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Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by UjuJoan2: 5:22pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
northvietnam: The man that refused to make an honest woman out of her and wed her nko? Where is his own love? If things didn't turn around for her where would he and his love be now? The truth is that he took her for granted because he thought being a man he can do whatever he likes and get away with it. Well Good apparently had other plans. Men need to know that getting married legally is not a favor, it's a responsibility. I 3 Likes |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by Shhhh01(f): 5:23pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
comodo:Please school the guy he obviously is confused. |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by Oyindidi(f): 5:23pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
Shhhh01:He was responsible for the pregnancy o. Heartless man |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by Nobody: 5:23pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
My daily justice boner quota has been fulfilled |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by Shhhh01(f): 5:24pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
UjuJoan2:1 million gbosa for u 3 Likes |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by Oyindidi(f): 5:24pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
Shhhh01:I like you |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by Shhhh01(f): 5:25pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
Oyindidi:Imagine? No heart at all. Him and that his useless family who thought highly of them selves and not of the woman or her unborn child at that time. mtchewwww 1 Like |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by Shhhh01(f): 5:25pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
Oyindidi:I like u too my sister. lol |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by Shhhh01(f): 5:27pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
northvietnam:That is the story of the airforce officer. all kids aint the same. remember the woman is not saying they should denounce their dad, she simply does not want him to follow her to texas. her kids can always come for hols and see their dad. is it by force ? 1 Like |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by Nobody: 5:27pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
northvietnam: I'd say screw him I know an idiot who impregnated My friend, did introduction and refused to marry her after 2 kids. The guy is irresponsible 2 Likes |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by Oyindidi(f): 5:28pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
Shhhh01:Men can make you feel like taking your precious life. No pity for that beast. She must've felt worthless. A pregnant lady going through all that trauma. Madam kuku give your children your surname. 1 Like |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by Shhhh01(f): 5:30pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
donnaD:If it was ur daughter that this happened to nko? Also what the husband was supposed to do for her, her father did (by making her a better woman and making her feel good about herself). Do u know what she and her family had gone through? Guy remember she is human. if it was me I would do the same o. when I needed the man he was not there, now he needs me cos I have made something out of myself. mba na that is not a real man. 3 Likes |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by emperormossad(m): 5:30pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
Seeing these comments, I'm kind of happy. People are seeing it from different views so it's enriching to say the least. But I have a slight issue. That's the issue of 3rd party interference in relationships/marriages. Does anyone think her dad was a little bit more 'nosy' than he should have been. I practically think he ran her life all along. Just an observation. I don't like that, it doesn't allow those people gel in their own way. |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by Shhhh01(f): 5:33pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
emperormossad:nope. I read the story. the father did nothing wrong. the husband made the father interfere. and the father did a good thing. it is his daughter. no body can love ur child more than u. what the guy and his family felt was not necessary, has caused him big, cos they had the upper hand cos she was pregnant out of wed lock. the father saved his daughter's face and if it were me I will do more than that for my child. 2 Likes |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by northvietnam(m): 5:39pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
Shhhh01: so who will now b doing D Daddy work in Texas... Being a single mom in America where child rights prevails aint easy Oooo... |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by emperormossad(m): 5:42pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
Shhhh01: Yes I quite agree with you no doubt. Listen, no one is innocent, like everyone has said. He messed up real time. And deserves whatever he gets. I'm just saying, if I were the lady, I'd need to ask myself why I'm still bearing a grudge this long also. Did I really forgive him? Babe it's a coin. It has two sides. To err is human, to forgive is divine. She's got every right to act whichever way though, it's her life, her decisions to make. Lemme ask you How long can you hold a grudge? 1 Like |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by northvietnam(m): 5:43pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
UjuJoan2: I think a man that fathered 3 kids with a lady, spent 9years with her in same Roof should be forgiving... women r just teaching we single men Good lessons... 9fvcking years, 9years... that women is Devilish 2 Likes |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by eyinjuege: 5:43pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
