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This morning my mother and I got into a heated argument. I dont want to go into detail but it had to with finances. I contribute weekly to the house and I'm working, couldnt do so this week as i’ve spent a lot of money. Ive also got my own debt that im paying off, from school. I’m 24. My mother has been in a very emotional state as of lately, and i think it partially has to do with her being lonely. She doesn’t have many friends, shes single and i believe she’s still not over the fact that my dad left her 20 years ago. Shes currently 54 years old. I try my best to relate with her, but i’ve been isolating myself away from her recently due to her over emotional state. She tends to lash out on me, over the slightest things.

Now this morning after stating that i wont be able to contribute she became very angry, and began to lash out. I’m working hard on getting my own place, but right now I have to do my best whilst living with her. We got into a heated argument and she began to reign curses on me, talking about how i will suffer in this life, I will never see peace, saying that i’m dead to her, and so on. I was honestly amazed, i dont take curses lightly. At this point, im just in a state of confusion. I genuinely think my mother is depressed and I want her to get help but at the same time I dont want to have anything to do with her. Her behaviour is driving me further and further away from her, and I cant cope because its affecting my mental state.

If any body can relate please share your stories or advise on what I can do. Those curses have really cut me deep and even after apologising to her for arguing i’m not at peace. Mother to child curses are serious, I'm honestly trying my best.

Speak words of blessings to yourself.Those curses will have no place in your life.
It's a good thing you know your mom is depressed and emotional. Try to avoid confrontations with her as much as possible.
You didn't put her in that situation but be empathic.
Explain carefully things to her and avoid arguments much as possible.If you don't have money to contribute,explain why rather than just shun her.
Whatever you can do to help her,like medical treatment,please do.
Work on getting your own place too.

Those curses can never come to past.
She rained those curses out of anger. It could be you infuriated her but you need not worry.


There is nothing like curse because whom God has blessed no man can curse.

Those curses can never come to past.
She rained those curses out of anger. It could be you infuriated her but you need not worry.


There is nothing like curse because whom God has blessed no man can curse.


The only advise I have for you is to make peace with her. Go and pacify/mollify her.


When you get married and you put to bed she is the one that would come and do "omugor"(taking care of the baby for 1 to 2 months) and you need her help.

So it's unto you to make peace or become rude.

Gobe da cike. La Kia anya

Don't be deceived that her words would have no impact in your life. That you're restless over the curse she laid on you is a pointer that you did her wrong, else, why did you apologise? Mind you, I don't support a mother cursing her child 'cause it's wrong but some Nigerian parents who know it's wrong would still do it thinking they're punishing you.

Apologise to her again, and tell her to revert the curses and speak words of blessings over your life. It's very necessary.

If you did nothing,it will never come to pass but if you did something bad to her,it will come to pass

I will suggest you go back and apologize till she reverts those curses and pray intensely for you.You know what she's going through and yet still went ahead to have heated argument with her! Beside you should always find a way to resolve issues with your mum amicably.
With her lonely State, be on the look out for her by loving her the more, when ever you are around her, engage her more in conversation, give her little gifts you can afford and just keep loving her!

Hey man. If u r on a wrong spiritual stand point then it will affect you . But as long as the result of the curse is not based on your mistake but an argument, nothing and I repeat nothing will happen to you. Cos since your mind is pure, you make sure that whatever is needed, you provide, then my guy carry go. Else try and find a place far away from her or else make her seek spiritual help. Mothers are golden, yes, but give her space then try as much as possible to seek spiritual help on her behalf too

my dear, don't dwell on those words, she said that out of frustration and am so sure she really regret saying those words


tomorrow when atmosphere must have be calmed, tell her how her words really hurt you she will apologize and bless you instead.


my mum behaves like that sometimes, she will tell you to die, you are this, you are blah, blah but when I look at her I understand that it's frustration trolling her

on normal day, she blesses us and can give up her life for us.

