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Ameeria:
I think this country is finally in the ruins. Only God can safe us. I would find time to take them to the village head, if I were you. You don't have any choice, just return them.

i guess america, china germany, south africa are also in ruins because they all have millions of poor and homeless people who cant afford to feed or properly educate their wares

stressedout:
I am a hustling young nigerian and although i am comfortable, i cant afford to cater for another. One of my relation from the village visited me last 3 weeks here in calabar. I dont really know him well but i have met him just once in a meeting back in the village.

He came with his 2 boys of 7 and 11 years, begging me to take one and school him while he helps me with house duty. As i am a bachelor i declined and said i did not have money and also did not need a help. He begged that they cant even see food to eat and such things but i still refused. I dont even know how he got my address. I allowed them to sleep over since it was late and told him to go back the next day.

When the next day came (a saturday) he said let him go to the atm to get money to transport them back to the village. He left the boys and went out. Afternoon came and i started getting worried as he had not returned. He wasnt picking calls until 10pm when he called me and said i should not be angry that let the boys just do holiday in my house, that he will pick them the next day and then switched off his phone.

i havent been able to reach him since then. He just disappeared and abandoned his sons with me. Its more than 15 days now. I have called people, nobody knows his wearabouts. Nobody in the village agreed to collect the boys. They said he and the family moved to PH years ago. The boys are finishing my food and they are not telling me where they live. I even threatened to throw them out but they still refused to talk. I am just confused and angry. What do i do? this man has disorganized my life

threaten to use one of them for ritual dem go talk

stressedout:
I am a hustling young nigerian and although i am comfortable, i cant afford to cater for another. One of my relation from the village visited me last 3 weeks here in calabar. I dont really know him well but i have met him just once in a meeting back in the village.

He came with his 2 boys of 7 and 11 years, begging me to take one and school him while he helps me with house duty. As i am a bachelor i declined and said i did not have money and also did not need a help. He begged that they cant even see food to eat and such things but i still refused. I dont even know how he got my address. I allowed them to sleep over since it was late and told him to go back the next day.

When the next day came (a saturday) he said let him go to the atm to get money to transport them back to the village. He left the boys and went out. Afternoon came and i started getting worried as he had not returned. He wasnt picking calls until 10pm when he called me and said i should not be angry that let the boys just do holiday in my house, that he will pick them the next day and then switched off his phone.

i havent been able to reach him since then. He just disappeared and abandoned his sons with me. Its more than 15 days now. I have called people, nobody knows his wearabouts. Nobody in the village agreed to collect the boys. They said he and the family moved to PH years ago. The boys are finishing my food and they are not telling me where they live. I even threatened to throw them out but they still refused to talk. I am just confused and angry. What do i do? this man has disorganized my life

This is the best advise, take them to the nearest police station and tell them the whole story, write statement if necessary and let them be aware that you are moving the children to the orphanage home, in fact let one of them follow you to handover the children to the orphanage home.

Wahahaha

elektra:
Ah! Return them to the village or bundle them to an orphanage.
It is like your village people do not want you to have peace. First your friend chase you from his house because of milk. You moved to your own place only for your neighbor's kid to start treating you anyhow, now your relative has dumped his kids on you.

And God read your post... People like you make me scared of ever returning back to Nigeria. Shuooo, see a wicked female for that matter. WOW

Not surprise abt OP ordeal..... that's the trend in Nigeria now.... most fathers are turning irresponsible..... May God help us

stressedout:
I am a hustling young nigerian and although i am comfortable, i cant afford to cater for another. One of my relation from the village visited me last 3 weeks here in calabar. I dont really know him well but i have met him just once in a meeting back in the village.

He came with his 2 boys of 7 and 11 years, begging me to take one and school him while he helps me with house duty. As i am a bachelor i declined and said i did not have money and also did not need a help. He begged that they cant even see food to eat and such things but i still refused. I dont even know how he got my address. I allowed them to sleep over since it was late and told him to go back the next day.

