₦airaland Forum

skondo09:
U are quite brilliant and experienced


But bros u dey write sermon oo...

Tobitrueman:
Seconded, true talk.

igwegeorgiano:
who da heck is dis lalasticlala? every post i clicked to read i alway see and saw that lalastic something. lalasticlala show your face the igwe wants to see u in his palace now

Obiwannn:
Not all anyways. And anyman who doesnt love an independent lady should get his head checked. The problem is when the said lady wants to boss the man and refuses to respect him as she should (respect is reciprocal anyways). Truth is many Nigerian ladies as someone pointed out are more Western than the Westerners themselves, many choose to be liabilities, while being bossy as an icing. No one wants to get married to a Potential Divorcee .

Nancy2016:
What do you consider to be respect because sometimes when you hear a Naija man talking about respect he is of the mentality that "it is either his way or the highway". How many men consider the opinion of their partners before making decisions? How many men can humble themselves and seek the advice and guidance of their wives?

Bisjosh:
Funny how I replied an attention seeker.
Wldnt reply u again. My time is too precious to me

Kc3000:
Gone are the days that most Nigerian men will go home from America to find a wife or even ask the family to find them a wholesome girl in Nigeria. These days, whatever madness you're trying to avoid in America, it's also there in abundance back in Nigeria. You better deal with the one you see before you, at least you might be familiar with her type of drama. To blindly go and import wahala that's possibly just trying to escape the mess in Nigeria is quite the risk.
My cousin went to Naija for a couple of weeks, came back talking about he found a girl he wants to marry. They start communicating and a few months later he hears some funny stuff about her. So, my guy took up the issue with her, and next thing we heard was that the babe and her mom went to fight the person they thought was informing my cousin...for trying to scatter her runs.
What the heck! My guy couldn't believe it was the same chick he's been talking to, her sister that we know here at church is such a nice person. Well, he confronts her about her conduct...na then true colors show! The babe straight up told him that if he annoys her, she can organize guys to kidnap his popsie in Nigeria. My guy snapped back to reality.

peter1994:
In America: I think it has something to do with a believe that they are often spoilt by the Gender equality thing (won't be loyal)

In Europe esp. Italy, Poland, Spain and Germany, There is a believe that our ladies do all sorts of illicit Jobs including Asset Marketing / Commercial sex work (Ash)

Those in Asia Any Single lady wen get mind to go Chinko fit do anything o

DanjaNinja:
Bros biko hook me up. Nigerians are scarce in my state (East coast, next door neighbours to New York).

pippimp:
That is what is keeping Africa in the stone age. The whole world is changing but you guys want to keep the pre historic mentality going. It is not working for you but you don't care. The issue is not that a woman is rude but what most African men consider as rude. Confidence to them is rude. If you lived in a normal society, your perception would be different. I assure you. It is not coincidence that Africa/Nigeria is the way it is today. The way you guys think is amazing to say the least. Same with a child in Europe and the Americas. Most Nigerians would consider them rude, but they confuse that with confidence. That is why at 18, they are out of their homes and getting on with their lives. Meanwhile a 25 year old man in Nigeria, is still sucking his mothers tits at home. At 18 Bill Gates was already forming ideas about microsoft. In Nigeria, he would have been termed a rude young man. What you guys like is subjugation. Eyes down, head down, and shoulders slumped forward. You can't comprehend eyes up, head up and shoulders squared. Everything about our culture points to it. Prostrating, kneeling, crouching, etc. You guys had better wake up.

Cc cococandy. .

P.s sorry about my outburst the other day.

cococandy:
You're always on point.


I'm just seeing this mention now anyways. Lol nothing to be sorry about. Have you seen mine? I go crazy on these retardds way too often.

