Bisoye82:

What happened? So we can learn

Hmmm. The babe's salary was 15k, her transport was 14,600. Agent said no P, i should manage the girl, she will replace her. Why agent did not calculate this before giving me nanny I don't know.

So using my church mind i made the girl start coming on alternate days. Based on my laxity, she now took 3 days off by herself, without calling me. I called her on day 1 of absence, she said she was sick. Day 2 nothing. Day 3 nothing. Day 4 she surfaced. Did you go to hospital? no. Which medicine did you take? no response. I just paid her off there and then.

Then I asked myself, if I was all dressed for work and nanny has not surfaced, what will I do? That's how I started collecting recommendations for creche/ daycare.

In short I had a hard time picking a daycare, so many good ones in my neighborhood. I'm grateful to God for the one I finally picked because they take such good care of lo and the caregivers have a lot of initiative. Coincidentally there are only two babies right now, lo and another toddler, meanwhile there are two caregivers. They're even spoiling the boy for me.

Besides the lack of help has helped my marriage cos hubby assists a lot around the house, we've become a stronger team. Nowadays little things he does just burst my head anyhow hope say i no go soon start second missionary journey sha.

Tojued:


Besides the lack of help has helped my marriage cos hubby assists a lot around the house, we've become a stronger team. Nowadays little things he does just burst my head anyhow hope say i no go soon start second missionary journey sha.

Lol!
True talk sha, having a Help makes hubbys lazy.

tatacherie:

Get moringa fresh leaves or the powder brew and drink a cup.very effective.have been working for us since my baby was 3mnths.I do it only wen baby haven't pooed for days though cos it gives her loose stool.it might work for u

Good morning mama, pls i couldnt get moringa leaves or powder around my area, can i substitute it with d seeds?

lexajen:


They told us not to use cream and powder till 6 months. I'm not sure how that will pan out

Thank you for the directions, I will tell my MIL to help me get some.

I've only heard about powder but not cream. Maybe you should ask them why and see if they have a valid reason. We might learn from it

soonest:


Lol!
True talk sha, having a Help makes hubbys lazy.

Hmnnn! It depends on the man oh!

Some men, have it in their heads that home chores are women's work. Only! .Help or no help.

yes its 2016 and sadly some people still think like that.

My hubby's stance is ... " if we can afford to pay someone to do it, why are we stressing ourselves"

If we had help i know there are things he helps out with that he wont bother with. And i dont blame him oh because Me sef i have my list of certain things i will not do..

AlphaHandMaiden:



Hmnnn! It depends on the man oh!

Some men, have it in their heads that home chores are women's work. Only! .Help or no help.

yes its 2016 and sadly some people still think like that.

My hubby's stance is ... " if we can afford to pay someone to do it, why are we stressing ourselves"

If we had help i know there are things he helps out with that he wont bother with. And i dont blame him oh because Me sef i have my list of certain things i will not do..

True talk...it depends on the man. My hubs will claim he will like to help, 'just explain what u want done', by the time u use 30mins to explain...u r fed up cos it's still not well done...so why bother?? The one he's good at is "straightening the bed sheet" and claiming he's made it! His stance is exactly like your hubby...we have helps but there are just somethings I can't let them do for me:

I always bathe the kids myself, make their food and wash n sterilize their bottles...can't trust nannys on the los hygiene abeg. Hubs, always like: what's the point in having nannys then?? But me understand what am doing n it makes me more comfy.

AlphaHandMaiden:



Hmnnn! It depends on the man oh!

Some men, have it in their heads that home chores are women's work. Only! .Help or no help.

yes its 2016 and sadly some people still think like that.

My hubby's stance is ... " if we can afford to pay someone to do it, why are we stressing ourselves"

If we had help i know there are things he helps out with that he wont bother with. And i dont blame him oh because Me sef i have my list of certain things i will not do..

