I just need the opinion of matured minds. Is the exclusive breastfeeding of a baby for 6months a sacrifice too tasking for a mother to give a child.

The only argument against it I get is " I will be too fat", " I will not be attractive anymore", but are these excuses enough to deny a child the huge advantages of exclusive breastfeeding.

I had to do some research and found out that not eating enough food hampers the production of breastmilk, now that will in turn make the baby to always be hungry, deliberately trying to force the introduction of Formula feeding.

Is there any disadvantages of exclusive breastfeeding??


I always thought a mother will be glad to do that.


I have heard some mundane reasons why women shy away from breastfeeding. I begin to wonder if these women are really matured enough to have babies. One of such reason is "it will make my breast sag"......then who are you keeping the erect breast for


Any one with a good advice on what and what to eat to increase breast milk?

Ike gwuru.

My wife fed my son breast milk for 6months 2 weeks before he starts eating cerelac and do.
You will think he used panasharp cos he is very sharp

Thank you, was there any disadvantage to exclusive breastfeeding the bady?

konfused:
I just need the opinion of matured mind. Is exclusive breastfeeding of a baby for 6months a sacrifice too tasking for a mother to give a child.

No, it's not.

konfused:


The only argument against I get is " I will be too fat", " I will not be attractive anymore

I had to do some research and found out that not eating enough food hampers the production of breastmilk, now that will in turn make the baby to always be hungry, deliberately trying to force the introduction of Formula feeding.

I have heard some mundane reasons why women shy away from breastfeeding that I begin to wonder if these women are really good enough to have babies, one of such reason is "it will make my breast sag"......then who re u keeping the erect breast for

on the contrary, ebf actually helps most women stay fit and shed pregnancy weight.
Breastfeeding does not sag breasts either.

konfused:


Is there any disadvantage of exclusive breastfeeding??

None that I know of or can think of.

konfused:


Any one with a good advice on what and what to eat to increase breast milk.

tea, pap, pepper soup with uziza, oats, vegetable soup with lots of spinach, carrots, fenugreek seeds etc

PS: while the pros of ebf cannot be quantified, some women for one reason or another cannot do it either because of health reasons or they just can't and don't produce enough milk. In such scenarios they have no choice but to use formulas. Breastfeeding or not does not make one a good mother, or not.

Breastfeeding is not a sacrifice but it is hard. It may be what's best for the baby but some women are incapable of it or do not produce enough milk. And they will have tried everything. It can turn a woman mad because people are putting pressure on her and judging her because of something she has no control over. Women have starved their children to death in desperation trying to EBF and refusing to give formula. Sit her down, pull up close to her and ask "what's really going on with this EBF, you know you can confide in me". Then open up websites about breastfeeding and both of you look at the info together. If it's just for purely cosmetic reasons, you have shown her she's wrong. If she had concrete fears (she may have been watching your child lose weight and listening to nosy people comparing your child to a plumper baby), you have allayed them and slain her dragons. Which is what every woman wants in a husband.

Or you can keep snapping at her. Whichever works best.

Has she tried pumping? Perhaps she has a phobia for actual skin to skin breastfeeding (you would be surprised that some women do)
Encourage her to try pumping her breastmilk into bottles and feed the baby that way.. this might be an alternative that works.. I would suggest the Medela Breast Pump either Manual or Electric.
This way, baby gets the necessary nutrients, mother is taken care of, everyone is happy!

Onegai:
Breastfeeding is a sacrifice and it is hard. It may be what's best for the baby but some women are incapable of it or do not produce enough milk. I was one. And no matter what I did, nothing worked to increase my supply to EBF (not until I stopped trying). It can turn a woman mad because people are putting pressure on her and judging her because of something she has no control over. Women have starved their children to death in desperation trying to EBF and refusing to give formula. Sit her down, pull up close to her and ask "what's really going on with this EBF, you know you can confide in me". Then open up websites about breastfeeding and both of you look at the info together. If it's just for purely cosmetic reasons, you have shown her she's wrong. If she had concrete fears (she may have been watching your child lose weight and listening to nosy people comparing your child to a plumper baby), you have allayed them and slain her dragons. Which is what every woman wants in a husband.

