with the guy, saying she should do something on time. She bought a Toyota Corolla in 2014, l saw her as a hhappy upwardly mobile girl. But on May 20 this year, the President of our cooperative society invited me to his office to report Judith to me, according to him, Judith is owing the society close to N2 million and it has been difficult getting her monthly deductions from her account since she would have cleared every dime immediately salaries are paid through REMITTA. I was so disturbed because Judith is owing me N22000 and I know she's owing my wife N50000 or more. I haven't been asking her questions as l used to do in the past in recent times. I invited Judith and told her my findings from the CTS president, she broke down in tears saying it was Iyke, the guy l saw with her who have constituted himself into the parasite that have been sucking her finances. She has even taken a loan of N1million for Iyke in First Bank, her car has been collected by Iyke and she now hops around on Okada. What type of thing is this? Iyke is an Ibo like her, l discovered that this lyke is just one unserious and dubious Playboy who have nothing serious to do with Judith than use her as his source of income. This girl is in a mess financially, her take home will be less than 10k if First bank and CTS deducts their loans regularly and Iyke is always around to clear her account at the end of each month. She is now asking me to help her retrieve her car and other belongings from lyke, the guy disappeared immediately she told him their relationship has ended, I still see Iyke driving Judith's car around. Judith's dad is ready to pay off all her indebtedness but he also begged me to help take care of Iyke first, Judith is ready to do away with the crook but how will l handle this serious assignment? I have asked the CSO of our institution to help in retrieving the car but he is suggesting we involve the police, an option which l don't like, the police will get things complicated. How can l help Judith, the whole thing is affecting her and her work.

I still think you should involved the police

If "love" is involved; Judith will not learn a thing, Iyke will return and you'd be tagged an enemy.


Ensure you know the present state of their relationship before you dabble into recovery. Judith may not learn yet until she's back to zero level. For as long as "love" is involved, you cannot stop Judith, allow her learn from cute experiences.

Project400:
If "love" is involved; Judith will not learn a thing, Iyke will return and you'd be tagged an enemy.


Ensure you know the present state of their relationship before you dabble into recovery. Judith may not learn yet until she's back to zero level. For as long as "love" is involved, you cannot stop Judith, allow her learn from cute experiences.

Are you a seer? You saw my mind. This is one of my biggest fears hère.

wwwkaycom:
Are you a seer? You saw my mind. This is one of my biggest fears hère.

Yes, bro.

Come to think of it, why does she needs a police to get back her car from the playboy?

Is she scared? still attracted?

If the answer to the above is 'yes', back off, and watch until the feeling expires. The only problem is that it would be too late to recover anything.

She knows how to retrieve her car, she's using you as a means to it.

Don't be fooled.

If she is totally done with Iyke, no one will teach her how to get her possesions back and stop him from raiding her account
Before you go off and do anything ask her very well the reason why she cant do it herself
Is she being blackmailed?
threatened?
You need to get her to confide in you totally and tell you the whole truth before you end up fetching water into a basket.
Until she is 100% done with Iyke it will be a wasted effort and exposing yourself to unnecessary stress and danger
I wont support own husband sticking his neck out for such nonsense.
Let her own relatives do her dirty work for her

Yomieluv:
She knows how to retrieve her car, she's using you as a means to it.

Don't be fooled.

she doesn't know anything, she's just been blinded by love and the crooked lyke capitalised on her innocence to dupe her. The earlier she's assisted from that crook, the better. However, why is OP not interested in involving the police? Kindly get that guy arrested (though on the orders of Judith and her family sha o) and let him be treated as a criminal who he is, cheers!

tearoses:
If she is totally done with Iyke, no one will teach her how to get her possesions back and stop him from raiding her account
Before you go off and do anything ask her very well the reason why she cant do it herself
Is she being blackmailed?
threatened?
You need to get her to confide in you totally and tell you the whole truth before you end up fetching water into a basket.
Until she is 100% done with Iyke it will be a wasted effort and exposing yourself to unnecessary stress and danger
I wont support own husband sticking his neck out for such nonsense.
Let her own relatives do her dirty work for her

Judith's family are far away in the east while she is in the southwest l guess. The OP is like a father figure to her, if something isn't done urgently, Iyke will ruin that girl's life and that's all. Get him arrested asap.

My own question is, how do guys get ladies to give them money I've never been able to do that

I have a question for judit 1 who is with the original paper of the car?who's name on the car?if the name on the car paper is Judith and the original is with Judith I think she don't need police at all..she should just arrange some guys that can follow her to iyke and she should ask iyke her car key if iyke refused those boy should just hep her offer a iyke a slap that is very dirty than toilet and take the key but when she take the key back the ignition and door key most be change immediately but before you help her on all this make sure that Judith already has nothing to do with iyke 100% sp that you wont look like intruder when dey settle again

mamajohn:
Judith's family are far away in the east while she is in the southwest l guess. The OP is like a father figure to her, if something isn't done urgently, Iyke will ruin that girl's life and that's all. Get him arrested asap.