Yes you are right. Many believe house chores are women's responsibility strictly.
When I didn't have a help, hubby will attempt to help but now with help, he's on phone/TV mode.

ozycy:

Seen, sent

Thanks

mitchyy:


I've only heard about powder but not cream. Maybe you should ask them why and see if they have a valid reason. We might learn from it

Powder abi?.. have been telling my mum this oo... mummy no powder, mummy no powder...but she will say what do I know...I just let her be cos she is the one bathing my DS. Her reason for applying powder being that it sheds off old skin ...na so I open mouth look am

pacpatty mama, sorry o. I saw your mention, what's up? Please send away.

Tojued, I get where you're coming from: we had no help in the first 6 months and Himself helped out. Now that we do, he still does some stuff but he doesn't want to do much (his favourite sentence is "Just superviseeeee!" and I always ask "Supervise precisely what?? Hanging clothes outside, closing the cereal properly??". But it did make us feel closer having to find our feet together by ourselves. Though we were more tired.

soonest:

Yes you are right. Many believe house chores are women's responsibility strictly.
When I didn't have a help, hubby will attempt to help but now with help, he's on phone/TV mode.

Funny enough, Himself is concerned more about the kitchen than any other room. He even likes making breakfast (as in pancakes and scrambled eggs, sausages etc).

VEE992:



Powder abi?.. have been telling my mum this oo... mummy no powder, mummy no powder...but she will say what do I know...I just let her be cos she is the one bathing my DS. Her reason for applying powder being that it sheds off old skin ...na so I open mouth look am

hahahaha mistakenly pour the powder away jo. Or have your neighbors children visit and then mistakenly leave it where they can play with it.

Please how do you wonderful women get ur husband to participate. In housework. I have talk, shout, threatened, cajoled. And still have not been able to make him hang his clothes not to talk about housework coupled with my baby that hardly sleep.
I think that am suffering from postpartum depression but have been trying to help myself a little.

Ps he always say no to the idea of household.

ambient:
Please how do you wonderful women get ur husband to participate. In housework. I have talk, shout, threatened, cajoled. And still have not been able to make him hang his clothes not to talk about housework coupled with my baby that hardly sleep.
I think that am suffering from postpartum depression but have been trying to help myself a little.

Ps he always say no to the idea of household.

Hmm its like we married the same hubby,and he Neva keeps his stuff well,always Annie where is my this, Annie where is my that.... And I always tell him to look for it inside me kidney. The matter tire me,so I do what I can and leave the rest,I can't kill myself biko

dexterush:

Hmm its like we married the same hubby,and he Neva keeps his stuff well,always Annie where is my this, Annie where is my that.... And I always tell him to look for it inside me kidney. The matter tire me,so I do what I can and leave the rest,I can't kill myself biko

Hahahaha @ look for it inside my kidney

@ look for it in my kidney

ambient:
Please how do you wonderful women get ur husband to participate. In housework. I have talk, shout, threatened, cajoled. And still have not been able to make him hang his clothes not to talk about housework coupled with my baby that hardly sleep.
I think that am suffering from postpartum depression but have been trying to help myself a little.

Ps he always say no to the idea of household.

But is he getting laid regularly?

See, all men think women are hardworking creatures who were trained from birth to not only wash clothes, clean the house and cook, but to do all of that HAPPILY. In their minds, they think you are complaining because you want to make them feel guilty. They have been told all their lives that nothing makes a woman happier than to spend her entire day chasing her babies and scrubbing the pots till they shine and spending their nights loving him till he screams.

So show him you are tired: if the house is dirty, let it be dirty. If dinner is late, let it be late, infact tell him "honey I'm planning on having a headache next week saturday so no show". If he threatens to cheat, laugh and ask him if he really wants to be wasting money in this era of Change. With time, he will realise you're a human and help out. When he does, reward him in bed.

Onegai:


But is he getting laid regularly?

