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My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by kapelvej: 6:49pm On Mar 01, 2018

Hello all

I am not new to nairaland, this is just a new account.
I am more than fed up with my mother in law and my wife, I think they are undermining me. Recently my mother in law went to visit my mum who was in another state with my eldest brother because we lost someone in the family, she spent a night there, she never told me before going, even while there, she never told me she was there, she came back almost 4 days now, she still did not tell me. Although my brother told me the day she came.

She also told my wife- her daughter about the journey, but this was only when she arrived. My wife told me about the journey, and I asked my wife why did her mother do that, she said her mother was of the opinion that if she tells any of us, we may not allow her to go. I try to tell my wife that it even makes it worse, she flared up and started getting angry and saying different things. I was not surprised because she always quarrels anytime I try to express my feelings over issues like that.

Now the big story is that before now, in the past 18 months my mother in law has been avoiding my calls, reason being that my wife did some nasty things, she heard of it, she was not sure of the action I would take, she told her pastor to call me, I got talking with the pastor, the pastor was trying his best to resolve the issue, at a time my mother in law wanted to manipulate the pastor against me, the man stood his ground- God bless him. My mother-in-law so scared the pastor will tell me about the manipulation she wanted to carry out started avoiding me and the pastor till now. we only spoke on those three occasions because they were Easter, Christmas and New year. I am already thinking of telling my wife to go and marry her mum because they are the same thing.

I am seriously thinking of making a huge trouble out of this to drive home the point that I am not as weak as both of them think. Especially for a woman that keeps threatening me with divorce and insults me at will, and a crafty mother in law who is only interested in herself and her daughter...

PLEASE I NEED YOUR KIND RESPONSES

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by basingstoke: 6:54pm On Mar 01, 2018

Time to stand your ground

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by bigtt76(f): 6:55pm On Mar 01, 2018

Picshure of moda in-law and wifey please so I can comment.

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by NwaAmaikpe: 7:00pm On Mar 01, 2018

I wish you could say the nasty things your wife did; that way my advice will be well-informed.

But the problem here is a strong bond between your wife and her mother.
Your mom-in-law has an unfathomable influence over your wife.
It's so strong that she will confide in her mom and plan with her without your knowledge. This could be detrimental to you and your position as head of the family.

But there's a solution.
Seduce your mother in-law, make her fall in love with you. Ravish her, make her feel like the only woman in the world, make her yearn for you.
Most importantly, try and bed her.

Consider this a dirty task you must do to recover your manhood.
That way her loyalty will change, she will see her daughter as a competitor and not an ally.

She will also know she has an unsavoury secret with you and will be more om your side than against you.

That way she would have lost complete influence over your wife.
Good luck with this.

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by YOUNGrapha(m): 7:26pm On Mar 01, 2018

NwaAmaikpe:

I wish you could say the nasty things your wife did; that way my advice will be well-informed.

But the problem here is a strong bond between your wife and her mother.
Your mom has an unfathomable influence over your wife.
It's so strong that she will confide in her mom and plan with her without your knowledge. This could be detrimental to you and your position as head of the family.

But there's a solution.
Seduce your mother in-law, make her fall in love with you. Ravish her, make her feel like the only woman in the world, make her yearn for you.
Most importantly, try and bed her.

Consider this a dirty task you must do to recover your manhood.
That way her loyalty will change, she will see her daughter as a competitor and not an ally.

She will also know she has an unsavoury secret with you and will be more om your side than against you.

That way she would have lost complete influence over your wife.
Good luck with this.

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by chii8(f): 7:28pm On Mar 01, 2018

Don't take third party into marriage, they will not hear.

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by YoungDaNaval(m): 7:32pm On Mar 01, 2018

NwaAmaikpe:

I wish you could say the nasty things your wife did; that way my advice will be well-informed.

But the problem here is a strong bond between your wife and her mother.
Your mom has an unfathomable influence over your wife.
It's so strong that she will confide in her mom and plan with her without your knowledge. This could be detrimental to you and your position as head of the family.

But there's a solution.
Seduce your mother in-law, make her fall in love with you. Ravish her, make her feel like the only woman in the world, make her yearn for you.
Most importantly, try and bed her.

Consider this a dirty task you must do to recover your manhood.
That way her loyalty will change, she will see her daughter as a competitor and not an ally.

She will also know she has an unsavoury secret with you and will be more om your side than against you.

That way she would have lost complete influence over your wife.
Good luck with this.

GBAM!!!

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by femolacqua(m): 7:38pm On Mar 01, 2018

basingstoke:
Time to stand your ground

Its because you have always acted as a gentle man, that's why they don't respect you. Sometimes you got to stand your ground and show who is boss.

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by Nutase: 7:49pm On Mar 01, 2018

Ff ya hat.

Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by uyiekpenm(f): 8:34pm On Mar 01, 2018

NwaAmaikpe:

I wish you could say the nasty things your wife did; that way my advice will be well-informed.

