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lovelygurl:
But the thing is you are putting everyone in a nutshell. You don't know if she's like the others who only want equality when it favours them. We all have different views of life. Those women you listed above are hypocrites but you don't know if she's 1

hmmmm holy woman,u see me and pretend like say I nor dey na abi?

wristbangle:
Nice comment. You gave a diplomatic view but what about this: In a situation where a feminist hang her boot when it comes to sharing bills in the family expecting her husband to do all these but other aspects such as decision making, moral standards, aspect of business, et.al, she expects equity, don't you think this is rather a selfish ambition? Is it also a personal opinion?

That's not feminism and they are not feminists because like I said it means equality in every aspect even if it doesn't favour the lady. Those are the ones that claim to be feminists without knowing anything about it

Martin124:
hmmmm holy woman,u see me and pretend like say I nor dey na abi?

Awww sry

greenpasture:
Headship does not connote superiority.

It is a responsibility. It is simply a division of roles. Men are wired to think long range and to be strategic without emotion. Women are exceptionally good at management; ensuring that things run right on schedule and to cost. They multi task better than men and have superior intuition. Marriage requires both to embrace their roles while respecting the gifting of the other. One strength without the other is a tragedy in waiting.

The argument aganst headship is a false argument usually made by people who are either not married or who are in or are witnesses to poor marriages or by people who have been badly parented. When conducting an experiment all substances must have integrity else the experiment yields a false result. A person who is the victim of poor parenting or marriage cannot use their experiencs to create an empirical reality.

At the end of the day the success of the family team and the fulfilment of each member is the principal thing

My eldest son is 30 and has just taken over a family business. My wife runs a successful tier one school and I dont get in her way. I support her but do not take away the joys and risks of enterprise. Successful and joyful family succession is the fruit of the pudding. We plan to make this team run for over a thousand years. No business runs without business model logic,why should family be different?

tell them oga

SeyiIrawoDidan:
So your ancestors believed differently?

Didxyour ancestors live the way you are living. If you love your ancestors so much go and meet them in their graves, easy peasy

bolayei do u have father at all.

all kinds of religion accepts the man being the head of the family. Even the muslim made it that the man is the super head of the family. Sayn religions differs is wrong bkus all religions accepts it

maam you are right times have changed, especially in this era of gender equality.

but however most of your fellow female gender yet to come to terms with the fact that more women are now becoming the breadwinner.

the fact that God has given you the privilege to have amazing (remarkably high paying) careers/jobs, to head your homes in terms of finance, does not gives you the license to treat the father of your kids your husbands like BULLSHIT ,does not give you the right to disrespect and cheat on him,
there many intangible vital things a man has to offer you and your children other than money that you yourself can never offer!

this is what most of you fail to understand.

The REAL QUESTION again is would you and other female gender respect your partner/spouse/husband if you are the breadwinner, or your salary is higher than his salary or perhaps you are richer than him?

Topestbilly:
Why taking your son/daughter to school when you can teach them al at home?

In wonder oo

Funnicator:
Wetting concern hell fire concern the topic now? Abi winch enter your body today?


Any woman bent on being head of the family had better went West, Africa remains Africa and we never departing from our traditional ways. Guess again, why we have rejected gay bills, yes because this is Africa and we respect our heritage, traditional values and stick to them.

#No ship has two captains at same time.

#You don't serve two masters at same time.


A man is definitely the head of the family and NEEDS the wife by his side, to rule with him, SUBMISSIVELY.

Rubbish

Her opinion which is what it truly is "her opinion" and it's doesn't affect me in anyway, so what's the fuse about?

Perhaps she can always reach her daughter at home, but saying teaching such topics in school to be completely scraped because it affects her sensibility is completely absurd and she is just been delusional, all this social media robots and their overbloated ego Sha....

lovelygurl:

First of all send me a well recognized link not some blog screen shot

Secondly I ask if Jonathan secured 10 million votes from 10states and buhari secured 9 million from 26 states who would be the winner of the election?

Think properly and go back to basic government taught in secondary schools

lovelygurl:
Now you seem to be educated unlike those quoting me, shouting as if they can change the way the lady thinks.


Why would feminists...? Feminists are INDIVIDUALS because they are humans. Feminism just means equality, not placing the man or the woman higher in EVERY aspect of life, even if it favours the lady.

A feminist can want to marry, have kids etc, another feminist might not want to. A feminist can be a house wife, another might not want to be 1. This is an INDIVIDUAL choice and has nothing to do with feminism. You can't put all in a nutshell because the only thing they have in similar is they believe in equality.

So about the getting married, finding a filmsy excuse to divorce etc, then that's because the lady decided to, NOT because she is a feminist or else all divorced women will be 1.

And about the choice of only wanting to have kids is again an individual choice. The fact that YOU think she'll regret it, doesn't mean she will. This is what makes humans individuals

To be honest my problem with this whole thing is the whinings. There's nothing to question about another persons' belief and thoughts because it's nothing you can change. Birds of the same feather flock together. If you can't deal with a group of people then don't deal with them, go for your kinds and stop whining around because they are different. I mean it's the same thing like mind your business. Live your life and let others live theirs

hmmmmm how come you can speak like this,are you a graduate in sociology?