See, all men think women are hardworking creatures who were trained from birth to not only wash clothes, clean the house and cook, but to do all of that HAPPILY. In their minds, they think you are complaining because you want to make them feel guilty. They have been told all their lives that nothing makes a woman happier than to spend her entire day chasing her babies and scrubbing the pots till they shine and spending their nights loving him till he screams.

So show him you are tired: if the house is dirty, let it be dirty. If dinner is late, let it be late, infact tell him "honey I'm planning on having a headache next week saturday so no show". If he threatens to cheat, laugh and ask him if he really wants to be wasting money in this era of Change. With time, he will realise you're a human and help out. When he does, reward him in bed.

This is a good advice but my dear I married to a nerd, if the house like make Im day tumble it's not his business. So far it's not disturbing him or his working space his good.

ambient:


This is a good advice but my dear I married to a nerd, if the house like make Im day tumble it's not his business. So far it's not disturbing him or his working space his good.

The go and scatter his working space. Carry your pikin and drop her in the middle of it and look shocked when something destroys.

dexterush:

Hmm its like we married the same hubby,and he Neva keeps his stuff well,always Annie where is my this, Annie where is my that.... And I always tell him to look for it inside me kidney. The matter tire me,so I do what I can and leave the rest,I can't kill myself biko

haha haha kidney ke? you so funny mama

ozycy:

It depend on your agreement with the nanny and what she will be doing, number of kids. You also have to key in transportation cost etal. I started with 20k for testing lol that was 4yrs bk and graduated to 30k 2yrs ago. I don't have a nanny for now.

You know what, I love you already. I love people that treat their helps/nanny well and pay them well as well.

I pay my help 25k excluding transportation. I pay her transport cost weekly. So in total I pay about 30-32k per month. When my colleagues/friends hear that, they always say it's too much that I should pay 15k maximum.

I tell them her pay is commensurate to her work duties. She is a hard worker and is very good with my kids. Even if she asks for a pay rise tomorrow, I won't hesitate.

May God help us all.

Onegai:


But is he getting laid regularly?

See, all men think women are hardworking creatures who were trained from birth to not only wash clothes, clean the house and cook, but to do all of that HAPPILY. In their minds, they think you are complaining because you want to make them feel guilty. They have been told all their lives that nothing makes a woman happier than to spend her entire day chasing her babies and scrubbing the pots till they shine and spending their nights loving him till he screams.

So show him you are tired: if the house is dirty, let it be dirty. If dinner is late, let it be late, infact tell him "honey I'm planning on having a headache next week saturday so no show". If he threatens to cheat, laugh and ask him if he really wants to be wasting money in this era of Change. With time, he will realise you're a human and help out. When he does, reward him in bed.

Ma, this is funny.

If she's married to a man like me, believe me, this won't work. I'm not lazy but when it comes to domestic chores, I'm not just cut out for it.

Bed is not laid, I will sleep for chair even rug na. Kitchen is dirty? Is it my kitchen? Late dinner? No problem as long as there is something to munch on inside fridge. Some guys don't care if the house itself is upside down.

Only prayer can change us.

dexterush:

Hmm its like we married the same hubby,and he Neva keeps his stuff well,always Annie where is my this, Annie where is my that.... And I always tell him to look for it inside me kidney. The matter tire me,so I do what I can and leave the rest,I can't kill myself biko

Your man is my nigga. Sorry ma, just take it easy on yourself. It is well.

Onegai:


The go and scatter his working space. Carry your pikin and drop her in the middle of it and look shocked when something destroys.

I will say I'm lucky as regards husband helping out with chores . . my husband can do anything .. It's just the way he was brought up .. he even prefers doing stuffs himself cos he doesn't trust the nxt person to do it perfectly..

If not that his job takes him out of town now, we wouldn't have needed a nanny.

dexterush:

Hmm its like we married the same hubby,and he Neva keeps his stuff well,always Annie where is my this, Annie where is my that.... And I always tell him to look for it inside me kidney. The matter tire me,so I do what I can and leave the rest,I can't kill myself biko

@bolded,

Bolade005:

Ma, this is funny.

