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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by mark0020(m): 12:14am On Jun 04, 2017

My own story not far from yours, i.will share it tomorrow after getting more courage to do it.mine is greater than yours
On my own part dont tell him,.it.will really destroy you ,in every area of.your life.as long as you have prayed and repented who is man to forgive when God has forgiven you, just move on with your life.

Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by dokJ: 12:14am On Jun 04, 2017

abeg222:
Madam,were you hypnotized all through the time the pastor was drilling you?He undressed you or you undressed yourself?either way it was an act done deliberately it's too late for us to advice you.Madam,for a woman,it is not easy to cheat.You consented it.

dis guy self! daz y we fail sometimes after thinking that we hv killed d examiners. she cheated on her hubby ....she was not raped

Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by BAILMONEY: 12:15am On Jun 04, 2017

istoctober:
l have asked a pastor and he said l shouldn't confess but am worried cos he told me on Sunday that his uncle who is a native doctor will know if l am cheating on him.

MGBADA GOAN CONFESS YA ABOMINABLE ACT TO YOUR HUSBAND JOOR angry

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by OnePunchMan: 12:15am On Jun 04, 2017*

All these "God has forgiven you... blah blah blah, don't tell your husband.. blah blah blah" I hope they all know the person you sinned against is your husband.. no matter what the rest of the world says, it's your husband, your other half, your life partner whose opinion counts. Don't tell your husband is more hypocrisy from bigger hypocrites.. you will spend the rest of your life living on the edge of "WHAT IF" because you and i and every hypocrite telling you not to tell him know that if he ever finds out (which is almost certain) YOU'RE FINISHED... not even God nor his mother prostrating flat on the floor will save you from his wrath.

3 years is a while, you deserve points for actually coming clean, he's human too.. the greatest gift in life is forgiveness, it will hurt but you will use your actions and love to heal him.. if he decides not to stay after all you do then HIS LOSS... at least then you are genuinely and utterly free.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Icon79(m): 12:15am On Jun 04, 2017

If you have really confessed and repented from that sin, then I don't see the need to confess to him considering what his reactions might be. Yes, I know all about restitution but sometimes you can do your restitution privately and keep it between you and your God. Tell yourself that when God forgives our sins, He forgets those sins. Don't let the enemy deceive you. Don't let the enemy (satan) keep you in bondage. If God has forgiven you then you're free. And whom the Son sets free, s/he is free indeed.

Cheer up and move on with your life. Your cheating ways belong in the past ... keep 'em there, where they belong. Who knows, he might have cheated on you as well. And by the way, forget his native doctor brother. If you're child of God, he would see nothing! Satan's power is limited to the people who belongs in his kingdom. Your husband is just scaring you. Call him bluff, but make sure that you've turned a new leaf ... absolutely no more cheating again, ever!

O pari

istoctober:
l lost my three months preggy cos of my depreesion in Jan, 2016. Ever since, l have not been myself. l keep seeing myself as not worth living.
Each time l look at him, l have this guilty conscience that l have disappointed God and my parents. I cry in my lonely hours and it has made me to stay calm even in my right at home, l felt that l deserve everything that is happening to me.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Nobody: 12:16am On Jun 04, 2017

istoctober:
l have asked a pastor and he said l shouldn't confess but am worried cos he told me on Sunday that his uncle who is a native doctor will know if l am cheating on him.

Devil wants to ruin your marriage madam. You have already confessed to God your creator, and he might have forgiving you before your confession to him. (With due respect to husband hood) Your husband is not God, and he might be cheating on you as we speak. Did he ever confessed to you? Just ask your husband to forgive you if you have done what he's not pleased with.

Finally, think of the futures of your kids. Don't let devils play with your mind/head forcing you to say what will crash your marriage.

If your expectations haven't archives don't blame/condemned yourself over your past mistake.

Don't be distracted in your marriage, let the past die forever. Don't talk or think about it. Its gone.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by GeneralOjukwu: 12:17am On Jun 04, 2017

LexngtonSteele:
Yes Mr Mayprince.... please forgive her. I am the offending pastor. My rod is 12 inches, just used it to part her seas.

Thanks for teaching her how to twerk. ..

PLEASE, forgive and forget!

Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by smoooty11: 12:18am On Jun 04, 2017*

Madam op are u a nigerian? If yes i have just one advice for you, just go to a pastor or catholic priest and confess your sin and let it end there . I know 2 real life scenarios like yours where their husbands dirvosed them after conffesion of their infidelity to their husbands these women are now walking around like psycopaths not talking to anybody or greeting anybody again.

A typical forgiving Nigerian husband will tell you he has forgiven your infidelity. But will remind you of this same infidelity if you dont make his food on time, at any slitest provocation, when he is not in a good mood, when you make him angry during an arguement .A wise nairalander once said and i quote

THERE ARE SOME SECRETS BEST TAKEN WITH YOU TO YOUR GRAVE.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by obataokenwa(m): 12:18am On Jun 04, 2017

istoctober:
l lost my three months preggy cos of my depreesion in Jan, 2016. Ever since, l have not been myself. l keep seeing myself as not worth living.
Each time l look at him, l have this guilty conscience that l have disappointed God and my parents. I cry in my lonely hours and it has made me to stay calm even in my right at home, l felt that l deserve everything that is happening to me.

from all my observations on your replies and story... the relationship resulted to a baby and that's the one killing you cos I'm not sure a sin of three years ago will hold you down this way. That child spirit is not in the right home and that's what's killing you. If the child is not his, you need divine intervention. and you have really told several people around you seeking for advice... you've compounded everything. Say the truth and we can handle it spiritually and maturely also... but for now you kept us in the dark. Sex of 2014 can't keep you so guilty like this Abeg. tell us, did it result to a baby?

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by banmee(m): 12:18am On Jun 04, 2017

istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.

Confess at your own peril. What you did was wrong and an unbelievably s.tupid thing to do, but the deed is done. You already feel bad and hopefully learnt your lesson. But know this; there are some things you can never share with your spouse. Especially when your spouse is an African man. Unless you have made up your mind that divorce is the end state you are looking forward to then by all means go ahead and confess.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by AntiWailer: 12:18am On Jun 04, 2017*

U better keep ur mouth shut.

U are very unstable emotionally and you will cheat again if you are not careful.

Your fear is that you will soon get caught and you want to confess before you are caught.

Calm down. Stop it and dnt confess anything.

You will destroy ur marriage with ur own hands . Not because of what you did but your stupeed unstable mind.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by BAILMONEY: 12:21am On Jun 04, 2017

Fummylola:
Do not tell him , i repeat do not tell him , once you make your confessions to God , oya tell that conscience make e go siddon somewhere, some things are better left unsaid , hence you will live a miserable life for the rest of your life . peace out

YOU MUST HAVE GRADUATED WITH 5.0 IN CHEATOLOGY

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Nobody: 12:21am On Jun 04, 2017

SAVAGEBETS:
okay biiiishhhhh sit your faukeeen asssss down and take notes, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas biiiiiaaaaaachhhh...In Mandela's voice... "Don't do it again". One last question, how many rounds did you go? Don't covfefe answer the question biiiiiiaaach.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Addy003(m): 12:21am On Jun 04, 2017

istoctober:
l have asked a pastor and he said l shouldn't confess but am worried cos he told me on Sunday that his uncle who is a native doctor will know if l am cheating on him.

Are you married to the pastor huh

The importance we place on pastors these days though, pray about it, confess to your husband, but let your prayer come first, only God can do d magic

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Nobody: 12:22am On Jun 04, 2017

Ishilove:
The same man will go to the altar and preach. No wonder we have so many powerless Christians now. It's because the spirit of God is no longer in many churches for they have been polluted from the altar

HMMM.. But you have beem defending Apostle Suleman and one other pastor upandan by fighting almost everybody on nairaland.com.... Na WA oo

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by shumuel(m): 12:22am On Jun 04, 2017*

istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.

Do you want me to tell you the truth ?

Well don't tell him, somethings are better left unsaid, and honestly that of you feeling God is angry with you is your biggest enemy, so i'll advise you don't listen to that devil, i am even surpised the Pastors you confessed to didn't pressure you to tell him nor did they do aproko, now that's God telling you he has forgiven you, and the only thing you need do is to forgive yourself and let it go, that's when things would turn out great for you, and not by his own forgiveness.

