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GO Bleep YOURSELF!!!!!!!!


ITS VERY OBVIOUS YOU LACKED PARENTAL LOVE SO STOP ADVISING THE WORLD WHAT TO DO because YOU ARE ENVIOUS OF THOSE WHO HAVE ANND THAT YOU ARE A STINGY BASTARD WHO CARES ABOUT ONLY YOURSELF.

Apart from bringing you to the world, they sacrificed everything to make you who you are today. God punish any one who says I should not suffer to care for them

realestniggah:
bisi alimi need to be flogged

I don't care if he is homosexual as far as it doesn't effect my life in anyway..he can live his life as he please.


Well I have seen young people ruin their lifes in a bid to please their parents, so to an extent I understand where he is coming from. But I owe my parents everything so I'm going to spoil them silly. Not because they demand it from me but as a show of my gratitude and affection.they took care of me when I was a baby and showed me immense love.it only right i spoil them with the same love and care they gave me.heck they brought me to this world..who am I before them

Believe7:
bro so u mean ur parents will take care of u wen ur infant..pass u all through d processes of life..sent u to school, feed u till u get married..nd at their old age wen there capable..u wont take care dem?..believe me karma is a bitch..do unto others what u want others to do to u..


i must say u are foolish..

i didn't ask them to give birth to me, if you give birth to a child it's your responsibility to take care of them like i am taking care of my children, I don't owe my parents anything for taking care of me, I am not their pension scheme. what if I couldn't afford to look after them? this is why african youths are put in so much pressure to get rich quick, if your parents are pressuring you to take care of them they are bad parents, what about the parents who buy houses and provide millions for their children? why couldn't your parents do the same for you? because they were lazy and selfish they were depending on you to grow up and buy them everything while they sit and do nada.

African parents have children for labour that's why they have too many children, do you thinks it's right that children are been kidnapped, raped and killed accidentally because Their lazy parents sends out in the streets to hawk and sell goods for them while they sit at home and do nothing? children who are supposed to be in school, this children have no choice because they have been made to believe it's their responsibility to provide for their lazy and selfish parents.

you are the foolish one your lazy and selfish parents have managed to brainwash you into believing that it's your responsibility to look after them at their old age.

It is parents responsibility to care for their children until forever. I bet you are waiting for your children to grow up and bust their bottoms to look after you, you are lazy and selfish just like your own parents.

Again I repeat you have been brainwashed and black mailed emotionally by your selfish and lazy parents into believing that you owe them, and you are too dumb to realise that. ciao!

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bencarson007:
. You just typed trash and felt u made sense...Children are the ultimate retirement plan that's why you had them and invested ur time and energy on them... How about ur parents saying they are just obeying the forces of nature,have sex and give birth to u and dump ur sorry ass and say u should have had a survival plan where u were coming from... That it does not fall on them to care for u and they were just obeying natural sex urge...It is dimwits like u that have plenty to eat and abandon ur folks in the village to suffer... Seun come and see Gays and lesbians hiding on nairaland o abi na u permit them...

You're just like a bungalow, with nothing upstairs... As dumb as anything.
Its a pity though, as you're just a waste of space, a space occupying lesion, a useless mass of compressed flesh.
You need to go get a job, and try and sort out your future.
If you like, don't invest and plan for your old age. Its your type that goes about begging on the streets.
Let the curse upon your family stop on your head, break the cycle! Leave an inheritance for your own children!!!

all of you having emotional breakdown on this post should better go and have a retirement plan. with the way our country is going is it a person that graduates at the age of 25 after multiple strikes in the university, then waits for months for. call up letter then spends donkey years looking for Job that will be paying him/her 50k monthly. money that will finish after paying house rent, is it this person that will train younger siblings and still be parents retirement plan? not forgetting the pressure on him to get married and start his own family.

when you tell people to have fewer children and make plans for retirement it will be as if you hate them. anyway we hate the truth.

