Aroh48:
when another man go dey service her for outside,that time ur eye go clear like mirror.

So wotz d big deal if another man dey service her. I think you don't know dis women, no matter how loving you are if a woman decides to fvck another d1ck asides her hubby's she will scheme & do it.

On the other hand, there are virtuous women who would never entertain such thoughts talk less of doing it.

My advice, do not carry their matter for head like gala or else you go get HBP.

What does she do in the morning /afternoon? She probably watching Zee world or something, (sleeping) is either you don't subscribe your DSTV or ask her to make dinner in the afternoon then when it time to eat she microwave or warm it



Am single but I dare not serve my dad food late 6:30pm at most but Sunday is 7:00sharp .so I think I was how she was brought up

Inviting his mom into this is terrible u want to fuel crisis And create another story of wives and mothers No, every other point is cool except this . A man should handle his home and put things right without the intrusion of his parents

Onegai:



Aww man. I thought about it, it is a family thing. Habits die hard but this can be changed. But it is wrong for the kids to be eating so late and they should have an early bedtime. You have to force her to see it's affecting her productivity as a Hot lady, a Wife and a Mother. She's not spending time with you. And if she's going to bed so late, your sexx life will be out of sync. Do 3 weeks of takeout food for you and the children. If you really want to look for trouble and make things change faster, get your mother to come stay for the 3 weeks and instruct your mother to please enter the kitchen and prepare food for you and the children once mealtimes are here and she's taking her time . Be prepared for the fight that ensues but calmly and lovingly maintain your ground: Meals must be prepared on time. This can be changed, sit her down and insist she draws up a timetable (tell her you love her too much to allow her continue like this) of daily activities. Also, give her stuff to do, make sure she knows it's important. Nothing will fire up a change more than one personally admitting to themself "I'm failing and it seems to be my fault". When she can't make deadlines because of it, it will help not make you look like the bad guy. Give her positive reinforcement for meals on time ("Nice! Delicious dinner at 7pm, alright! High five!" )

calcal:
get rid of her on time, life is too short to contemplate.

That is the counsel of Ahitophel up there. The same way the young men advised Rehoboam and he lost the Kingdom. Like I advised earlier love her for her incompleteness and help her to be complete. She also makes you complete and has given you your much cherished children. Love her bro and help her.

Huston1:
Please Nairalanders I need help because I am loosing my patience.
I have been married to my wife for 6years and I have never had dinner before 9PM. Sometimes I'm served dinner past 11pm. My wife doesn't have any job yet. I wake early every day because I have to bath and dress our two kids up in the morning while she makes their breakfast and prepare something for the lunch boxes. I drop the kids at school and go to work from there. I return home before 6pm and dinner is never ready. I have complained and complained and she makes adjustments for two days each time I complain. I got angry at a point and told her I will not eat her food after 7pm. That week, she acted on my instruction and I really ate at 7pm or just before 7:30pm. That is the only week I enjoyed dinner early. I have even developed pot belle due to eating late.
I got home early today and she started picking vegetables to make soup at about 3:30pm. This is 8pm and I still haven't eaten. I am so angry. I really see her busy working in kitchen but I don't know why it takes so long for the food to be ready. Not that she attends to the kids. I assist the kids in their homework and prepare them for bed. I'm very angry. Please advise.

by 6pm when you get home,tell her to go and start preparing your dinner,if possible assist her to cook in kitchen ,so as to know exact problems and way out.bear with her.another one wife is worst than your,everybody is managing each other,only God is perfect

Idayatudeen

Dyt:
5minsmadness

Come and see time management oo

My man has this time thing and heck gets me mad

You have gotten good advices here
Stick to not eating past 7, you say she's respectful and loves you alot
She will change infact
With speed

No good woman wants her man not eat her food

You've made serious points sincerely, I think the Op should do this

Acidosis:
No one is perfect actually. I stay home and work from home most of the time, and I don't eat breakfast until 1pm, 2pm sometimes. I have the basic needs to get my food set by 6am, but I still don't make it available.

I enjoy nearly 23hours power supply on a daily basis since the past months, and some times, I still do not get properly ironed shirts for my outings.

There has been stable electricity since the past 50 hours, but as I type this, I have less than 10% battery life on my phone.

To change an habit, you have to be patient. Anger may not bring out the best in anyone. As much as you want it your way, she has to first accept your way as the right way, lest she strive to meet up under serious tension.

Lastly, get your wife a job, be rest assured she'd make the dinner available earlier than 7. Idleness is the main reason you may continue to eat at 10pm.

