Adaumunocha:
Setting aside 50k will get a man a car in a year. A car has it advantages.
Doesn't make sense bro.

Ginaz:
Let them divorce. I trust whites, once is it obvious they no longer love each other but living like flatmates and like two stubborn goats brought together in a cage they part ways.

Sometimes it is easy for the heart to mend its wounds when it's apart from the one that hurts it.

I do not believe in divorce mind you, but when all possible roads to reconciliation meet in a tiring end then it is better to go apart than to live a lifetime of hate and pain.

Bringing them suddenly together would do no good, it's a gradual process...they should part ways and think things through.


*by the way*

You said your mother's pride is wrecking your home.. what of your father's actions? Not being able to give account of his 400k salary, he impregnated another woman, his shameful show of responsibility? His actions didn't contribute?

Why should you only blame your mother ? Your dad nko? .

Na WA o. Everything for marriage Na only woman dem go blame.

RSVP:


Yes that's very true but I still don't wanna believe that man is earning 400k monthly ..what if that woman got it all wrong?

BrotherJesu:
My mum is very beautiful, and successful yoruba woman but dosent regard her husband a bit,
Trouble got out hands when she got her first car and her husband who is an engineer doesnt have one yet,she then became pompous and over protective of the car that even those around; church and family knew that popxy doesnt own the car. Mumc is an established fashion designer and holds several positions in Nigerian Union ofTailors, as a result of this she comes home very late not givin any excus. As time goes by she stopped cooking him as she is always busy with work or travelling on state sponsored trips she does not bother to notify her husband whenever she is travelling.
There was a day i was so angry kus even my friends have started to take note and it becoming embarrasing, so i spoke with her, while talking she broke down in tears, she said she is the one responsible for 80 percent of the house expenses that popcy recieves 400k monthly bt always complaining of bin broke, she said other things i cant really type here.
This went own for a long time, they soon became enemies in the same house everyone going there way doing things differently, admist all these popsy has never rised his voice on her even when mumcy somethings did very annoing stuffs.
In the heat of this, popsy impregnated another babe although i have never seen the woman nor the child since birth which is close to two years. He apologised and promised to never bring them to interfere in our lives.
However this literary set our house on fire. While mumc was gettin over the haertbraek, she promised to get back at him which i didnt undesrand then.
Early this year, mumc bought 2 cars at ones, i was very surprised as she normally tell me her moves, she gave me one while she uses the other one. What broke myy hear was that she kept the one she was using before under cover when i asked her why she didnt allow popxy have that one she said she he should go buy his own and warned me that the day she will see him use my car na problem .
For sometime now she has been joking about moving us out of the country without his knowlege.
Popxy right now has facilitated his tramsfer to delta state.
Now they dont even see neida do they communicate again
the whole thing is driving me insane as i dont see popman coming to the house again pls guys help a brother what do i do
excuse my typo and coherence.

BrotherJesu:
My mum is very beautiful, and successful yoruba woman but dosent regard her husband a bit,
Trouble got out hands when she got her first car and her husband who is an engineer doesnt have one yet,she then became pompous and over protective of the car that even those around; church and family knew that popxy doesnt own the car. Mumc is an established fashion designer and holds several positions in Nigerian Union ofTailors, as a result of this she comes home very late not givin any excus. As time goes by she stopped cooking him as she is always busy with work or travelling on state sponsored trips she does not bother to notify her husband whenever she is travelling.
There was a day i was so angry kus even my friends have started to take note and it becoming embarrasing, so i spoke with her, while talking she broke down in tears, she said she is the one responsible for 80 percent of the house expenses that popcy recieves 400k monthly bt always complaining of bin broke, she said other things i cant really type here.
This went own for a long time, they soon became enemies in the same house everyone going there way doing things differently, admist all these popsy has never rised his voice on her even when mumcy somethings did very annoing stuffs.
In the heat of this, popsy impregnated another babe although i have never seen the woman nor the child since birth which is close to two years. He apologised and promised to never bring them to interfere in our lives.
However this literary set our house on fire. While mumc was gettin over the haertbraek, she promised to get back at him which i didnt undesrand then.
Early this year, mumc bought 2 cars at ones, i was very surprised as she normally tell me her moves, she gave me one while she uses the other one. What broke myy hear was that she kept the one she was using before under cover when i asked her why she didnt allow popxy have that one she said she he should go buy his own and warned me that the day she will see him use my car na problem .
For sometime now she has been joking about moving us out of the country without his knowlege.
Popxy right now has facilitated his tramsfer to delta state.
Now they dont even see neida do they communicate again
the whole thing is driving me insane as i dont see popman coming to the house again pls guys help a brother what do i do
excuse my typo and coherence.