Or you can keep snapping at her. Whichever works best.

Hmmmm, thank you, the part of the baby loosing weight is getting me worried?

Am I being selfish on insisting EBF

I really don't like formula feeding, with all the chemicals, and presevatives.

I will try to get her to eat more of the foods mentioned to enhance more breast milk production. I really want her to do the EBF for 6months at least.

ifyalways:
No, it's not.
on the contrary, ebf actually helps most women stay fit and shed pregnancy weight.
Breastfeeding does not sag breasts either.
None that I know of or can think of.
tea, pap, pepper soup with uziza, oats, vegetable soup with lots of spinach, carrots, fenugreek seeds etc

PS: while the pros of ebf cannot be quantified, some women for one reason or another cannot do it either because of health reasons or they just can't and don't produce enough milk. In such scenarios they have no choice but to use formulas. Breastfeeding or not does not make one a good mother, or not.

Thank you so much. I will get her to eat more of those, what's fenugreek seeds

No it's not, bt wat I don't undstnd wit diz slay queens ladies is aside ur husband hu are u trying to impress with ur body?
Dat was hw d oda day I over heard 1 married woman tellin her frnds dat she can't allow her br...st to fall, den I ask myself, @d expense of ur child u claim to luv?

bravado90:
No it's not, bt wat I don't undstnd wit diz slay queens ladies is aside ur husband hu are u trying to impress with ur body?
Dat was hw d oda day I over heard 1 married woman tellin her frnds dat she can't allow her br...st to fall, den I ask myself, @d expense of ur child u claim to luv?

Imagine!!, that excuse irks me to no end. I have actually seen a mother deny her child breast milk cos of that reason. I was really flabbergasted.

Its nobody's business if she decides to b feed or not and a woman shouldn't have to justify herself.
Ebf has numerous advantages however in the long term most children turn out fit and healthy whether ebf or formula.

I didn't ebf,they are fit and healthy.It is a thing for people to judge women who for their own reasons choose not to b feed.
For the men it's irking,you can grow a pair and do it yourself.

Had to lay down the law for my PIL when they came to ask me questions as to why I wasn't doing it,I told them it's my choice,simple.Husband knew not to bother me.Not everyone is a b feeder abeg.As I said ,my body my reasons.

Doesn't make you a better parent.It is what it is.

Jahblessme:
Its nobody's business if she decides to b feed or not and a woman shouldn't have to justify herself.
Ebf has numerous advantages however in the long term most children turn out fit and healthy whether ebf or formula.

2 children and I didn't ebf,they are fit and healthy.It is a thing for people to judge women who for their own reasons choose not to b feed.
For the men it's irking,you can grow a pair and do it yourself.

Had to lay down the law for my PIL when they came to ask me questions as to why I wasn't doing it,I told them it's my choice,simple.Husband knew not to bother me.Not everyone is a b feeder abeg.As I said ,my body my reasons.

Doesn't make you a better parent.It is what it is.

Yea, I understand your point, its your body, I am not trying to judge or condemn, but apart from medical reasons, is there any reason at all a woman wouldn't want to breastfeed her baby. Thats the main purpose of the breast if I may say.

The numerous advantages of breastfeeding a baby outweighs any reason a woman might have not to breast feed unless on medical grounds. I tend towards thinking its a lil bit selfish of a woman to deny her child that.

The funny part is that the formula feeding is gotten from a cow's breast milk, so why not give the child the real deal.......

IMHO

bravado90:
No it's not, bt wat I don't undstnd wit diz slay queens ladies is aside ur husband hu are u trying to impress with ur body?
Dat was hw d oda day I over heard 1 married woman tellin her frnds dat she can't allow her br...st to fall, den I ask myself, @d expense of ur child u claim to luv?

Except you are breastfeeding a child......this is not for you guy.

konfused:


Yea, I understand your point, its your body, I am not trying to be judge or condemn, but apart from medical reasons, is there any reason at all a woman wouldn't want to breastfeed her baby. Thats the main purpose of the breast if I may say.

The numerous advantages of breastfeeding a baby outweighs any reason a woman might have not to breast feed unless on medical grounds. I tend towards thinking its a lil bit selfish of a woman to deny her child that.

