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blackboot:
hmmm, this is more than just kpekus ooo , after investing in a relationship for almost 3 years, everyone knows you and her, we are use to each other, its more than kpekus my dear.

Bro you dey dull yourself, you see committed person wey ready settle down with your salary and hers join together you are not even happy.

Court Na 25k to 30k. Una don wed. Every other ceremony, Na una wan feed people. Iyawo won lode ooooo.. use your head bro.. God bless..

blackboot, a good woman is hard to find

You have one, marry her fast before you loose her.

I believe you should let her go. She's more interested in having "Mrs" attached to her name than truly being married.

Smh4u... See talk like mess!

It depends on hw much understanding is btw u two. From ur post up there, the lady seems to be so much in love with you but from wot I heard, love is blind & marriage is the eye opener. Don't be afraid to let her go if she can't wait...½ word is enough for the wise

blackboot:
Please I Need Advice From Real Men And Sensible Ladies On This Issue


My girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down.

She is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude.

She has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me

Your fiancee or girlfriend?

If she's engaged to you then marry her

blackboot:
Please I Need Advice From Real Men And Sensible Ladies On This Issue


My girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down.

She is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude.

She has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me

U re very wicked!!
She is 29 nd u still want her to keep waiting for you

If u were close by, i go give u reset slap.

In 2014 I lost my job and I had to allow my supposed fiancée go irrespective of the love I have for her but the pressure for her to get married was immense nd age was part of it..

Kidnapping is not just taking someone forcefully nd asking for ransom, u re a kidnapper if u don't let her go..

hadura29:
Bro you dey dull yourself, you see committed person wey ready settle down with your salary and hers join together you are not even happy.

Court Na 25k to 30k. Una don wed. Every other ceremony, Na una wan feed people. Iyawo won lode ooooo.. use your head bro.. God bless..

The guy is just dulling!

blackboot:
Please I Need Advice From Real Men And Sensible Ladies On This Issue


My girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down.

She is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude.

She has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me

Pass me her contact, i wd marry her in your place

Blessedward:
please assume you are the lady..will u b able wait that long at 29 when suitors are trooping in??
she has told u she will remain with u regardless of ur income becos she loves and believes in u but it seems u want to personally oversee the wrecking of the ship u are boarded...if u are destined to be rich u can't evade that as long as u remain faithful to her.

I jez taya 4 d mofo!

male wheelbarrow pushers & pure water hawkers are gettin married, him dey wait to reach dangote status b4 tyin knot... smh 4 op

My cousin was jobless when he got married to his wife, two years after he found a job and they are still together.

You even have a job, plus your woman seems to love you, if you are sure she respects/believe in you, then just go ahead, I understand your worries but with the right person, you can be happy.

AZeD1:
I believe you should let her go. She's more interested in having "Mrs" attached to her name than truly being married.

You gotta be kidding me.

youngest85:
Person go deh worry hmsef coz of kpekus weh full everywhr.......

Senseless talk from you..

Please, pray before taking any decision concerning this.

blackboot:
Please I Need Advice From Real Men And Sensible Ladies On This Issue


My girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down.

She is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude.

She has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me

Marry her.

Choose between Her and your ego..

blackboot:
Please I Need Advice From Real Men And Sensible Ladies On This Issue


My girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down.

She is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude.

She has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me

Guy, breathe, you are not going to loose her... but I don't see anything holding you from taking that big step. it's not like you are jobless, so no one can say you are jobless or not hardworking, get married. God grants special favour to married couples, you'd get a better job. just tie the knot already. You are just scared, thinking it's one big thing so you have to get the world first... Na only to collect marriage list and pay dowry o. then sign paper for court, that's all and she's legitimately yours.

think about how you'd feel if you loose the only woman you desire because of the pursuit for vanity.


God bless you bro.

Is woman food??
Is marriage an investment??
If you don't marry her will you die??
Is she the only woman is this whole world??

The answer to all these and more is "NO"

Why would you loose your dignity as a man because of marrige?? My brother never marry out of pity or frustration.

Calm down and build your selfish your double your husttle and make more money.

My advice for you is to let her go..Don't force yourself into marriage when you are not ready because a woman is disturbing you.Remember things are not the way they were before (things are too expensive these days) marry if you know you are capable of carrying the burden of a wife and children DON'T MARRY ANY GIRL BECAUSE OF PRESSURE ONLY MARRY WHEN YOU KNOW YOU ARE READY.

