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Jackpal:
Yeah I know it my still happen again.
My dad and I don't really talk very well but, i want to send him a text message that such might still happen and he should not be too angry even though am really vexed at her.

Be not deceived dear-You are no longer a kid,and whatever happens at the end of the day between your parents will affect you children.
Do not text your dad,saying such might still happen but he should not be too angry.What kind of talk is that?
Follow Ejemehn's advise above;talk to both your parents.Your mum especially.It could be peer influence.I dont believe she can't change.She needs serious scolding.I mean with a 20year old child,what does she think is out there for her?
Your dad was right in involving you-he believes you are no longer a kid and that you should be able to talk to your mum.
Then learn to get close to your dad.I want to assume you are a male.He should be your friend,though i dont know where you are coming from.
May God right the wrongs in your family.
Shalom.

Talk to your mom, tell her you will report her to your father if she doesn't stop talking to that man on the phone. Get the guys number, talk to him, let him no that his actions is threatening the peace of your home, perhaps he will stop even if your mom insist. It's painful but you need to help her.your mom must have crossed the line I am sorry to say that but it's up to your father to decide what he can live with. May God help us all

Well advise your dad if you don't do your job well another man will do it for you., maybe he should buy viagra

Ejemehn:
For the sake of your younger siblings and the sake of the unity of the whole family you have to forget your age in this issue and handle it like the man you'll one day be proud of.

There's a reason why God has let you in on all this.

On a wonderful night while everyone is asleep, call your mum to the sitting room and talk to her. Let her know the imminent danger she's putting you, your dad, your siblings and the family at large. See, there's no good in infidelity. The Bible says there's a way that seemeth right unto man but the end thereof is destruction, and one of such ways is infidelity. Let her know she'll only tear the family apart with her current ways. Whether she's had sex with the man or not she erred big time. Going to a place and lying. Not to mention she went their without informing your father.

On another night. Call your dad and also talk to him too. Tell him to work on himself. Probably there are things he might need to work on.

After sometime, on another night call the two of them and sit them down and talk to them pointing out reasons why the family must stay together.

I tell you the truth. Your parents will never see you like a 20 year old again.

A broken home is not the best. Do your best to mend this crack.

God shall strengthen you. Go to him for wisdom.

Wish you the best of luck

You took this advice off my heart. Confront your parents. You can solid the union the more.

You have big role to play also after they av settle it call you mum and dad separate like one chap said above n warn your mum of danger of broken home. tell your dad to ask where your mum where he need to improve upon.Good luck bro!

Six years ago, I told my Dad if he wants to divorce my Mum as a result of cheating, he has my consent. Truth be told, as a matter of policy, I better stay a Bachelor than remain with an unfaithful wife. I always give room for you to leave if you wish. . .

Ejemehn:
For the sake of your younger siblings and the sake of the unity of the whole family you have to forget your age in this issue and handle it like the man you'll one day be proud of.

There's a reason why God has let you in on all this.

On a wonderful night while everyone is asleep, call your mum to the sitting room and talk to her. Let her know the imminent danger she's putting you, your dad, your siblings and the family at large. See, there's no good in infidelity. The Bible says there's a way that seemeth right unto man but the end thereof is destruction, and one of such ways is infidelity. Let her know she'll only tear the family apart with her current ways. Whether she's had sex with the man or not she erred big time. Going to a place and lying. Not to mention she went their without informing your father.

On another night. Call your dad and also talk to him too. Tell him to work on himself. Probably there are things he might need to work on.

After sometime, on another night call the two of them and sit them down and talk to them pointing out reasons why the family must stay together.

I tell you the truth. Your parents will never see you like a 20 year old again.

A broken home is not the best. Do your best to mend this crack.

God shall strengthen you. Go to him for wisdom.

Wish you the best of luck

bros dis yr advice touch me for heart. I Pray for the op that God will take control of the issue.

Jackpal:
This is a fact based on what is happening in my family presently.


Around last week Fridays afternoon i saw my mom hiding her phone from me at first, i didn't even bother but when I discovered she was sending messages to a unknown number i started putting notice to it. This happened till late in the night like around 2 am, i was awake and I went to the sitting room only to see her washing clothes in the laundry and simultaneously chatting with someone and this is very unusual of her but my father didn't notice notice anyways.

