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Ejemehn:
For the sake of your younger siblings and the sake of the unity of the whole family you have to forget your age in this issue and handle it like the man you'll one day be proud of.

There's a reason why God has let you in on all this.

On a wonderful night while everyone is asleep, call your mum to the sitting room and talk to her. Let her know the imminent danger she's putting you, your dad, your siblings and the family at large. See, there's no good in infidelity. The Bible says there's a way that seemeth right unto man but the end thereof is destruction, and one of such ways is infidelity. Let her know she'll only tear the family apart with her current ways. Whether she's had sex with the man or not she erred big time. Going to a place and lying. Not to mention she went their without informing your father.

On another night. Call your dad and also talk to him too. Tell him to work on himself. Probably there are things he might need to work on.

After sometime, on another night call the two of them and sit them down and talk to them pointing out reasons why the family must stay together.

I tell you the truth. Your parents will never see you like a 20 year old again.

A broken home is not the best. Do your best to mend this crack.

God shall strengthen you. Go to him for wisdom.

Wish you the best of luck

Here you have your response. You can bring the unity your family deserves now. Cheers

Your dad should take you and your siblings for DNA test before any other thing.

TheArchangel:
Why is your Dad involving you as if your Mom is into polyandrous union with both of you?



Let your Dad and Mum handle their issue and leave you out of it. You are to you for this burden abeg.

Na wa 4 u o... He just involved him only 2 b a witness... I don't c anytin wrong wit dat

Jackpal:
This is a fact based on what is happening in my family presently.


Around last week Fridays afternoon i saw my mom hiding her phone from me at first, i didn't even bother but when I discovered she was sending messages to a unknown number i started putting notice to it. This happened till late in the night like around 2 am, i was awake and I went to the sitting room only to see her washing clothes in the laundry and simultaneously chatting with someone and this is very unusual of her but my father didn't notice notice anyways.

On Saturday Last week the following morning i heard her making calls that she will be there by afternoon i felt like confronting her but i felt that she might just be going to her place of work. Afternoon came and she said she was going to another town for a naming ceremony we didn't mind. I left the house and i came back around 9pm and discovered that she wasn't back yet so i called her and she told me she won't be coming back that night then i knew she was up to something. I listened to the background very much and I noticed it isn't a party stuff or anything.

On Sunday she came back and I was mad but i just kept mute as i thought that I was not in a position to confront her.

Fast forward to today's early morning around 4 am. I heard my dad's angry voice he was very angry with my mum at first I thought she broke something in the room but i later heard my mum pleading that he didn't have sex with the man. After much contemplating, i went out of my room to the sitting room where they were and i saw my mom holding her phone i sensed that, her act has been exposed. My father left us there and went to his room. I confronted my mom and told her that i knew she didn't go for a naming ceremony the previous week and she was kind of surprised and she asked me how i got to know but I didn't reply her.
My dad came out of his room and asked her to come inside. Like after about two hours, my mom came to call me and I went to their room and dad sat me down and told me that he saw a text message on my mom phone the sender said they were to meet the day before but she my mom didn't meet him. My mom said the man is just a boss at his office and nothing more. So dad told me that I am his witness that if such happens again that he is going to divorce my mom. Well, my mom insisted that she didn't have sex with the man

I have 3 siblings and but they are still small am the first born am about clocking 20 years of age.

What should I do please?

I can tell you how to handle it. Spy'check her media and chats through your own phone without her knowin.
Contact me for more..

MizTyna:
How is this your business? She's your mother not your lover. Again,if it were to be your father cheating or suspected of cheating would you raise even an eyebrow? There you have your answer

You are wrong, a mother is closer than a lover.
If she is it cheating it will affect his behavior towards other women.

vincentjk:
am reading this with tears in the eyes.. My mum is also cheating (highly cheating) but as a less concern man my dad is he doesn't even know

Things are happening...

Take heart dear...

You can notify some elders in her family...preferably her dad...if he‘s still around

That's the consequences of having se* with men before marriage. One of us once said that the easiest married woman to sleep with is the one you have been sleeping with before she got married.

Ejemehn:
For the sake of your younger siblings and the sake of the unity of the whole family you have to forget your age in this issue and handle it like the man you'll one day be proud of.

There's a reason why God has let you in on all this.