If she's married to a man like me, believe me, this won't work. I'm not lazy but when it comes to domestic chores, I'm not just cut out for it.

Bed is not laid, I will sleep for chair even rug na. Kitchen is dirty? Is it my kitchen? Late dinner? No problem as long as there is something to munch on inside fridge. Some guys don't care if the house itself is upside down.

Only prayer can change us.


Your man is my nigga. Sorry ma, just take it easy on yourself. It is well.

But you have never seen me scatter a house.

I'm realllllyyyyy good at it. It's my one talent

Dexterush, you're like my mum, never a straight answer: "where is my toy, mummy?" "in my head!"; "what are we eating mummy?", "Food!"; "Where are we going mummy?", "Out!"

dexterush:

Hmm its like we married the same hubby,and he Neva keeps his stuff well,always Annie where is my this, Annie where is my that.... And I always tell him to look for it inside me kidney. The matter tire me,so I do what I can and leave the rest,I can't kill myself biko

Very funny reply. I can relate with your situation dear and it can be very frustrating.
Mine will start asking for the where about of his things even before making an attempt to look for it.
Most times I pretend I didn't hear him ,he will then go and pick it where he kept it.
God will continue to give us more wisdom and strength to run the home front.

DANZAK:


God will continue to give us more wisdom and strength to run the home front.

Crious one oh,on the strength part,God should double it biko

Onegai:

But you have never seen me scatter a house.
I'm realllllyyyyy good at it. It's my one talent
Dexterush, you're like my mum, never a straight answer: "where is my toy, mummy?" "in my head!"; "what are we eating mummy?", "Food!"; "Where are we going mummy?", "Out!"

Lols I like your mum already, even my sister is scared of asking me questions sometimes when its comes to response my friends call me Epic

Bolade005:


Your man is my nigga. Sorry ma, just take it easy on yourself. It is well.

Nigga abi alright

mompurity2:
please pool, bikonu, don't execute your threat ooo. You know we cannot find a bae like her

Apology accepted,

mompurity2:
please pool, bikonu, don't execute your threat ooo. You know we cannot find a bae like her

Apology accepted,kisses 2 Jesse n Jeremy .

soonest:


Lol!
True talk sha, having a Help makes hubbys lazy.

So true. I wish I can do without help for one month and me and DH take care of our kids ourselves, we will share the work. And if I have to go to market or go out to get something, I will leave the kids with him and I pray my 2girl will carry poo and scarra his bedroom floor , Am sure he will call me back on phone to come back and I will form so busy and not done with what am doing. My hubby helps out in the house and can comfortably take care of the kids but baby's poo poo can scare him for Africa.?

Sabi mamas please I need urgent advice. My baby of 3months+4weeks who has been on formula and bm has suddenly started rejecting formula.
The problem now is that I have resumed work and I am not one of those fortunate mamas to have more than enough bm to the extent of throwing away some. In fact, low bm flow was the reason for introducing formula.
I am thinking of introducing cereal but don't know whether it is too early. If it not, what kind of cereal shld I give him now at his age.
Pls your quick response will be appreciated.

Cc:Alphahandmaiden, Onegai, comtem2011,soonest, and all our sabi mamas in the house.

DANZAK:
Sabi mamas please I need urgent advice. My baby of 3months+4weeks who has been on formula and bm has suddenly started rejecting formula.
The problem now is that I have resumed work and I am not one of those fortunate mamas to have more than enough bm to the extent of throwing away some. In fact, low bm flow was the reason for introducing formula.
I am thinking of introducing cereal but don't know whether it is too early. If it not, what kind of cereal shld I give him now at his age.
Pls your quick response will be appreciated.

Cc:Alphahandmaiden, Onegai, comtem2011,soonest, and all our sabi mamas in the house.

Sorry, I meant to say 3months + 2 wks and not 4 wks