When the next day came (a saturday) he said let him go to the atm to get money to transport them back to the village. He left the boys and went out. Afternoon came and i started getting worried as he had not returned. He wasnt picking calls until 10pm when he called me and said i should not be angry that let the boys just do holiday in my house, that he will pick them the next day and then switched off his phone.

i havent been able to reach him since then. He just disappeared and abandoned his sons with me. Its more than 15 days now. I have called people, nobody knows his wearabouts. Nobody in the village agreed to collect the boys. They said he and the family moved to PH years ago. The boys are finishing my food and they are not telling me where they live. I even threatened to throw them out but they still refused to talk. I am just confused and angry. What do i do? this man has disorganized my life

My friend, don't throw those kids out. I will take care of their feeding for you. Contact me immediately so we can make arrangements for their care. I will also take responsibility for their schooling. Relax, God is not insane. Don't push your blessings away, this kids could be the next Donald Duke of Cross River. Life is very tough, even for me who reside obodo oyingbo. There was a time my kids were homeless, couldn't feed and I didn't have a dollar to my name due to some life troubles not very long. Most Nigerians are very wicked and they have expressed it giving you the most ridiculous advise to throw those kids out of your house because of food. I will also cloth them and provide the basics of life. Contact me through Nairaland and I will reply you with my phone number. Thank you.

grandstar:
Its a big shame that people can be so irresponsible . They will have lots of kids without forethought and when being cautioned, they will say it is the will of God .

My advice to you is to throw your burden on Jehovah. He will sustain you.

Also, since they are now with you, make the best of the situation. If life throws you a lemon, turn it to lemonade..

For instance, you can start an Instagram account called, "dumpedwith2boys" where you chronicle your experience with these 2 boys.

Trust me, you'll soon get a loyal following and I'm sure people will even donate money to help you.

Your relation saw something good in you- perhaps a kind character which can be an asset.

Have you thought of starting a business? Find out other things you can do.

For instance, First bank gives loans to small businesses but you must maintain an account.

The other option is to do something rash. Pls don't. We will all reap whatever we sow.

He that is showing favour to the lowly one is lending to Jehovah and He will repay.

You won't regret. Pls be open with the kids. Let them know the true situation of this. Opening up is very important. They will show understanding as well and empathise with you. They may even give you a few good tips that you'll find helpful.

Think how best to help the kids while encompassing yours. If you decide to drop them at an orphanage for instance, you can make it a practice to visit them regularly and even take snacks and gifts to them. Always be concerned about their welfare. Also have an agreement you'll take them back once your finances become buoyant.

There is more joy in giving than in receiving.

Our house recently was filled with 3 new arrivals. My cousin lost her husband recently and has come to stay with us with her 2 boys(Age 14yrs and 4yrs). She said she'll be here for 3months ( its the 3rd month now) and I'm sure she'll be here for a very long time.

This obviously wasn't easy and many times I've had to drop funds so they'll eat. Its all so unexpected and trying. But I'm taking it easy. That helps me cope.

My male cousin who we've been staying together before they arrived has virtually moved out. He probably finds the whole thing so stressful. Rarely sleeps at home.

I choose to take things easy and that makes it much much easier or else I'll freak out.

Turn your lemon to lemonade. Make the best of it. It will help you to not only become a much better man but also father.

It will be a joy one day for the kids to owe their success in life to you.

@grandstar, may God bless you for helping that widow woman. Please contact me do we can put heads together and provide stability for her and the kids if you don't mind a stranger reaching out. Thank you

stressedout:
I am a hustling young nigerian and although i am comfortable, i cant afford to cater for another. One of my relation from the village visited me last 3 weeks here in calabar. I dont really know him well but i have met him just once in a meeting back in the village.

He came with his 2 boys of 7 and 11 years, begging me to take one and school him while he helps me with house duty. As i am a bachelor i declined and said i did not have money and also did not need a help. He begged that they cant even see food to eat and such things but i still refused. I dont even know how he got my address. I allowed them to sleep over since it was late and told him to go back the next day.

When the next day came (a saturday) he said let him go to the atm to get money to transport them back to the village. He left the boys and went out. Afternoon came and i started getting worried as he had not returned. He wasnt picking calls until 10pm when he called me and said i should not be angry that let the boys just do holiday in my house, that he will pick them the next day and then switched off his phone.

i havent been able to reach him since then. He just disappeared and abandoned his sons with me. Its more than 15 days now. I have called people, nobody knows his wearabouts. Nobody in the village agreed to collect the boys. They said he and the family moved to PH years ago. The boys are finishing my food and they are not telling me where they live. I even threatened to throw them out but they still refused to talk. I am just confused and angry. What do i do? this man has disorganized my life

bros I feel ur pain....na so 1 of our uncle leave him 2 boiz with us..so te food no kun dy reach everybody 4 huz..We literary had to beg him to come and carry his own kids

stressedout:
I am a hustling young nigerian and although i am comfortable, i cant afford to cater for another. One of my relation from the village visited me last 3 weeks here in calabar. I dont really know him well but i have met him just once in a meeting back in the village.

