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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Fumiex(f): 10:48pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
when i tell people i wont get married they are always surprise. 70% of marriages in nigeria are nonsense. cant go through wat my mun went through. if i were ur mum i wud hv divorced yr dad long time ago. cant b suffering in a marriage o |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by BiafraAmaka(m): 10:50pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
taylor88: So what the hell do you think you are,A hero or? |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by odimbannamdi(m): 10:51pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
YOUNGSTUNNA: one of the worst advise i have read here so far. you mean, he should turn a blind eye and muffle his ears as his father pummels his mother? Bros, why? 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by edicied: 10:52pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Why do African men like to beat their wifes?? 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Nobody: 10:56pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Prosper24:I believed your mom's innocence until you said this. Guy you mom might not even be cheating. But your dad is probably pissed at the way she's carrying man of god issue on her head. Women can be annoying when it comes to their daddy. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Nobody: 10:56pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Prosper24: You're obviously an intelligent person; but I doubt if you have much wisdom. You have too much bad blood for your father and it is affecting the way you think, handle things -- after I read your piece, I was like: may I never have a son like you. You ran to take your mothers side without thinking. I pity you. Send the message. Fool 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Nobody: 10:58pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
odimbannamdi:worse advice? oh, I should advice him to beat his dad up or take the issue to the village elders right? goddammit they're both adults, if the marriage ain't working.. separate or get a divorce... same way you wouldn't want your parents to interfere in your marriage, same way you shouldn't interfere in theirs... 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by seguno2: 10:58pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
taylor88: You are lucky you don't have a mean dad. He could have dealt with you for your shenanigans. You don't fcvk around with a man's love interest. You don't know what he might do next. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by okwuprecious: 10:58pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Peace of mind is very important in life . Dont do it if its going to rob you of your peace of mind. If you are a christian pray about it, it might be spiritual. I pray that your home will have peace. Broken home is not something i can even pray for my enemy. |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by whitering: 10:59pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
I pray for peace in your heart, your moms's heart, & full conversion for your father. above all peace in your entire family. I empathized with you. pls thread carefully, he is still your father. Avoid any occasion that will make him place a curse on you. Always console your mum to be strong for her children & to face her God. Shalom. |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Champele(m): 11:01pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Kill the mudafucker you call dad and save your self and the rest family all this stress. just a bread |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Champele(m): 11:02pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Kill the mudafucker you call dad and save your self and the rest family all this stress. just a bread. they will say bad advice but I hate such men |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by edicied: 11:03pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
blueseacats:Guy you are on point there is no way the mum is completely innocent 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Nobody: 11:04pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
send a thank you letter to him first, telling him things that would make him happy. Then after that, if he doesn't change, then fire him with that letter. Some elders are really devilish and wicked. Don't report everything to some set of persons. But do you Pray at all? Don't insult him via the letter but talk something that would hit his mind. If you stay in the same house, then don't try it |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by odimbannamdi(m): 11:04pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
OP, after reading your story, i practically thanked God for the unity in my family. Dont get me wrong. My family aint perfect. it's just sheer providence From all what u have written, i wont advise you send him that letter. it will only aggravate things. Your dad obviously dont care anymore about his family, so sending him that letter would be like pouring water on a rock hoping it would become turn fertile. He is still independent in a way, so sending him that letter will increase his nonchalance, afterall, "his son has forsaken him" Rather, tell your mum to avoid open confrontations with him despite unarguable evidences. She should just do her own things and avoid their paths crossing. The aim is to prevent any provocation that could make him beat her again. But if he still beats her without any provocation, then she should consider moving out of the house. Brother, domestic violence that could lead to death is real! A man on my street beat his wife severely and she died in the hospital. After the whole police dragging, the man is back home now, free! Each time i pass his shop and see him, i weep for his wife and little children. To think that the beating was recurrent and now justice want dispensed is heart-breaking. So, bro, dont take chances. Secure your mother's life. Thats most important now. I wish u goodluck 6 Likes |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by edicied: 11:05pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Donjazzy12:What should he do send a letter thanking his dad for using his mum as a punching bag? 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Nobody: 11:06pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Raiyell: Oga, if you don't have something positive to say, stay away na and stop behaving like a bigger fool 9 Likes |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by odimbannamdi(m): 11:08pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
YOUNGSTUNNA: See how you twist people's words. Didnt you see where he emphasized on his father severally and severely beating his mum. He should ignore that? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by edicied: 11:11pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