Yieldings:
You say you're not financially-stable and thus, not ready for marriage. That's your intuition speaking. Never ignore your intuition. She might be saying you will manage your income together when you get married, but that might change when you do get married and more financial responsibilities or obligations arise. Finances are always a huge cause of marital issues.

As a man, you should get married when you know you're ready, not when your girlfriend or anyone is pressuring you to marry her.

She says she can't wait for you anymore, then let her go.

Why would a man be financially stable before he can marry ??

Why can women be financially stable and marry those financially unstable guys ??

EastGold:
You are not ready to get married.


I did my wedding 9 months after losing my job, I had nothing, I mean nothing, we had no honey moon, on Monday, I went outside to hustle, today we are fine

RUGGED!

blackboot:
Please I Need Advice From Real Men And Sensible Ladies On This Issue


My girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down.

She is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude.

She has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me

Marry her If you love her and you're sure she loves you.

She has legitimate reasons for concern.

As long as you have a little something coming in every month, plan a small scale wedding ceremony.

Marry her bro or you may regret it.

Brother good evening.... I understand how you feel and I see true love between you both, some people will tell you to move on, while some will give you honest answer, while some will say rubbish... But here is what I have to tell you.

She love you and ready to be with you, she ain't ready for any rich man's wealth, cos if she does she will not want to settle down with you but take the advise of her friends and move on.

You don't have much for now... Tell your family and friends to follow you to her parent place, go and ask her hand in marriage, let her family member know you.

With that you can slow things down, telling her you guys will set for traditional wedding maybe by middle of next year, or ending... With that the pressure on her will reduce. Then she will wait, then you can make your plans well with her. Just an advise thanks

Anty u don old oooo mama lager my guy go die

Everyone saying the lady should move on, life is not about only money though. What if the guy gets a breakthrough in a few months, and the woman rushes into marriage with another random guy. Who will take the blame?

There's more to life than money sha...

try and persuade her to reason with you,and you too,not until you are dangote before you settle down

I hope she loves you as much as you think she does. Cos l don't get her discussing you with a friend. "leave him for a richer guy". I wouldn't do that to someone l consider husband material. I'd cover up for him as much as l can. We can talk other light matters but never my bf's financial worth. Not even with my mother. Those are very private matters but note @"husband material".

blackboot:
Please I Need Advice From Real Men And Sensible Ladies On This Issue


My girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down.

She is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude.

She has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me

She's 29 and she understands her train is moving faster and faster everyday. Pressure from family,from peer groups,from frends,from all and sundry,all the hullalabo. She has every right to back out bro,well,am really sorry for u. But u aint in any way gonna lose even if you marry at 40, but what bout her? She is gonna lose almost everytin,don't forget the menopause. It clearly entails that you aint financially ready to marry bro,so pls don't keep her on the losing end. I hope God gets you ready financially,as soon as possible. Beautiful ones aint yet born. #drummerboy

thorpido:
You say she has a better job and she is willing to support you.What else are you waiting for?If you are waiting till you start earning hundreds of thousands,then let her go and marry someone else.
You don't have to have an expensive wedding.Just do something lowkey and live your life.
Have this discussion with her on how you can get married but have a very lowkey ceremony.

IT'S NOT AS EASY AS UR SAYING IT. MOST PPLE LACK MENTAL MATURITY. SHE'S SAYING SHE ASSIST HIM NOW, BUT MY QUESTION IS SHE MATURED ENOUGH, 2 NO DAT D GUY IS HEAD N HIGH PRIEST OF D HOME, EVEN IF SHE EARNS MORE THAN HIM

"I want to be a man"

Nigga take a sit!

A real man will know when to set aside pride and let common sense prevail!..

If finance is the ONLY reason you don't want to marry her then you don't know anything.... You even get Job of 30k sef! ..is it not just going to be 2 of you ni.. How much una wan chop?

The babe is gem!... Let her go and live to regret it for the rest of your life!... it's obvious she loves you.

I wonder where we're going to in this country. She says she wants to marry now due to her age and you say you're not ready. So, why exactly did you open this thread again? Please, let her go and find someone that can wait for when you're ready. Her patience has run out.

Since she has said all this then marry and see where it takes you to...... only two things can happen....

You live happily ever after or it doesnt work out.

You will most likely be fine if you know she is really the one for you but if you are not sure, dont marry.