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Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by Hysmady(m): 7:55pm On Oct 25, 2017
Man should be the boss
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by joe120120(m): 8:04pm On Oct 25, 2017
presently it is woman.
in 70s 80 & 90s it is man

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Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by Nobody: 8:04pm On Oct 25, 2017
cashlurd:
When it's between a cool headed husband and a troublesome wife, the wife becomes the head.
When it's between a cool headed husband and a cool headed wife... The husband is the head.
When it's between a troublesome husband and a cool headed wife, the husband is the head.

No man prays for the first situation. It can kill!

Exactly!
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by deeway200(m): 8:06pm On Oct 25, 2017
am a man but I believed its the woman cause I am not always at home. my wife is close to the children than I
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by Haywhylee(m): 8:06pm On Oct 25, 2017
i think is man but woman are despirate, if proper care is not taken by man, woman of nowadays can do and nor do
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by eliwa47(m): 8:12pm On Oct 25, 2017
It depend on how you run your home.
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by Nobody: 8:12pm On Oct 25, 2017
MrBrownJay1:
the question itself is stupid.... some issues its the husband, others its the wife.
Thank you, you are wise!!
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by Nobody: 8:12pm On Oct 25, 2017
That man that said SECODELE tho grin grin
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by Nobody: 8:14pm On Oct 25, 2017
cashlurd:
When it's between a cool headed husband and a troublesome wife, the wife becomes the head.
When it's between a cool headed husband and a cool headed wife... The husband is the head.
When it's between a troublesome husband and a cool headed wife, the husband is the head.

No man prays for the first situation. It can kill!

You left out troublesome wife and troublesome husband grin

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Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by safarigirl(f): 8:17pm On Oct 25, 2017
The only thing men have the final say in is which soup will be prepared for the week and what will be cooked for dinner.

All other decisions are actually taken by the wife, even though the man is led to believe he is taking the decisions.

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Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by Nobody: 8:22pm On Oct 25, 2017
safarigirl:
The only thin men have the final say in is which soup will be prepared for the week and what will be cooked for dinner.

All other decisions are actually taken by the wife, even though the man is led to believe he is taking the decisions.

@emboldened are you being sarcastic? undecided

So i don't have a say or the final say on the choice of school i want our kids to go to? Secondary school in particular? undecided
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by jdluv(f): 8:24pm On Oct 25, 2017
i think its the woman, cause she has great influence on her husband that y mother in law have clash wit their daughter in law cause they have been their and they know 90 percent of decision made are influenced by the woman.#in a normal and happy home

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Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by safarigirl(f): 8:29pm On Oct 25, 2017
Blackfyre:


@emboldened are you being sarcastic? undecided

So i don't have a say or the final say on the choice of school i want our kids to go to? Secondary school in particular? undecided
most men are rarely interested in their kids.

Husband and wife could discuss the best school for the child, but more often than not, men leave such decisions to their wives assuming the woman is in a better position to know the kids....and as far as secondary school, even the kids pitch in on where they would prefer.

And like I said in my second paragraph, most men end up with the illusion that they are making the final decisions, when in fact, these decisions are greatly informed by the woman's input and are decisions favourable to the woman.

It's not as straightforward as it seems

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Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by Nobody: 8:32pm On Oct 25, 2017
Oyindidi:
Both
You are funny.i don't say that it is not ok but husband has a final say in the house more than wife because he is the head.
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by tintingz(m): 8:39pm On Oct 25, 2017
I watch this interview and I see archaic men and religious African women, only one lady made a lot of sense.

One archaic man even said "he should know than his wife" and he doesn't even have any reason he should know than his wife, and another man was even talking as if women don't have brain to think.

All I see in this video are bunch of religious traditional folks with irrational thinking and confused.

In my opinion there is nothing like "best decision maker" no human is perfect to give best decisions, you source for ideas before conclusion, your decision is dependent on the source and don't confuse this with self-decision, your self-decision can't be use on others, you will only sound selfish, sentimental and look like a authoritarian and dictator.

