Zeinymira:



Everyone deserves a second chance.......their pasts shouldn't matter since they are now better Muslims

Well, Allah says Al muminuna lil muminatu, Alhafisuna lil hafisotu and so on.
So everybody deserves someone like them.
Moreso, I have come to realized that most guys/ladies that had promiscuous life after getting married still find it difficult to the away with their exes

I have met a lady in early twenties that told
me she has had 6 exes which was a very big turn off, which I can't just cope.

niyi123:


Well, Allah says Al muminuna lil muminatu, Alhafisuna lil hafisotu and so on.
So everybody deserves someone like them.
Moreso, I have come to realized that most guys/ladies that had promiscuous life after getting married still find it difficult to the away with their exes

ok

niyi123:
I have met a lady in early twenties that told
me she has had 6 exes which was a very big turn off, which I can't just cope.

you don't ask... scholars discouraged that...

lexiconkabir:


you don't ask... scholars discouraged that...

All those kind of opinion doesn't work in this generation. Is it not better to know the type of person to be in a relationship with. Instead of getting married and discover a lot of unbearable situations

niyi123:


All those kind of opinion doesn't work in this generation. Is it not better to know the type of person to be in a relationship with. Instead of getting married and discover a lot of undearable situations

goodluck in your bid to find a saint, someone without an ugly past.

Ya Allaah! I desire to marry, so arrange for me a woman from those who willingly abstain from what is unlawful and who safeguards her soul for my sake and because of her, not only my means of sustenance will increase, but also make there be in it abundance and also make it sure that she will give me a virtuous son, who will be a noble successor in my life and after my death.

lexiconkabir:
Ya Allaah! I desire to marry, so arrange for me a woman from those who willingly abstain from what is unlawful and who safeguards her soul for my sake and because of her, not only my means of sustenance will increase, but also make there be in it abundance and also make it sure that she will give me a virtuous son, who will be a noble successor in my life and after my death.

Ameen. But na only son you dey pray for? What of baby girl ?

lexiconkabir:
Ya Allaah! I desire to marry, so arrange for me a woman from those who willingly abstain from what is unlawful and who safeguards her soul for my sake and because of her, not only my means of sustenance will increase, but also make there be in it abundance and also make it sure that she will give me a virtuous son, who will be a noble successor in my life and after my death.

Ameen but are you seriously prepared to get married now?

FriendChoice:


Ameen. But na only son you dey pray for? What of baby girl ?

lol, when i was typing, my mind didnt go to a girl, but ofcourse i will need a baby girl, infact 3! i hope you know why , but its only natural for me to desire a son because Allaah says;


"The love of desires, of women and sons and hoarded treasures of gold and silver and well bred horses and cattle and tilth, is made to seem fair to men; this is the provision of the life of this world; and Allaah is He with Whom is the good goal (of life)."

so a man desire a woman first, the next thing is son before money.

snapscore:


Ameen but are you seriously prepared to get married now?

actually in less than 3years i should be ready insha Allaah.

lexiconkabir:


actually in less than 3years i should be ready insha Allaah.

Okay.

May Allah make it easy for you.

snapscore:


Okay.

May Allah make it easy for you.

Ameen...

when do you think you will be ready?

lexiconkabir:


Ameen...

when do you think you will be ready?

I dunno.

I guess when I'm mentally prepared.

snapscore:


I dunno.

I guess when I'm mentally prepared.

how come i predicted this reply accurately?

lexiconkabir:


lol, when i was typing, my mind didnt go to a girl, but ofcourse i will need a baby girl, infact 3! i hope you know why , but its only natural for me to desire a son because Allaah says;


"The love of desires, of women and sons and hoarded treasures of gold and silver and well bred horses and cattle and tilth, is made to seem fair to men; this is the provision of the life of this world; and Allaah is He with Whom is the good goal (of life)."

so a man desire a woman first, the next thing is son before money.

And you know "Walirrijali alaihinna darajah"

So sometimes the male gender stands for both male and females. In both Arabic and Hausa.