But the problem here is a strong bond between your wife and her mother.
Your mom has an unfathomable influence over your wife.
It's so strong that she will confide in her mom and plan with her without your knowledge. This could be detrimental to you and your position as head of the family.

But there's a solution.
Seduce your mother in-law, make her fall in love with you. Ravish her, make her feel like the only woman in the world, make her yearn for you.
Most importantly, try and bed her.

Consider this a dirty task you must do to recover your manhood.
That way her loyalty will change, she will see her daughter as a competitor and not an ally.

She will also know she has an unsavoury secret with you and will be more om your side than against you.

That way she would have lost complete influence over your wife.
Good luck with this.

oh my God, this guy has lost it completely.

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by BlackDBagba: 8:55pm On Mar 01, 2018

Errrr...what the other guy said.

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by thorpido(m): 9:01pm On Mar 01, 2018

Your wife is who you really need to deal with here.I don't think you should be bothered about your MIL.As long as she does not live with you,wherever she chooses to go without telling you should not bother you as long as she's not going to put you or your family in distress.

Deal with the 'nasty things' your wife did and resolve the issue once and for all.Forgive her if you need to and move on.I hope she's sorry for it and has amended her ways.
The issue of flaring up whenever you raise issues has to be dealt with.Perhaps you need to find a way to improve communication.If you are shouting and she's shouting,you will not be able to address issues.
You dated her I believe before marriage so you knew the kind of woman you were marrying.Find a way to manage her.

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by basingstoke: 10:14pm On Mar 01, 2018

NwaAmaikpe:

I wish you could say the nasty things your wife did; that way my advice will be well-informed.

But the problem here is a strong bond between your wife and her mother.
Your mom has an unfathomable influence over your wife.
It's so strong that she will confide in her mom and plan with her without your knowledge. This could be detrimental to you and your position as head of the family.

But there's a solution.
Seduce your mother in-law, make her fall in love with you. Ravish her, make her feel like the only woman in the world, make her yearn for you.
Most importantly, try and bed her.

Consider this a dirty task you must do to recover your manhood.
That way her loyalty will change, she will see her daughter as a competitor and not an ally.

She will also know she has an unsavoury secret with you and will be more om your side than against you.

That way she would have lost complete influence over your wife.
Good luck with this.

Evil, do you had time to write all those

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by kapelvej: 10:20pm On Mar 01, 2018

[quote author=NwaAmaikpe post=65476878] shocked

I wish you could say the nasty things your wife did; that way my advice will be well-informed.

But the problem here is a strong bond between your wife and her mother.
Your mom has an unfathomable influence over your wife.
It's so strong that she will confide in her mom and plan with her without your knowledge. This could be detrimental to you and your position as head of the family.

But there's a solution.
Seduce your mother in-law, make her fall in love with you. Ravish her, make her feel like the only woman in the world, make her yearn for you.
Most importantly, try and bed her.

Consider this a dirty task you must do to recover your manhood.
That way her loyalty will change, she will see her daughter as a competitor and not an ally.

She will also know she has an unsavoury secret with you and will be more om your side than against you.

That way she would have lost complete influence over your wife.
Good luck with this. But I believe I have let so many things go, I have forgiven everything that needs to be forgiven, why can't they respect me for that, rather they see it as weakness. On a good day, there should be no problem at all when my MIL visits my parents. I said she has been avoiding my for over a year now, because she was caught red-handed in trying to use her pastor to manipulate me, she actually told her pastor to tell me it does not matter, but the PASTOR simply told her issues of infidelity must not be swept under the carpet. The man was so angry and told me to be careful this was after the man tried to arrange a meeting between all of us. From that same time my MIL, STOPPED attending that church and has been avoiding me. Thank God the man stood his ground.
Also, the reason for going without telling me amounts to undermining. She said she did not tell me because I will not allow her... This is where the problem lies. why do it when you know I will not allow it.

Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by OkpaAkuEriEri(m): 10:22pm On Mar 01, 2018

Lalasticlala
Biko bia yere Dede a aka.
OP b a man.
Ur wife pple r remotn u.

Wake up

Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by kapelvej: 10:23pm On Mar 01, 2018

femolacqua:

Its because you have always acted as a gentle man, that's why they don't respect you. Sometimes you got to stand your ground and show who is boss.

you are right, I have forgiven so many things in the past, and they are all hunting me now. I think they see me as weak. But I will through a surprise soon

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by kapelvej: 10:25pm On Mar 01, 2018

thorpido:
Your wife is who you really need to deal with here.I don't think you should be bothered about your MIL.As long as she does not live with you,wherever she chooses to go without telling you should not bother you as long as she's not going to put you or your family in distress.

Deal with the 'nasty things' your wife did and resolve the issue once and for all.Forgive her if you need to and move on.I hope she's sorry for it and has amended her ways.
The issue of flaring up whenever you raise issues has to be dealt with.Perhaps you need to find a way to improve communication.If you are shouting and she's shouting,you will not be able to address issues.
You dated her I believe before marriage so you knew the kind of woman you were marrying.Find a way to manage her.