Well the earlier the parents get involved in this the better.
A 23 year old owing over 3.1 million (that's the one we know) because of a man, is a very serious matter and they should be stepping in and not leaving it to someone else to do.
Lets not forget that she has no way of paying back this debt and it its only a matter of time before she starts to do drastic things to try and pay off her debts
The parents need to be involved biko.
This is 3.1 million and not 30,000

5minsmadness:
My own question is, how do guys get ladies to give them money I've never been able to do that

You are too loaded thats why

I don't know how myself
someone I know of handed her car over to her bf while she was taking taxis and bikes
Fine hard-working marketable girl o!
The boy broke up with her and kept the car
She asked him severally for it but he didn't bring it back. Excuses. Its at the mechanic, I'm not in town bla bla bla
6 months later he wrote the car off and called her to come and take her car
End of car
I wonder too sometimes.

arthurshelly:
I have a question for judit 1 who is with the original paper of the car?who's name on the car?if the name on the car paper is Judith and the original is with Judith I think she don't need police at all..she should just arrange some guys that can follow her to iyke and she should ask iyke her car key if iyke refused those boy should just hep her offer a iyke a slap that is very dirty than toilet and take the key but when she take the key back the ignition and door key most be change immediately but before you help her on all this make sure that Judith already has nothing to do with iyke 100% sp that you wont look like intruder when dey settle again

Thanks guy, immediately l saw this comment l rushed to her flat to ask for the papers of the car, she has all papers and a spare key intact with her. l called a woman Judith called Iyke's sister who lives in Owo on the phone (we live in Akure) and asked her certain questions, she said Iyke told her that the relationship between him and Judith is over, she promised to personally collect Judith's car from Iyke and bring it to me immediately lyke return from Benin City this evening. She pleaded that she will find out from her brother about issues of money and other belongings when he returns but that I shouldn't involve the police at all, I will wait for her, thank you all.

tearoses:


Well the earlier the parents get involved in this the better.
A 23 year old owing over 3.1 million (that's the one we know) because of a man, is a very serious matter and they should be stepping in and not leaving it to someone else to do.
Lets not forget that she has no way of paying back this debt and it its only a matter of time before she starts to do drastic things to try and pay off her debts
The parents need to be involved biko.
This is 3.1 million and not 30,000

Her parent and younger brother are already involved. Her father is ready to pay off all indebtedness but wants the issues of Iyke resolved first, apart from this, l can help her plead with CTS President to reschedule her deductions, first bank have been deducting theirs regularly since her salary comes regularly to her account there. Her father is also talking about relocating her to the east but where is the job for her there? She has a federal job here in Akure. The problem I saw in her is that she hasn't been involved in any serious relationship before now and Iyke abused her because of her innocence, imagine asking her to take a bank loan and she went through all the processes without letting me know, just too naive and simple.

Please don't let the dad relocate her to east of there is no job she will be doing there

Welldone son of lie moh'med

She is an adult. Leave her alone and let her clear up the mess she has co-created with her wonderful boyfriend.

Mindfulness:
She is an adult. Leave her alone and let her clear up the mess she has co-created with her wonderful boyfriend.

na so u wicked reach

Nova15:


na so u wicked reach

Nonsense.

Mindfulness:
She is an adult. Leave her alone and let her clear up the mess she has co-created with her wonderful boyfriend.

are you serious now? you know it's this mind your business attitude that's spoiling the world and besides the girl is like a sister to him

Blade21:
are you serious now? you know it's this mind your business attitude that's spoiling the world and besides the girl is like a sister to him

Nothing is spoiling my world more than people who do not know how to mind their business.

Mindfulness:


Nothing is spoiling my world more than people who do not know how to mind their business.

lol go joor

wwwkaycom:
Her parent and younger brother are already involved. Her father is ready to pay off all indebtedness but wants the issues of Iyke resolved first, apart from this, l can help her plead with CTS President to reschedule her deductions, first bank have been deducting theirs regularly since her salary comes regularly to her account there. Her father is also talking about relocating her to the east but where is the job for her there? She has a federal job here in Akure. The problem I saw in her is that she hasn't been involved in any serious relationship before now and Iyke abused her because of her innocence, imagine asking her to take a bank loan and she went through all the processes without letting me know, just too naive and simple.

I get all you are all trying to do to help the situation
However there is something very faulty with her
Esteem issues?
Stupidity?

