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One of our followers shared her story with us and granted us the permission to publish it.

The voluntary making of a single mother.

After dating a few men in my youth, I really came to value my independence and generally a hussle free life. I enjoyed doing what I want, when I want and with who I want without owing anyone an explanation.

I however also wanted a child to give me purpose and fulfillment.

Luckily I had the means to do exactly that and my only dilemma was a sperm donor.

Now I had a boyfriend who to me seemed to fit the bill. He had in my opinion the appropriate genetic make for my future offspring. He had a gorgeous body, was very handsome, and had brains to match.

He also had a lovely personality and would have liked to marry me. If I had to marry, I would have chosen him. However I knew I wouldn’t have been happy and would have visited misery on him had we married.

So after much thought I set about my plan.

So I went about acting on my plan. I took a few months just to be very sure. It was afterall the biggest decision of my life.

I stopped using contraception and got pregnant. I immediately informed the father and he thought that it was obvious that we would marry.

I set him straight and told him no such thing would happen. He was devastated. I offered to let him be a part of the child’s life and he jumped at the chance. He provides materially and also has a great relationship with his son who is now a grown up. I was well able to provide for him on my own but I let him participate. He is now married and has other children.

My son has the best of both worlds in my opinion. There are positive male role models in his life, my dad, brothers and his own father.

For me life has been great. I have had a few long term relationships without the burden of commitment and never compromising my relationship with my son.

I still do what I want when I want and I don’t apologize.

Ps. Open to all kinds of feedback.
https://newsflash247blog./2017/05/07/the-voluntary-making-of-a-single-mother/

We all want different things in life.
She has no regrets, as things seem to have worked out for her
So, good for her.

eyinjuege:
We all want different things in life.
She has no regrets, as things seem to have worked out for her
So, good for her.

Good

Different strokes for different folks. Diversity is at the basis of this world.