On Saturday Last week the following morning i heard her making calls that she will be there by afternoon i felt like confronting her but i felt that she might just be going to her place of work. Afternoon came and she said she was going to another town for a naming ceremony we didn't mind. I left the house and i came back around 9pm and discovered that she wasn't back yet so i called her and she told me she won't be coming back that night then i knew she was up to something. I listened to the background very much and I noticed it isn't a party stuff or anything.

On Sunday she came back and I was mad but i just kept mute as i thought that I was not in a position to confront her.

Fast forward to today's early morning around 4 am. I heard my dad's angry voice he was very angry with my mum at first I thought she broke something in the room but i later heard my mum pleading that he didn't have sex with the man. After much contemplating, i went out of my room to the sitting room where they were and i saw my mom holding her phone i sensed that, her act has been exposed. My father left us there and went to his room. I confronted my mom and told her that i knew she didn't go for a naming ceremony the previous week and she was kind of surprised and she asked me how i got to know but I didn't reply her.
My dad came out of his room and asked her to come inside. Like after about two hours, my mom came to call me and I went to their room and dad sat me down and told me that he saw a text message on my mom phone the sender said they were to meet the day before but she my mom didn't meet him. My mom said the man is just a boss at his office and nothing more. So dad told me that I am his witness that if such happens again that he is going to divorce my mom. Well, my mom insisted that she didn't have sex with the man

I have 3 siblings and but they are still small am the first born am about clocking 20 years of age.

What should I do please?

my people, dis story resemblle all those stories wey I dey read 4 magazine ooo.
My advice, am from a Divorced home, and its not funny at all. For ur siblings who are still growing up, its going to be horrible. Get ur mom and Dad, dnt be afraid when telling them about d dangers of broken homes, make them understand dat they are supposed to be partners 4 life and role models 2 u and ur siblings. Then u ask them 2 get rid of dia smart phones and use one collective laptop for their internet activities. Then they should also have a benchmark partaining to d time each parent should be at home, deending on their Jobs. Encourage them to always socialize most times.. D acquintance grows dat way... God bless Nigeria! Happy sunday to u.. And God bless ur family.

How is this your business? She's your mother not your lover. Again,if it were to be your father cheating or suspected of cheating would you raise even an eyebrow? There you have your answer

elektra:
And this your post is all about the topic abi? Why did you post this when your comment is not advice for the kid?
You sef, do not post if it is not advice for the kid.

I was up for the comments but got disappointed wen I saw urs,so ma'am let's hear ur advice oOooo

Ejemehn:
For the sake of your younger siblings and the sake of the unity of the whole family you have to forget your age in this issue and handle it like the man you'll one day be proud of.

There's a reason why God has let you in on all this.

On a wonderful night while everyone is asleep, call your mum to the sitting room and talk to her. Let her know the imminent danger she's putting you, your dad, your siblings and the family at large. See, there's no good in infidelity. The Bible says there's a way that seemeth right unto man but the end thereof is destruction, and one of such ways is infidelity. Let her know she'll only tear the family apart with her current ways. Whether she's had sex with the man or not she erred big time. Going to a place and lying. Not to mention she went their without informing your father.

On another night. Call your dad and also talk to him too. Tell him to work on himself. Probably there are things he might need to work on.

After sometime, on another night call the two of them and sit them down and talk to them pointing out reasons why the family must stay together.

I tell you the truth. Your parents will never see you like a 20 year old again.

A broken home is not the best. Do your best to mend this crack.

God shall strengthen you. Go to him for wisdom.

Wish you the best of luck

That's a bit much for a 20 year old. This no be your business. Let your old man handle the issue. Na him marry your mama. And you no be marriage counselor abeg.

TheArchangel:
Why is your Dad involving you as if your Mom is into polyandrous union with both of you?



Let your Dad and Mum handle their issue and leave you out of it. You are to you for this burden abeg.

He treats him like an adult that he is. Women tend to poison their kids mind against their husband whenever they leave their homes. It is better he knows. I like his objectivity in the whole thing.

I have a friend whose mum was a serial cheat. She lied that the man was impotent to my friend. They divorced and the man has 2 kids now. The woman is accusing her next man of same thing.

Bro I hate to admit this but ur mom is a hoe

zeusdgrt:
I was up for the comments but got disappointed wen I saw urs,so ma'am let's hear ur advice oOooo

^^ still a comment that is not advice for the kid. All comments posted have to be within the topic na.

Jackpal:
This is a fact based on what is happening in my family presently.