On a wonderful night while everyone is asleep, call your mum to the sitting room and talk to her. Let her know the imminent danger she's putting you, your dad, your siblings and the family at large. See, there's no good in infidelity. The Bible says there's a way that seemeth right unto man but the end thereof is destruction, and one of such ways is infidelity. Let her know she'll only tear the family apart with her current ways. Whether she's had sex with the man or not she erred big time. Going to a place and lying. Not to mention she went their without informing your father.

On another night. Call your dad and also talk to him too. Tell him to work on himself. Probably there are things he might need to work on.

After sometime, on another night call the two of them and sit them down and talk to them pointing out reasons why the family must stay together.

I tell you the truth. Your parents will never see you like a 20 year old again.

A broken home is not the best. Do your best to mend this crack.

God shall strengthen you. Go to him for wisdom.

Wish you the best of luck

. This remains the best advice so far!

Hehe... focus of being a better person. You can do little or nothing regarding whats happening between your parents. Infact u shudnt involve ursef much.


All u can do is pray.

That doesn't sound cool dear....I think you should confront her for clarification because it might not be what you think since you are just suspecting. ..by the time you do that, even if she is actually cheating she will be scared and might quit...

I love your Dad for his practicality. You are a witness to the philandering attitude of your mum,indeed no man that worth his sault will tolerate such a nonsense..an adulterous woman would either kill herself or kill her husband. After bearing a child of almost 20years if she does not know what befits her life she is a big fool ( Sorry to say ) You must behave matured and let your mother know the reality .What example is she laying for her children. Tell her that should incase she remain unfaithful to her oath of marriage God will take thongs easy with her & ditto you her children. The pain of divorse may be too costly for her to bare .Blame not your Dad for taking any drastic step should your mother fumble again.

Jackpal:
This is a fact based on what is happening in my family presently.


Around last week Fridays afternoon i saw my mom hiding her phone from me at first, i didn't even bother but when I discovered she was sending messages to a unknown number i started putting notice to it. This happened till late in the night like around 2 am, i was awake and I went to the sitting room only to see her washing clothes in the laundry and simultaneously chatting with someone and this is very unusual of her but my father didn't notice notice anyways.

On Saturday Last week the following morning i heard her making calls that she will be there by afternoon i felt like confronting her but i felt that she might just be going to her place of work. Afternoon came and she said she was going to another town for a naming ceremony we didn't mind. I left the house and i came back around 9pm and discovered that she wasn't back yet so i called her and she told me she won't be coming back that night then i knew she was up to something. I listened to the background very much and I noticed it isn't a party stuff or anything.

On Sunday she came back and I was mad but i just kept mute as i thought that I was not in a position to confront her.

Fast forward to today's early morning around 4 am. I heard my dad's angry voice he was very angry with my mum at first I thought she broke something in the room but i later heard my mum pleading that he didn't have sex with the man. After much contemplating, i went out of my room to the sitting room where they were and i saw my mom holding her phone i sensed that, her act has been exposed. My father left us there and went to his room. I confronted my mom and told her that i knew she didn't go for a naming ceremony the previous week and she was kind of surprised and she asked me how i got to know but I didn't reply her.
My dad came out of his room and asked her to come inside. Like after about two hours, my mom came to call me and I went to their room and dad sat me down and told me that he saw a text message on my mom phone the sender said they were to meet the day before but she my mom didn't meet him. My mom said the man is just a boss at his office and nothing more. So dad told me that I am his witness that if such happens again that he is going to divorce my mom. Well, my mom insisted that she didn't have sex with the man

I have 3 siblings and but they are still small am the first born am about clocking 20 years of age.

What should I do please?

considering the fact that you are clocking 20 doesn't mean anything, but the fact that you are the first born means more than a lot. Before i continue further,i'll like to know your gender?

There is cause to worry, the guy is already screwing your mum, catching her so early means your mum will leave your dad very soon.

Ahmed0336:
No comment bro, other nairalanders with nice ideas might come online. If i should say what i ve in mind( decrypting her whatsapp) dats if na whatsapp you guys might not like d outcome.

pls how can such thing be done decryting whatsap

Jackpal:
This is a fact based on what is happening in my family presently.


Around last week Fridays afternoon i saw my mom hiding her phone from me at first, i didn't even bother but when I discovered she was sending messages to a unknown number i started putting notice to it. This happened till late in the night like around 2 am, i was awake and I went to the sitting room only to see her washing clothes in the laundry and simultaneously chatting with someone and this is very unusual of her but my father didn't notice notice anyways.