The funny part is that the formula feeding is gotten from a cow's breast milk, so why not give the child the real deal.......

IMHO

Is she working?
Breastfeeding talk more of Exclusive breastfeeding is physically tasking especially if the lady in question is gainfully employed. Imagine having a full flegded human being depending on you for 6 months for an already made meal every second in a 24 hours.
Kudos to dem Mamas that are doing that Sh!t.
Another one is ........ she may not breastfeed your baby if she hates and resents you so much that her heart crushes when she even look at your offspring, this may be the only opportunity she has to pay back all your wrong doings as you can't force her to breast feed. These are often found in victims of domestic abuse. Their babies knows when their mama isn't happy to feed them so they back off from being breast fed.
The end goal is to bore holes in your pockets as you spend money buying baby foods. Tongue lashing her for not breast feeding will strengthen her resolve not to. She is a human being and no amount of cajoling will force her to do what she doesn't want to do.
Another thing is what does she wants as not all woman is cut out for all that breast feeding sh!ts.

Treat your woman well and you'll see her feeding that baby till 2 years.

SirVintageCock:
Is she working?
Breastfeeding talk more of Exclusive breastfeeding is physically tasking especially if the lady in question is gainfully employed. Imagine having a full flegded human being depending on you for 6 months for an already made meal every second in a 24 hours.
Kudos to dem Mamas that are doing that Sh!t.
Another one is ........ she may not breastfeed your baby if she hates and resents you so much that her heart crushes when she even look at your offspring, so it may be the only opportunity she has to pay back all your wrong doings as you can't force her to breast feed.
Emotional trauma especially from an abusive spouse. Babies knows when their mama is getting hostile so they back off from being breast fed. This ultimately will bore holes in your pockets as you spend money buying baby foods. Tongue lashing her for not breast feeding will strengthen her resolve not to.
This all boils down to what they the woman wants as not all woman is cut out for all that breastfeeding sh!ts.

Woow, this is very deep. So a woman can actually deny her new born the joy of being breast fed just because of all these reasons you mentioned.

uwa di egwu

No, she is not working, her reason is that the breast milk is not enough for the baby, while I encourage her to eat more to ensure the optimum production of breast milk. Her fears being she will get too fat if she continues to eat much. I don't like formula food for babies under 6 months

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it's her body Nd she has the sole right to make decisions about her body

if she doesnt want to breastfeed then look for other solutions

EBF is not bad,as long as the mother is feeding well to avoid malnutrition

konfused:



Woow, this is very deep. So a woman can actually deny her new born the joy of being breast fed just because of all these reasons you mentioned.

uwa di egwu

No, she is not working, her reason is that the breast milk is not enough for the baby, while I encourage her to eat more to ensure the optimum production of breast milk. Her fears being she will get too fat if she continues to eat much. I don't like formula food for babies under 6 months

Deny her newborn of what? Did you think she understands and knows what she is "denying" her NEWBORN? How many times did she go for an antenatal lectures to understand what exclusive breastfeeding is?
Was she mentally and physically prepared for exclusive breast feeding before giving birth or do you think that it comes spontaneously?
Do you know the several factors that affect exclusive breastfeeding? From what you wrote, all the factors are in play here. You and your wife lacks the emotional and physical preparedness needed to support exclusive breastfeeding, the understanding of what it is and the advantages.
Both of you had to go back and source for materials to tutor yourself on EBF. The success of EBF stems from knowledge, emotional preparedness , what the woman wants and the support system she has. If any of them is lacking there is bound to be issues such as the one you are experiencing right now..

konfused:


Yea, I understand your point, its your body, I am not trying to be judge or condemn, but apart from medical reasons, is there any reason at all a woman wouldn't want to breastfeed her baby. Thats the main purpose of the breast if I may say.

The numerous advantages of breastfeeding a baby outweighs any reason a woman might have not to breast feed unless on medical grounds. I tend towards thinking its a lil bit selfish of a woman to deny her child that.

The funny part is that the formula feeding is gotten from a cow's breast milk, so why not give the child the real deal.......

