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Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by skedman(m): 6:05am On Oct 24, 2017
jerryunit48:
Choi ! You married the Devil’s daughter herself , Just walk away ,Even all you said she has done you dare not hit a woman in the country I reside . Life is sometimes unfair
i am very sure you are not married and that is why you told him to walk away .sooner or later you will become the best of friends which you were, even animals does that .bro she needs your attention more than before.

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Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by sinistermind(m): 6:08am On Oct 24, 2017
This was one of the reasons i broke up with my ex. An unforgiven heart and getting angry at trivial issues. Happy another man has carried that burden. I can't even risk it biko and have an unhappy marriage

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Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by Kamsichime(m): 6:11am On Oct 24, 2017
Bros I don't envy u but in marriage dis is what d pastors will call trusting d "UNKNOWN about ur partener". My advise see ur pastor 4 further guidance.
Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by luminouz(m): 6:17am On Oct 24, 2017
biacan:
why are your eyes wide open in that picture stop eating grandnut before pimpus finish you try to use black spetol as your batting soap when you want to sleep rob it on your face and stop using sponch on your face I hope this helps......
Lmaoooo
U went to all this trouble cuz of his face
He is a man!!! Some of us don't give hoots about pimples!!!!
Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by luminouz(m): 6:18am On Oct 24, 2017
biacan:
why are your eyes wide open in that picture stop eating grandnut before pimpus finish you try to use black spetol as your batting soap when you want to sleep rob it on your face and stop using sponch on your face I hope this helps......
Lmaoooo
Ur English is already giving me pimples!! tongue

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Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by maamisco(f): 6:18am On Oct 24, 2017
dingbang:
Cheiiiiiiii... If na me.... Oh my gosh... If na me... Hmmmm
. SHAARAAP Ehen! if na u wetin u go do? grin grin grin grin
Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by Donkalio: 6:20am On Oct 24, 2017
If all that you have said is true, just walk out of the marriage, don't lay your hands on a woman. God forbid, what if in the process she passd out...the law court & the people will be deaf to hear your own story.
Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by biacan(f): 6:20am On Oct 24, 2017
luminouz:
Lmaoooo Ur English is already giving me pimples!! tongue
hahaha funny man
Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by biacan(f): 6:22am On Oct 24, 2017
luminouz:

Lmaoooo
U went to all this trouble cuz of his face
He is a man!!! Some of us don't give hoots about pimples!!!!
But you do take good care of yourself can't you see how fresh you look...... so you don't want him to look fresh
Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by AlanSugar(m): 6:23am On Oct 24, 2017
abescom:
This has nothing to do with satanic tendencies. She is fighting a battle pure and simple.

She as the op said often prays for her attackers to be attacked by GOD. That tells a story on it own.

I honestly think the op needs to take this guy's advise. A bastard monster who ought to be castrated has ruined that woman but not beyond repairs. With GOD, sound advise from an expert and true love and patience, the op will win his real wife back.

Ah see. I didn't know satanic and other spiritual battles are no battle. As long as she's fighting a *battle*,then it's all good. Thanks for the correction.
Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by mysticwarrior(m): 6:24am On Oct 24, 2017
NwaIgboBoy:
But on a normal ground man isn't meant to beat his wife, because women are meant to be treated like babie ( tenderly).......... I HATE NIGERIA!!!
and what has domestic violence got to do with your hate for Nigeria?

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Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by khalhokage(m): 6:24am On Oct 24, 2017
OP, what are you waiting for, why have you not started divorce proceedings?

Or do you want to wait until either of you starts visiting the hospital regularly?

Divorce her and send her out of your house before she kills you.

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Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by cedeki(m): 6:26am On Oct 24, 2017
Like my Boss will always say, a broken engagement is better that a broken marriage, I was once in your shoes but luckily I discovered on time that she was the devil in a sheep clothing's,. Mine actually started unfolding her demonic attitude after the intro and I was worried sick till my white boss observed and called me to counsel, that was when I knew that I had to let go, then wedding were already fixed, cards has printed, venues and cake paid for, wedding clothes already bought but deep down something kept telling to run for my life undermining how much has been spent. one day I just took a decision and called her one morning before I went to work that it's over, that I cant go through with the marriage as proposed, she immediately came over and was crying and begging that I should forgive her for whatever she has done and the way she treated me, but all fell on deaf ears because I know there is no going back, the Dad later called that day, that he wants to see me, I went but told him all I have suffered in the hands of his daughter he begged me to have a rethink and that I should not shame him before his people but I told him that he will not always be there to caution his daughter hence I had to let go. she eventually got married before me and I got married a year after to a very peaceful woman. yesterday was our another marriage anniversary 7 years and still counting. I learnt from friends that she has been giving the guy issues as well. irony of the whole story is that once you sense danger run for your life do not wait to be told, many people do not care to know the reason you beat your wife, all they know is that you are woman beater and not worthy to be called a man