He came with his 2 boys of 7 and 11 years, begging me to take one and school him while he helps me with house duty. As i am a bachelor i declined and said i did not have money and also did not need a help. He begged that they cant even see food to eat and such things but i still refused. I dont even know how he got my address. I allowed them to sleep over since it was late and told him to go back the next day.

When the next day came (a saturday) he said let him go to the atm to get money to transport them back to the village. He left the boys and went out. Afternoon came and i started getting worried as he had not returned. He wasnt picking calls until 10pm when he called me and said i should not be angry that let the boys just do holiday in my house, that he will pick them the next day and then switched off his phone.

i havent been able to reach him since then. He just disappeared and abandoned his sons with me. Its more than 15 days now. I have called people, nobody knows his wearabouts. Nobody in the village agreed to collect the boys. They said he and the family moved to PH years ago. The boys are finishing my food and they are not telling me where they live. I even threatened to throw them out but they still refused to talk. I am just confused and angry. What do i do? this man has disorganized my life

If the situation chokes you too much, then you can play the heartless option: Take them to your village, and since no one claims to know the children, just take them to the front of your chief's house and play the same disappearing game their father played.

elektra:
Ah! Return them to the village or bundle them to an orphanage.
It is like your village people do not want you to have peace. First your friend chase you from his house because of milk. You moved to your own place only for your neighbor's kid to start treating you anyhow, now your relative has dumped his kids on you.

Thought i was the only one following... My guy supposed start live show. He go sell wella

now it is not enough that he I'd your relative,now he has suddenly becomes someone you don't really know too well.don't forget those kids will on their own becomes governors and the memory they will have of you is exactly what you are dishing to them right now.if u have the food ignore their patent's fault and do unto them as if you are doing it for God.God bless certain person for a reason and whoever puts you in a position to contribute to a worthwhile venture, is actually positioning you for a reward.if you drive them out,they will still be fed and one day u will look back and wish u are kind to them.to those kids,u are a relative I beta relate well.

LIAR LIAR LIAR, WHAT SHOULD WE DO FOR YOU TO STOP LYING ? EVEN LAI MOHAMMED IS MORE HONEST THAN YOU .

laurelbae:
I don't understand what u stand to gain with all these stories. Just last month u posted that ur neighbour accommodated and fed you.
Oga which time u take get house ,pay house rent?
Kwontinue!

Lol... abeg leave the guy. He's got a creative mind specialised in creating problem stories. Abi u no dey enjoy the stories?

elektra:
Ah! Return them to the village or bundle them to an orphanage.
It is like your village people do not want you to have peace. First your friend chase you from his house because of milk. You moved to your own place only for your neighbor's kid to start treating you anyhow, now your relative has dumped his kids on you.

I don laugh tire oooooooooool

[quote author=stressedout post=58827635]according to people i contacted they said in ph. I have even flogged these boys they refused to say where they live in port harcourt. [/quote

stressedout:
according to people i contacted they said in ph. I have even flogged these boys they refused to say where they live in port harcourt.

TAKE THEM TO THE POLICE, THEY WILL TALK.
BEFORE THE HARM YOU. I DONT TRUST HUMANS ANYMORE
AND NEVER TRY HELPING OUT OF YOUR CONSCIENCE.
IT WAS A PLANNED TRIP
YOUR LIFE IS IN DANGER
HUMANS ARE THE MOST DANGEROUS CREATURE RECENTLY

This my niga good in telling stories



Good people of nairaland, pls help a brother to pay his law school fees.No amount is small,you can kindly contact him on 08184941410 for more enquiries and verification, include meeting him personally . THANKS & GOD BLESS YOU


A big thanks to you people that feel concerned. May God continue to bless you and elevate you in all your endeavors.

aribisala0:
Again you can only speak for yourself. Did you design every human being? How do you know they can all think for themselves? THat is an assumption,an idea that sounds good and appealing to you but all the evidence is to the contrary . There is no proof that every human can think in the way that you think they can or should

Question is: Why give birth to children one cannot take ADEQUATE and PROPER care of?

