Mkelv0106:
If your gut feeling is telling you there's something wrong, then ur suspicion might probably be true. Question, while you guys were dating b4 marriage, was she always receiving calls like this, was she having a lot of toaster or male friends that was always calling that you knew of b4 marriage. If yes, you have nothing to worry about, if no, it started in ur marriage, then bro, do undercover investigation and follow ur guts b4 your train another man children.

Righteousness2:
Just 8 months and you are already suspecting?
Didn't you know the woman you married?
Or has what you read on nairaland taken over your thoughts.

Stop suspecting your wife. If you have reasons to do so, then Boldly thrash it out with her as a family.

Don't let "red pillers " pollute your mind. Or create a war when there is non.

Most Important! As the head of the home, bring your home Genuiely to JESUS and ensure HE reigns in your home. Because it is only in Christ that there can be true peace.

Solacemk:


Yeah she do. I caught her several times making calls in the middle of the night before we were Married, she always says she's sorry she won't do it again. But why won't i worry? Thank you

Persephone1:
Your wife may not be cheating yet but she's certainly getting attracted to another person. Attraction when not curtailed leads to distraction then to the actual act "cheating" . However your marriage is to young for accusations and infidelity fights, I'd advise you call your wife, seat her down and TALK to her. Make your observations known, beware of any scene she might want to create be firm in your resolve to know what is happening and let her know the dangers that her acts may cause.

Sometimes these women needs to be reminded they are married before they get their realities right.

Mkelv0106:

Like I said bro, follow ur gut feeling, its usually right. Your wife receiving calls from male friends and saving their numbers with female names to deceive you, that's a red flag you shouldn't ignore bro. A married woman that respect her husband, will cut off males friends and even females after marriage. You have to handle it now, b4 it gets outta hand. Use ur head, and not ur heart in this situation. All the best

Mkelv0106:

Like I said bro, follow ur gut feeling, its usually right. Your wife receiving calls from male friends and saving their numbers with female names to deceive you, that's a red flag you shouldn't ignore bro. A married woman that respect her husband, will cut off males friends and even females after marriage. You have to handle it now, b4 it gets outta hand. Use ur head, and not ur heart in this situation. All the best

Solacemk:



Thank you for your advice. Is it advisable to go through her Whatsapp and get more proof? I'm afraid to see something that'll break my heart.

Persephone1:
I wouldn't if I were to be in your shoes, that's invasion and she can hold it against you. Talk to her,gain her trust then you can make her realize how much harm she is doing to her young marriage.

Solacemk:


Thanks Man. God Bless

Solacemk:



Thank you for your advice. Is it advisable to go through her Whatsapp and get more proof? I'm afraid to see something that'll break my heart.

Solacemk:
Hi Nairalanders. I need your help.

Please help a brother. Please jokers should keep off. Thank you all.

Slynation:
Well I guess it's a case of..." A pot where guys are going to lick soup, you went and carry the whole pot...!!

A marriage of 8months, just wait until your kids looks exactly like your neighbor

Make person no quote me abeg, I just wanna catch cruise

Persephone1:
@Solacemk When I advised against checking through her WhatsApp it was because I knew that would only complicate matters for you. There is an adage that says: "whatever you don't see does not irritate you". You had your suspicions that is enough reason to talk to your wife, digging further will only make matters that can be resolved amicably look grievous and unforgivable. There is something men of nowadays don't learn before getting married, it is maturity.

So what do you do now? Will you ever see your wife the same? Can you forgive her and not have yourself checking through her phone every passing seconds , do you have another opportunity of "catching" her next time since you have impatiently let out your source. Do you start inviting families to settle issues in your 8 month marriage? You want to sue the guy? Are you for real?

Solacemk:
Thanks for all your advice, I finally did what someone here advice me not to, I'm sorry Bro i have no any other option.

I checked her Whatsapp chat and to my surprise i saw her chat with the guy with all the photos she sent him, he even asked her to send him her pic naked which she said ok but didn't send according to the chat history, i don't know if she send and delete the chat.

After getting all the facts i called her inside and i asked her who is so so person? She's kinda surprised. Then i told her everything that i saw in her Whatsapp chat. She started crying, kneeling down and begging me to forgive her that it's the work of the devil.

I'm really confused now. I left the house i didn't say anything.

Please is there any chance of me winning a case in the court if i sue the guy? And what's your suggestions regarding the cheater wife? Please i need quick reply. I'm totally out of control. Thank you all

Abi is my eyes paining me? What business do you have with the guy in the first place to drag him to court?
Mr man, the person you have a case with is your wife. If your wife can't respect the vows she took to stay faithful to you is it the said strange guy that would respect you and your marriage?
She is the cheat so take whatever decision you wish to take but spare the guy after all he didn't force your wife to open her legs or to cheat on you the decision to cheat with another man is solely on her.
I'm sure you saw all these red flags during courtship but turned a blind eye hoping she would change in the confinement of marriage, 8months is too soon to start losing interest in each other to the extent of cheating.
Have a heart to heart talk with her and find ways to fix your marriage( that's if you still desire to stay married to her).

Michelle55:

Abi is my eyes paining me? What business do you have with the guy in the first place to drag him to court?
Mr man, the person you have a case with is your wife. If your wife can't respect the vows she took to stay faithful to you is it the said strange guy that would respect you and your marriage?
She is the cheat so take whatever decision you wish to take but spare the guy after all he didn't force your wife to open her legs or to cheat on you the decision to cheat with another man is solely on her.
I'm sure you saw all these red flags during courtship but turned a blind eye hoping she would change in the confinement of marriage, 8months is too soon to start losing interest in each other to the extent of cheating.
Have a heart to heart talk with her and find ways to fix your marriage( that's if you still desire to stay married to her).

Solacemk:


I don't have enough proof to confront her and I'm certain without Enough proof she'll deny everything like she used to.

Bro i don't know what to do, i can't even go back to the house. I'm thinking of calling a lawyer but I'm afraid people will know about it.