So you want 3 girls so they can shield you hereafter by the will of Allah, how many boys do you want?

niyi123:
I have met a lady in early twenties that told
me she has had 6 exes which was a very big turn off, which I can't just cope.

m on with you on this one...maximum should be 3 @least
and you cant get that kind of girl on NL....very very RARE!!!

lexiconkabir:


how come i predicted this reply accurately?

Well I've always been open about why I am hesitant to get married. But it depends on the person I guess.

FriendChoice:


And you know "Walirrijali alaihinna darajah"

So sometimes the male gender stands for both male and females. In both Arabic and Hausa.

So you want 3 girls so they can shield you hereafter by the will of Allah, how many boys do you want?

perhaps 2

snapscore:


Well I've always been open about why I am hesitant to get married. But it depends on the person I guess.

Assalamu Alaikum.

I don't know why. But I can predict. May be your profession.

FriendChoice:


Assalamu Alaikum.

I don't know why. But I can predict. May be your profession.

Wa alaikum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

My profession plays a role but it's not the main reason. I can always compromise. For example, I don't intend on working in the hospital.
I just feel like marriage is a lot of responsibilities and there are a lot of expectations on women (especially women who work). There is also the bad news about marriages that I read almost everyday. There are so many things that could go wrong in a marriage.

snapscore:


Wa alaikum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

My profession plays a role but it's not the main reason. I can always compromise. For example, I don't intend on working in the hospital.
I just feel like marriage is a lot of responsibilities and there are a lot of expectations on women (especially women who work). There is also the bad news about marriages that I read almost everyday. There are so many things that could go wrong in a marriage.

OK yasanyi. ?

FriendChoice:


OK yasanyi. ?

menene ya sani?

snapscore:

suka sani?

I no understand oh.

FriendChoice:


I no understand oh.

I wanted to say who knows?

Modified the previous post

snapscore:

I wanted to say who knows?
Modified the previous post

Not sani but "Sanyi" = Cold
Ya = How

FriendChoice:


Not sani but "Sanyi" = Cold

Ya = How

It's been good. Alhamdulliah

Loving the weather.

snapscore:

It's been good. Alhamdulliah
Loving the weather.

A very good weather indeed

niyi123:
Yet to meet a truly devoted Muslim sister, except those used and dumped sisters that had previously engaged in haram relationship.
I seriously need a committed and devoted sister

As salaamu alaykum, getting a Saint as a Zawjah is a very rare thing. Even the brother searching for a Saint ain't close to be one at all. I think marriage is about compromising. You can't actually get all what you dream for in a woman as a wife. The most important feature that a woman should possess is the deen (coupled with the right aqeedah), ready to learn even if she is not close to being perfect. It could be disastrous if someone marries a wife who is not ready/accommodate new teaching (that might seem new to her) when such thing is presented with evidence(s). Heard so many from married friends and brothers. wearing the right garment isn't enough (but it is definitely part of it),seeking the right knowledge should be put along side. This also goes to the brothers too(in fact they need it most).
NOTE: You can never get a perfect partner or let me say it is very rare to get a perfect partner with no ugly past. Majority of us get to understand Islam/Sunnah better after some ugly past..... Search for the one with the DEEN

busar:
As salaamu alaykum, getting a Saint as a Zawjah is a very rare thing. Even the brother searching for a Saint ain't close to be one at all. I think marriage is about compromising. You can't actually get all what you dream for in a woman as a wife. The most important feature that a woman should possess is the deen (coupled with the right aqeedah), ready to learn even if she is not close to being perfect. It could be disastrous if someone marries a wife who is not ready/accommodate new teaching (that might seem new to her) when such thing is presented with evidence(s). Heard so many from married friends and brothers. wearing the right garment isn't enough (but it is definitely part of it),seeking the right knowledge should be put along side. This also goes to the brothers too(in fact they need it most).
NOTE: You can never get a perfect partner or let me say it is very rare to get a perfect partner with no ugly past. Majority of us get to understand Islam/Sunnah better after some ugly past..... Search for the one with the DEEN

i hope the brother listens....

a woman with deen and right aqeedah, khalas, everything after that is secondary.

Jazakallahu Khiran busar

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