Cooking and eating late will give her the time she never had to stay around her family. You want to get back home 7pm, eat 7:15pm and go to bed 7:30pm?

yorhmienerd:
The last time I visited a relatives place, it was the day Barca vs Bayern played last, I came back around 11pm expecting to meet food setup and the kids sleeping but was suprised to see the kids watching telemundo while the father is suggestin they cook BEANS, that day I slept around 1am

hahahaha ;Dhahahahahah ( lavin wit all my big teeth and mouth widely opened ) Yahahahahahaha eleyii tun gidi gan, wan fe pa Yomi , ewa lagokan oru. Ayekaye sha

I find it hard to believe its possible for one to cook a meal for 3 to 4 hours, na stone she dey cook? Well all the same I will ask the following questions:
1. Do you have a TV in your kitchen? Does she watch Nollywood daily? if the answer is no, then
2. Does she watch Telemundo?
3. Or she watches Zee world.
If the answer to the abovequestions is no...
Then I will ask what kind of cooker do you use? Stove, gas cooker, charcoal pot or firewood? If stove, Is it faulty? If not a faulty stove, then.... I will say there is something wrong some where, either she is learning to cook with a manual(but even that won't take 4hours). I won't say she is lazy because this is more than being lazy. There is something wrong somewhere, so you both should sit down and talk over it, maybe she hates cooking, or she is not happy about something, cos the art of cooking is one of the greatest pleasures life offers to us. She obviously doesn't enjoy it.

Are u a female Are u fat?

Ujoan:


What has been 'fat' got to do with anything here?

What's with the obsession with weight these days? fat-shaming is becoming so common that I actually feel pity for over-weight people. The way people mock and ridicule them is appalling.

Honestly Sam, you should be ashamed of yourself for that comment. . . . . SMH!

Sth tells me Ull make a good wife for my friend, and never mind he won't divorce u

jashar:



You sef, every small thing 'divorce,divorce'.

Haba!!! How many wives you go get for this life?

Except you don't plan on getting married. Which is fine.

sinaj:
This one serious o!



Does she use manual to cook


U really need to stay in d kitchen with her to see what delays her

Please on a serious note, what is manual? 'Cos I can't fathom reasons for cooking from 3to 8pm fah

sinaj:
This one serious o!



Does she use manual to cook


U really need to stay in d kitchen with her to see what delays her

Ok, I got the manual now, asin recipes abi?

Hmm I finally found a girl for my friend okwudili, Okwudili Ombuka come and see ur wife o, she's here on nairaland

Berbierklaus:

Everyone(wives) should learn to be hospitable

it is not rocket science

Do you have zee world and Telemundu in your kitchen?

sorry bro. I'd like to ask a question before having my opinion about this.... her food must be the best in the world I am sure that she is trying to impress you with her cooking skills

U're indeed a naughty bride

nautybride:
No one is ever perfect, please bear it o! That is your cross. While I was growing, we eat at most 9pm almost everyday of the week. Personally, I disliked it, so when I am opportuned to cook, by 7pm, I am done. That 's what I do in my home now. I hate cooking at night. If my hubby doesn't decide what he wants on time, he will end up cooking his food himself.
Back to the matter, join her in the kitchen or cook yourself especially when you get home early. If you cook together for three months, she might adjust. I hope it doesn't sound like a punishment.

mamajaz:
Please on a serious note, what is manual? 'Cos I can't fathom reasons for cooking from 3to 8pm fah

lol serzly I dunno too.


Maybe she cooks frm a book or smtin, recipe.

Evn at that, I still dnt understand why it takes that lng.

The man should monitor her

crackhaus:
I really can't wait to see how our beloved resident defenders of women spin this one around...assuming your story is true of course.

If it were up to me though, I would say divorce her dammiit.
What insolence!

What insolence, you say? Goodness, she's his wife, not his child. Smh.

donbenedict:
Wen I used to live with my parents, my mum usually does that.. and I sort of developed a potruding belly.



Now dat I live alone, my stomach is as flat as the wall.. and i"ve slimmed down drastically. Eating meals after 5pm is a no-no for me. And I don't even dare eat Garri. It's either I take fufu(just a wrap) with soup or eat oats.



Look ladies should learn. I will totally be angry with my future wife if after all these years I struggled to get a flat tummy and maintained it and once I get married, she starts using her hand to make it grow bak again. Thunder will just fire her.



If she can't prepare my meal early enough, I won't even bother myself as i"d just go out and eat a light food.

Why don't you just exercise?

ibietela2:


Nigerians and religion, what has prayer got to do with this?

baba u sef see am

Could be she is busy doing other things around the house

crackhaus:
I really can't wait to see how our beloved resident defenders of women spin this one around...assuming your story is true of course.

If it were up to me though, I would say divorce her dammiit.
What insolence!

Troublemaker.. lol.
How is everything bro.

Maski87:
My wife used to do the. Same thing but now ,I have a new girlfriend and I first go there and chop belleful before I go home
And then if she says why don't you want to service me I will pretend am hungry because my new girl is very strong in bed

Very nice indeed.