HIV encephalopathy must be worrying this stupid homosexual. he is always thinking through his HIV infested slack Anus.
taking care of your parents according to your means is a religious obligation. only an accursed good for nothing child will buy this stupid homo's view

eyinjuege:
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You're just like a bungalow, with nothing upstairs... As dumb as anything.
Its a pity though, as you're just a waste of space, a space occupying lesion, a useless mass of compressed flesh.
You need to go get a job, and try and sort out your future.
If you like, don't invest and plan for your old age. Its your type that goes about begging on the streets.
Let the curse upon your family stop on your head, break the cycle! Leave an inheritance for your own children!!!

Absolutely! just like his lazy and selfish parents who are waiting on him to care for them. I bet he is also waiting on his poor children to grow up quick and provide for him while he sits a do nada just like his parents and the circle continues.

this is why african youths are put in so much pressure to get rich quick, it's parents responsibility to look after and care for their children until forever.

he must be sick upstairs. he should only speak for himself. I don't need his foolish advice. pocket it. fool.

Then I heard someone say Children are the ultimate investment... lies, no wonder I see so many stressed up people carrying the whole world problems on their thin shoulders, no wonder we can't move forward, who thinks about inventions, who thinks about theorems and postulations when our whole world revolves around problems incurred on us by parents, sisters,brothers, aunties, cousins, nieces and nephews, no wonder we are fantastically corrupt, we need these monies to upset these bills....i wish we youths could break the cycle, have a good retirement plan, invest in your later life, give the best to your kids and allow them enjoy this life cause we never enjoyed ours.

proudafrogal:
all of you having emotional breakdown on this post should better go and have a retirement plan. with the way our country is going is it a person that graduates at the age of 25 after multiple strikes in the university, then waits for months for. call up letter then spends donkey years looking for Job that will be paying him/her 50k monthly. money that will finish after paying house rent, is it this person that will train younger siblings and still be parents retirement plan? not forgetting the pressure on him to get married and start his own family.

when you tell people to have fewer children and make plans for retirement it will be as if you hate them. anyway we hate the truth.

b.s

If someone else had said it,I might believe him
But coming from u its a no no.
I know for certain u are saying this because u have been disowned by your families,so u're trying to justify yourself and make people reason from ur angle.this is africa with rich culture and values.abeg park well joor

kingthreatz:
It is my responsibility to help anybody I love. I will continue to show love to my family, my parents and even people I do not know. LOVE IS MY RESPONSIBILITY. This is why christianity is the greatest belief in the world, because it preaches love unconditionally even to those who hate you. Have a nice day.

Making it your responsibility is a great thing but that does not make it in essence the responsibility of everyone. That you chose to make it your responsibility as a matter of fact does not imposed it on Bisi to make it his responsibility as well. That you chose to love others unconditionally does not automatically impose same responsibility on others neither does failing to treat it same as you do automatically make them evil or failing in their responsibility. Sentiment asides their is still a clear difference between what your responsibility really is and doing the right thing.

The issue of Christianity being the greatest belief in the world because it preaches love is a bit a moronic thing to say. How much do you know about Hindu religion? I was born and raise a Christian, Christianity is one of the religion that centers its message on hell and external damnation. Please do not let us go into how un-loving that is in the true definition of love as described in the Bible.

Suko110:
Oga gospel truth u Said ? Check urself pls, I beg I beg again , imagine ur parents re reading dis ur post and imagine ur future kids re too .

Parents are to lay up treasures for their children, not the other way round

bencarson007:
. @Woodcook, it is our responsibility and the right thing to do when the strength of those who nurtured u are gone... How about ur parents dumping ur butt and saying its not their responsibilty... That gay idiot just passed a devilish message across that we should abandon our parents cos its not our responsibility and here are some people trying to paint it in another light...call a spade a spade... The mofo just said... ABANDON UR PARENTS... Anyways I won't cos its unchristian and unafrican and its un-deltan and its anti-Urhobo and its anti-Warri and its Anti-Me... @Woodcook, tell that mofo I said he should bleep to hell

When you give birth to a child it is your responsibility to take care of them. That is a natural law you can not deny or even start to argue but the other way round it is not same.

I am not saying you should forsake your parents in their old age, I am trying to point out the philosophical and inherent difference of what responsibility means under this context.