MadCow1:Oh its ok for the Dad to disown the children but not ok if the child do he xame 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by MrHighSea: 11:14pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Prosper24:the day a married woman (familt member) i trust damn much told me the man i place highly (our pastor) don toast (approach) her, We gave up on dt church (top 3 churches in 9ja). |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by humblenature: 11:15pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Prosper24:NOW LISTEN. i am going to advise you like one who has seen it all. do not.. i repeat do not ever have issues with ur dad. u can disown your mom but never you ever try shii with ur dad. you belong to ur dad. your mom may be good to u but she is of no use to u and she knows it. i advise u. your dad may not be d best dad but do not joke with him. besides, hoe does his relationship affect u? bros u b man o. no forget say one day u go double date. all men we are all thesame o. leave matter for mattiais. your mom is not innocent. leave them to settke dat thing. your love for ur mom is beclouding ur judgement. reply me first before i continue bros |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by edicied: 11:16pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Raiyell:Of course, he should have good blood for his dad and love him very much after watching his Dad use his mum as a punching bag and letting the poor woman suffer 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Nobody: 11:16pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Donjazzy12: You are as useless as your comment. Your type would show high level of irresponsibility to their children yet crave respect. Will you keep quiet? ? 10 Likes |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Nobody: 11:17pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
odimbannamdi:Hell no! he should beat him up too. Even if the dad keeps beating the Mon till next year, he wouldn't dare touch his Dad... I'm not married bro... but the mom is in the best position to take the issue to anywhere, not the kids. if she loves her life let her move out, till her assh*le husband gets back to his senses... . I've been through same sh*t before... 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Guyman02: 11:19pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Have you ever thought of asking your father the things he would want your mum to start doing that will make him happy and if he will forgive your mum for any perceived wrong she might have done to him in the past. Don't take sides with your mum as it will only anger your father. The source of crisis could be a wrong done by your mum which you may not be aware of and which may have infuriated and humiliated him to the point that he finds succour with other women. For you to put all the blames on your father shows your bias probably because she pays most of your bills as you stated. Tell your mom to be ready to make some serious sacrifices as may be prescribed by your father for a new beginning, it could be financial issues, emotional, psychological or spiritual or she continues to maintain her stand with no solution. You said she is a born again Christian but there are several cases whereby some women would obey their pastors and disobey their husbands, would spend more time praying or in church activities than attending to the emotional needs of their husbands and this breeds suspicion even when she is innocent. You are too young to carry this matter on your head. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by whitering: 11:21pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Donjazzy12: you talk this way because you are not in the same situation. |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Donjazzy12(m): 11:21pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
edicied:Very simple. Never ever take sides in issues concerning your Dad and Mum. It never ends well. A smart mother will never allow their son to disrespect his father. And this is for the OP, whatever you do to your father or mother , your kids will definitely do same to you. Your son will also disrespect and side his mother. A word is enough for the wise. |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Nobody: 11:22pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Chascop: A child who spites his father with too much zest is only cutting off his nose to spite his face. Be guided. You don't have much wisdom. When your parents fuc.kked to conceive you, I guess you were the one that guided the insemination. Did I hear you say "not me?" Lol The marriage isn't your marriage -- a wise person will enlist the help of elders in a discreet manner to help mediate; but no, you -- the wisest of the bunch, a wiry, rascally,premature guinea pig without an ounce of wisdom has decided the goal post of your parent's marriage and thus taken a side. Perhaps your mother has filled you with plenty bile because she is the one with more money. Let me stop here -- you're young and have very little wisdom, pray to get it soon. Slimy salamander! 6 Likes |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Donjazzy12(m): 11:24pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Ariel20:May your children do to you what Op wants to do to his father. May your wife and sons gang up against you ! 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Donjazzy12(m): 11:26pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Raiyell:You took the words out of my mouth. A lot of male children of nowadays are extremely stupid and childish. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by tuscani: 11:27pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Sincerely I just do not what to advice, I really weep for you for finding yourself to deal with this ugly situation. I pray God Almighty gives you the wisdom of o handlle this situation. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Ten06(m): 11:28pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Guy I sympathize with u but don't ever, I repeat ever give that letter to your dad. I may not be able to outline the implications of u giving that letter to your father here but the spiritual implications may be too much for you to bear in future. If your dad can be beating your mom he can also go to any length to destroy your future if he feel insulted. You are only a child and there is a limit as to how you can go over this issue. But I will advise that you take your mom and go to a good church and fast over it, and continue praying, maybe your dad will come back to his senses. But if he doesn't stop this randy life at his age his days may not be too long. Pls sorry if you feel insulted with my advice |
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