When would she have stopped?
If he had asked her to steal from her employers or even you would she have done so?
Like I said, this is not 30K
Yes many girls do things for their boyfriends out of love, but not to this extent.
She needs factory resetting or she will find herself in the same situation again.
If you dont reset her, she is at high risk of being abused in future relationships.

You say she is naive and simple
Didn't she go to higher institution?
didn't she serve?
She works so she knows how hard it is to make money
if at 23 she needs to be handheld in relationships then she needs to go back home to her parents.
I'm serious.

tearoses:


I get all you are all trying to do to help the situation
However there is something very faulty with her
Esteem issues?
Stupidity?

When would she have stopped?
If he had asked her to steal from her employers or even you would she have done so?
Like I said, this is not 30K
Yes many girls do things for their boyfriends out of love, but not to this extent.
She needs factory resetting or she will find herself in the same situation again.
If you dont reset her, she is at high risk of being abused in future relationships.

You say she is naive and simple
Didn't she go to higher institution?
didn't she serve?
She works so she knows how hard it is to make money
if at 23 she needs to be handheld in relationships then she needs to go back home to her parents.
I'm serious.

You have said it all.

She is 23 for God's sake!

How can someone be this st.upid?

I wouldn't lift a finger to help her and the experiece would definitely make her smarter the next time around.

Since Iyke no longer has her permission to drive her car, and he's refused to return it, she can report it as stolen at the police station.
I doubt if she can get back the monies she's loaned the guy unless she has evidence in a written note or text from him acknowledging he owes her any money.
If she does let her sue him to court.
Hope she has learned from this, but don't be surprised if she still claims to "lrove" him

This is now close to one year, Iyke's sister really helped, Judith's car was retrieved in August 2016, it was in a very bad shape. The car was sold off, she got a smaller Gold 3 she now drives around. Judith's dad paid off our cooperative money while Judith is left with servicing First Bank's loan till 2018. Iyke was actually using Judith money to process a visa to Canada, he was duped too. They have gone their separate ways, Judith looks sober and serious these days, she has already enrolled for her masters at FUTA and that is taking much of her times, she's busy now. I think she's getting over Iyke, thank you nairalanders.

Please sir can you connect me with your organization? I have some years of working experience with a microfinance bank. And i am out of job presently. Please assist me.

wwwkaycom:
Judith is my junior in office, I assisted her to secure the job in 2012 by pleading severally with our Chief Executive to retain her after her NYSC assignment with us. She worked directly me during her NYSC. She is a very hardworking, serious minded, down to earth and brilliant young girl. After her employment, I housed her for 5 months after leaving Corpers Lodge before she secured an accommodation at the staff quarters. She is very close to my family, we are like family members even though she's from Imo while I'm from Ondo. Her parent have been to my place several times since 2011, very loving family. After she got her accommodation, a particular guy started visiting her which l think is normal for a 23 year old lady then, she always smile each time I teased her with the guy, saying she should do something on time. She bought a Toyota Corolla in 2014, l saw her as a hhappy upwardly mobile girl. But on May 20 this year, the President of our cooperative society invited me to his office to report Judith to me, according to him, Judith is owing the society close to N2 million and it has been difficult getting her monthly deductions from her account since she would have cleared every dime immediately salaries are paid through REMITTA. I was so disturbed because Judith is owing me N22000 and I know she's owing my wife N50000 or more. I haven't been asking her questions as l used to do in the past in recent times. I invited Judith and told her my findings from the CTS president, she broke down in tears saying it was Iyke, the guy l saw with her who have constituted himself into the parasite that have been sucking her finances. She has even taken a loan of N1million for Iyke in First Bank, her car has been collected by Iyke and she now hops around on Okada. What type of thing is this? Iyke is an Ibo like her, l discovered that this lyke is just one unserious and dubious Playboy who have nothing serious to do with Judith than use her as his source of income. This girl is in a mess financially, her take home will be less than 10k if First bank and CTS deducts their loans regularly and Iyke is always around to clear her account at the end of each month. She is now asking me to help her retrieve her car and other belongings from lyke, the guy disappeared immediately she told him their relationship has ended, I still see Iyke driving Judith's car around. Judith's dad is ready to pay off all her indebtedness but he also begged me to help take care of Iyke first, Judith is ready to do away with the crook but how will l handle this serious assignment? I have asked the CSO of our institution to help in retrieving the car but he is suggesting we involve the police, an option which l don't like, the police will get things complicated. How can l help Judith, the whole thing is affecting her and her work.

Your best bet is involving the Police. That guy is a criminal and dealing with him directly can endanger you and your family. Then I also think that you should school Judith the more...its clear that she is addicted to borrowing.