Macgabe:
A man needs respect and the wife needs love. This is what is lacking in today's generation else, there won't be need for this feminism. When we talk about equality is it limited to our roles in the home alone? Can we also be equal when it comes to responsibilities in the house? What then is the need for a man going through hell just to fulfil some marital rites(in some cases run into debts in the process)? Before agitating for equality, do we have the same mindset, ability to deal with issues correctly and efficiently? As much as I frown on women being second best in their homes, I think this issue of equality is really making most of our ladies see themselves as "all sufficient". Marriage is not a ground for claiming our rights, , it's a place where two persons comes together to act as ONE body. Anything outside this is going out of God's plan for marriage. We are to complement one another and not claim any right.

No it's not limited to the roles in a house alone BUT then again you see ladies who CLAIM to be feminists only when it favours them. Those are just confused bunch of people.
The thing is the world is changing. Sorry to say but if a man in this 21st century still thinks he is the only one who has to be going through abnormal stress etc just to take care of his family, then he's on his own. More women are willing to help are in my opinion SUPPOSED to help.

Kondomatic:
Nobody is interested in what you do behind the scenes. It's 100% your private life.

You see these things mad people do? We do it most times we are alone but that doesn't make us mad.

Why?

Because we know were and when to do it.

Talking about hypocrisy, You ladies are the real hypocrites here. A man is the head of the home by default and I will tell you how to be the head if you so desire but before then I will like you to understand that this headship is not about having the upper hand nor is it to mean that a woman has no rights or is a second class citizen.

That said, if you desire to be the head of the home.

Please make money, build house or rent an apparment, come and marry us "Africanly and churchily", do the hard works and check the door when robbers knock at night and we will happily be loyal to you.

Until then, it's either you look for a husband that shares your views on marriage or better still don't marry at all.

Who marriage help

pocohantas:
A man is the head of the family, as said in the bible...but what if she isn't a christian?

Some people will come here to blast her.
She is even better than some of you.

The hypocrisy in Nigeria is something else, men will quickly see the part of the bible instructing women to be submissive, but they don't see the "thou shalt not fornicate". They tell lies, backbite, steal, sleep with their neighbour's wife, but want to be the head.

I saw a thread of some porhnstar, guys were attacking the ladies featuring in the video, but they knew the porhnstar's site for streaming porn videos. These same guys bend ladies with reckless abandon on top bed.

You that will come here to condemn her but fornicate in your closets and her are all sinners, you would all end up in hell.
No sin is greater than the other

Now una remember African culture, is it African culture to be testing different chicks before marriage?

For those that will quote me with pain, and tell me not to marry or call me a feminist, don't waste your time ooo. I won't respond

They are still quoting me, very predictable emotional beings

It is African culture to marry many wives as long as you can take care of them, that is tantamount to testing n sampling chicks.

AnthonioAlsaid:
First of all send me a well recognized link not some blog screen shot

Secondly I ask if Jonathan secured 10 million votes from 10states and buhari secured 9 million from 26 states who would be the winner of the election?

Think properly and go back to basic government taught in secondary schools

Are we talking about Jonathan or Clinton

Another 1. Stop embarrassing yourself


http://time.com/4608555/hillary-clinton-popular-vote-final/

lovelygurl:
But the thing is you are putting everyone in a nutshell. You don't know if she's like the others who only want equality when it favours them. We all have different views of life. Those women you listed above are hypocrites but you don't know if she's 1

Good.

I don't share the views of men being the alpha and omega in a family even though I was taught the same social studies in school.

But you don't see me making my views on marriage the standard for all? You get the different?

It's OK to want equality in marriage, especially in decision making but it's not okay to want equality and then contribute just 25-30% financially or reserve the toughest job for one.

It's a 100% thing or accept that one is the head.

lovelygurl:
Didxyour ancestors live the way you are living. If you love your ancestors so much go and meet them in their graves, easy peasy

Meaning?

lovelygurl:
Now you seem to be educated unlike those quoting me, shouting as if they can change the way the lady thinks.


Why would feminists...? Feminists are INDIVIDUALS because they are humans. Feminism just means equality, not placing the man or the woman higher in EVERY aspect of life, even if it favours the lady.

A feminist can want to marry, have kids etc, another feminist might not want to. A feminist can be a house wife, another might not want to be 1. This is an INDIVIDUAL choice and has nothing to do with feminism. You can't put all in a nutshell because the only thing they have in similar is they believe in equality.

So about the getting married, finding a filmsy excuse to divorce etc, then that's because the lady decided to, NOT because she is a feminist or else all divorced women will be 1.