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Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by Jman06(m): 8:43pm On Oct 25, 2017
The wisest of them should make decisions
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by mechanics(m): 8:46pm On Oct 25, 2017
The woman has a smiling face, the man on white can talk, my opinion is that both should rub minds and the best decision should be considered.
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by tosyne2much(m): 8:54pm On Oct 25, 2017
cashlurd:
When it's between a cool headed husband and a troublesome wife, the wife becomes the head.
When it's between a cool headed husband and a cool headed wife... The husband is the head.
When it's between a troublesome husband and a cool headed wife, the husband is the head.

No man prays for the first situation. It can kill!
Very funny analogy cheesy Anyway you're right sha
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by tosyne2much(m): 8:57pm On Oct 25, 2017
I believe decisions should be jointly made just that marriage is more of a dictatorship in this part of the world

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Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by Nobody: 9:01pm On Oct 25, 2017
safarigirl:
most men are rarely interested in their kids.

Husband and wife could discuss the best school for the child, but more often than not, men leave such decisions to their wives assuming the woman is in a better position to know the kids....and as far as secondary school, even the kids pitch in on where they would prefer.

And like I said in my second paragraph, most men end up with the illusion that they are making the final decisions, when in fact, these decisions are greatly informed by the woman's input and are decisions favourable to the woman.

It's not as straightforward as it seems

Basically, you are saying even though the man may make the decision which in the real sense means approving what the woman has greatly influenced by her choices/wits. I agree on that part.

On the part of men rarely interested in their kids, I doubt that though because i even have the names of my kids planned out already and the sort of father and son time we will have about life and general things heck may even take him along to work if work gets in the way. I have so many things to share to my sons, i intend to have a stronger influence over him than his mom. I think only irresponsible men wont show interest in their kids, haba, that's the continuum of your legacy undecided

The girl, well till she reach teenage then it's bye to her mom. tongue

I love female babies than males though, they are more gentle/soft to the touch.

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Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by AuroraB(f): 9:09pm On Oct 25, 2017
Wetin konsign me with this JAMB kweshun undecided
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by Ashley86400: 9:13pm On Oct 25, 2017
Bunch of ignorant zombies repeating what's been indoctrinated into their empty heads. .


The subtitle problem - this is what happens when you let a computer subtitle a Nigerian accent.
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by seguntijan(m): 9:18pm On Oct 25, 2017
My wife will be the managing director of my decisions, she'll be the boss, I will be the decision maker.
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by Oyindidi(f): 9:34pm On Oct 25, 2017
Seunloaded:
You are funny.i don't say that it is not ok but husband has a final say in the house more than wife because he is the head.
The wife will have to play her own role when he takes decision.

Unity in the home front is all that matters.
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by AreaFada2: 9:50pm On Oct 25, 2017
Lol. Ok.
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by Probz(m): 10:04pm On Oct 25, 2017
Let’s just say we’ve got different roles to play in the house. Women are more likely to make decisions based on emotion.
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by Augustap(f): 10:18pm On Oct 25, 2017
Breadwinner, head of the family, all these do not really count. A couple should sit down and talk, know what's good for the family and make a decision. If it's a hard decision, compromise can help. Although, the husband should take major stands on issues but if a couple is deeply in love, they'll do everything together.

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Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by jobsat34(m): 10:35pm On Oct 25, 2017
safarigirl:
The only thing men have the final say in is which soup will be prepared for the week and what will be cooked for dinner.

All other decisions are actually taken by the wife, even though the man is led to believe he is taking the decisions.

Are yu sure we even has a say at that?
Except of cause, I missed a particular type of stew, she decides what to cook ooo

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Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by Worthie(m): 10:45pm On Oct 25, 2017
Decisions should be made together

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Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by juman(m): 11:15pm On Oct 25, 2017
Different homes, different ways of handling issues.

Man is the head of the home, while the woman is the brain in his head.

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Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by Nightwatchknine: 11:46pm On Oct 25, 2017
Nawteemaxie:
Whoever pays the bills.
who keep this one sense inside p*ssy self
Re: Who Is The Decision Maker In A Nigerian Household – Husband Or Wife? by Nightwatchknine: 11:48pm On Oct 25, 2017
Augustap:
Breadwinner, head of the family, all these do not really count. A couple should sit down and talk, know what's good for the family and make a decision. If it's a hard decision, compromise can help. Although, the husband should take major stands on issues but if a couple is deeply in love, they'll do everything together.
thumbs up dear, you will spread your legs and allow a path way for the right man

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