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Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by surveycash(m): 6:29am On Oct 24, 2017
selflessmaya:


when ppl say never hit your wife, they mean never become the aggressor. what is happening to to you is domestic violence and your wife is abusing you emotionally and physically. you need to leave that woman fast. she's poison! don't try to change her, don't blame yourself for anything, just, cut her loose!
You broke my 1 year observe mode to drop this - God bless you. This is the most matured,
educative and insightful post I have read. You are really selflessmaya
Thank you.

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Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by Mskrisx(f): 6:29am On Oct 24, 2017
Newboss:
This is my biggest problem with religion! It turns men to robots and dummies without balls.

Keep praying o. Just be praying for that angel to appear and tell her "Woman, seest thou not that thou hurteth Mr. Jombosco? I pray thee to refrain to avoid going to hell" grin grin grin grin

Hahahaha grin grin grin grin





U verrrry crazy grin grin
Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by luminouz(m): 6:30am On Oct 24, 2017
biacan:
But you do take good care of yourself can't you see how fresh you look...... so you don't want him to look fresh
I look fresh?
Oya dash me a like.....


....stress n a lotta things make u get pimples...not only groundnuts!!

Cc dingbang......ur needed here bro

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Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by holushollah(m): 6:30am On Oct 24, 2017
Marriage is not a bed of rose. Nobody has it all. You try to be nice and not complaining, you are a fool. You try to put your partner check, you are in for the unimaginable. I choose the fool aspect because i don't have to talk too much.
Bros it is only God that will fight your battle. If you can, pls run � away instead of hitting a lady because our society won't ask what happened. Na e be woman beater them go dey shout up and down. Come dey advocate kakiri
Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by emmancecute(m): 6:32am On Oct 24, 2017
Op, my kind advice to you is to quietly walk out of the union. If your wife can pull a knife at you, then she capable of killing you. Bro, pls don't be a victim, I have a close relative that was stabbed to death by the wife. Pls run for your life bro.
Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by jedyjedy(m): 6:33am On Oct 24, 2017
She's going to kill you @ OP.

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Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by Pearl05(f): 6:38am On Oct 24, 2017
I shed tears reading your story because this woman can easily kill you one day in your sleep. She is not mentally stable. She needs to be sent to a psychiatrist. Meet her family and ask about her life story, they might not want to disclose but find a way to get it. Maybe from cousins, aunt etc. As you do these invite the Person of the Holy Spirit in your family to penetrate her. Pray for her always. Show her extra love and care to swallow the bitterness and hate in her.

May the Lord heal your home.

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Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by Nobody: 6:39am On Oct 24, 2017
dingbang:
Cheiiiiiiii... If na me.... Oh my gosh... If na me... Hmmmm
My dad warned me against using this phrase "if na me" ... if na u wetin u go do?
Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by aduje(m): 6:39am On Oct 24, 2017
wrongchoice:
COURTSHIP DAYS AND MY HATRED FOR WOMEN BEATERS
During our courtship days I have always reiterated my stand on men that do beat their wife. I was of the opinion that they are not lesser than a beast.
She is very quiet, she hardly finishes her words, and she was full of smile that my grandma named her “smiling smiling girl”. My family members were thanking God for me because of her gentle nature. She doesn’t have friends, she goes to church regularly. I went for her because I have seen a lot of unhappy homes and by all means I wanted to avoid such situation. Before her, I had seen many girls that I love and they equally love me too. I leave them immediately I see a sign of anger in them. So, I told her that all I wanted in my life was happiness and I will make sure I keep the home together and going smoothly in as much that happens.
She has her trust issues which I thought they were necessary and not out of control (that was my greatest mistake), but aggressiveness and hatred ,I never had that thought a bit. She didn’t even look it.