On Saturday Last week the following morning i heard her making calls that she will be there by afternoon i felt like confronting her but i felt that she might just be going to her place of work. Afternoon came and she said she was going to another town for a naming ceremony we didn't mind. I left the house and i came back around 9pm and discovered that she wasn't back yet so i called her and she told me she won't be coming back that night then i knew she was up to something. I listened to the background very much and I noticed it isn't a party stuff or anything.

On Sunday she came back and I was mad but i just kept mute as i thought that I was not in a position to confront her.

Fast forward to today's early morning around 4 am. I heard my dad's angry voice he was very angry with my mum at first I thought she broke something in the room but i later heard my mum pleading that he didn't have sex with the man. After much contemplating, i went out of my room to the sitting room where they were and i saw my mom holding her phone i sensed that, her act has been exposed. My father left us there and went to his room. I confronted my mom and told her that i knew she didn't go for a naming ceremony the previous week and she was kind of surprised and she asked me how i got to know but I didn't reply her.
My dad came out of his room and asked her to come inside. Like after about two hours, my mom came to call me and I went to their room and dad sat me down and told me that he saw a text message on my mom phone the sender said they were to meet the day before but she my mom didn't meet him. My mom said the man is just a boss at his office and nothing more. So dad told me that I am his witness that if such happens again that he is going to divorce my mom. Well, my mom insisted that she didn't have sex with the man

I have 3 siblings and but they are still small am the first born am about clocking 20 years of age.

What should I do please?

Talk to your mom that you want to continue the conversation about how you got to know she didn't go to a party, then ask her how she felt when your dad embarrassed her before you and tell her how you feel about her actions be sincere about it. It's enough shame for her to handle hearing it from her own child and the worst she can do is slap you but it already like you stabbed her in the heart which is going to be a constant reminder.

Evang Ebenezer Obey don talk am say no body should interfere on issues concerning husband and wife. Cos they started the quarrel with nobody interference, they should also be allowed to end it at their own will. Bro just be prayerful so that the outcome will be a favorable one to u.

The only natural solution to this is redefine marriage such that women can legally marry two men at once and men marry two women as well or even three as may be agreed by both sides. I saw a documentary the other day and a married couple unanimously agreed to have two extra sexual partners each. In this situation there's nothing to hide, unless of course one partner go against the rule by having more than consensually agreed.

fpeter:
It's called midlife crisis. Talk to your father, let him compliment her more. Take her out often. Shop for her. Make her feel wanted and loved again. He should create time for dates with her. They should go out more to the movies and malls. I'm sure she's way younger than your father and some evil men out there are beginning to tell her sweet nonsense that your father is obviously not telling her. He should make her feel beautiful again.

Sis, and if the man doesn't do all that or worst still doesn't have the means(either money or chance) to do all that, does it give her justification to cheat? I am just asking I am not saying that you implied that. And as for the age difference u raised, was she blind when she was getting married to him? This may be a case of a man dat was once loved by the wife because he had money and now is of no use to her because things are not too rosy anymore as before. People should understand what marriage is, it is a covenant taken by two supposedly adults to remain faithful in all circumstances and condition to each other and not only when things are rosy.

Technology is destroying the world.

OP, call your mother and talk to her in the strongest language you can muster, warn her very well. If she truly is cheating and she continues, she will eventually destroy herself, completely, and without remedy.

Amtaken, dollyjoy and Curvysola, do you ladies have any advice for the OP?

MizTyna:
I won't insult you,I mean how many idiots do I want to school on here? You goats are everywhere!!! I'll ignore the question about my mama,you see? She trained me better than yours did

OooHh...you with the boobs. That's a nice body you have going there.

I read demeanours for a living and have read yours. I still stand by my earlier submission and I am not an idiot. Care to find out? Hit a brother up. Bring some friends along. I don't care.

DIKEnaWAR:
OooHh...you with the boobs. That's a nice body you have going there.

I read demeanours for a living and have read yours. I still stand by my earlier submission and I am not an idiot. Care to find out? Hit a brother up. Bring some friends along. I don't care.

And I studied Psychology. Your point is?
I'm done with this

MrPresident1:
Technology is destroying the world.

OP, call your mother and talk to her in the strongest language you can muster, warn her very well. If she truly is cheating and she continues, she will eventually destroy herself, completely, and without remedy.

