Acidosis:
The idea is totally cool but I'd rather call it stipend (pocket money). This should be done whether she works or not. Besides, if you marry a good woman, it will never be out of place to give her an unrestricted access to your atm card(s). The fact that some women have turned themselves to yahoogirls does not affect an ideal family structure, how ideal partners should relate with themselves and their [ideal] children.

eph12:

If you insist your wife must stay at home then she should be given allowance. You can't ask your wife to stay at home and drop her passion because she got married to you. What happened to her dreams?

Born2Breed:
I[s]f the man decides the woman should stay at home and work as nanny,house help and whatever then its logical that she is paid.

Most people work 9-5 but the work of a house wife is 12am to 12am.

Taking care of a home is creaDVD and women deserves some akolaid.....(in Igwe Tupac's voice[/s])

Elder001:



Can't you tell the man that you don't want jto be a full time housewive?.. lazy things

victrick105:


so the man also didn't sacrifice his dreams... or you think his dream is to toil day and night, under the sun and rain, even the likes of Hillary Clinton,okonjo iwela and so on, one time or the other ones took a break to look after there family, women of today lack wisdom, does dreams should have been chased when they were still single, not now that they have kids, the very moment you give birth, the needs and dreams of your kids come first, you can't do two things at the same time, it's either you choose not to have kids for the main time and chase your dreams, or sacrifice your dreams for that of your kids, then go back to chasing those dreams when the kids are of age to know there left from there right... both parents have actually sacrificed a lot,so ladies should stop making it look as if it's only they who give up there all,just to play there part in the family.

Elder001:



Can't you tell the man that you don't want to be a full time housewive?.. lazy things

Born2Breed:



They are here again...Methuselah's!

Yen yen yen!

Tomorrow you start preaching respect your husband's! Poor things.

eph12:

Some men do insist their wives stay at home. They actually want to work but they are refused

eph12:

That's you. I hate ladies that are ambitionless, those that their only goal in life is to procreate and keep the home. My woman should be able to grow a career of her own. The home should be kept by both parents. I see no reason why independent ladies shouldn't be supported and loved.

You are toiling night and day because you refuse to let your woman help you. Let her be a helper to you. You will live longer that way. But if you insist that she shouldn't work, then its either she gets some allowances or there's an account you open for her and housekeep. She shouldn't come to you for every damn thing she needs or the house needs.

pocohantas:
I agree to this.
Not salary, but she is entitled to stipends.

I can't even imagine that life.
So, I rather not be a housewife.

I salute all the housewives ahbeg!

Elder001:


The woman can insist she doesn't want to be a full time housewife ...She's not a slave

Some lazy ladies immediately become happy when some foolish husbands say such..

victrick105:


I never said she shouldn't have an ambition... but must do the right thing at the right time... most of this young ladies never talk about there ambition when they are single and free, why must it now be when they are married that they remember that they have dreams to chase, it's doing the right thing at the wrong time... most of them even start planning marriage at their early 20's or even in school, when they get married, they now remember what career they want to pursue, why do you think they do that?... it's simply because they are too damn dependent and want to use there husbands to get to the top, when he refuses, they turn to feminist and remember that there husband is a hindering block to there fame,if a lady wants to really chase her dreams then she should do that b4 marriage so as not to get distracted by her kids and duties in the home, a perfect example is Linda ikeji... even upon societal pressure, such ladies have resolved to remain focused, not minding what people have to say... last, last, you go soon marry, born picking.

Chukapage:
soo who will pay the man for providing for his family since you need to get paid to look after your own home as a woman....lets balance it will you also pay the man for providing for HIS own home??since its all about equality....

Chukapage:
soo who will pay the man for providing for his family since you need to get paid to look after your own home as a woman....lets balance it will you also pay the man for providing for HIS own home??since its all about equality....

Elder001:



Looking for a way to justify your laziness.. smh

I pity any man that will marry a liability in this era.

pocohantas:


You must have lost some brain power, thinking and asking this question. Sadly, you wanna drag me into same mess...smh!

Chukapage:
you big old idiat answer the simple question stop using the dumb old trick of using insults to steer an argument....gender equality things if a woman has to get paid for looking after her own home who will pay the man for providing for his family ...according to you feminist a woman now has to get paid for her own responsibility as a gender equality advocate who will pay the man for his responsibility??simple question

Born2Breed:


[s]Keep justifying your poverty!!!

This is what happens when a man is being intentionally silly, do you think its easy to manage a home?

Switch roles with your wife for a month if you won't add more grey hairs.

If you want your wife to stop working and be a full time house wife then you must pay her.

Don't you dare mention me again.[[/s]

eph12:

If he can't pay her allowances then let her work. Simple

pocohantas:


You're not very smart...I know

Feminist, the favourite word of NL males bereft of common sense.

Elder001:



Answer his questions and stop the insults..

You're not a kid. I expected more from you. smh

pocohantas:


You're not very smart...I know

Feminist, the favourite word of NL males bereft of common sense.

pocohantas:


No sense in his question.
Not when it is laced with words like "equality" "feminist".
I have been on NL, long enough to know that when a question has those words in it...the person is seeking to fight, not to be enlightened.

Once again, zero sense in his question.
You can answer it, seeing how you prance about NL.
You have a daily target of mentions/posts?

shevon:


Of all of them, Eku Edewor is the only person that is thinking rationally. I am not in support for any woman not to be empowered, either by way of getting a paid employment or having a business of her own, either started by herself of the husband: every woman deserves to be independent.
But in a situation where she finds herself as a stay at home wife/mother and the husband does does not even have enough to save after handling all the house expenses (including taking care of the wife's needs) where is he supposed to get the money to pay the wife salary? If the man can comfortably afford to take of the home and also have a side chick (like some men do ) and does not think he should pay his wife salary, then he deserves any name he is called within the context of this discuss.
I understand some men have trust issues, like Sai B (if you are thinking Bubu, na you sabi) and would force their wives to stay at home instead of being ogled by other men, then you should have a plan to give her what she would have been earning if she was forced out of a business or job.
So many factors are supposed to be considered when discussing this type of topic, it is not fair to just generally say stay at home mothers or wives should be paid salaries (not that I am against it if the partner can afford it)

Chukapage:
leave that reverse psychology trick you want to pull it won't work!! answer the question simple ..stop crying nairaland males my name is not nairaland males..you see now that you scared of answering that simple question..you see how biased and hypocritical you feminist people are?? its just all about what will favour the women but when it favours men you scream gender equality..,gender discrimination blah blah ..what pains me is you folks only want the good side of what it can offer but hate the other side that carries responsibilities at per a woman who wants to be equal with a man...you lots only applies it when it favours you!! how many times as a Nigeria feminist have gone dutch?? do you share financial responsibilities equally?? when it comes to this aspect you folks remember his the "man" he should "lead" but when the time of enjoying the benefits and incentives come you bring out your lazy hypocritical self and shouting feminism ,equality pouring spit up and down..Just look at you for example you can't even boldly and bluntly answer that question because you know it won't favour your hypocrisy

pocohantas:


You think I will read this?

You wish!