Around last week Fridays afternoon i saw my mom hiding her phone from me at first, i didn't even bother but when I discovered she was sending messages to a unknown number i started putting notice to it. This happened till late in the night like around 2 am, i was awake and I went to the sitting room only to see her washing clothes in the laundry and simultaneously chatting with someone and this is very unusual of her but my father didn't notice notice anyways.

On Saturday Last week the following morning i heard her making calls that she will be there by afternoon i felt like confronting her but i felt that she might just be going to her place of work. Afternoon came and she said she was going to another town for a naming ceremony we didn't mind. I left the house and i came back around 9pm and discovered that she wasn't back yet so i called her and she told me she won't be coming back that night then i knew she was up to something. I listened to the background very much and I noticed it isn't a party stuff or anything.

On Sunday she came back and I was mad but i just kept mute as i thought that I was not in a position to confront her.

Fast forward to today's early morning around 4 am. I heard my dad's angry voice he was very angry with my mum at first I thought she broke something in the room but i later heard my mum pleading that he didn't have sex with the man. After much contemplating, i went out of my room to the sitting room where they were and i saw my mom holding her phone i sensed that, her act has been exposed. My father left us there and went to his room. I confronted my mom and told her that i knew she didn't go for a naming ceremony the previous week and she was kind of surprised and she asked me how i got to know but I didn't reply her.
My dad came out of his room and asked her to come inside. Like after about two hours, my mom came to call me and I went to their room and dad sat me down and told me that he saw a text message on my mom phone the sender said they were to meet the day before but she my mom didn't meet him. My mom said the man is just a boss at his office and nothing more. So dad told me that I am his witness that if such happens again that he is going to divorce my mom. Well, my mom insisted that she didn't have sex with the man

I have 3 siblings and but they are still small am the first born am about clocking 20 years of age.

What should I do please?

This one really makes me feel bad, there's no guarantee that she hasn't cheated on your dad severally. Do not listen to those who say it's not your business at all, it's your business but you must conduct yourself with wisdom. It affects you, your siblings as much as the whole family emotionally and every way. Some are advising you mind your business and be successful and alone, they don't know even when one is all grown and and married there's still a void when your parents aren't together.

If not that i see divorce as something outrightly unacceptable, if i was in his shoe i would myself see to my mum getting divorced and being in the process for my dad getting a nicer replacement as wife but, nah divorce is a sin and please no one should quote me about that.

Bro, you're an adult now, put your mum in prayers, if you were spiritually inspired you could have talked sense into her. Know that it's not just within the normal human power as we wrestle not against flesh and blood. Put her in prayer to change. As i dey so, i dey oftenly talk against divorce but it will be so difficult to marry someone who cheats and not divorce, hence am hoping on God's will for the right person. Tell her the consequences of her actions spiritually and physically. Also become friends with your dad and have him forgive her as God helps you.

MizTyna:
How is this your business? She's your mother not your lover. Again,if it were to be your father cheating or suspected of cheating would you raise even an eyebrow? There you have your answer

You go sabi fuvk for outside when u marry and that is if u r not married and already doing it. Na wa, women of this generation

Jackpal:
This is a fact based on what is happening in my family presently.


Around last week Fridays afternoon i saw my mom hiding her phone from me at first, i didn't even bother but when I discovered she was sending messages to a unknown number i started putting notice to it. This happened till late in the night like around 2 am, i was awake and I went to the sitting room only to see her washing clothes in the laundry and simultaneously chatting with someone and this is very unusual of her but my father didn't notice notice anyways.

On Saturday Last week the following morning i heard her making calls that she will be there by afternoon i felt like confronting her but i felt that she might just be going to her place of work. Afternoon came and she said she was going to another town for a naming ceremony we didn't mind. I left the house and i came back around 9pm and discovered that she wasn't back yet so i called her and she told me she won't be coming back that night then i knew she was up to something. I listened to the background very much and I noticed it isn't a party stuff or anything.

On Sunday she came back and I was mad but i just kept mute as i thought that I was not in a position to confront her.

