@greenpenwriter, sorry for the stress you are passing through.
As other mama have advised, you dire need your husband support on this. If he can’t support you then let the issue rest. Firstly, he made mistake for allowing a growing up man to leave with you without giving rules. Despite the fact that this younger people misbehave so many times.

What I would say is, calm down, ignore all the negative comment they are saying( they will always talk) and look into the future
After these issue has been lay low, call your husband and tell him your mind that it’s now obvious you are alone in this marriage because you expected his support to you but woefully failed( not fight matter) but let him know that what he did pained you.

Biko, let him go and stay with whoever he want to stay with, you have tried your best already let their family take the rubbish of their unruly son.

Wish you all the best

Greenpenwriter, pls dont get worked up over this. If i were you i will even be happy that he's finally moving to SIL's place. You will hear of his misdeed there too. Forget your inlaw's negative comments.He's with his own sister now, let's see weather he will have the effontery he had with you, shebi another man is incharge in that home. I hate it when mature people can't respect their old age.

lady25:
Hello mamas biko i need help. I will be 6 weeks postpartum on tuesday.i had episiotomy. Have been doing sitz baths regularly . But for about 2 weeks i noticed i have a peppery feeling on my epistiomy site if i sit or walk a certain way. I then took up courage to look at it in the mirror. I found out that there is a red flesh hanging somewhere on the episiotomy site. It really painful to touch. I have closed up/healed well its juat that red thing. Biko sabi mamas who knows what this red thing is. I intend going for check up if it doesnt go soon

It's a skin tag and it will go. Continue with sitz bath, if after 2 weeks it hasn't fallen or closed up, you can go see your doctor.

Let him go stay in your SIL house, she will eventually see his kind of behavior. Just be patient, you will hear she chased him out.
You even tried. How can he bring friends into your home that stay till late hour. It's not even safe for you. What if after drinking, and One decides to act violently.

If it was me, I would have told him just once to stop bringing those bad friends into my home. If he doesn't listen, the next time I will change the locks and not let him in. I will tell him to come back to pack his load. Yes, he should go tell his mom and sister I am that less concerned. If hubby likes he should refuse to be on my side that one sef no concern me.
Even when my MIL told me not to eat mayonnaise that I am already fat, eh! I change am for my hubby and he in return change am for e mama cos he no me say next time I won't take it. Shey I no know say I first fat before eating it ni

greenpenwriter:


Thanks mama, but I never for once said he should leave the house. My offence is telling him to stop drinking in the house and bringing friends in. They have all agreed to let him stay in my SIL in-law's place henceforth. I tolerated more than enough, I need to protect myself, my baby and my Hh too.

Giddyperson:
Akpa akpu oooo Isi ok
Giddydaddy on nl kwa? Maybe that's another random user. Giddybaby's appearance is when the lord appears

Ngwa ndo, akpa garri nko?
Come chop rice

@Greenpenwriter, please don't be emotionally blackmailed into changing your stance. If he's truly bringing in strangers that late into your house, going and coming in at late hours, smoking and all then he has to Go.

No one, not even your dear husband will be there to face the immediate consequences the day he brings in bad gang; so many things can go wrong biko.You all, including all the Bils/Sils, husband and you can contribute something and get him a small self contain

hunniesuzie:
According to my paed you shouldnt deworm babies under 1 or less than 10kg (1 year old weight)
Take him to the hospital let them check him out. He could have a sore throat or inflamed tonsils making it hard to swallow
Also benylin or any cough syrup isn't appropriate for children under one. Was it prescribed for him?

Found this really helpful, thank you.
About the benylin, was told to use 2.5ml as against 5ml which is to be used for children above 1. I got it at a pharmacy and my doctor said i could use it. If i may ask tho, why is cough syrup not appropriate for children under one? and what can be used for cough?

Giddyperson:
Nah no kind of sauce, just boiled potatoes blended together with either chicken or ice fish, then I put on fire again and add crayfish, olive oil and a little salt. On days when I don't have energy for that, I just mash the potatoes on fire and use August secrets dry fish, with little crayfish, olive oil and salt. The consistency is just like how I prepare her cerelac, I add water so it won't be too thick for her to swallow, but I don't make it watery

Good recipe,liking it.

greenpenwriter:


He refused to do that for reasons best known to him.

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Choi little boy that doesn't have respect, feeling like Nna anyi because he's in-law.
You should have reported to their own mum, so it would still look like a one family issue, cuz now it just looks like you don't like their family. Whether she takes your side or not is irrelevant cuz me it's after reporting to these people I'd then proceed to start mistakenly locking him out and so that after the conversation with him you can add that 'I've also told your brother and your mum'. No responsible man brings friends to his family home to be drinking ogogoro at night, what are bars for. Be glad his irresponsible arse is gone. If you feel like apologizing, wait until he's picked up his last bag and gone before you start. He'd probably go and act something similar with his sis and you'd still hear there gist later, that's the way it goes with in-laws. So just consider this as your turn, and wait for it to pass. And stop bringing your mum into it, it's not that serious. Also don't drag the issue with hubby for now, just let it down down, you can bring it up months later when everyone has calmed down to give him an example of how not to behave when you are somebody's husband.

casler:

Good recipe,liking it.

its for the baby not you

ifyalways:

Ngwa ndo, akpa garri nko?
Come chop rice

What kind of ndi ocha combo is this, there is prawn and peas in palm oil rice then bread in a basket, enjoy alone let me continue cooking my banga .