Huston1:
Please Nairalanders I need help because I am loosing my patience.
I have been married to my wife for 6years and I have never had dinner before 9PM. Sometimes I'm served dinner past 11pm. My wife doesn't have any job yet. I wake early every day because I have to bath and dress our two kids up in the morning while she makes their breakfast and prepare something for the lunch boxes. I drop the kids at school and go to work from there. I return home before 6pm and dinner is never ready. I have complained and complained and she makes adjustments for two days each time I complain. I got angry at a point and told her I will not eat her food after 7pm. That week, she acted on my instruction and I really ate at 7pm or just before 7:30pm. That is the only week I enjoyed dinner early. I have even developed pot belle due to eating late.
I got home early today and she started picking vegetables to make soup at about 3:30pm. This is 8pm and I still haven't eaten. I am so angry. I really see her busy working in kitchen but I don't know why it takes so long for the food to be ready. Not that she attends to the kids. I assist the kids in their homework and prepare them for bed. I'm very angry. Please advise.

I really dont believe you because it APPEARS IMPOSSIBLE [/b]for a woman to spend the whole day at home (probably watching Nollywood! but l wont bet on it sha) and yet fail to do the single thing that could give her husband some respite, after a hard days work?

[b]I believe in the theory of "CAUSE and EFFECT".

That Woman appears TIRED!

Nothing happens without a Reason ........ but we as it is said, we dont know how water get inside the Coconut!

Okay, on a serious note, SECRETLY install 'mini-Cameras' in your Living Room and Bed Room.
Trust me, within One Week, you will know (and see) who has been taking your wife's time,while you were busy labouring for her and the children all day.

But be prepared for what you will see, l mean "be mentally prepared" to handle what your eyes would see!
If not, just let it be ( What the eyes did not see, does not offend the heart ).

Alternatively, on your way from work, visit Enobong (my favourite Nnwammi ), eat Eidikaekong to your heart's desire, arrive home by 7:20pm and if your wife's food comes by 7:31pm, tell her you are not hungry as it is past your dinner time.
If she presses you too much, tell her you have eaten "A FASTER FOOD" on your way from work.

If she is the stubborn type (assuming there is no 3rd party involved playing "Home Match" on your Home turf![/b] ), she will vex and even refuse to prepare food the next few days.
[b]Its time for you too to select a higher gear: Just "forget" to come home the next two days and when you arrive on the third day, let her know you have developed "memory loss" of recent due to not eating her Dinner.... you now forget to come home regularly!

If she does not get the message on time, she will be invited to a 'naming ceremony' very soon .... then her eyes go clear like Northern Sky.




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PS: Nor be me suggest this to you o, do it at your own risk. I am happily married.
Dont even attempt it if you are a "Wussy".

oyomii:
She probably used to eat late while she was at her parents' and got used to it. I think the threat thing might work bt u guys shl'd talk abt it sha. And pray too

You will have make sense If you don't add pray too. Pray for what exactly? That God should make her cook early? We can pray over anything in this part of the world. Nigerians and prayer are like....

Reference:


Are these solutions. He is asking for solutions and you are giving him multiple additional tasks. What manner of counselor are thou?

I wonder ooooo

[quote author=LuvU2 post=49479288]upbringing Just bear it Same way she is bearing too[/quot[i][/i]e]
Bear I see, u must be a girl dt loved biabia

Amitex:


That is the counsel of Ahitophel up there. The same way the young men advised Rehoboam and he lost the Kingdom. Like I advised earlier love her for her incompletenes[/b]s and help her to be complete. She also makes you complete and [b]has given you your much cherished children. Love her bro and help her.

The above is the counsel of JEZEBEL!

The same way Jezebel advised her husband to commit deceit against the Holy spirit and try to play smart with the Prophets.
The same way Jezebel was feeling like "I am in charge here", which led to destruction of her husband (the innocent and unwilling wimp) and herself.

Stop using children and probably s*ex as a bargaining chip, in a marriage where one of the parties is behaving unreasonably.




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ucsparks:

[size=15pt] lazy clueless ladies who don't knw anything about marriage or how to keep a husband,, i pity your future husband or husbands cos i don't think one man will be able to keep up with your [b]laziness [/size][/b]

Allahhhhh

Ohh boy u too much ooo this is worst than life sentence

You guys shouldn't be cooking every day. On weekends or during the day since she is not working she should go to the market and cook enough soup and stew for the week. Put it in the fridge and when you return you can make eba or boil rice, yam or anything to eat with it, and that should not be more than 30 minutes. The problem here is not even for your health, am worried about the kids eating late or going to bed without food. I live alone and reach home firm work by 5-6 and by 7-8pm I have had dinner if I want one.