It would be interesting to know his reasons for adamantly refusing a court marriage years ago. northvietnam: I think the lessons young men should pick is that "do unto others what you want done to you." That is one of the golden rules of life. Why wasn't the court wedding important to him then, when it was obviously very important to her and her family? Why didn't he take it serious then? Why was he so adamant. A genuine answer to that question will make it clear if the wife is wrong in feeling the way she does or not. Don't forget she is also human. Was he trying to prevent her from having access to his future wealth then? Was he planning to be polygamous or he just didnt want the stress then? Our lives are living examples to those who look up to us, including children and spouses. If you teach your wife and children that it's alright to cheat and keep concubines, they are learning seriously from you. They will also grow up to feel its alright to cheat and have concubines including your wife , male and female children. Thats why i just laugh when some men are lamenting about that wives are cheating around town now. They have learnt from the best- their fathers, brothers and husbands. Same thing as this issue of court wedding, this man has shown his wife it's not important, and its not a do or die affair especially since it seemed so important to her then. She has lived without it for 9 years, has built her life around it for 9 good years. It will be hard to suddenly start seeing it as important to have a court marriage. She has actually realised her life is going on in the right direction even without bearing an official Mrs from the courts or church. What is the incentive for her to now want to start bearing it now? Its not really about forgiveness now. What is the ulterior motive for the guy to now suddenly want his wife to bear Mrs? That's why I asked initially his reasons for refusing one in the first place as that would clarify a lot of things. 7 Likes |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by linearity: 5:45pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
northvietnam: I don’t understand your logic that, the guy wins simply because he is her kids’ father.....is the opposite not also true? i.e. she is the guy’s kids’ mother? If you alleged that, ‘..she never loved him at the first place...’, wouldn’t that be said of the husband as well? 4 Likes |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by northvietnam(m): 5:48pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
Mariangeles: Nothing like killing her love... Love is like being a football fanatic ... ur football team will break ur heart in a match yet u keep loving them.. love is like Addiction... she cant tell me she ever loved that man cuz if she did, 9 years is enough to let go... |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by Nobody: 5:53pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
Smh |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by linearity: 5:54pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
emperormossad: The lady clearly stated that, she did not forgive him and that, she only agreed to go along with the marriage because she was expecting and does not want to give birth to the kid out of wedlock. For those saying, why did she then continue to birth kids with this guy, if she has not forgiven him and have fallen out out of love with him. For many people these issues are separate...about 50% of marriages end up in divorce and more than half of the remaining 50% are still in their husband’s home not because love is flourishing...they come to realize that love is not everything and that, there are many other life’s pursuits that are more than love; so they have settled and carried their cross that, they have missed the boating of marrying for love. 2 Likes |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by northvietnam(m): 5:56pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
linearity: no cuz he would have opted for Abortion... or just walked away and body will beat him. but he stayed and took up the responsibility of being a father and even went as far as 3rd baby... the family and the girl is just so pained cuz she let her father who might be a Deacon( in one of those church )down by not having the So called white wedding..( church demanded for court wedding cert b4 they could be wedded)... As far as he paid her dowry, they should not force him into court wedding |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by Mariangeles(f): 5:57pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
northvietnam:If you think a woman's love can be compared to the love of a football club, then you're in for a shocker! |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by northvietnam(m): 5:58pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
Mariangeles: lolzzzz.... yeah i sounded weird there... |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by Mariangeles(f): 5:59pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
northvietnam:...and you think that is love? don't make me laugh.... 2 Likes |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by ifynwa8(f): 6:00pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
AFONJACOW: Hahahahaha men, men, men the things you to to women only God will judge ooo. Men should remember that they are still under the headship of Jesus Christ and he don't misuse his authority. 2 Likes |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by donnaD(f): 6:02pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
Shhhh01:my sister this man paid her bride price by doing so he has removed the most important shame from her and family shame.a couple's qurrel should not last more than a day. 1 Like |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by thesicilian: 6:03pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
Biglittlelois:Haba, babe! Did my goat eat your yam? What I said was just an opinion now, nothing personal. |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by thesicilian: 6:07pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
Shhhh01:Personally, I don't think the guy has learned his lesson. He just wants to legalize the marriage so he can relocate abroad with her. He's an opportunist, bu for t how long can she carry a grudge against him? She seems to still be on the fence after 9yrs, she should take a stand: either with him or against him. |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by fykes(m): 6:11pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
I have only one question here, HOW DO U LIVE WITH SOMEONE FOR 9YEARS WIYHOUT FORGIVING HIM?? #FEARWOMEN# |
Re: Man Who Refused To Marry His Wife In Court For 9 Years, Now Begs To Wed Her by Yankiss(m): 6:12pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
HeWrites: Convince your dad to allow you do the needful. Do the court thing with him. His refusal in the first place is blessing in disguise. He has learnt his lessons, I suppose. If you refuse, consider the consequences of working abroad and your husband at home. It will put a heavy strain on the marriage. Unless you are contemplating divorce. |
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