MY FIRST SHOCKER
After the introduction, she was eager for the wedding despite the fact that I hardly got employed in a small firm barely a year. We fixed the date and arrangements were going.
3 days before the wedding , I told my wife to-be that one of my friends promised to bring event ;ushers for our wedding just to add glamour to the day, she didn’t allow me to finish when she started shouting on top of her voice and with this kind of never seen before aggressiveness. I never saw such red eyes before in 2 years of our courtship and over 6 years as friends. She said my friends and I were bringing oloshos to sleep with for bash eve which I never even plan to have. Her argument wasn’t a concern but I never see her reacted that way. I cried and I knew I was in for a big trouble.

THE REAL SHOW


Fast forward to after wedding. To my surprise, before any argument she would hit me, sometimes slap just less than 2 months in the marriage. I discovered she has the strength of 3 men. We are talking about a lady that never misses any church program as a youth and when we moved to our new area , she became more popular than myself in the church. This went on for a while coupled with terrible issues that I would be taken one after the other.

THE DAY OF LESSON
There was this afternoon that an argument ensue base on (what I will share latter) , she took out knife, I collected it from her, she brought out fork I collected it from her, she resulted to my belt and she started beating me with it ,I didn’t even struggle with her just like before. She took her shoe hitting it on my head ,I didn’t even move, I wasn’t even angry self. She bite me on my shoulder and thumb which nearly had that finger off if not for quick medical attention. At this point a question flashed through my mind, “would this be how my live would be going?”. This woman may even ask me to lay flat to receive some lashes if I didn’t make attempt to stop her. I concluded that I have to do something. Then without any iota of anger in me. I raised my hand up and gave her 2 thunderous slaps across her face. She opened her mouth for complete 5 minutes she couldn’t close it. I knew she would be thinking she has over stepped her boundary. She started shouting that I have killed her and all sorts. People that never had me speak in that street for good one year I stayed their plus close to a year she has spent with me were aghast. Since that day many things changed for the worse. Though she stopped hitting me after that, except sometimes when she would push me against the wall and i get some bruises.
I later travelled home and my siblings were asking me if my hands were tied to my back while a woman was inflicting all these injuries on my body. They saw both the fresh ones and the old bruises. It was a very big issue that families, church members had to intervene. I can tell you since that day things had never remain the same again. It was the beginning of trouble and unhappy home.

My question is this? If you were in my position what would you have done differently?


you can check the previous post here
https://www.nairaland.com/4126638/how-wife-been-terrorizing-me

...The best way to deal with a hustle spouse (male or female) is to walk away. It will be easier to walk away if you have not started having children. When a marriage breaks up, people ask questions (relations, church members, neighbourhood people etc) on hearing things like "instead of a monster of a husband or wife to kill me, i better give him/her gap" people will reason with you; even marriage counsellors. Most men who beat their wives never intended to do it...bros, sometimes, a woman can push a man to the wall and even compress him into the wall. If you raise your hand in defense or to prove some authority sign, you are 95% likely to mis-understood.

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Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by dingbang(m): 6:47am On Oct 24, 2017
luminouz:

I look fresh?
Oya dash me a like.....


....stress n a lotta things make u get pimples...not only groundnuts!!

Cc dingbang......ur needed here bro
I just tire for that girl matter...
Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by lazygal: 6:51am On Oct 24, 2017
dingbang:
Cheiiiiiiii... If na me.... Oh my gosh... If na me... Hmmmm


I really dunno why he chooses to stay married to that beast...
Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by Mrkumareze(m): 6:53am On Oct 24, 2017
I rather be a divorcee than a murderer . Please avoid the impending calamity. For clear conscience, talk with her peacefully on how to amend the family and also try to find out your doings which angers her after this let the past off your mind and see how it goes. If no positive changes bro pilot your way!
Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by japansco(m): 6:53am On Oct 24, 2017
Pray over it
Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by Marvel1206: 6:54am On Oct 24, 2017
Selflessmaya your comment was lit. I don't usually read long comments but I did and you really unearthed the truth. Wrongchoice , please follow her/his advice

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Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by Myde4naija(m): 6:55am On Oct 24, 2017
I am even in worst senario, the difference is you follow all the oyinbo rules, 6years of friendship, 2years of courtship, 6month between engagement and marriage. If truely all the oyinbo rules they work for marriage you shouldn't have any problem at all.