I'm not akpa garri o, I weight just 70 kg 15 kg

JDQueen:


Please don't make start crying. Am trying not to feel pained that I can't watch till mid show.

lol don't cry yet cuz I'd make your life miserable over the next few weeks. Who's gonna be updating me while I'm at work Biko or am I going to resort to YouTube again, I received query last time for abusing the internet, instead of them to block the site like normal people.

LholarB:
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Meeeeee ,I and DH being counting down since... We even Filled up the generator tank already, can't afford to miss the Live show today

Me three. My baby acts like my enemies have appointed her personally to ensure my glasses don't spend up to a minute on my face. I haven't worn those glasses since she was born, I only undug it for bbn and once she sees it on my face she comes for it and the struggle ensues. I've even undug the older one that has just one hand to wear when she takes the good one and she comes for that one too. People that wear glasses and have babies, how do you people do it Biko.

hunniesuzie:
So you were one of those Efe goons...

well.... goon is a strong word, but I used to love him until he started showing his inner drunken master

So I have a family occasion to attend today and I finally took one of my lying fallow materials to the [s]fashion designer, shey that's what they like to be called these days even the quacks[/s] tailor. This is a picture of what I asked her to make, if I attach a picture of what she made choi [s]one glam ma would continue calling me akpa Akpu[/s]. Now I've torn off the whole cape area and I'm waiting for aboki tailor to come and pass so they can sew up the parts I opened up to tear the cape. In fact lemme go find backup dress biko. The girl in this picture reminds me of Benignasweety btw.

[quote author=Giddyperson post=64575075] .

Giddyperson, that's local rice with swags. Uwa bu paw-paw packaging

I like this your style o and I'm so making it. Sorry about your tailor issue, since a tailor made me cry, I now jeje use ndi Obi oma. I get one Ghana man Obi oma customer. He comes in the mornings, we eat, and take time to sew together. Takes a whole Saturday but worth it. I'm there with him so as we stitch each part, I wear and check. Grand ma style

@ Akorkor and soonest, my BIL does not really like the idea of leaving because there won'tt be freedom for him at his peep's place. Anyway, that is not my headache. Thanks for the advice ma.

@Naomi14, you no send anybody at all. With my cold reaction (I don't gist with him) to his atitude, they cconcluded that I don't like his presence in my house and they are all angry and blaming me.

@Ifyalways, I quite agree with the idea of maintaining my stand on the issue. They have all agreed that he should stay with married SIL. Thanks for the tips ma.

Mami you dey quick vex oh

katchycouture:



if I talk na they will say I'm teaching you bad thing....

well me I would have actually locked him out of the house since since, what is your husband's stand in all of these? is he in support of his brother's behaviours?? does your husband also agree with you that the moment he married you the house belongs to you??.. this answers will determine the type of advice you will get..

but that ur brother in law get luck oooo, I would have locked him outside or mistakenly pour hit water on his guests that sleep on ur couch and claim I thought it was a mid night thief, by the time I pour hot water on 2 people ehn, his friends will refuse to come and visit in the daytime....no no no,i would have just simply locked him outside and turn deafter ears to what the in laws will say..

Giddyperson:
So I have a family occasion to attend today and I finally took one of my lying fallow materials to the [s]fashion designer, shey that's what they like to be called these days even the quacks[/s] tailor. This is a picture of what I asked her to make, if I attach a picture of what she made choi [s]one glam ma would continue calling me akpa Akpu[/s]. Now I've torn off the whole cape area and I'm waiting for aboki tailor to come and pass so they can sew up the parts I opened up to tear the cape. In fact lemme go find backup dress biko. The girl in this picture reminds me of Benignasweety btw.

Lol... If ah hear...

I lyk d hairstyle though is it bloom weavon?

ayobarmy:
Hello everyone,

how are u and ur kids doing, pls anyone living in Onitsha here?..... who can explain the meaning of "Ume Affor" and the possible treatment....

Note: It's a stomach related issue and I was told it doesn't need Orthodox attention but herbal......

Ume affor is a type of sickness some children experience. They grow very very lean and they cry consistently. Nothing they eat stays in their body and even when administering trado medicines, the child still needs blood capsules/sirops.
When you see the child's Tommy, it's like a snake is walking inside it, it comes out and goes in again.