IMHO

Where is the evidence of long term outcome for children.
It isn't your place to decide what is selfish or not,neither is it your place to decide the only reason should be health grounds.

My humble opinion sir and I'm not a slay queen just a normal lady who couldn't do it

konfused:




Hmmmm, thank you, the part of the baby loosing weight is getting me worried?

Am I being selfish on insisting EBF

I really don't like formula feeding, with all the chemicals, and presevatives.

I will try to get her to eat more of the foods mentioned to enhance more breast milk production. I really want her to do the EBF for 6months at least.

You have to look at critically from all angles before you insist on EBF
A lot of babies are malnourished due to lack of adequate nutrients , their parents insisted on Exclusive even though it was apparent that enough milk wasnt produced.
Just like some people sweat a lot and some people dont, some women have high milk production while others dont
If your wife wants to introduce formula, allow her please. Dont make her depressed at this period, it wont even help the milk production
She can do mixed feeding, maybe give him formula twice in the day, and breastmilk at other times. Babies eat almost 8 times a day. He will still have enough breast milk.
My son has been on formula since birth, he has never purged, or had issues with his health. Even when he was teething, he didnt get sick.
Formula is not evil please, your wife has a say in this as well because its her body and her boobs. Its not easy to whip out your boobs wherever you are.
What your wife needs as a new mother is your constant support, I am sure she loves the baby as much as you do and wont want to put her/him in harms way
Besides I am almost sure your mum didnt do exclusive for you but you turned out fine, didnt you?

What caught my eye is d "sharpness" part. Does it mean that babies who lost their mums and hence were not breastfed will not turn out sharp.

EBF is good if it can be done. However, I don't see anything wrong in using cerelac and d likes too.

You do not need to give cerelac.
There are formulas available which are excellently fortified.
There are angles to look at it from,some women hate the breastfeeding nip ple to mouth thing,is it easy to open shirt 24/7 no matter where you are?

Some may decide to use a pump for as long as possible and then alternate with formula.

Some have to go to formula straight.

Even in the UK,the bfeeding gang almost hound you to death and would be disapproving if you aren't feeding from b rest straight.

My kids ,all premmies are doing fantastic.Enough of the demonizing.

When the evidence that without b feeding a child will die then I will take these stuff seriously.

konfused:


Yea, I understand your point, its your body, I am not trying to be judge or condemn, but apart from medical reasons, is there any reason at all a woman wouldn't want to breastfeed her baby. Thats the main purpose of the breast if I may say.

The numerous advantages of breastfeeding a baby outweighs any reason a woman might have not to breast feed unless on medical grounds. I tend towards thinking its a lil bit selfish of a woman to deny her child that.

The funny part is that the formula feeding is gotten from a cow's breast milk, so why not give the child the real deal.......

IMHO

One quick question Op...

If your wife had her boobs cut off prior to the pregnancy or God forbid,she had died during labour, how will you feed your child,since you are so insistent on this breast milk and totally against baby formula?

Please I am not cursing or wishing your wife death or sickness. I am only asking you to imagine a scenario where your wife isn't available or able to breastfeed at all.

Life isn't set in stone. There are always more than one way to handle issues.

Comments I see here made me fully believe the world is old and very sick chaiii

konfused:




Hmmmm, thank you, the part of the baby loosing weight is getting me worried?

Am I being selfish on insisting EBF

I really don't like formula feeding, with all the chemicals, and presevatives.

I will try to get her to eat more of the foods mentioned to enhance more breast milk production. I really want her to do the EBF for 6months at least.

Exclusive breast feeding is good but please an open mind. I was at the hospital last week. A woman gave birth through CS. She was too weak to even sit up to try and breastfeed. The nurses had no choice but to get formula because the baby needed to eat.

EBF is advisable but in cases where it doesn't work out, the baby will still be fine chemical or not. Other babies have survived especially those that lost their mums at birth.

My nephew wasn't given exclusive and he is still sharp...always first in class.

Nothing is cast and stone. If you do EBF or not, the babies will still turn out well.

@ op, the truth is it's not everyone that can do exclusive BF for various reasons.