I understand that we have no functional social system, hence, the need for parents to depend on their children when they are old but then you have to agree that if we as a people start having this conversation of what one's responsibility is and what not, that it might bring awareness and affect in a positive way how people go into the "business" of having several kids ( at the detriment of the kids) with the believe that these kids are their "pension scheme". In truth it is the responsibility of the society to provide a better social system that caters for the old without burdening the youths - but like I said I do understand the social problems in Nigeria and how these things have automatically becomes ones "responsibility". But the truth still remains - it is the right thing to do under the present situation and not your responsibility per se.

As for the "un-Africa" bull-crap.
it is funny are we go all out about what is un-African and when we look around with all our "pro-Africa, pro-delta, pro-Urhobo and pro-warri" ideas we are still one of the most dangerous countries to live in 2017.
With all our superior pro-Africa idea and believes our country still have life expectancy far below most countries in the world.
With all our pro-Urhobo superior culture our country is still a country where a child is more likely to die at birth that in most other places in the world.
With all our superior Warri ideas and ways of doing things our country is still one of the places where kids are left to die on the street because we think they are witch.
With our superior Delta believe and ideas our country is one of the places where parents give births to lots of children with no plan on how they are going to be raised.

Please wake me up when you have news on how the superior African, Urhobo, Delta or Warri believes and ideas have made the world a better place and has affect lives of people around the world in a positive way.

For fear of not going into "getting in the mud fight thing" are you saying that if you have kids you are only taking care of them because you want them to take care of you when you are old? If your answer to that is "yes" then the ideal of loving your children unconditionally no longer holds it becomes a "game", just a simple business investment - like I have heard many parents say shamelessly countless of time .

woodcook:
Making it your responsibility is a great thing but that does not make it in essence the responsibility of everyone. That you chose to make it your responsibility as a matter of fact does not imposed it on Bisi to make it his responsibility as well. That you chose to love others unconditionally does not automatically impose same responsibility on others neither does failing to treat it same as you do automatically make them evil or failing in their responsibility. Sentiment asides their is still a clear difference between what your responsibility really is and doing the right thing.

The issue of Christianity being the greatest belief in the world because it preaches love is a bit a moronic thing to stay. How much do you know about Hindu religion? I was born and raise a Christian, Christianity is one of the religion that centers its message on hell and external damnation. Please do not let us go into how un-loving that is in the true definition of love as described in the Bible.

A fool says in his heart there is no God. Being raised a Christian didnt make you a christian. It just taught you christian stories simple. Now before you argue with me about Christianity, dig deep in your bible then face me. Yeah I do know the basics of other religions: hindu, islam, LDS, buddhism and I know why my faith has billions of adherents.

Yeah we all have our choices to make as well as our responsibilities. Soon, we will have murderers on the streets, who feel its their responsibility to kill or prostitutes who already are here who feel its their responsibility to trade their body. They shouldn't be wrong right, its their life to live abi? Sorry but your free-thinking analogy is a load of crap. Yeah logically, it is

ehix89:
Then I heard someone say Children are the ultimate investment... lies, no wonder I see so many stressed up people carrying the whole world problems on their thin shoulders, no wonder we can't move forward, who thinks about inventions, who thinks about theorems and postulations when our whole world revolves around problems incurred on us by parents, sisters,brothers, aunties, cousins, nieces and nephews, no wonder we are fantastically corrupt, we need these monies to upset these bills....i wish we youths could break the cycle, have a good retirement plan, invest in your later life, give the best to your kids and allow them enjoy this life cause we never enjoyed ours.

don't mind these people. I know a lady whose husband is jobless and abusive. she has four kids already and is pregnant with the fifth. whenever she comes around to beg for food and funds from my mum she (my mum) would always advice her to slow down with the child bearing the lady would always reply that the children will comfort and take care of her when they grow. How will they be comfortable enough to help her when they are not even going to good schools and their education is constantly interrupted.? they are also malnourished.