Benignasweety:
Ume affor is a type of sickness some children experience. They grow very very lean and they cry consistently. Nothing they eat stays in their body and even when administering trado medicines, the child still needs blood capsules/sirops.
When you see the child's Tommy, it's like a snake is walking inside it, it comes out and goes in again.

na wa oooo... my Father on heaven please let all this sickness be far from my children in Jesus name..Amen

benny so u mean you will see the snake like thing walking in the child's stomach?? is it the same with Apa Afo? ?

Giddyperson:
its for the baby not you

Hahaha,na me born the baby now.
Happy weekend!

greenpenwriter:


Thanks mama, but I never for once said he should leave the house. My offence is telling him to stop drinking in the house and bringing friends in. They have all agreed to let him stay in my SIL in-law's place henceforth. I tolerated more than enough, I need to protect myself, my baby and my Hh too.

Congratulation sis, let him stay with them joor, very soon he will even come to apologize, just let it be, if possible don't try to proof you are right to any of them,just be that nice wife, and avoid him until he hands over the house key with him,

Benignasweety:
Lol... If ah hear...

I lyk d hairstyle though is it bloom weavon?

I don't know sef but I like it too, tell me if you find it.

ifyalways:
Giddyperson, that's local rice with swags. Uwa bu paw-paw packaging

I like this your style o and I'm so making it. Sorry about your tailor issue, since a tailor made me cry, I now jeje use ndi Obi oma. I get one Ghana man Obi oma customer. He comes in the mornings, we eat, and take time to sew together. Takes a whole Saturday but worth it. I'm there with him so as we stitch each part, I wear and check. Grand ma style

It's my ijebu that caused it o, I have a good tailor but I only take expensive fabrics to that one cuz he makes me pay thru my nose.

greenpenwriter:



@bolded1 This has caused me terrible pains in time past. MIL believes his children can do no wrong. Turning to my MIL for advice is one the greatest mistakes I have made. She will definitely shift blame. The time I told her about this friend issue (she came to spend some days witth us then). BIL brought in a friend at 9pm. She simply told me his son does not keep bad gangs and that as much as my husband is not around, my BIL is the head of my family. She went on to several tongue-lashing that went on for 3 hours. Any time I report, they all will blame and remind me that he is my BIL and he can do no wrong.

@Bolded2 This is actually the first time I'll inform my mum about any issue in my marriage. I told her because I was just so upset and bitter about the "locking out issue".

All your points are noted ma.

Ok nah, let him not goan marry, head of another person's household. Be glad he's leaving

Hello moms
MHC is today and my team and I won't be in till 2pm.
Please bear with us.

katchycouture:


na wa oooo... my Father on heaven please let all this sickness be far from my children in Jesus name..Amen

benny so u mean you will see the snake like thing walking in the child's stomach?? is it the same with Apa Afo? ?

How Apa afo dey do? Maybe it's language difference o. Any which way, it's herbal treatment.

Giddyperson:
Me three. My baby acts like my enemies have appointed her personally to ensure my glasses don't spend up to a minute on my face. I haven't worn those glasses since she was born, I only undug it for bbn and once she sees it on my face she comes for it and the struggle ensues. I've even undug the older one that has just one hand to wear when she takes the good one and she comes for that one too. People that wear glasses and have babies, how do you people do it Biko.

I wear mine always (can't watch TV without it) and when he comes for it, I give him the old one that I no longer use

@ greenpenwriter, please go and enjoy your peace but his absence wont be long he will come crawling to come and stay again...

#just thinking all this kind BIL cannot even help someone to wash plate so what is your usefulness#

Benignasweety:
How Apa afo dey do? Maybe it's language difference o. Any which way, it's herbal treatment.

they say Apa Afo also makes a child always sick and never adds weight..it is also a stomach thing and native treatment

greenpenwriter:


@Bolded1, these has beeen done on several ocassion. I mean a million times and it yielded no result. Rather, he wants to start seeing me as a nag and that I don't like his brother.

@Bolded2, it was with this option that they said I don't like his stay in my house and they held on to it. They even told my husband that I don't play or laugh with them. That I'll rather stay on my own than talk to them.

greenpenwriter:


@Bolded1, these has beeen done on several ocassion. I mean a million times and it yielded no result. Rather, he wants to start seeing me as a nag and that I don't like his brother.

@Bolded2, it was with this option that they said I don't like his stay in my house and they held on to it. They even told my husband that I don't play or laugh with them. That I'll rather stay on my own than talk to them.

Like I said, in-laws?, may God help we women.

Its obvious you husband it okay with his brother's attitude but I wouldn't advice you to go back on your words. Since arrangement has been made for him to leave already for your sanity sake let the plan go has agreed.

Try to ignore what ever your in-laws will say. Its difficult to please humans.

Can't remember but it's regulatory authority related and has something to do with babies not being able to cough phlegm out. Was the doctor who okayed it a paed?

eksbabe:
Found this really helpful, thank you.
About the benylin, was told to use 2.5ml as against 5ml which is to be used for children above 1. I got it at a pharmacy and my doctor said i could use it. If i may ask tho, why is cough syrup not appropriate for children under one? and what can be used for cough?