bigfrancis21:
The issue is not with typical Nigerian men not standing such 'rich', 'confident' or 'independent' lady but it is the totally different attitude or behaviour that comes with such women when they get to have these things. Most lose their humility, subservience etc. for any man and begin to have unrealistic expectations about their relations with men. With Western feminism being propagated worldwide via Hollywood movies, women in traditional patriarchal countries are catching wind of this. I am not against equal rights for women whatsoever. Women should be allowed to do the same things men do in the society but truth be told there are certain roles which are best played by men (leadership, innovation, development etc.) and some roles which are best played by women (raising the great men and women of the world, mediation, empathy, child rearing etc). To be honest, some women are not able to keep a cool head when they are in power or in possession of great wealth, and with the typical Nigerian man who is traditionally raised to be a man in his society and who knows his role as a man in the society, this is the major issue they have with these 'independent' women. Time after time, what women gain by being feminist or 'independent' in terms of financial or material success, they lose in their private life. 50% gain, 50% loss. No man worth his onions (by this I mean who knows he is a man, knows his role in the society and takes pride in being a man) would want to settle with a feminist-charged woman who want to see the roles reversed in the house. This explains why most of them remain single, because they find it difficult to submit to a man in a relationship. Time after time, they have unrealistic expectations of what relationships should be, often with feminism-influenced ideas to define their meaning of a relationship. Of course, there are some men who are not too ambitious, who would have no problem pairing up with feminist women and not mind being house husbands and submitting to their wives who become the primary financial caregiver. In case you don't know, many ladies in America, especially black ladies, are so feminist that they want to be on top in a relationship, they want to be the man in the relationship instead, they are always right and never wrong, they would never admit to being sorry for anything even when they know they were wrong, they want to control you and order you around but WOULD NEVER TRY TO LET YOU CONTROL THEM, they view being a woman as being weak and they try to be men instead. They leave the women they were created to be and try to be men instead. Any MAN worth his onions would never want such a woman as a spouse and MEN go off looking for more traditional/submissive women as partners and the feminist ones-man-trying-to-be are left single for most of their lives. Feminism has been identified as one of the greatest destructive forces in the black american community. In the black american community, about 72% of mothers are single mothers, raising families single-handed. Most of them are unable to keep a man or barely know how to keep a spouse, barely know that relationships are mutual, barely know the sacrifices they would have to make as wives/female spouse to keep a relationship going, etc. They expect to be treated good all the time by their man, or as 'queens' that they like to call it, but never feel obliged to treat their man good in return. Many don't realize that you give to receive. Affection does not flow in one direction only, it goes both ways. With feminism, coupled with the unavailability of eligible good black men, most black american women expect to remain single for all their lives, having only boyfriends here and there as life goes on. In marriages many barely know their roles as wives, or the sacrifices wives make in a marriage, because they grew up in single-mom households and never saw their moms being wives to their dads or step-dads to learn from them, and the marriages they have, if any, barely last. Funny enough, feminism started with white European females but white American ladies till today are more subservient, womanly, and know their roles as wives than black women.

Honestly, if a woman can be wealthy, comfortable and still remain humble or submit to her spouse, cook for him, etc. most men would not have any problem with that. A good man will instead try to support such woman in her endeavours. No man wants a woman who tries to challenge his status as a man every time, who tries to be the 'man' instead in the house etc. A good example of such women is Dr. Ngozi Iweala, a great woman of international status who never rubs her success as woman on her husband's face or tries to challenge him or be on top of him because she is more successful than him. These women realize that outside their matrimonial home, they can charge up to men whatsoever but once they step foot in their house, their spouse is in charge and they submit. Check this out: the most successful marriages in America today, a country with high divorce rates where 50% of marriages end up in divorce, are still those ones that follow the traditional system of beliefs where the male is the primary financial giver and the female is the primary child care giver at home either as full time housewives or career mothers. That should tell you something.

Kc3000:
Gone are the days that most Nigerian men will go home from America to find a wife or even ask the family to find them a wholesome girl in Nigeria. These days, whatever madness you're trying to avoid in America, it's also there in abundance back in Nigeria. You better deal with the one you see before you, at least you might be familiar with her type of drama. To blindly go and import wahala that's possibly just trying to escape the mess in Nigeria is quite the risk.
My cousin went to Naija for a couple of weeks, came back talking about he found a girl he wants to marry. They start communicating and a few months later he hears some funny stuff about her. So, my guy took up the issue with her, and next thing we heard was that the babe and her mom went to fight the person they thought was informing my cousin...for trying to scatter her runs.
What the heck! My guy couldn't believe it was the same chick he's been talking to, her sister that we know here at church is such a nice person. Well, he confronts her about her conduct...na then true colors show! The babe straight up told him that if he annoys her, she can organize guys to kidnap his popsie in Nigeria. My guy snapped back to reality.

Kc3000:
The babe straight up told him that if he annoys her, she can organize guys to kidnap his popsie in Nigeria. My guy snapped back to reality.

Mcjai:
Don't be surprised when you find out that amazon girl of his is actually a Tranny with real dick.

seunoni34:
Because Nigerian ladies over there can't win you green card

On a serious note, most are into runs & are morally bankrupt. Infact this not only applies to Nigerian girls but black American women in general (that their Nigerian counterparts in turn took after) .
Black women are perceived as rude, violent & uncultured.
The black American men over there will take a white woman over a black American woman anyday anytime.

Though in the case raised by the OP, I think the issue is more of the quest to get green card not really marriage itself