This lady also has poor parents with multiple children so she could not get adequate education and skill to help her that is how she ended up with the stupid man no reasonable girl should want as a husband in the first place and the cycle continues.

kingthreatz:
A fool says in his heart there is no God. Being raised a Christian didnt make you a christian. It just taught you christian stories simple. Now before you argue with me about Christianity, dig deep in your bible then face me. Yeah I do know the basics of other religions: hindu, islam, LDS, buddhism and I know why my faith has billions of adherents.

Yeah we all have our choices to make as well as our responsibilities. Soon, we will have murderers on the streets, who feel its their responsibility to kill or prostitutes who already are here who feel its their responsibility to trade their body. They shouldn't be wrong right, its their life to live abi? Sorry but your free-thinking analogy is a load of crap. Yeah logically, it is

Since you do not know much about other believes it is a little moronic to say with certainty that "Christianity is the greatest.." it is a mistake in your argument which I tried to point out. But it seems you didn't get that.

You don't know me, how then can you conclude that I am not a true Christian? Another rookie mistake you don't just conclude without having enough information to back it up.

About "...having murderers on the street..." yes to every actions or inaction there are consequences and the act of not being or being a murderer has nothing to do with responsibility it simply boils down to how "shitty" that person is. And I am not going into that so as not to enable you in comparing apples with oranges.

proudafrogal:
don't mind these people. I know a lady whose husband is jobless and abusive. she has four kids already and is pregnant with the fifth. whenever she comes around to beg for food and funds from my mum she (my mum) would always advice her to slow down with the child bearing the lady would always reply that the children will comfort and take care of her when they grow. How will they be comfortable enough to help her when they are not even going to good schools and their education is constantly interrupted.? they are also malnourished.

This lady also has poor parents with multiple children so she could not get adequate education and skill to help her that is how she ended up with the stupid man no reasonable girl should want as a husband in the first place and the cycle continues.

My dear, I am glad we will still have young people like you that can see and reason beyond the short-comings of our social and cultural believes that has been passed down to us. Cultures and believes which till date has done more harm than good, cultures and believes that neither makes sense in the present reality nor contribute anything meaningful in the building of a better society for the future generation.

Odkosh:
So you understand ba?, if your brain is not paining you, do you want to tell me all parents attended school, what will you say about parents that fry akara, carry bricks, smash rocks or sell small things in order for them to raise their children? Why do some of you reason backward and think you are wise? I don't understand.

DF are you yapping??

FACT: I did NOT ASK TO BE BROUGHT INTO THE WORLD!! DAMIT!! They did of their own volition and so should shoulder the responsibility!!!

Pls if you have that mentality that because you 'suffered' for your children, they owe anything, you better repent!!

IS it wrong to support ones parents in old age?? Absolutely not! BUT IT IS NOT THE CHILDREN'S RESPONSIBILITY!!

Using myself as example, I love my mum more than anything in the world and regularly send money home to her. But the truth is, she doesn't really need it!! Why? my dad is late but before he died, PLANNED himself and my mum. ITs not as if he was stinkingly rich, but was able to put up a house whose rent is more than enough to care for my mum.

And that something your backward Africans have a very hard time appreciating, PLANNING!. Its just to bleep and bleep and bleep and then spurn unneeded children like rabbits only to look for who will help them shoulder their irresponsibility. Then we wonder why we're so poor and backward. yeye

woodcook:
Since you do not know much about other believes it is a little moronic to say with certainty that "Christianity is the greatest.." it is mistake in your argument which I tried to point out. But it seems you didn't get that.

You do not know, how then can you conclude that I am not a true Christian? Another rookie mistake you don't just conclude without having enough information to back it up.

About "...having murderers on the street..." yes to every actions or inaction there are consequences and the act of not being or being a murderer has nothing to do with responsibility it simply boils down to how "shitty" that person it. And I am not going into that so as to enable in comparing apples with oranges.

no need to stress your self. many people are going to have a rude shock when they hit sixty and retire.

proudafrogal:
no need to stress your self. many people are going to have a rude shock when they hit sixty and retire.

It stresses me out seriously not just on this issues only but on many other issues that affect our everyday lives as a nation. The sad reality is these same people are going to pass on same idiotic and retrogressive ideas to their wards that are supposed to live in and share same country with your future kids.