Fast forward to today's early morning around 4 am. I heard my dad's angry voice he was very angry with my mum at first I thought she broke something in the room but i later heard my mum pleading that he didn't have sex with the man. After much contemplating, i went out of my room to the sitting room where they were and i saw my mom holding her phone i sensed that, her act has been exposed. My father left us there and went to his room. I confronted my mom and told her that i knew she didn't go for a naming ceremony the previous week and she was kind of surprised and she asked me how i got to know but I didn't reply her.
My dad came out of his room and asked her to come inside. Like after about two hours, my mom came to call me and I went to their room and dad sat me down and told me that he saw a text message on my mom phone the sender said they were to meet the day before but she my mom didn't meet him. My mom said the man is just a boss at his office and nothing more. So dad told me that I am his witness that if such happens again that he is going to divorce my mom. Well, my mom insisted that she didn't have sex with the man

I have 3 siblings and but they are still small am the first born am about clocking 20 years of age.

What should I do please?

What is ur stress? Were u there ur dad& mum met?
Leave them alone &be praying for them.

elektra:
^^ still a comment that is not advice for the kid. All comments posted have to be within the topic na.

K,kid talk to your and warn her about such acts and as for your dad he should do more exercise and drink herbal tea for mental power and strength.So now let's hear urs

Well said.

Ejemehn:
For the sake of your younger siblings and the sake of the unity of the whole family you have to forget your age in this issue and handle it like the man you'll one day be proud of.

There's a reason why God has let you in on all this.

On a wonderful night while everyone is asleep, call your mum to the sitting room and talk to her. Let her know the imminent danger she's putting you, your dad, your siblings and the family at large. See, there's no good in infidelity. The Bible says there's a way that seemeth right unto man but the end thereof is destruction, and one of such ways is infidelity. Let her know she'll only tear the family apart with her current ways. Whether she's had sex with the man or not she erred big time. Going to a place and lying. Not to mention she went their without informing your father.

On another night. Call your dad and also talk to him too. Tell him to work on himself. Probably there are things he might need to work on.

After sometime, on another night call the two of them and sit them down and talk to them pointing out reasons why the family must stay together.

I tell you the truth. Your parents will never see you like a 20 year old again.

A broken home is not the best. Do your best to mend this crack.

God shall strengthen you. Go to him for wisdom.

Wish you the best of luck

All these cheating men and women,una matter don tire person sef. Una nor go let people wey want marry,even see reason to marry. I hate ccheaters with a passion. Not irks me more than that in a relatonshp.

Ejemehn:
For the sake of your younger siblings and the sake of the unity of the whole family you have to forget your age in this issue and handle it like the man you'll one day be proud of.

There's a reason why God has let you in on all this.

On a wonderful night while everyone is asleep, call your mum to the sitting room and talk to her. Let her know the imminent danger she's putting you, your dad, your siblings and the family at large. See, there's no good in infidelity. The Bible says there's a way that seemeth right unto man but the end thereof is destruction, and one of such ways is infidelity. Let her know she'll only tear the family apart with her current ways. Whether she's had sex with the man or not she erred big time. Going to a place and lying. Not to mention she went their without informing your father.

On another night. Call your dad and also talk to him too. Tell him to work on himself. Probably there are things he might need to work on.

After sometime, on another night call the two of them and sit them down and talk to them pointing out reasons why the family must stay together.

I tell you the truth. Your parents will never see you like a 20 year old again.

A broken home is not the best. Do your best to mend this crack.

God shall strengthen you. Go to him for wisdom.

Wish you the best of luck

This is d best way to handle it guy.

Jackpal:
This is a fact based on what is happening in my family presently.


Around last week Fridays afternoon i saw my mom hiding her phone from me at first, i didn't even bother but when I discovered she was sending messages to a unknown number i started putting notice to it. This happened till late in the night like around 2 am, i was awake and I went to the sitting room only to see her washing clothes in the laundry and simultaneously chatting with someone and this is very unusual of her but my father didn't notice notice anyways.

On Saturday Last week the following morning i heard her making calls that she will be there by afternoon i felt like confronting her but i felt that she might just be going to her place of work. Afternoon came and she said she was going to another town for a naming ceremony we didn't mind. I left the house and i came back around 9pm and discovered that she wasn't back yet so i called her and she told me she won't be coming back that night then i knew she was up to something. I listened to the background very much and I noticed it isn't a party stuff or anything.

On Sunday she came back and I was mad but i just kept mute as i thought that I was not in a position to confront her.