Anyways, your husband is also cheating on you and he didn't tell you, so why should you,, did i hear you ask how i know, well don't get me wrong but to everything we do there is always a reaction for every action taken and the law of karma is very real, what do i mean, all i am saying is; for you to have cheated on your husband, the law of Karma would had taken play, therefore leading him to also cheat on you one way or the other, so chear up, there are worse people than you out there,,, gone are the days we advise couples to come clean, today it's not as easy as at then, things are different now, so let that secret die with you, but if indeed you feel remorseful then never ever repeat such again.

Have a wonderful life ahead and please take good care of the kids and him as well, always that's your way of retribution. grin

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by joceey(m): 12:23am On Jun 04, 2017

If the cause of imperfection hit, it's our responsibility to confess to God learn from it and keep on moving 1john 1 verse 9 ..The first step to receive forgiveness is acknowledgement in which you have acknowledge your sin and God is everly faithful to forgive you and to purify you from all unrighteousness..what is happening to you right now is guilt, fear and self condemnation....and those are not attributes of the spirit of GOD...you have to fight and get over it....that's the will of GOD for you .....since you know the type of man you are married to you better don't try telling him so that you will not end up destroying your marriage and home please...May God Give you the Grace to understand and believe him more

Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by cashboss2017: 12:24am On Jun 04, 2017

are you an afonja woman huh

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by holubee21(m): 12:25am On Jun 04, 2017

My dear sister,this could happen to anybody...Truly God has forgiven u but you still need to restitute before your husband before heaven can be pleased with you..if u hadn't married,its another case but now u are married pray and ask for wisdom to put it down so u can av freedom of mind..

Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Nobody: 12:25am On Jun 04, 2017

istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.

Someone rightly said that "the truth is a beautiful and terrible thing, and should therefore be treated with great caution." Way your options madam, please apply wisdom before you do anything... You have such a healthy conscience, a rare quality in this generation. You will triumph.

Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by taiyeayodeji: 12:27am On Jun 04, 2017

Wisdom is profitable to direct. Yea its good that you have repented and regretted your action and also asked God for fogiveness.The bible made us to understand that if we confess our sins,he is faithful and just to forgive us all our sins and cleanse us from all our unrighteousness.Confessing to God is the first step, however you may need to confess to your hubby at the right time if need be.Dont be so stupid to rush in doing that,at a right time,it would come naturally and you can do it without it having any consequences on you or your marriage.God is greater than your Conscience,if God has forgiven you, your conscience has no right to condemn you.I believe you need to work on your mind, you see some people keep asking God for forgiveness of a sin that he has long forgiven them.However, you need to win back the confidence of your husband and you need to build back your trust.Your problem with depression is caused by you condemning yourself, you need to forget the past and move on , dont allow the devil condemn you.work on your conscience , tell yourself that God has forgiven you,fill yourself with God's word and tell the devil that you are prepared for the worst and the worst is for your husband to know and eject you.God has a solution ,even before you fell into your sins.Cheer up and take over your life.If God does not condemn you, nobody has a right to condemn you, we have all done one bad thing as humans, like the woman caught in the very act of adultery, Jesus said go and sin no more.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Maniashow: 12:28am On Jun 04, 2017

kaffy4tope:
Stop beating about the bush. Answer these questions or carry your fornicating life outta here.

That's too harsh

Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by kumulus(m): 12:29am On Jun 04, 2017

darlenese:
Dnt confess to him , try and forgive urself ,because God has forgive you . most men would cheat and won't evn confess or feel any remorse yet they still enjoy their marriage . ur life will become miserable if u confess.

Isn't it miserable already...

Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by obowunmi(m): 12:29am On Jun 04, 2017

Do NOT EVER tell him.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by abeg222(m): 12:30am On Jun 04, 2017

dokJ:
dis guy self! daz y we fail sometimes after thinking that we hv killed d examiners. she cheated on her hubby ....she was not raped

Did I mention that she was raped?

