Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? - Family (6)

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Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by Fanirandele: 8:12pm On Jul 13, 2016

GoodBoi1:
All these women with degrees, are you saying you can't give 5 years to raising kids then you resume your career?

As an employer would you employ a woman that has been out of work for 5years child rearing or one that worked all theough and has recent job experience and is up to date with changes in the industry huh

Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by Fanirandele: 8:19pm On Jul 13, 2016

Cutehector:
before I create any front page worthy thread, I try my best to make things clear...

if u really did read the body of the topic well, u will realise that I mentioned a career that comes in the way of your marriage. There are good and bad careers. Funny enough the bad careers come with a lot of pay check, travel and health benefits, but take 95percent of ur family time.

Now tell me, how would u balance this? Pleas think again. Thaank u.

First of all cut out the condescension undecided

There really is no career that comes in the way of marriage as long as you married someone who knew your career goals all from the beginining and is flexible and supportive. Presidents and Prime Ministers (both male and female) have good marriages so its about partners working together to cover each other

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Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by samhay: 12:46am On Jul 14, 2016

just2okworld:
Hmmmmm
Just the way you're nurturing it now?

Samhay
I'm mad at youyou

I am not the BEST,but I will always do my BEST

Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by just2okworld(f): 6:14am On Jul 14, 2016

samhay:
I am not the BEST,but I will always do my BEST

Temi temi
Samhay funra e #winks #

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Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by GoodBoi1(m): 7:12pm On Jul 14, 2016

Fanirandele:
As an employer would you employ a woman that has been out of work for 5years child rearing or one that worked all theough and has recent job experience and is up to date with changes in the industry

Yes, she is qualified if she meets the requirements

Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by Nobody: 7:34pm On Jul 14, 2016

Good marriage, anytime , anyday..but God has the final say.. I guess undecided

Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by theEYe21(f): 11:15pm On Jul 14, 2016

T3Amo:
Maybe in the past I would have chosen good marriage but now I would choose a career.

The truth is love comes and goes. Ask anyone and being financially secure and having comfort and less worries is what will keep the marriage going when the love is gone.

As long as I am able to provide for family and kids and will be able to provide them with security in life than that's the main thing. If you Also work hard early in life than you can retire early and then spend the rest of your time travelling and enjoying retirement with your spouse.

Where will the happiness be when there is no money to pay your debts, kids education etc etc and if that so called spouse leaves you then you are left with nothing. all the rich people in the world today are where they are because of their career and that's why their kids, grandchildren etc are benefiting from it.

You can still be happy with a good career and still be there for ur kids

Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by theEYe21(f): 11:28pm On Jul 14, 2016

T3Amo:
All couples will go through marital problems. Its inevitable and also the honeymoon phase will pass. So what happens when the honey moon phase is over? When finances becomes to much to bear then the fight starts and unhappiness creeps in. If the husband is dangote then great but looking at the current economic situation especially in Nigeria and what the average man earns, one needs to be realistic. When you have kids its not just about you and "happiness". There are people who hate their jobs and would love to quit but they can't because they have responsibilities. The reason we work hard is ultimely for our kids and family to have a better life. If I have to work from 7am to 9pm in order for me to give my kids the best future possible then I will do it.

Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by RAKITIC: 9:06am On Jul 15, 2016

Good Career

Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by damiso(f): 10:48am On Jul 15, 2016

Everything on NL is always 'either' 'or'/ 'one size fits all'

Anyways sha I understand, we always have these 'discussion' threads if not NL will go extinct wink

To question, they are not mutually exclusive you can have BOTH. Like all things in life, there will be peaks, troughs,compromises,sacrifices,hard work team work etc but it is possible to have both. Not easy but very possible.

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Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by SUV(f): 4:15pm On Jul 20, 2016

Being a SAHM does not guarantee good marriage.

marriage of so many career women are stronger cos they don't have time for petty quarrels and busy body idle gossips. they lean and know how to balance things better.

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Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by mikolo80: 7:18pm On Aug 06, 2016

T3Amo:
All couples will go through marital problems. Its inevitable and also the honeymoon phase will pass. So what happens when the honey moon phase is over? When finances becomes to much to bear then the fight starts and unhappiness creeps in. If the husband is dangote then great but looking at the current economic situation especially in Nigeria and what the average man earns, one needs to be realistic. When you have kids its not just about you and "happiness". There are people who hate their jobs and would love to quit but they can't because they have responsibilities. The reason we work hard is ultimely for our kids and family to have a better life. If I have to work from 7am to 9pm in order for me to give my kids the best future possible then I will do it.

future without their mother is best ba

Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by Dashingfreda: 2:49am On Sep 18, 2019*

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