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onome710:
He made a mistake. Only way to correct it is do the right thing but with wisdom...
What is the correct thing?
Confess to your wife-to-be. Chances is she'd be mad but most likely stay. She's carrying your child.
Then wisely stop the 'situation' with your boss. Chances is she'd make work he'll, sack u or let it slide. But I feel she would let it slide Co's she didn't coerce or blackmail u to do it in the first place.
Where wisdom comes in is the right timing...
You got a child coming, wedding, a family. Don't be jobless now. Buhari hasn't Changed shiit.
So, be smart.

Confess? Like seriously? You want his wife-to-be to see him as a cheat all their married life? That is, if she agrees to marry him again at all.
Abeg, let's be realistic. He should end things with his boss and never talk about it again.
If he confesses to the wife-to-be, she will never trust him again. Some things are best kept secret. If she finds out later, then so be it.

Sleeping with a married man or woman is suicidal.

veekid:
Mr OP; dem no teach you paragraphing for school?

Mr teacher;As long as u understand,thats all that matters..

Cutehector:
U see, things start up with "choice"



He made a choice in the first place. The boss did not put a gun at his head to coerce him to sleep with her for the night. She asked nicely.

He obeyed like a slave. He allowed stupid feelings to dictate his actions. The phrase "What if" is killing a lot of couples today.


All I can say is that he got himself into that mess all by himself. He better use the same way to get out of it by manning up and owning to his mistakes.



Now this goes out to men out there, I don't give a damn who you are or what you do.





Have Self Control....

God I love dis guy.....intelligent ans.....d man in d story made d mistake by allowing himself fall for her tricks.....sex should NT be d reason you re wit ur wife,wat if she travels or goes for a course training abroad,DAT means,you'll fvck anytin on skirt DAT opens for u abi........i prefer to sit,or lie/cuddle my woman and we talk and laff happily...

cutehector abeg no vex cos I talk say I love u,I no mean am DAT way,I didn't knw d ryt words to use.....im NT gay o,I'm straight,and I hav a beautiful lady by my side ryt NW,my woman!

I have an honest reply to his question.Tell him to keep kpanshing her but not to last more than 3mins on her again i.e mind control. Gradually she will less fancy him and get over with him

Emperoradrian:
God I love dis guy.....intelligent ans.....d man in d story made d mistake by allowing himself fall for her tricks.....sex should NT be d reason you re wit ur wife,wat if she travels or goes for a course training abroad,DAT means,you'll fvck anytin on skirt DAT opens for u abi........i prefer to sit,or lie/cuddle my woman and we talk and laff happily...

cutehector abeg no vex cos I talk say I love u,I no mean am DAT way,I didn't knw d ryt words to use.....im NT gay o,I'm straight,and I hav a beautiful lady by my side ryt NW,my woman!

lol...

Stopped reading when I noticed the style and signature of a national daily. Scrolled down quickly to confirm. Wasn't proven wrong.
These newspapers should quit writing in an archaic form -- it makes stories dull, unnecessarily long and repetitive. Many of them enjoy coming on nairaland to read user stories yet see no need to update their writing style to fit the newer and quickly growing generation. It's no wonder young adults nowadays buy newspapers only for business news and nothing else.

Why stop, sounds nice to me. He should continue the affair but should not invest in it emotionally.

Ask God for forgiveness first n ask for he's protection. Dnt tell ur wife to be anything nw in her condition(sm things shuld be left alone). When next u travel wt ur boss n she says oya let's start----tell her u hv an infection(google any serious infection dt ll scare her n put d fear of God in her) n dt u r on treatment. Evn when she asks u tell her d infection keeps coming bck-----she ll soon loose interest ,abi who wan carry infection for ds economy join Op try nt to get sacked. Office romance neva ends well. Goodluck

I think the problem here is that he gave his boss one of his best performance, I mean why would anyone not want passionate, steaming s3x.

Here's a thought, if you don't want a woman to want you in her bed, then act the fool the first time. And that should put an end to her cravings.