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Nobody: 12:33am On Jun 04, 2017

Jolar101:
Devil want to ruin your marriage madam. You have already confessed to God your creator, and he might have forgiving you before your confession to him. (With due respect to husband hood) Your husband is not God, and he might be cheating on you as we speak. Did he ever confessed to you? Just ask your husband to forgive you if you have done what he's not pleased with.

Finally, think of your kids futures. Don't let devils play with your mind/head forcing you to say what will crash your marriage.

If your expectations haven't archives don't blame/condemned yourself over your past mistake.

Don't be distracted in your marriage, let the past die forever. Don't talk or think about it. Its gone.

Oonii ever shamfani with this useless comment of yours. Didn't she think about the consequence of her adultery when her filthy vagina was being faka-fiki-faka by her driver or gateman?

The irunmoles know that if this slutty w.hore was my wife, there's no amount of confession, no amount of plea from Pastors & Bishops can conciliate me from kicking her out of my abode - disgracefully!

I wish I knew her husband, breaking this news to him - for quicker & accelerated disciplinary action against her, would have been my priority - Walahi!

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by BAILMONEY: 12:34am On Jun 04, 2017

OnePunchMan:
All these "God has forgiven you... blah blah blah, don't tell your husband.. blah blah blah" I hope they all know the person you sinned against is your husband.. no matter what the rest of the world says, it's your husband, your other half, your life partner whose opinion counts. Don't tell your husband is more hypocrisy from bigger hypocrites.. you will spend the rest of your life living on the edge of "WHAT IF" because you and i and every hypocrite telling you not to tell him know that if he ever finds out (which is almost certain) YOU'RE FINISHED... not even God nor his mother prostrating flat on the floor will save you from his wrath.

3 years is a while, you deserve points for actually coming clean, he's human too.. the greatest gift in life is forgiveness, it will hurt but you will use your actions and love to heal him.. if he decided not to even after all you do then HIS LOSS... at least then you are genuinely and utterly free.

JAH BLESS MY BROTHER

Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by kingsleymike: 12:35am On Jun 04, 2017

You not a good person. You have been chased into a dark zone and that's why you are here. You did this in 2014 and parked well since then. Now he threatens with the traditional Native doctors (and because you know we fear those ones more than we fear the bible) that's why you have come her to seek advice weda to apologise early enoff before you face the Native doctor. You are not being sincere at all. You have never been tormented by the act from my understanding. You just wanna win some sympathy here as u tell your story. I am sure if he didn't bring the native doctor into your marriage, you wouldn't have been here.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by obataokenwa(m): 12:35am On Jun 04, 2017

Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Mac2016(m): 12:36am On Jun 04, 2017

istoctober:
l have asked a pastor and he said l shouldn't confess but am worried cos he told me on Sunday that his uncle who is a native doctor will know if l am cheating on him.

I am afraid for u. You have wrong people around even the pastor that advised that u should not confess is a bad man. Your OP sef look so much of a secret again for your husband to say "a witch doctor can fathom if you're cheating" and he said that recently means your ways with him still is crooked.
You might av cheated many times as I am thinking.
Now to the solution... A sin can't be forgiven without confession to the person u sinned against since he's alive.. "he who covereth his sin would not prosper". Just accept your fate. But before that... Be straight with ur husband.. Be an outstandingly good wife to him and change ur ways.. Do this til he notices you and commended you... This might take years to rebuild his trust in you cos he doesn't trust u sef even as at now... After you've done this... Confess to him.. Then any action he takes u bear it... Go and sin no more

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Ultimategeneral: 12:37am On Jun 04, 2017

huh!!!! this one strong o. eleyin gidi gan o

Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Xkalaban(m): 12:39am On Jun 04, 2017

Don't sweat it Op. The deed has already been done. Confessing it now will only set ur family backwards. Just don't let urself fall prey to temptation ever again. God has already seen ur hrt and I believe he has forgiven you. No one person is perfect and I'd bet my balls that ur hubby might have done the same to u a couple times if u dig deep down. It isn't good to cheat, especially by married ppl. But I'd be a big liar if I tell u these things don't happen all the time these days. Most married ppl I know cheat too much like it's absolutely nothing. U can redeem urself now by loving ur husband from the bottom of ur hrt & by being a 100% faithful to him from now onwards. It is well, go and live ur life freely with ur hubby. Just Live..... wink

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