It sucks!

alezzy13:
DF are you yapping??

FACT: I did NOT ASK TO BE BROUGHT INTO THE WORLD!! DAMIT!! They did of their own volition and so should shoulder the responsibility!!!

Pls if you have that mentality that because you 'suffered' for your children, they owe anything, you better repent!!

IS it wrong to support ones parents in old age?? Absolutely not! BUT IT IS NOT THE CHILDREN'S RESPONSIBILITY!!

Using myself as example, I love my mum more than anything in the world and regularly send money home to her. But the truth is, she doesn't really need it!! Why? my dad is late but before he died, PLANNED himself and my mum. ITs not as if he was stinkingly rich, but was able to put up a house whose rent is more than enough to care for my mum.

And that something your backward Africans have a very hard time appreciating, PLANNING!. Its just to bleep and bleep and bleep and then spurn unneeded children like rabbits only to look for who will help them shoulder their irresponsibility. Then we wonder why we're so poor and backward. yeye

I am glad your father set a good example for you and I am also proud that you could still see the wisdom in your late father's action. It is sad how people still repeat their parents mistake generation after generation.

The moment u leave the book of God, and u start following ur heart, which is being control by satanic demons DNA u will say rubbish. where did you keep your brain, when your parent take care of you from infant till u grow up and set up your own family. The prophet Muhammed (SAW)says the greatness of a child lies under the foot of his/her parent. Am not surprise with bisi alimi comment is one of the sign of an "end time".

woodcook:
I am glad your father set a good example for you and I am also proud that you could still the wisdom in your late father's action. It is sad how people still repeat their parents mistake generation after generation.

Yes O! I'm definitely going to take after his footsteps.

@bolded, we can perhaps forgive the older generation because of ignorance. But how do you begin to explain youths of this day and age still clutching such arcane mentality? Some actually see children nothing more than source cheap labour. really sad.

alezzy13:
Yes O! I'm definitely going to take after his footsteps.

@bolded, we can perhaps forgive the older generation because of ignorance. But how do you begin to explain youths of this day and age still clutching such arcane mentality? Some actually see children nothing more than source cheap labour. really sad.

The only explanation I could up with is herd-mentality.

I kinda agree with him. Even with my 'good' pay, supporting your own family is tough. A lot of things taken for granted abroad like health insurance and subsidized education are paid from pocket in Nigeria.

I send money to my father every month and pray there is no emergency from his end cos it would hit me badly, as my spending is very structured on a monthly basis.

It's good wealth management to pIan for yourself into old age after having bred your kids, and if possible plan for your grand kids. Unless you are wealthy, If you go through life paying for two households, you would always struggle financially.

Start an education plan for your kids with all that money you use to buy beer and pay for frivolous things. If you start saving for their secondary school education now, it puts you under less strain when that time comes, and you can put them in good secondary schools. Likewise same for university. I work in wealth management and I know that a lot of people who send their kids to school abroad start planning at least a decade before. When these kids are in university, they use that period to plan their retirement.

You dont need to be rich before you start planning: if you put 30k away every month for 5 years (+ interest), it's a lot of money for an education trust - more importantly its money you can't fritter away on every emergency in your extended family or buy aso-ebi with. Put away an extra 20k monthly in a money market fund for you and your wife in old age, so you don't put a strain on your kids, and also have a plan for what you can venture into in old age. My father-in-law started a farm to cater for just himself and his wife, and is doing fantastically well living a high quality of life, instead of waiting for hand-outs from his children.

Parents who use their children as a pension plan would hate old age, and might even hinder their children financially.

gypsey:
Absolutely! just like his lazy and selfish parents who are waiting on him to care for them. I bet he is also waiting on his poor children to grow up quick and provide for him while he sits a do nada just like his parents and the circle continues.

this is why african youths are put in so much pressure to get rich quick, it's parents responsibility to look after and care for their children until forever.

