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Op, marry her.. Both of you are working and she's ready to assist in the marriage.. Waiting till u make lots of money before getting married is not ideal.. At least she snot jobless and she's understanding..
It's so hard to eventually marry ones true love, especially when a man is successful.. Lots of ladies will definitely troop in but whom amongst will truly love you and stick by you when the chips are down.
Your bae is even sticking by you as the chips are down... Don't make the same mistake some people who. Are financially OK has made and regretting every moment they think About their first true love..
... Such kind of love is not common.. Pls think wisely... Money will come, u will make it.. Make hay while the sun shines

lofty900:
Truth is bitter bro but how long do you expect a 29 year old woman to wait. Forget about love, ur not ready to settle down. The lady is not getting any younger so allow her to move on while you get a new, younger girl that can wait until Jesus comes

Ur so-called advice is really shallow and lacks substance. That dude is in a dilemma,he needs support and advice not the trash u just spewed.

You have spoken my mind. My hubby had nothing when we got married, while I was serving then. But today is a different story. My brother, is always good when a man decides to get married with his little income than when a woman made such decision for him. To avoid nagging tomorrow, let her go. Though from what I'm seeing she really love you.

You are not ready to get married.


I did my wedding 9 months after losing my job, I had nothing, I mean nothing, we had no honey moon, on Monday, I went outside to hustle, today we are fine[/quote]

ceeethru:
Abeg, give me the girl number since you nor ready...

Na so baba

better leave am. na only she de?

mr. op, tell her you love her with all your heart and/but let her go in peace! then go to work and do double duty improving your circumstances for the next babe that will come your way.

many many fish in da sea my friend.

Honestly its obvious they is no seriousness in you... Loyalty is overpouring from that your bae.. and u r hear waiting for the right moment. the right moment hardly comes around. my advice, dont let her go.. u must not have a flashy wedding..

Blessedward:
.if u are destined to be rich u can't evade that as long as u remain faithful to her.

Kindly explain this to me.

I want you to know that when it comes to finances, there is nothing as having enough.

Moreover, she said she would manage the little you have with you. If you think you can take her for her words, then go ahead and marry her otherwise free her and move on with your live.

However, you should know that what realy matters is not the amount of money you have but what you do with the money.

blackboot:
Please I Need Advice From Real Men And Sensible Ladies On This Issue


My girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down.

She is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude.

She has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me

Yieldings:
You say you're not financially-stable and thus, not ready for marriage. That's your intuition speaking. Never ignore your intuition. She might be saying you will manage your income together when you get married, but that might change when you do get married and more financial responsibilities or obligations arise. Finances are always a huge cause of marital issues.

As a man, you should get married when you know you're ready, not when your girlfriend or anyone is pressuring you to marry her.

She says she can't wait for you anymore, then let her go.

I totally agree with you....Marriage comes with a lot of responsibilities and what works for one may not work for another.Another point I would love to point out is that some ladies can be overly nice when they become desperate for marriage and will promise to be by you through thick and thin and will eventually change once they get married to the dude.
I however believe this is not the case of the Op.
I will advice the young man to follow his intuition. But if he believes that he has a future with lady in question,he can marry her with the assurance that she will not slight him tomorrow for not being able to carry out his financial obligation.

Zirah:
I hope she loves you as much as you think she does. Cos l don't get her discussing you with a friend. "leave him for a richer guy". I wouldn't do that to someone l consider husband material. I'd cover up for him as much as l can. We can talk other light matters but never my bf's financial worth. Not even with my mother. Those are very private matters but note @"husband material".

You have spoken well... IMO, he'll be doing himself a big disservice if he goes ahead to marry her. I'm sure he's not being completely honest describing the sort of woman she is.

AZeD1:
Why would I be kidding?
Marriage is a life time commitment and there's no price for early marriage.

I seem to no be getting what your point really is, help me please.

I'd just really like to know how wanting to get married at 29, translates to not loving him, only wanting the "Mrs" title.

It is easier said than done. Now, what will be your contribution towards the marriage? Nothing. Getting a job is by His grace. If you want peace for yourself let her go since she has other suitors. She cannot wait for you to get a good job, what if it does not come in two years? This is Nigeria that our stealing politicians have destroyed. Don't go into the marriage with her salary as the bond becos you will become her slave. Wait becos God will settle you with a good job Soon, then a good girl will also come your way.

@op
What if u get a good job now, GOD forbid that you loose it immidiately you get married. Will u divorce your wife again to look for another job? Marriage is for better for worse. Since your wife is ready to support u go ahead. Age is not on her side.

omooba969:
@bolded,

Are you saying there are not many lovely women out there?

There are many Lovely women, but few Virtuous women.

OlajumokeBread:
Why wouldn't she dump you when you act and think like a 5 year old kid ??

If she wants to dump you, that's fine, did you two sign a contract that you must marry her ?? Married couple who were married for 40 years do get divorced and move on with their lives and you're here crying about a girl you don't even know her her parents

What are you gonna do about it ?? Go to your room, cry about it, eat some ice cream and watch cartoons

You are the reason why some women do this nonsense shiit to some men because you're soft and emotional


Why would a man be financially stable before he can marry ??