lilien001:
To me it seems you re passing unfair judgment on your mum. Yes, she probably over reacted but something triggered it. The first thing I'll like to state is how you quickly belittled the case of your dad having a child out of wedlock. For that to have happened, he obviously was cheating on your mum while married, possibly several times. Your mum's actions may be as a consequence of your dad's. Again, she foots 80% of a Bill while she has a husband earning 400k. Haba! Where does his sopposed salary even go? These are things enough to frustrate any woman and bring out her bad side. I'm not saying your mum is right, but give her the benefit of doubt

Evaberry:
hmmm

I'm tired now but I will come and advise you tomorrow morning

BrotherJesu:
My mum is very beautiful, and successful yoruba woman but dosent regard her husband a bit,
Trouble got out hands when she got her first car and her husband who is an engineer doesnt have one yet,she then became pompous and over protective of the car that even those around; church and family knew that popxy doesnt own the car. Mumc is an established fashion designer and holds several positions in Nigerian Union ofTailors, as a result of this she comes home very late not givin any excus. As time goes by she stopped cooking him as she is always busy with work or travelling on state sponsored trips she does not bother to notify her husband whenever she is travelling.
There was a day i was so angry kus even my friends have started to take note and it becoming embarrasing, so i spoke with her, while talking she broke down in tears, she said she is the one responsible for 80 percent of the house expenses that popcy recieves 400k monthly bt always complaining of bin broke, she said other things i cant really type here.
This went own for a long time, they soon became enemies in the same house everyone going there way doing things differently, admist all these popsy has never rised his voice on her even when mumcy somethings did very annoing stuffs.
In the heat of this, popsy impregnated another babe although i have never seen the woman nor the child since birth which is close to two years. He apologised and promised to never bring them to interfere in our lives.
However this literary set our house on fire. While mumc was gettin over the haertbraek, she promised to get back at him which i didnt undesrand then.
Early this year, mumc bought 2 cars at ones, i was very surprised as she normally tell me her moves, she gave me one while she uses the other one. What broke myy hear was that she kept the one she was using before under cover when i asked her why she didnt allow popxy have that one she said she he should go buy his own and warned me that the day she will see him use my car na problem .
For sometime now she has been joking about moving us out of the country without his knowlege.
Popxy right now has facilitated his tramsfer to delta state.
Now they dont even see neida do they communicate again
the whole thing is driving me insane as i dont see popman coming to the house again pls guys help a brother what do i do
excuse my typo and coherence.

BrotherJesu:


thanks for ur piece am grateful.
Bt God knows am not on mums side at all am just tryimg to maintain a balance my philosophy is "na una know where meet unaself"
as per talking to them, popxy is sorrow bt mums no wan hear.
There are only two persons my mum respect that much her parents and deh ar both desceased, she is an only child ,so with me

BrotherJesu:
My mum is very beautiful, and successful yoruba woman but dosent regard her husband a bit,
Trouble got out hands when she got her first car and her husband who is an engineer doesnt have one yet,she then became pompous and over protective of the car that even those around; church and family knew that popxy doesnt own the car. Mumc is an established fashion designer and holds several positions in Nigerian Union ofTailors, as a result of this she comes home very late not givin any excus. As time goes by she stopped cooking him as she is always busy with work or travelling on state sponsored trips she does not bother to notify her husband whenever she is travelling.
There was a day i was so angry kus even my friends have started to take note and it becoming embarrasing, so i spoke with her, while talking she broke down in tears, she said she is the one responsible for 80 percent of the house expenses that popcy recieves 400k monthly bt always complaining of bin broke, she said other things i cant really type here.
This went own for a long time, they soon became enemies in the same house everyone going there way doing things differently, admist all these popsy has never rised his voice on her even when mumcy somethings did very annoing stuffs.
In the heat of this, popsy impregnated another babe although i have never seen the woman nor the child since birth which is close to two years. He apologised and promised to never bring them to interfere in our lives.
However this literary set our house on fire. While mumc was gettin over the haertbraek, she promised to get back at him which i didnt undesrand then.
Early this year, mumc bought 2 cars at ones, i was very surprised as she normally tell me her moves, she gave me one while she uses the other one. What broke myy hear was that she kept the one she was using before under cover when i asked her why she didnt allow popxy have that one she said she he should go buy his own and warned me that the day she will see him use my car na problem .
For sometime now she has been joking about moving us out of the country without his knowlege.
Popxy right now has facilitated his tramsfer to delta state.
Now they dont even see neida do they communicate again
the whole thing is driving me insane as i dont see popman coming to the house again pls guys help a brother what do i do
excuse my typo and coherence.