And about the choice of only wanting to have kids is again an individual choice. The fact that YOU think she'll regret it, doesn't mean she will. This is what makes humans individuals

To be honest my problem with this whole thing is the whinings. There's nothing to question about another persons' belief and thoughts because it's nothing you can change. Birds of the same feather flock together. If you can't deal with a group of people then don't deal with them, go for your kinds and stop whining around because they are different. I mean it's the same thing like mind your business. Live your life and let others live theirs

My sister


How can you say that "feminism" is equality when the word itself perfectly explains the mission?

women are weeker vessel according to the bible n man already in d gerden of eden for long before woman was created.

Kondomatic:
Nobody is interested in what you do behind the scenes. It's 100% your private life.

You see these things mad people do? We do it most times we are alone but that doesn't make us mad.

Why?

Because we know were and when to do it.

Talking about hypocrisy, You ladies are the real hypocrites here. A man is the head of the home by default and I will tell you how to be the head if you so desire but before then I will like you to understand that this headship is not about having the upper hand nor is it to mean that a woman has no rights or is a second class citizen.

That said, if you desire to be the head of the home.

Please make money, build house or rent an apparment, come and marry us "Africanly and churchily", do the hard works and check the door when robbers knock at night and we will happily be loyal to you.

Until then, it's either you look for a husband that shares your views on marriage or better still don't marry at all.

Wherever you are right now, just kneel and let me pray for you.
You shall be uplifted far more than your competitors in life. You shall never lack a single good thing in life as from today. Because you ve made me happy with this your post, God Almighty will always make you happy.

Waagbayi my brother

SeyiIrawoDidan:
Meaning?

It's means, if you want to live like your ancestors and not ready to move forward, since the world is changing and there's nothing you can do about it, go and join them in their graves

Martin124:
hmmmmm how come you can speak like this,are you a graduate in sociology?

no johr

Kondomatic:
Good.

I don't share the views of men being the alpha and omega in a family even though I was taught the same social studies in school.

But you don't see me making my views on marriage the standard for all? You get the different?

It's OK to want equality in marriage, especially in decision making but it's not okay to want equality and then contribute just 25-30% financially or reserve the toughest job for one.

It's a 100% thing or accept that one is the head.

Well I agree with you

pocohantas:
A man is the head of the family, as said in the bible...but what if she isn't a christian?

Some people will come here to blast her.
She is even better than some of you.

The hypocrisy in Nigeria is something else, men will quickly see the part of the bible instructing women to be submissive, but they don't see the "thou shalt not fornicate". They tell lies, backbite, steal, sleep with their neighbour's wife, but want to be the head.

I saw a thread of some porhnstar, guys were attacking the ladies featuring in the video, but they knew the porhnstar's site for streaming porn videos. These same guys bend ladies with reckless abandon on top bed.

You that will come here to condemn her but fornicate in your closets and her are all sinners, you would all end up in hell.
No sin is greater than the other

Now una remember African culture, is it African culture to be testing different chicks before marriage?

For those that will quote me with pain, and tell me not to marry or call me a feminist, don't waste your time ooo. I won't respond

They are still quoting me, very predictable emotional beings

I can see u r as deluded and blind as she is...just tell me one religion dt believes or preaches dt d man is NOT d head of the family?.......craze evrywhr

The rants of a frustrated single mother who failed in her bid to trap her boyfriend with pregnancy. The guy dodged the trap, now she is bitter. Let her teach her innocent daughter otherwise and the distortion of marriage and curse of perpetual single embittered motherhood is carried on to next generation.

when you have a stingy and irresponsible baby daddy or husband, it is extremely difficult to understand why men should be labeled as "head of the family"

Kondomatic:
My sister


How can you say that "feminism" is equality when the word itself perfectly explains the mission?

Lol because that's what it means just that people have changed the meaning of it. Lazy ladies who only shout equality when it favours them are also hiding behind the feminism word but they aren't feminists.

Magnificent nonsense! If you were any good, you wouldn't send your kid to school, rather, you'd teach him or her yourself since you're against our patriarchal way of life.

Aside christianity, Africa has always been a patriarchal society. So I wonder why that girl is having mind orgasms

exlinkleads:
Ladies have no chills this days. I mean, what is the fuss really about? Ladies go to church and believe the words in the bible and yet when you mention that man is the head of the family, they pick offence. What is happening in our world today?

Facebook user, Tina Michelle Obiora, seems not to be concurring to this norm in Nigeria that a man is the head of the family and has advised teachers, social studies teachers actually to desist from teaching students such ‘Nonsense’.

See her post below and people's reactions

‘Social studies teachers should stop teaching our kids that fathers are head of the home! I didn’t send my daughters to school for a teacher who is still stuck in stone age to teach them to accept patriarchy as a norm! We need to start suing schools! Nonsense!!! MUM AND DAD ARE THE HEAD! Milly’

http://www.exlinklodge.com/2017/04/nigerian-lady-blast-teachers-who-teach.html

Her daughter will soon be calling another woman the head of her contemporary nuclear family.

lovelygurl:
no johr

eh eh I nor go believ you oo,so how come you just understand people easily,?just so easy like that!!!