Like many posters have already alluded to the fact that milk flow differs and low flow may not be able to sustain babies except you want a cranky, hungry and starved baby on your hand. I for one assumed that I will do exclusive atleast during my 3 months maternity leave. So while going for my first delivery I didnt bother to take infant formula with me. Unfortunately, there was no flow at all for the first 2 days. I was advised to keep my baby on the breast that milk will flow. It later did but the flow was very low. On the 3rd day my by has reduced from 3.6kg to 2.5kg all because I wanted to do exclusive. I had to resort to infant formula to augment it. Afterwards, I started taking lots of fluids ranging from pap, tea, kunu, millet mixed with moringa leaf, mention it, I tried all. Need I mention how I wasted money buying breast pumps both manual and electronic with the hope that it will help increase flow. Even with all my efforts and strategies I would nurse my baby at regular intervals for over one hour and immediately I remove her from breast she will start crying. Nobody told me before I accepted my fate that exclusive BF is not for me.

Just like the op, my hubby initially felt I was not trying hard enough. He too was insisting on EBF and was reading all manner of articles on it. He made sure a big bowl of pap/millet was made available every 2 hours. I drank all and increased my food intake but for where. He understood the situation when he realized baby would not sleep at night even after hours of nursing until I give infant milk. With my second baby, I didnt bother my head going through all the stress I went through in the name of exclusive BF.

Op, to allay your fears, babies fed with infant formula are also very healthy, intelligent and smart. I am a living witness to that. My kids only visit hospitals for immunization and routine check up and they are doing fantastically well. On a lighter note, if you are looking for pictures of babies for modelling,please contact me and I will gladly oblige you.

Cheers.

SirVintageCock:
Deny her newborn of what? Did you think she understands and knows what she is "denying" her NEWBORN? How many times did she go for an antenatal lectures to understand what exclusive breastfeeding is?
Was she mentally and physically prepared for exclusive breast feeding before giving birth or do you think that it comes spontaneously?
Do you know the several factors that affect exclusive breastfeeding? From what you wrote, all the factors are in play here. You and your wife lacks the emotional and physical preparedness needed to support exclusive breastfeeding, the understanding of what it is and the advantages.
Both of you had to go back and source for materials to tutor yourself on EBF. The success of EBF stems from knowledge, emotional preparedness , what the woman wants and the support system she has. If any of them is lacking there is bound to be issues such as the one you are experiencing right now..

Thanks, this is the first issue, so we re adapting

Chaulay1:
@ op, the truth is it's not everyone that can do exclusive BF for various reasons.

Like many posters have already alluded to the fact that milk flow differs and low flow may not be able to sustain babies except you want a cranky, hungry and starved baby on your hand. I for one assumed that I will do exclusive atleast during my 3 months maternity leave. So while going for my first delivery I didnt bother to take infant formula with me. Unfortunately, there was no flow at all for the first 2 days. I was advised to keep my baby on the breast that milk will flow. It later did but the flow was very low. On the 3rd day my by has reduced from 3.6kg to 2.5kg all because I wanted to do exclusive. I had to resort to infant formula to augment it. Afterwards, I started taking lots of fluids ranging from pap, tea, kunu, millet mixed with moringa leaf, mention it, I tried all. Need I mention how I wasted money buying breast pumps both manual and electronic with the hope that it will help increase flow. Even with all my efforts and strategies I would nurse my baby at regular intervals for over one hour and immediately I remove her from breast she will start crying. Nobody told me before I accepted my fate that exclusive BF is not for me.

Just like the op, my hubby initially felt I was not trying hard enough. He too was insisting on EBF and was reading all manner of articles on it. He made sure a big bowl of pap/millet was made available every 2 hours. I drank all and increased my food intake but for where. He understood the situation when he realized baby would not sleep at night even after hours of nursing until I give infant milk. With my second baby, I didnt bother my head going through all the stress I went through in the name of exclusive BF.

Op, to allay your fears, babies fed with infant formula are also very healthy, intelligent and smart. I am a living witness to that. My kids only visit hospitals for immunization and routine check up and they are doing fantastically well. On a lighter note, if you are looking for pictures of babies for modelling,please contact me and I will gladly oblige you.

Cheers.