I engage mine 6month after we met, yet...............
Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by emmanuel26: 6:57am On Oct 24, 2017
I am surprised why you are not ashamed to tell us why you have to beat your wife. There is no justifiable reason to beat your wife. I am disappointed bro. You duty is to protect her not to beat her. Ask God to forgive you.
Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by Nobody: 6:58am On Oct 24, 2017
[quote author=anishoff post=61695159]Do not beat her. Two wrongs don't make a right. Sit her down and talk to her about the issue intensively and also go for series of counselling and finally pray about d issue fervently and i can assure u the problem will stop because there is nothing God cannot do.
I pray for God to give u the grace to hold and control urself completely.
It is well[/quote
Do not beat a wowan no matter what she did to u' even if u catch her with another man do not torch her' No matter how long u talk to a woman that is quick to anger she will never change,, no matter the type of counselling she receives she will even get worst' only miracle can save her' u have two option' get use to her character or walk away'
Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by lazygal: 7:00am On Oct 24, 2017
wrongchoice:
COURTSHIP DAYS AND MY HATRED FOR WOMEN BEATERS
During our courtship days I have always reiterated my stand on men that do beat their wife. I was of the opinion that they are not lesser than a beast.
She is very quiet, she hardly finishes her words, and she was full of smile that my grandma named her “smiling smiling girl”. My family members were thanking God for me because of her gentle nature. She doesn’t have friends, she goes to church regularly. I went for her because I have seen a lot of unhappy homes and by all means I wanted to avoid such situation. Before her, I had seen many girls that I love and they equally love me too. I leave them immediately I see a sign of anger in them. So, I told her that all I wanted in my life was happiness and I will make sure I keep the home together and going smoothly in as much that happens.
She has her trust issues which I thought they were necessary and not out of control (that was my greatest mistake), but aggressiveness and hatred ,I never had that thought a bit. She didn’t even look it.

MY FIRST SHOCKER
After the introduction, she was eager for the wedding despite the fact that I hardly got employed in a small firm barely a year. We fixed the date and arrangements were going.
3 days before the wedding , I told my wife to-be that one of my friends promised to bring event ;ushers for our wedding just to add glamour to the day, she didn’t allow me to finish when she started shouting on top of her voice and with this kind of never seen before aggressiveness. I never saw such red eyes before in 2 years of our courtship and over 6 years as friends. She said my friends and I were bringing oloshos to sleep with for bash eve which I never even plan to have. Her argument wasn’t a concern but I never see her reacted that way. I cried and I knew I was in for a big trouble.

THE REAL SHOW


Fast forward to after wedding. To my surprise, before any argument she would hit me, sometimes slap just less than 2 months in the marriage. I discovered she has the strength of 3 men. We are talking about a lady that never misses any church program as a youth and when we moved to our new area , she became more popular than myself in the church. This went on for a while coupled with terrible issues that I would be taken one after the other.

THE DAY OF LESSON
There was this afternoon that an argument ensue base on (what I will share latter) , she took out knife, I collected it from her, she brought out fork I collected it from her, she resulted to my belt and she started beating me with it ,I didn’t even struggle with her just like before. She took her shoe hitting it on my head ,I didn’t even move, I wasn’t even angry self. She bite me on my shoulder and thumb which nearly had that finger off if not for quick medical attention. At this point a question flashed through my mind, “would this be how my live would be going?”. This woman may even ask me to lay flat to receive some lashes if I didn’t make attempt to stop her. I concluded that I have to do something. Then without any iota of anger in me. I raised my hand up and gave her 2 thunderous slaps across her face. She opened her mouth for complete 5 minutes she couldn’t close it. I knew she would be thinking she has over stepped her boundary. She started shouting that I have killed her and all sorts. People that never had me speak in that street for good one year I stayed their plus close to a year she has spent with me were aghast. Since that day many things changed for the worse. Though she stopped hitting me after that, except sometimes when she would push me against the wall and i get some bruises.
I later travelled home and my siblings were asking me if my hands were tied to my back while a woman was inflicting all these injuries on my body. They saw both the fresh ones and the old bruises. It was a very big issue that families, church members had to intervene. I can tell you since that day things had never remain the same again. It was the beginning of trouble and unhappy home.

My question is this? If you were in my position what would you have done differently?


you can check the previous post here
https://www.nairaland.com/4126638/how-wife-been-terrorizing-me



No human deserves,this... Am deeply sorry for what you are going through

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