My brother, you are right, thank you very much, truth is that, she has all these characters during our dating, but you know all these pastors with their forgive, forgive and forgive. I even called off the marriage twice,but elders in Church intervened, but the whole matter don get k leg now

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by MetroBaba1(m): 11:56pm On Mar 01, 2018

kapelvej:
you are right, I have forgiven so many things in the past, and they are all hunting me now. I think they see me as weak. But I will through a surprise soon

I Dislike Weak Men

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by kapelvej: 8:49am On Mar 02, 2018

MetroBaba1:

I Dislike Weak Men

My brother not as you think

Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by Nobody: 9:36am On Mar 02, 2018

I was in ur shoes before I decided to owe my spirit peace and let her go. Unhappiness can kill.

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by LadySarah: 9:59am On Mar 02, 2018

kapelvej:
My brother, you are right, thank you very much, truth is that, she has all these characters during our dating, but you know all these pastors with their forgive, forgive and forgive. I even called off the marriage twice,but elders in Church intervened, but the whole matter don get k leg now

when will ppl learn.Now pls call them to come and save your marriage.

You are not divorcing anythingoo if a child is involved.I'm telling you now

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by kapelvej: 10:09am On Mar 02, 2018

LadySarah:

when will ppl learn.Now pls call them to come and save your marriage.

You are not divorcing anythingoo if a child is involved.I'm telling you now

Lokking back now, I know I was wrong, i could have been more decisive in my decisions. It is not as easy as you think, If you do not forgive, they will call you a sinner who needs redemption, they will point it out to you that as Christians you must learn to forgive no matter what, but now i can see that everybody was just after their interest

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by Nobody: 10:28am On Mar 02, 2018

kapelvej:
Lokking back now, I know I was wrong, i could have been more decisive in my decisions. It is not as easy as you think, If you do not forgive, they will call you a sinner who needs redemption, they will point it out to you that as Christians you must learn to forgive no matter what, but now i can see that everybody was just after their interest

Hogwash! At the expense of your sanity and peace?

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by Gloriagee(f): 11:42am On Mar 02, 2018

Dude, ko ye mi. Why on earth does ur MIL need to tell u she's going to see ur mum for? shocked

Can't ur mum give u that update? So someone must announce a good deed before doing that.

You are making a good deed seem like a disfavor. You guys were bereaved n she went to commiserate with ur mum, u dey vex. What's her crime?

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by Heebah: 3:36pm On Mar 02, 2018

Gloriagee:
Dude, ko ye mi. Why on earth does ur MIL need to tell u she's going to see ur mum for? Can't ur mum give u that update? So someone must announce a good deed before doing that.

You are making a good deed seem like a disfavor. You guys were bereaved n she went to commiserate with ur mum, u dey vex. What's her crime?

Exactly my thoughts. Op,why r u angry about her action?

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by kapelvej: 4:17pm On Mar 02, 2018

Gloriagee:
Dude, ko ye mi. Why on earth does ur MIL need to tell u she's going to see ur mum for? Can't ur mum give u that update? So someone must announce a good deed before doing that.

You are making a good deed seem like a disfavor. You guys were bereaved n she went to commiserate with ur mum, u dey vex. What's her crime?

Thanks for your response, but if you read the story again you will see where the problem lies, if we lost someone, I should be the one she should start with, not jumping to see my mum without commiserating with me.And kindly see the part where I said she has been avoiding contact with me because of her trying to manipulate me through her pastor.

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by kapelvej: 4:17pm On Mar 02, 2018

Heebah:
Exactly my thoughts. Op,why r u angry about her action?

Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by Gloriagee(f): 4:33pm On Mar 02, 2018

Oga, whilst I'm sorry about your loss, ur initial post was all about the failure of ur MIL to inform you that she visited ur mum, before and after the visit. Which in my honest opinion is not a crime.

She's so bad but she travelled to commiserate with your mum. You are overflogging this issue and there are better ways to handle it. Just don't set ur home on fire trying to get rid of a cockroach.

kapelvej:
Thanks for your response, but if you read the story again you will see where the problem lies, if we lost someone, I should be the one she should start with, not jumping to see my mum without commiserating with me.And kindly see the part where I said she has been avoiding contact with me because of her trying to manipulate me through her pastor.

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by eyinjuege: 7:52pm On Mar 02, 2018

kapelvej:
Thanks for your response, but if you read the story again you will see where the problem lies, if we lost someone, I should be the one she should start with, not jumping to see my mum without commiserating with me.And kindly see the part where I said she has been avoiding contact with me because of her trying to manipulate me through her pastor.

You said she's avoiding you, not your mother.
She went to commiserate with your mum, you shouldn't be angry about that unless you expect her to extend the beef she has with you to your mum.

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by nkwuocha: 9:38pm On Mar 02, 2018

The op is petty! undecided

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Re: My Mother-In-Law And My Wife Undermine Me by Dottore: 10:29pm On Mar 02, 2018

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