BoboYekini:
Hypergamy is not a sin na. It's just what it is.
Anyway, your explanations help( only a little ). I'm still a fan.

ucheheart:
mere assumption. No population census is 100% accurate esp in africa were figures are manipulated to meet selfish interests. Have you ever wondered if moslems and some african traditional men marry many wives why do we still have many women still single in this country? Even the bible stated it that the time will come when 10 women will run to a man and beg him to marry them just for them to answer his name. And that time is now. So deceive not yourself, population of women is far greater than that of men.

Nneka123:
yeah

carefreewannabe:


No population census is accurate but yours is, right?

Keep dreaming.

mutter:



Disrespectful to my ex husband. - Possibly but I ended up in an abusive marriage. Perhaps if I had joined her in prayer I might have been spared that.

As regards my friend she wanted to marry a white man, a doctor , young and handsome and someone that would take her away from the life in Northern Nigeria because she felt she could not live there freely as a woman.

That was her definition of a good man. That was what she wanted and that way what God gave her. They were so much in love.
Everyone has their own definition of a good husband. I personally could never marry a white man.

I learnt my lesson though.
Put everything in God`s hand.

As regards my friend she wanted to marry a white man, a doctor , young and handsome and someone that would take her away from the life in Northern Nigeria because she felt she could not live there freely as a woman.

RicKyRichards:

Any of your new roommates/dormmates as weird as I am? Or you're still finding out....

itstpia8:



Prayer is important but at the same time prayer is not magic when choosing a partner. Your own criteria for dating are what will determine the type of partner you date. Say, for example, someone who enjoys the club life and partying, wanting to settle down with a strict SU who spends all day in church- their union will be very difficult because they have different lifestyles.

Your comment was disrespectful to your current husband as well, because it sounds like you still don't consider yourself as having a good man yet.

Its actually very common with women to constantly be comparing their husbands/boyfriends with others, imo, that's not a good attitude because we also don't like when/if men do the same.



Its good to appreciate whatever/whoever God has placed in one's life regardless, there's a reason.






Sounds like there were many white, young and handsome doctors headed for America that she could choose from?

Nneka123:
we are all weird

saasala:
Ladies been deceiving us men since the days of Adam

But why wont they start crying when they know the guy is taking all their wahala away. Marriage is not for a man, marriage is for women only. A man doesn't stand to gain anything from getting married. You lose your freedom, she'll nag you to hell, she will lose her pristine beauty, you spend your entire life working to make her happy-and you stand to gain nothing....You can always get sex, child(ren) or even love without getting married. Guys, dont get married

Read this book: The Manipulated Man by Esther Vilar.

mutter:


You know what this is going in an unnecessary direction.
You take it or leave it . I am not here to justify myself. Your interpretation is way off .
Have a nice day and forgive me if I don`t bother explaining any longer. If you don`t understand what I wrote then came back maybe in a year or two and you might understand it.

... and if you are deliberately trying to needle me, take a deep breath because you have to drive real deep

Bagayouche:
u are to stupid for words she lost. Her beauty cus of u cooks for u cleans ur home ttakes care of ur family u still womanise she bears it. Well i dont blame u its all does cheap girls dat gives wat belongs to d masters to dogs. Giving watt is meant for marriage to u people for free dats y dey will remain single

Amelian:
Some women cry cause they've been waiting for long. Personally I think I will cry on the day of my wedding . Not by giving me. Engagement ring. I will appreciate the ring no doubt and guard it jealously .
But the real. Emotional moment will be on my wedding day. And I will be like wow! It's real..! Am indeed getting married. Wow. It's unbelievable
I know I Will have teary eyes that day.

Lol

truthsayer007:


Didn't you believe you will get married before ? Chaii

Women are so emotional, me i dom tire

Amelian:

My dear it's a long emotional story

truthsayer007:


I see, I can relate to your story. I also personally have different preference when it comes to dating, fling or serious relationship. They aren't the same.

I usually see ladies who have a lot of toasters becuz of their looks and they become really proud. In my mind, i'm quite sure they don't know the diff btw guys wanting a fling and dating that leads to marriage. So when a decent looking guy comes around, their Bar is already raised so high that they just ignore him.

One thing i would tell you is you often find yourself around the wrong people, Who are the type of Guys wooing you? Are they godly people?

Who are your friends also, are they good friends? Becuz i often experience my female friends linking me up with other females to date. Then imagine if my female friends are crazy, obviously they will link me up to date their other crazy friend.

How do u portray yourself also? becuz if you like to club & have fun, you will attract guys who like such too.

Lastly, stop worrying yourself. At the right time, It will happen.






D

Amelian:



My dear it's a long emotional story
Because of my looks,most men prefer to date or have flings.
Someone like me, if were a loose lady, I would have change profession to aristos And make so much money
But because am born to follow a responsible legal career and dating different guys at a time is not my stuff. I find it repulsive. If not? Money I would have made on aristos, would have built me a mansion. But that's not my line.. No matter how society tries to. Box me into it. It's simply not in me.
Guys woo left, right and center to gain my attention, some even go as far to present me with a ring but it's all a game to them 2 have fun, nothing real there. And make me loosen up and date any of them. Then later the one with the engagement ring will either say he's travelling abroad or his family said this and family said that.
They later come up with all sort of excuses after wasting either one year's or 2years of my life. In a fake relationship.

That's why if u give me engagement ring as my BF, I will smile and say OK let's give him a benefit of doubt. But it won't make me cry. I will be happy , hug him and say yes.

It got to a stage, I was like maybe men are meant to worship my beauty and it's not in my destiny to marry. Cause of many toasters.
And am not ready to be a baby mama.
Yeah such thoughts crossed my mind so Many times. I wont lie.
At times I will ask my self is my beauty a curse? Cause it's has not given me what I want yet.
Girls who need this beauty for olosho don't have it.. Me wey ,I just want to live a simple life ,focus on my work and raise a good family God now give me this type of beauty that makes men pursue me for the wrong reasons

So, until I see myself taking marital vows In front of a priest or judge. Then I will know, OK am really destined for. Marriage.


Truthsayer uv made me open today on one of my darkest secrets.

It's relieving

Thank you for sharing

LoveDecay:

naijainfogalery:
I had a friend who once said i can never cry, but the day the surprise happened. She cried like a baby , i still watch the 15 minutes video evertime i need a dood laugh.
But here ate few Reasons why ladies cry.
1. Some do it cos everyone does it
2. For some it just happen cos u weren't expecting it, finally marrying the love of your life
3. Some fake it to make the man head swell thinking she loves him
4. Some cry because they pity the guy , saying OMG I cry for you , you just made the greatest mistake of your life , you really wanna marry me ??
5. For some its tears of joy after all the whole boys that has broken your heart. This one finally proposes
6. Some also cry when you buy them expensive rings , she will be like this fool wasted 400k to buy me a ring I don't even have 100k in my account
7. Some think crying makes you romantic
8. Some ars just too emotional for that package.
9. Some just cry before u change your mind and say its a joke

mctowel01:

hav hahaha hahaha nah
guy, where are you from?

perkyendy:
Please I really wanna know your own answer to this.

Though it looks funny each time I see such

What's ur take on this