Fast forward to today's early morning around 4 am. I heard my dad's angry voice he was very angry with my mum at first I thought she broke something in the room but i later heard my mum pleading that he didn't have sex with the man. After much contemplating, i went out of my room to the sitting room where they were and i saw my mom holding her phone i sensed that, her act has been exposed. My father left us there and went to his room. I confronted my mom and told her that i knew she didn't go for a naming ceremony the previous week and she was kind of surprised and she asked me how i got to know but I didn't reply her.
My dad came out of his room and asked her to come inside. Like after about two hours, my mom came to call me and I went to their room and dad sat me down and told me that he saw a text message on my mom phone the sender said they were to meet the day before but she my mom didn't meet him. My mom said the man is just a boss at his office and nothing more. So dad told me that I am his witness that if such happens again that he is going to divorce my mom. Well, my mom insisted that she didn't have sex with the man

I have 3 siblings and but they are still small am the first born am about clocking 20 years of age.

What should I do please?

My bro, your mother is your mother it's non of your biz, let your father handle the situation and don't force yourself into their matter. whatever she says will forever stick to you. Don't allow her to course you. just pray along with her

MizTyna:
How is this your business? She's your mother not your lover. Again,if it were to be your father cheating or suspected of cheating would you raise even an eyebrow? There you have your answer

Are you a cheat? Is your mother one? Sorry for asking but your response was like a reaction to an accusation.

Thanks in advance for the insult.

Op do you think doing anything will change anything?

Richy4:
I am happy your dad knows about it....

There's nothing u can do because ur dad i guess is active and still the head of the home....however, u can still tell ur mum not to break a home she and ur dad has build with great effort.

Tell her that when next she wants to SMS or answer the phone of that man,
<<<< she should remember how the society view an unfaithful woman...

<<<<<<that she should remember that ur dad will not keep calm about the truth.That he might let everyone know the reason...

<<<<<<<that when the storm comes, that man (lover) might not want to have anything to do with her..... because that's fact about cases of randy men.Their fantasies is to go with ladies that are hooked up or married.they loved the fact that they are stealing without being caught..But when the whole thing blew open.. the Fantasy dies a natural death...they began to tell her they were married, etc.. and they proceed to another girl...

<<<<<<< Finally tell her that if she loses ur dad due to that promiscuous life style, she will not see u again...

Do not listen to any one that says it does not concern u. u are a product of that union....You are 20....Pychologically it will concern u and your siblings in future if anything should happen ....if there's anything u can do to remedy
the situation, please do it.....

I guess people were advising u based on boyfriend and girlfriend relationship. where they ask the third party to stay clear...This case is different..

I couldn't have said it any better. . . Respect to you good sir!

TheArchangel:
Why is your Dad involving you as if your Mom is into polyandrous union with both of you?



Let your Dad and Mum handle their issue and leave you out of it. You are to you for this burden abeg.

Wrong reply... Ladies always supporting foolish ladies.

Ahmed0336:
No comment bro, other nairalanders with nice ideas might come online. If i should say what i ve in mind( decrypting her whatsapp) dats if na whatsapp you guys might not like d outcome.

Please, how do I decrypt whatsapp conversation?

DIKEnaWAR:
Are you a cheat? Is your mother one? Sorry for asking but your response was like a reaction to an accusation.

Thanks in advance for the insult.

I won't insult you,I mean how many idiots do I want to school on here? You goats are everywhere!!! I'll ignore the question about my mama,you see? She trained me better than yours did

Stelvin101:
You go sabi fuvk for outside when u marry and that is if u r not married and already doing it. Na wa, women of this generation

Pls shut up already. How many times have you cheated on your girlfriend or wife? If and when I ever get married,faithfulness will never be an issue for me or my husband. Move on now,thanks!

Jackpal:
Thanks all for your different advice.

Dad has asked mom to leave the house by 12pm today or he would call everybody to let them know what has happened.
On the other hand, i told mom to call the man she was speaking to and let him come and beg my dad. Because, she said she just met the man and he is trying to ask her out and he kept calling and sending messages according to her.

I am amazed at the way you think (my dear no insults intended). But how can you tell your Mum to bring a man who is asking a married woman with three kids out, who is also about to be the cause of a broken home to come and beg your Dad. Really? Do you still want your mum back in that house? If yes, you wouldn't have said such to your Mum. What about your Mum's relatives, her mother, her sisters, her brothers, uncles or any elderly ones you can think for who could beg for her. And I thought your Dad had forgiven her, why send her out again? Be a man because you have already been involved which you shouldn't have been, call the elders who can help sort out issues. With all your comments so far, you're really to young to be involved in all this because you have no idea how to go about this, so it's better you say nothing and just call elders in your Mum's family to come beg for her. Good luck dear.