₦airaland Forum

I recently told my lady this but she felt it wz harsh.Is it? Anyways d mssg has been received loud and clear.

"You don't hv to like my peps,jst pretend or mk an effort when you're around them.". is it too much to ask.

Hmmm

Na mouth u they make, if she say she no they do now u go go carry all yr family come beg her,

Whether it's too much to ask depends on your mum ... and your understanding of what amounts to disrespect

gsley:
Na mouth u they make, if she say she no they do now u go go carry all yr family come beg her,

gsley:
Na mouth u they make, if she say she no they do now u go go carry all yr family come beg her,

hahahaa . really

gsley:
Na mouth u they make, if she say she no they do now u go go carry all yr family come beg her,

gsley:
Na mouth u they make, if she say she no they do now u go go carry all yr family come beg her,

hahahaa . really?

Mtshewwwww

Disrespecting your mum is bad but your choice of word is worse.

Making meaningless threat

Muafrika2:
Whether it's too much to ask depends on your mum ... and your understanding of what amounts to disrespect

Trust my mum 100%

Sphinx02:
hahahaa . really?

na lie

okirewaju:
Mtshewwwww
Disrespecting your mum is bad but your choice of word is worse.
Making meaningless threat

its better 2 mk ur feelings clear.

Sphinx02:
Trust my mum 100%

She can take advantage of that trust to fight your wife.

Muafrika2:
She can take advantage of that trust to fight your wife.

Hmmm ... Women find it hard to get along with their mothers-in-law ... Why ?

KingEbukasBlog:
Hmmm ... Women find it hard to get along with their mother in laws ... Why ?

its a mystery of ages..

Sphinx02:
I recently told my lady this but she felt it wz harsh.Is it? Anyways d mssg has been received loud and clear.

your lady? cos last I checked, you can only divorce your wife.

I doubt you're married.

KingEbukasBlog:
Hmmm ... Women find it hard to get along with their mother in laws ... Why ?

I've seen some unfriendly mother in laws. An aunt of mine told her son to get rid of his wife for flimsy reasons and the fool did, despite the fact that they had a small kid.

According to psychologists, mothers feel like they are losing their sons when they get married. Many react by fighting the wife.

Daughter in laws can be evil too. But this one has taken one side so he'll never belive his wife's side of the story.

Muafrika2:
I've seen some unfriendly mother in laws. An aunt of mine told her son to get rid of his wife for flimsy reasons and the fool did, despite the fact that they had a small kid.

According to psychologists, mothers feel like they are losing their sons when they get married. Many react by fighting the wife.

Daughter in laws can be evil too. But this one has taken one side so he'll never belive his wife's side of the story.

Nice points you made there . So let me suggest a solution . One way to obviate this could be mothers becoming less emotionally attached to their sons as they get older and developing a good solid relationship with their daughters-in-law before they get married to their sons .

Joavid:
your lady? cos last I checked, you can only divorce your wife.
I doubt you're married.

we're abt 2 marry dats y we are setting boundaries.

KingEbukasBlog:
Nice points you made there . So let me suggest a solution . One way to obviate this could be mothers becoming less emotionally attached to their sons as he gets older and developing a good solid relationship with their daughters-in-law before they get married to their sons .

That will work for those who desire peace. But am I the only person who has experienced people who just fight you for the heck of it?

Muafrika2:
That will work for those who desire peace. But am I the only person who has experienced people who just fight you for the heck of it?

Lmao ... Seriously ?

KingEbukasBlog:
Lmao ... Seriously ?

Yeah,

Muafrika2:
Yeah,

Well I don't get it . The son's wife is meant to make him happy with her love and solicitude . Why take umbrage when she is not derelict in her duties as a wife ? That's why I suggested that she should develop a good relationship with the lady before her marriage to her son .

KingEbukasBlog:
Well I don't get it . The son's wife is meant to make him happy with her love and solicitude . Why take umbrage when she is derelict in her duties as a wife ? That's why I suggested that she should develop a good relationship with the lady before her marriage to her son .

It boils down to how reasonable the two are. I see your suggestion working for sensible persons.

Sphinx02:
we're abt 2 marry dats y we are setting boundaries.

Just set the same boundaries for your family too.

Muafrika2:
Just set the same boundaries for your family too.

Hmmmm..true Sir.

Muafrika2:
Just set the same boundaries for your family too.

Hmmmm..true Sir.

Sphinx02:
we're abt 2 marry dats y we are setting boundaries.

it's either you're a mama's boy or you think she's going to disrespect your mum.

whichever it is, it's best you don't get married until you find a lady you won't threaten with such statements and grow up to be a man.

OP words are powerful on their own so not everyone is meant to speak when upset and i believe you fall into this category. You obviously made that comment while upset but you forgot to ask yourself what you would do if your mum disrespects your wife?

So can i ask you what you would do in that context? Disown your mum?

Muafrika2:
I've seen some unfriendly mother in laws. An aunt of mine told her son to get rid of his wife for flimsy reasons and the fool did, despite the fact that they had a small kid.

According to psychologists, mothers feel like they are losing their sons when they get married. Many react by fighting the wife.

Daughter in laws can be evil too. But this one has taken one side so he'll never belive his wife's side of the story.

I agree. I lost an aunt couple of months ago, what she saw in her MIL hands, ehn.
She married while in school and was to be retained by a big company where she served, she convinced the son not to let her take the job that she can start cheating and become disrespectful cos of the good salary. She lost that chance.
They later told her to resign another job. She went into business and was doing well and trouble began again, saying the lady was using her son's head, that the man should marry another woman . She had to leave the marriage when she couldn't cope again with four children. Even after the lady's death, she still saw and talked about her like a rival.

Some MIL are like devils while some will treat the DIL just like their daughter.

Back to OP. Your choice of words were too poor. Is she a disrespectful person and you think she would disrespect your mum? Don't understand why you would say that.
I would not be smiling if I was told such. So immature

Not yet married but talking about divorce..... odikwa wurious, wrong choice of words.....be like you never ready to marry, cos going into marriage with such a mindset...hmm

What kind of talk is this. It's way too harsh. Are you threatening her or are you doing her a big favour marrying her. What happened to simply telling her, you wouldn't want her to disrespect your mum that anything your mum does she doesn't like, she should tell you that you will be in a better position to handle the issue and vice versa.