I would advice any child to take care of his or her parent but on a serious note I don't support our tradition to be kicked into the gutter, Alot of parent invest in their children because of the reward and since this idea has made parent responsible in some ways, then it is not a bad idea .
But truth be told, a child should strive to empower his parent(You don't need millions to do that) and not spoon-feed them like the way the gullible part of most of our teach us to behave, empowerment makes people indepedent and gives everyone fresh air to breathe with.
As for me I plan to setup very strong business for my parent when they are Aged and not be giving them money

Bagehot:
I kinda agree with him. Even with my 'good' pay, supporting your own family is tough. A lot of things taken for granted abroad like health insurance and subsidized education are paid from pocket in Nigeria.

I send money to my father every month and pray there is no emergency from his end cos it would hit me badly, as my spending is very structured on a monthly basis.

It's good wealth management to pIan for yourself into old age after having bred your kids, and if possible plan for your grand kids. Unless you are wealthy, If you go through life paying for two households, you would always struggle financially.

Start an education plan for your kids with all that money you use to buy beer and pay for frivolous things. If you start saving for their secondary school education now, it puts you under less strain when that time comes, and you can put them in good secondary schools. Likewise same for university. I work in wealth management and I know that a lot of people who send their kids to school abroad start planning at least a decade before. When these kids are in university, they use that period to plan their retirement.

You dont need to be rich before you start planning: if you put 30k away every month for 5 years (+ interest), it's a lot of money for an education trust - more importantly its money you can't fritter away on every emergency in your extended family or buy aso-ebi with. Put away an extra 20k monthly in a money market fund for you and your wife in old age, so you don't put a strain on your kids, and also have a plan for what you can venture into in old age. My father-in-law started a farm to cater for just himself and his wife, and is doing fantastically well living a high quality of life, instead of waiting for hand-outs from his children.

Parents who use their children as a pension plan would hate old age, and might even hinder their children financially.

We children are supposed to empower our parent rather than trying to spoon-feed them everytime. I willl advise we set up an easy-to-operate business for them.

woodcook:
Since you do not know much about other believes it is a little moronic to say with certainty that "Christianity is the greatest.." it is mistake in your argument which I tried to point out. But it seems you didn't get that.

You do not know, how then can you conclude that I am not a true Christian? Another rookie mistake you don't just conclude without having enough information to back it up.

About "...having murderers on the street..." yes to every actions or inaction there are consequences and the act of not being or being a murderer has nothing to do with responsibility it simply boils down to how "shitty" that person it. And I am not going into that so as to enable in comparing apples with oranges.

Like I said, I know the basics. I read alot. So I'm not a novice to faith as you think I am. Perhaps you are

No true christian will not be in defense of christianity. Your posts have not defended the faith based on the life of Christ. If all christians were like you, christianity will still only be in present day Turkey till today

There is good and bad. Your sense of freewill opposes that. So in that case us express the good and bad in us so our freewill may be glorified.

kingthreatz:
Like I said, I know the basics. I read alot. So I'm not a novice to faith as you think I am. Perhaps you are

No true christian will not be in defense of christianity. Your posts have not defended the faith based on the life of Christ. If all christians were like you, christianity will still only be in present day Turkey till today

There is good and bad. Your sense of freewill opposes that. So in that case us express the good and bad in us so our freewill may be glorified.

Stop making this about religious belief. This is a social cultural issues that bothers on positive shift in thinking.

It is not about defending any religious belief.

If you read a lot like you claimed you would known that no one religion has it all. If you read a lot like you claimed you would have known what critical thinking and assessment of issues entails.

I made mention of Hinduism just to call you out on your bull crap and to point out the danger of generalization and bringing in religious sentiments into issues that do not required one.

AreaFada2:
We're now at crossroads between family responsibility/loyalty and desire to live one's own life peacefully, Western lifestyle. If high unemployment continues or get worse and young people can barely look after their own nuclear family, elderly dependent relatives will suffer greatly

Areafada has spoken!!!!

Fuckallmods:
Cristiano Ronaldo wishes he has a dad, cos now he has money but doesn't have a dad. You don't value what you have until you want to/lose them.
I WILL DO ANYTHING FOR MY MOTHER.let him know he'll be forgotten also by his children

He doesn't intend to have any child. He is a homosexual!