GoodBoi1:
All these women with degrees, are you saying you can't give 5 years to raising kids then you resume your career?

Cutehector:
before I create any front page worthy thread, I try my best to make things clear...


if u really did read the body of the topic well, u will realise that I mentioned a career that comes in the way of your marriage. There are good and bad careers. Funny enough the bad careers come with a lot of pay check, travel and health benefits, but take 95percent of ur family time.



Now tell me, how would u balance this? Pleas think again. Thaank u.

just2okworld:


Hmmmmm
Just the way you're nurturing it now?

Samhay
I'm mad at youyou

samhay:


I am not the BEST,but I will always do my BEST

Fanirandele:


As an employer would you employ a woman that has been out of work for 5years child rearing or one that worked all theough and has recent job experience and is up to date with changes in the industry

T3Amo:
Maybe in the past I would have chosen good marriage but now I would choose a career.

The truth is love comes and goes. Ask anyone and being financially secure and having comfort and less worries is what will keep the marriage going when the love is gone.


As long as I am able to provide for family and kids and will be able to provide them with security in life than that's the main thing. If you Also work hard early in life than you can retire early and then spend the rest of your time travelling and enjoying retirement with your spouse.

Where will the happiness be when there is no money to pay your debts, kids education etc etc and if that so called spouse leaves you then you are left with nothing. all the rich people in the world today are where they are because of their career and that's why their kids, grandchildren etc are benefiting from it.

You can still be happy with a good career and still be there for ur kids

T3Amo:


All couples will go through marital problems. Its inevitable and also the honeymoon phase will pass. So what happens when the honey moon phase is over? When finances becomes to much to bear then the fight starts and unhappiness creeps in. If the husband is dangote then great but looking at the current economic situation especially in Nigeria and what the average man earns, one needs to be realistic. When you have kids its not just about you and "happiness". There are people who hate their jobs and would love to quit but they can't because they have responsibilities. The reason we work hard is ultimely for our kids and family to have a better life. If I have to work from 7am to 9pm in order for me to give my kids the best future possible then I will do it.

T3Amo:


All couples will go through marital problems. Its inevitable and also the honeymoon phase will pass. So what happens when the honey moon phase is over? When finances becomes to much to bear then the fight starts and unhappiness creeps in. If the husband is dangote then great but looking at the current economic situation especially in Nigeria and what the average man earns, one needs to be realistic. When you have kids its not just about you and "happiness". There are people who hate their jobs and would love to quit but they can't because they have responsibilities. The reason we work hard is ultimely for our kids and family to have a better life. If I have to work from 7am to 9pm in order for me to give my kids the best future possible then I will do it.