Why can women be financially stable and marry those financially unstable guys ??

Let me tell you the naked truth, she doesn't love you and this is how God wanted it to happen, you will remember about this incident in the next 20 years from now and just laugh


Stop crying like a little girl and man up

I pity any girl that would dump me or think that she broke my heart because i don't give a flying and running fucck

There are millions of good girls out there you can marry and avoid unnecessary trouble

Men can get any girl in the world

Beyonce married Jay Z
Nicki Minaj is dating Meek Mill
Nick Canon married Mariah Carey


You can marry any girl you want

Am surprised at what u say. Abeg c d names wey u dy mention

blackboot:
Please I Need Advice From Real Men And Sensible Ladies On This Issue


My girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down.

She is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude.

She has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me

Please marry her jhor! Simple marriage not alariwo ooo. But please try not to get her pregnant yet till u are financially ready! Thanks

Olufunmi0806:
The truth is this, they are ready to endure any situation to achieve their aims, once they secure it, they are different creatures entirely. Dis is a true and even recent testimony. Take your stand bro and allow her to leave if she wishes. To be a responsible husband is not a mere play.

DEAR NAIRALANDERS, THE ABOVE IS THE TRUTH ABOUT MOST WOMEN, WRITTEN IN BLACK AND WHITE.

They're ready to endure any situation to achieve their aims, once they secure it, they're different creatures entirely. Cosigned by me.

OP when the insults, trials and tribulations start pouring in - and they will - don't complain!

wow! my brother in this forum , you can hear the voice of the devil and the voice of God. You are now left with making the right choice which automatically brings you back to where you started from: what shall I do?
my humble advice and question is in three fold:
one, are you born again and is she born again?
two, Have you taken the matter to the Lord in prayer? remember this song? what a friend we have in Jesus.....
three: way forward. Try to get October 2016 Christian women mirror. May God help you.

raumdeuter:
So she wan marry you and you no wan marry yet?

She has tried, she gave you her word and from her actions currently do you think she will change and start bullying you with the money?

The wedding expense, who will pay for it?

Lol....dayo....!!!! U sha..

As we pray for ur gud n better job pls send me her number um also ready to settle down.

diggz:
Lol....dayo....!!!! U sha..

You find me reach here?

As we pray for ur gud n better job pls send me her phone number

IamforGod I hope you know that after marriage the next thing na to carry belle, no two ways about it. Except in cases of infertility issues. Them must to fvck raw...

OlajumokeBread:
Why wouldn't she dump you when you act and think like a 5 year old kid ??

If she wants to dump you, that's fine, did you two sign a contract that you must marry her ?? Married couple who were married for 40 years do get divorced and move on with their lives and you're here crying about a girl you don't even know her her parents

What are you gonna do about it ?? Go to your room, cry about it, eat some ice cream and watch cartoons

You are the reason why some women do this nonsense shiit to some men because you're soft and emotional


Why would a man be financially stable before he can marry ??

Why can women be financially stable and marry those financially unstable guys ??

Let me tell you the naked truth, she doesn't love you and this is how God wanted it to happen, you will remember about this incident in the next 20 years from now and just laugh


Stop crying like a little girl and man up

I pity any girl that would dump me or think that she broke my heart because i don't give a flying and running fucck

There are millions of good girls out there you can marry and avoid unnecessary trouble

Men can get any girl in the world

Beyonce married Jay Z
Nicki Minaj is dating Meek Mill
Nick Canon married Mariah Carey


You can marry any girl you want

flyin fuucck?? Really For your mind now u made lotta sense anyway

marry her now 30k not to small.

Afam4eva:
I wonder where we're going to in this country. She says she wants to marry now due to her age and you say you're not ready. So, why exactly did you open this thread again? Please, let her go and find someone that can wait for when you're ready. Her patience has run out.

Why is the lady in a hurry? She's only 29. There are many women that get married in their early to mid 30s.
Besides, if finance is the only impediment for the OP to marry her, then they can both combine their incomes to raise money for the wedding.

The fact that he is only earning N30k at present doesn't mean he will be on that salary level forever.

guys can be funny at times. my friend relationship is 8yrs plus and she is 27yrs and she has been telling her bf to do something. she has made up her mind that if by next year he is not ready she will be forced to move on. if you guys don't think you are ready ,guys with lower income marries everyday then ladies will go look for serious ones.

even after pursing the money, you still won't get enough
why then do you delay your life for money.
there are prominent people that make their money Even after marriage with kids

Bro go ahead. Cos until ur CV change from single to married the might not consider u for that job that will pay u. Don't let her go , my people said beans no dey grow well for person Wey get teeth.

floxyluv80:
pls go ahead and get wedded IF AND IF ONLY u hv d trust in her dt she won't change negatively overnight. ladies are many BUT wives are......

Nor be only trust. How can you trust human being? There is nothing to trust there because humans are deceitful.

A man should be ready before settling down.