Thanks, I really appreciate, she has done it for 3 months, am just encouraging her to finish it up for 6 months. I bought enough provisions and other things mentioned here to help her out. From the onset before the birth, we agreed on EBF, but what brought about this issue is that she feels the baby boy is not being fed well and she wants to start giving him SMA , but I just cant wrap my mind around formula feeding with all the preservatives added to it. NATURAL IS NATURAL.

My mom is also insisting on formula feeding saying boys eat a lot. Now they want me to start having a morality attack, as if am not being considerate. Well, I think I have to come to a compromise, but I swear, if i were to be a woman, I will do everything humanly possible to do EBF. Well its all good, different strokes for different folks.

Evaberry:
it's her body
Nd she has the sole right to make decisions about her body


if she doesnt want to breastfeed then look for other solutions

I always thought the love of a mother for a child has no equal, I am beginning to have second thoughts eziokwu, the way some ladies are going about this issue of EBT as if its a big deal marvels me.

Biko is the breast for decoration?

konfused:


Thanks, I really appreciate, she has done it for 3 months, am just encouraging her to finish it up for 6 months. I bought enough provisions and other things mentioned here to help her out. From the onset before the birth, we agreed on EBF, but what brought about this issue is that she feels the baby boy is not being fed well and she wants to start giving him SMA , but I just cant wrap my mind around formula feeding with all the preservatives added to it. NATURAL IS NATURAL.

My mom is also insisting on formula feeding saying boys eat a lot. Now they want me to start having a morality attack, as if am not being considerate. Well, I think I have to come to a compromise, but I swear, if i were to be a woman, I will do everything humanly possible to do EBF. Well its all good, different strokes fro different folks.

So you are probably starving your child because you want breast milk even if it is to the detriment of the baby.

Two women who know the baby more than you already have told you the baby is not sated by breast milk yet you insist.

But you want to force your wife to go on because you think you know best

Na you love your child pass,very funny.

Chaulay1:
@ op, the truth is it's not everyone that can do exclusive BF for various reasons.

Like many posters have already alluded to the fact that milk flow differs and low flow may not be able to sustain babies except you want a cranky, hungry and starved baby on your hand. I for one assumed that I will do exclusive atleast during my 3 months maternity leave. So while going for my first delivery I didnt bother to take infant formula with me. Unfortunately, there was no flow at all for the first 2 days. I was advised to keep my baby on the breast that milk will flow. It later did but the flow was very low. On the 3rd day my by has reduced from 3.6kg to 2.5kg all because I wanted to do exclusive. I had to resort to infant formula to augment it. Afterwards, I started taking lots of fluids ranging from pap, tea, kunu, millet mixed with moringa leaf, mention it, I tried all. Need I mention how I wasted money buying breast pumps both manual and electronic with the hope that it will help increase flow. Even with all my efforts and strategies I would nurse my baby at regular intervals for over one hour and immediately I remove her from breast she will start crying. Nobody told me before I accepted my fate that exclusive BF is not for me.

Just like the op, my hubby initially felt I was not trying hard enough. He too was insisting on EBF and was reading all manner of articles on it. He made sure a big bowl of pap/millet was made available every 2 hours. I drank all and increased my food intake but for where. He understood the situation when he realized baby would not sleep at night even after hours of nursing until I give infant milk. With my second baby, I didnt bother my head going through all the stress I went through in the name of exclusive BF.

Op, to allay your fears, babies fed with infant formula are also very healthy, intelligent and smart. I am a living witness to that. My kids only visit hospitals for immunization and routine check up and they are doing fantastically well. On a lighter note, if you are looking for pictures of babies for modelling,please contact me and I will gladly oblige you.

Cheers.

Thank you for this ma'am .My little one is 3weeks plus and I planned doing Ebf but the way he sucks every 30 minutes, my husband woke up one day and said I was looking weak and tiny (plus sleepless nights) ,he bought baby formula by himself and brought it home.


EBF depends on how much milk the breast can produce and how much the baby consumes. It doesn't make one a good or bad mother except the mother is doing it 'not to make the breast sag' .

EBF or not, a healthy child will be healthy! The mother needs to be healthy too.