PaperLace:


All of the above is a recipe for a marriage that'll fail. If not nipped in the bud.

How did they get here? Has your mum always been like this or is it success controlling her? 'Cos from your story, mum's pride started it all. Why would she plan to move you all out of the country without her husband's consent? Seems you all are more loyal to her because she is the family's Central Bank.

I know your dad goofed by impregnating another, it's going to be difficult for him to fully exert his authority, because your mum will definitely bring it up to humble him. He has to live with that.

Talk to your mum and dad, they need to remember the good old days. If it wasn't always like this, then it's conditional and can be addressed. Marriage is not a place to revenge, not when the other party is fully repentant, when will couples learn this?

There must be someone they respect, where are their parents? Family friends? Religious heads? Anyone they can listen to?
You the kids are not left out. Arrange a meeting that'll make both of them be together, allow them vent __ it helps. Tell them you miss being a family and it's affecting you the kids. If there is still a tiny bit of value in them, you'll know that day. If you kids can't handle it, get an elderly person. If an elderly person fails _ let them separate and cool off, they might find their way back if they wish.

Shesweetdie:

Reading what u wrote, i dont need to check ur profile before knowing that you are male. Obviously u are more concerned about the womans "pride", but what i see here is not pride, rather is the retaliation of angry bitter and hurt woman. The dad claiming its the woman's actions dat led to him impregenating another woman is noting but a bogus lie, a man earning 400k per month but still lets his wife shoulder eighty percent the families finances is definitely not responsible and its a given that he is spending his money on oda women

Shesweetdie:

Reading what u wrote, i dont need to check ur profile before knowing that you are male. Obviously u are mire concerned about the womans "pride", but what i see here is not pride, rather is the retaliation of angry bitter and hurt woman. The dad claiming its the woman's actions dat led to him impregenating another woman is noting but a bogus lie, a man earning 400k per month but still lets his wife shoulder eighty percent the families finances is definitely not responsible and its a given that he is spending his money on oda women

Ezniteadin:



What you have just described is the prevalent circumstances in most home, women have gone besirck, the modern world have increased the demonic influences around the homes and most women are actually more possessed

They may go to church but not because they love God
The unregeneted heart is actually a heart possessed with demons but they call it other name
Pride is one evidence of demonic possession, it eventually results in rebellion, some of its attendants are anger and bitterness, revenge, unforgiveness

When you see a woman who behave in such manner, it is indicative of deep spiritual problems and a home with these manifestation is not likely to succeed

Only and only when a man (generic) is truly born again can he begin to learn obedience according to the word of God
Your dads patience is commendable that is how to handle such rebellion but you have a demonic situation in hand with what you describe
1 Samuel 15:23 "Rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft"

Ginaz:
Let them divorce. I trust whites, once is it obvious they no longer love each other but living like flatmates and like two stubborn goats brought together in a cage they part ways.

Sometimes it is easy for the heart to mend its wounds when it's apart from the one that hurts it.

I do not believe in divorce mind you, but when all possible roads to reconciliation meet in a tiring end then it is better to go apart than to live a lifetime of hate and pain.

Bringing them suddenly together would do no good, it's a gradual process...they should part ways and think things through.


*by the way*

You said your mother's pride is wrecking your home.. what of your father's actions? Not being able to give account of his 400k salary, he impregnated another woman, his shameful show of responsibility? His actions didn't contribute?

Why should you only blame your mother ? Your dad nko? .

Na WA o. Everything for marriage Na only woman dem go blame.

euromilion:
I know of a woman that was acting exactly as your mum,guess what?she's on wheelchair now,not going to walk again.she ended up on a car crash and broke her spine while coming back from a party with her secret boy friend,now the husband has all her mess to tidy.

I pray that don't happen to your mum,but karma is a bitch.

amazingspiderma:

As their child, I understand you want to always see them together, but they should have thought of how their different actions will affect you.

Whatever you do, don't blame yourself, it was their mess that got this whole thing started not you.
May God help your young heart in these testing times.
Think of your future and stay focus, I wouldn't want anyone to take advantage of you.
Your need to find parental care and counseling from good role models, in church preferable.
Ensure you let them know your plans for a better future for yourself and how you want to grow up, so they realise they are about to loose you too.

I particularly like this.