I bet that's what your mate wanted to do, and he's having is fun already. So, why chicken out now? He alone can figure out how he can stop it. Not everything that is glitter is called gold.

galantjoe:
Op. My advice is very simple. Say nothing. Do nothing. Continue with ur sex excapade with our boss discreetly. Tell ur mind the affair keep ur job. Give ur conscience reason why u should be doing it. Then u will not feel guilt conscience.

Most of guy are praying for this opportunities. This is a greater chance to rise in corporate ladder. U should not bring this out. Because this is secret to success. The chances are ur fiancee will not found out.

The economy is bad. No job. U will really suffer if u confront ur boss. Or tell ur wife. Be smart. The sex drive would lower with time. Have slush fund in case.

Most real comment I have seen so far! Most of these guys don't know jack about real life choices!

GoldenJAT:
nairalanders comment abstractly at times...failing 2b realistic....this write up is on d frontpage cos d poster wants solution...we all know he bleeped up!!!i dont think we need a reminder as 2 that,as im so sure,u can also mk same mistake....The most important thing is that he wanna stop..and that should b commended!U AINT A SAINT.

Read the account of Joseph and see the self control he exhibited. Resist temptation. So that your blessings will not be cut short. I Cor10:13. Meet your wife confess to her. Most importantly confess to God and restore your way back to God. There's no better way than to tell her you're no more interested. If she sacks you, that is the price you have to pay. I promise you trust God and he will show you mercy and take you to a better place of glory and honor. May God help you.

Self control is a conscious effort, people always have excuses for their mistakes, while his fiancee is fighting to bring in another life into this world, he saw it as an excuse to cheat on her,smh,the truth is there is a difference between "screwing your boss" and "screwing with your boos",so to be honest there is no soft landing on this one, he already knows the consequences of calling off the relationship but if he can find someone to take his place with his boss, with time she might not even notice him anymore and whatever they had going on will die a natural death, some men and their john Thomas wahala self

This is simple...

As a guy, he knows how he beds her to her satisfaction...
He should start doing it the other way round and not let her control how he does it...
She will end it by herself when things don't change to her satisfaction...

Try and see...
It works...

He should threaten her with blackmail, take a video of them both tell her he will show it to her husband if she tries anything funny.

Being sex starved is not an excuse for sleeping with his boss. He lacks self control and he's only postponing dooms day. Confess your sins to your fiancee and stop the illicit affair. May God give you the strength to bear the consequences.

This was the same temptation Joseph overcame to become the Prince of Egypt. A lot of people have deviated from a destiny of greatness because of one night of enjoyment (make that 10 mins).

You'll need to tell you fiancee dude! That I tell you is the road to recovery.

God bless you.

If the id*iot loved his fiancee he won't cheat on her in the first place!

These are the only options he has now;

1. Continue banging his boss secretly.

Advantages;
a) Free fun Boss sex.
b) His job is protected.
c) He will benefit from every opportunities and bonuses arise.
d) Rapid promotions.
5) Boss will easily assist him financially if he has a financial problem.

Disadvantages;
a) His fiancee will surely find out.
b) Boss may fall in love and order him to dump his fiancee.
c) He may fall in love and dump his fiancee.
d) If the relationship ends on a sore note, he's bleeped (see below).


2. End the relationship with Boss.

Advantages;
a) Frees him from his sex starved Boss.
b) His fiancee will be happy with him and respects his moral decency.

Disadvantages;
a) Boss will terminate his employment.
b) If his Boss doesn't kick him out, then she will make his life a living hell at work.
c) He will lose all benefits and opportunities.
d) No promotion.

i believe he is a christian , if he understand d story of Joseph in Pharoah house he will not there it. because one may be on his way up but because of dis foolish sin adultery or fornication will pull u down.

kONJI NA BASTARD!
but who d konji hold? D man dat his fiancee is ill and has ben starve of sex for sometime or d boss who lust after him.
D deal has ben done pray to God and ask for divine direction

veekid:
Mr OP; dem no teach you paragraphing for school?

is that your way of contributing to the problem at hand.

if he can fornicate , then what's the use of feeling guilty bout the senior brother"adultery...a complete waste of time effort and conscience

hagmond1:
Why should you impregnate your fiancée?
Julius, that's fornication.
Damn!!!
Imagine what fornication caused you.

you have to quit this relationship and be bold enough to face the consequences