Raising children is expensive and no one should be saddled with the responsibility of raising another's children unless for philanthropic reasons.

stressedout:
both grandparents are dead. I am considering giving out the older one as house boy

Involve the police in this matter before it becomes a case of child abduction.

keepingmum:
https://www.nairaland.com/3881070/friend-wants-chase-me-out


Op remember how you were angry with your neighbor who asked you to move out of his house after he accommodated you for months despite your jobless and self entitled state?
Yet you can't house X2 relatives for a month but your neighbor who isn't even remotely related to you fed/housed you for months on end and all you could do was to come online and bash him

Chaiii.... People dey dig matter o...

hmmm

obailala:
If the situation chokes you too much, then you can play the heartless option: Take them to your village, and since no one claims to know the children, just take them to the front of your chief's house and play the same disappearing game their father played.

And what if the chief rejects them too and send them away?

And if the boys father surfaces later how does the guy explain the kids whereabout since he did not collect the village chief's number?

And if the boys re not found when their dad comes back it cud become a police problem.

i think the best tin is If he is going to drop them at the village better for him to drop them with someone he knows.

stressedout:
both grandparents are dead. I am considering giving out the older one as house boy

Lmao!!

NOETHNICITY:
And what if the chief rejects them too?

And if the boys father surfaces later how does the guy explain the kids whereabout since he did not collect the village chief's number?

And if the boys re not found when their dad comes back it cud become a police problem.

If he is going to

If you read the guy's story, you will notice he never consented to take the kids. But the kids ended in his house anyway. The same disappearing trick the dad of the kids played is ehat I suggested; the chief doesnt need to agree. But then again, it doesnt even have to be the chief (who is unrelated), he can play the disappearing game with another relative who is closer to the kids. The guy who avandoned the kids must have parents or direct siblings. Hence why I termed it 'the heartless option'.

stressedout:
I am a hustling young nigerian and although i am comfortable, i cant afford to cater for another. One of my relation from the village visited me last 3 weeks here in calabar. I dont really know him well but i have met him just once in a meeting back in the village.

He came with his 2 boys of 7 and 11 years, begging me to take one and school him while he helps me with house duty. As i am a bachelor i declined and said i did not have money and also did not need a help. He begged that they cant even see food to eat and such things but i still refused. I dont even know how he got my address. I allowed them to sleep over since it was late and told him to go back the next day.

When the next day came (a saturday) he said let him go to the atm to get money to transport them back to the village. He left the boys and went out. Afternoon came and i started getting worried as he had not returned. He wasnt picking calls until 10pm when he called me and said i should not be angry that let the boys just do holiday in my house, that he will pick them the next day and then switched off his phone.

i havent been able to reach him since then. He just disappeared and abandoned his sons with me. Its more than 15 days now. I have called people, nobody knows his wearabouts. Nobody in the village agreed to collect the boys. They said he and the family moved to PH years ago. The boys are finishing my food and they are not telling me where they live. I even threatened to throw them out but they still refused to talk. I am just confused and angry. What do i do? this man has disorganized my life

eyah, maybe you should report the case to the police station.

Oga pls report the issue to the police for documentation in case anything happens, u can either take them to the village or u just have to keep them. It might be a blessing in disguise . I know the cost of catering might be hard. All d best

elektra:
Ah! Return them to the village or bundle them to an orphanage.
It is like your village people do not want you to have peace. First your friend chase you from his house because of milk. You moved to your own place only for your neighbor's kid to start treating you anyhow, now your relative has dumped his kids on you.

Madam, like say n.a. monitoring spirit you be o!

keepingmum:
https://www.nairaland.com/3881070/friend-wants-chase-me-out


Op remember how you were angry with your neighbor who asked you to move out of his house after he accommodated you for months despite your jobless and self entitled state?
Yet you can't house X2 relatives for a month but your neighbor who isn't even remotely related to you fed/housed you for months on end and all you could do was to come online and bash him

Life

Omo futa

elektra:
Ah! Return them to the village or bundle them to an orphanage.
It is like your village people do not want you to have peace. First your friend chase you from his house because of milk. You moved to your own place only for your neighbor's kid to start treating you anyhow, now your relative has dumped his kids on you.