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shaybebaby:
Then you are a lucky girl. Things is I have always gotten along better with guys and I suppose some people might consider me a bit strange. I'm not very girly so I don't really fit in with girls generally.

My best male friend, an ex actually but we were friends for two years prior to dating, tried the dating thing which didn't work and now back to being very close, I have known since I was a teen.

EfemenaXY:
Interesting discourse ladies.

As for me I've so few close friends, I can literally count them on the fingers of one palm. But then again, it's all about what we have in common. Some are purely work related from whom I've learnt so much from and are definitely worth their weight in gold when it comes to giving brilliant career advice. Others are working mums with kids the same age as mine, and one or two go wayyyyyyyy back to 20+ years ago where we reminiscence over the past, etc.

One thing about me is when I'm stressed, I do give them an earful and can talk for hours on the phone. They've / we've all been each other's Rock through thick and thin. Quality of friends beats quantity, any day, any time.

shaybebaby:
Then you are a lucky girl. Things is I have always gotten along better with guys and I suppose some people might consider me a bit strange. I'm not very girly so I don't really fit in with girls generally.

My best male friend, an ex actually but we were friends for two years prior to dating, tried the dating thing which didn't work and now back to being very close, I have known since I was a teen.

Mindfulness:
This is something I cannot relate to. I have male and female friends and I have them because I like their personalities not because they are male or female. Besides there are milllions of girls who do not consider themselves to be girly (whatever that means) so you could as well find your type among the female folk.



I can relate to this experience. The same person was there for me day and night to help cope with the loss of a loved one. He is like a brother.

shaybebaby:
True, gender does not determine personalities but I've been told so many times I act like a bloke. But this is based on my observations of how the average girl is.

A lot more closed off on first meetings and possibly subsequent meetings, a sense of conscious or unconscious? sizing up. Whatever it is, I'm too impatient to hang around for. I'm an open book, what you see is what you'll always get.

I find guys less cagey, more direct which resonates better with me.

EfemenaXY:
Lol!

Who doesn't? Sometimes you've just gotta do what you've gotta do. Why wait around for a bloke to get it done when you've got the resources to get it done better?

My sister, time is money. No dulling.





You've just described a typical, insecure female. Closed up? It's good to have some measure of wariness. But "sizing up"? Nah...

Not worth it.

shaybebaby:
But I love how you totally get the blokeish part... all na survival mode.