Amtaken, dollyjoy and Curvysola, do you ladies have any advice for the OP?

this is way beyond my brain power

Ejemehn:
For the sake of your younger siblings and the sake of the unity of the whole family you have to forget your age in this issue and handle it like the man you'll one day be proud of.

There's a reason why God has let you in on all this.

On a wonderful night while everyone is asleep, call your mum to the sitting room and talk to her. Let her know the imminent danger she's putting you, your dad, your siblings and the family at large. See, there's no good in infidelity. The Bible says there's a way that seemeth right unto man but the end thereof is destruction, and one of such ways is infidelity. Let her know she'll only tear the family apart with her current ways. Whether she's had sex with the man or not she erred big time. Going to a place and lying. Not to mention she went their without informing your father.

On another night. Call your dad and also talk to him too. Tell him to work on himself. Probably there are things he might need to work on.

After sometime, on another night call the two of them and sit them down and talk to them pointing out reasons why the family must stay together.

I tell you the truth. Your parents will never see you like a 20 year old again.

A broken home is not the best. Do your best to mend this crack.

God shall strengthen you. Go to him for wisdom.

Wish you the best of luck

God bless you bro

obyno1011:
Here you have your response. You can bring the unity your family deserves now. Cheers

Yes boss... Well said

Your mum is cheating...that's the difficult truth...

why would a married woman be chatting late at night with another man...??

cheating does not necessarily mean sex but there are other forms of cheating which your mum is guilty of...

its most unfortunate that a lot of married women this days are guilty of what your mum did especially when priorities have been misplaced in our dying and decaying world...

A married woman sleeping outside her home and then coming back to beg!!...what nonsense...

priorities are gradually fading and we're drifting towards and era where true love and purpose are almost being exterminated...

I just told you the difficult truth...

thank God for the good dad Gods given you and his tenacity...pray your mum makes her ways straight before the Lord...

bless you....

bro try all you can do to save ur Dad. for her she's already astray. let her not kill ur Dad with HIV or heart break

MizTyna:
Pls shut up already. How many times have you cheated on your girlfriend or wife? If and when I ever get married,faithfulness will never be an issue for me or my husband. Move on now,thanks!

Did I tell u am a saint? I gat just two words to describe ur type. "Fake hoe"

Prettiepearlz:
Jackpal, please don't send any text message to your Dad oooo, why would you even do that? Do you want them to split? I don't think you should be involved but since you have already been involved you need to call your Mum and sit her down, talk to her about the implications of her cheating on your Dad, tell her you the children will be at the receiving end and you wouldn't want you and your other siblings to suffer for her wrongdoings. Remind her that the man is also somebody's husband and would she be happy if your sister(if you have one) grows up and come to complain to her that someone is sharing her husband with her? And will she be bold enough to give an advice? Just advice her to move closer to her husband, discuss her fears with him. The man is her boss he might be threatening her and all sort and also tell your Dad to also move closer to her. Talk to her and be her best friend. Good luck

some women sha....d thing in between deir legs can set d world on fire

@ OP call your mum for a private heart-to-heart talk.

Ask her why she cheated on your dad. Yes, ask her straight-up! Don't give her any room for denial.

Also ask her if she knows the dangers of adultery, then go ahead and list the risks to her.

Tell her there's no man out there worth her loosing her precious family. Also tell her that if she ever gets divorced from your dad due to adultery that you and your siblings won't take her side.

Finally assure her that you still love her, that she's the best mum in the world and that you aren't judging her but she needs to behave well too.


The Lord is your strength.

MrPresident1:
Technology is destroying the world.

OP, call your mother and talk to her in the strongest language you can muster, warn her very well. If she truly is cheating and she continues, she will eventually destroy herself, completely, and without remedy.

Amtaken, dollyjoy and Curvysola, do you ladies have any advice for the OP?

Op, if I were your dad, I would go spiritual on your mum at this stage. For the sake of you and your siblings, I may spare her if she changes going forward but I will make all those cheating with her and their accomplices pay dearly for their actions.

Marvel1206:
First of all, pray for her.. Show her love

be conscious of her movements...

If you have enough facts.. Then you may confront her with sense

Will you just shut up if you have nothing to say! Show an adulterer love? Are you mentally deranged? Our generation shows women by far more love than our forefathers generations, then what do we get in return? Infidelities, Lesbianism and women who have absolutely no respect for their homes. Our forefathers were by far wiser in handling their women, period!

your Dad is smart to get you involve, this is a family issue, but try not to take side with any of them.