Kylekent59:
Those curses can never come to past.
She rained those curses out of anger. It could be you infuriated her but you need not worry.


There is nothing like curse because whom God has blessed no man can curse.


The only advise I have for you is to make peace with her. Go and pacify/mollify her.


When you get married and you put to bed she is the one that would come and do "omugor"(taking care of the baby for 1 to 2 months) and you need her help.

So it's unto you to make peace or become rude.

Gobe da cike. La Kia anya

@bolded. Oga, why na? This is not a words-synonyms class.

The Bible says '...the curse causeless shall not come.' If you have done nothing to warrant a curse, then its pronouncement is in vain.

Maskoff:
This morning my mother and I got into a heated argument. I dont want to go into detail but it had to with finances. I contribute weekly to the house and I'm working, couldnt do so this week as i’ve spent a lot of money. Ive also got my own debt that im paying off, from school. I’m 24. My mother has been in a very emotional state as of lately, and i think it partially has to do with her being lonely. She doesn’t have many friends, shes single and i believe she’s still not over the fact that my dad left her 20 years ago. Shes currently 54 years old. I try my best to relate with her, but i’ve been isolating myself away from her recently due to her over emotional state. She tends to lash out on me, over the slightest things.

Now this morning after stating that i wont be able to contribute she became very angry, and began to lash out. I’m working hard on getting my own place, but right now I have to do my best whilst living with her. We got into a heated argument and she began to reign curses on me, talking about how i will suffer in this life, I will never see peace, saying that i’m dead to her, and so on. I was honestly amazed, i dont take curses lightly. At this point, im just in a state of confusion. I genuinely think my mother is depressed and I want her to get help but at the same time I dont want to have anything to do with her. Her behaviour is driving me further and further away from her, and I cant cope because its affecting my mental state.

If any body can relate please share your stories or advise on what I can do. Those curses have really cut me deep and even after apologising to her for arguing i’m not at peace. Mother to child curses are serious, I'm honestly trying my best.

It will be erased if you do what is right to her.

Na wa o...find her a baby to care for. You could get a Payless nanny job for her, it enlivens older women's mood. We did it for my grandma and it worked like magic. Pele.

They are just empty words, unless you choose to “curse” yourself by believing in their potency.

@maskoff get your mum a puppy or a man for emotional support. Don't let anyone drain you emotionally with negative vibes. Next time be silent.

You have stated what her frustrations were right? , so just think nothing about it.. you said it was a heated argument... So, it was said out of anger in that heated moment...

Latty88:
I will suggest you go back and apologize till she reverts those curses and pray intensely for you.You know what she's going through and yet still went ahead to have heated argument with her! Beside you should always find a way to resolve issues with your mum amicably.
With her lonely State, be on the look out for her by loving her the more, when ever you are around her, engage her more in conversation, give her little gifts you can afford and just keep loving her!

You're the only one with a working brain on this thread and I guess it's simply because most of the commenters are kids or teenagers.

One asshole even went as far saying the curse can never come to pass because the mother issued those curses out of anger.

Help me ask him if it is the curses issued out of joy & gladness that comes to pass - oponu.

Now, @OP, if you love yourself, better go back with that weekly contribution of yours including additional money, ankara, perfume, beverages & non-alcoholic wine - and apologize to your mother and tell her to rescind those curses & also pray for you.

You're still 24, when your problem starts as a result of this curse, all the assholes who are running their mouths on this thread will be in their villages minding their business. You will be alone.

Go and ask any elderly men/women if there is any curse that comes to pass faster than those issued by ones parent.

No Jesus, no Yahweh & no Allah can deliver you except you go back to your mother.

Go to Mountain of Fire, you'll see "your people" praying "break by fire, break by fire, break by fire" for more than 20 years, their case remains the same. I am not mocking anybody oooo - odabo!

those are rhymes and rhetorics, not curses.

Reject it with the blood of Jesus and speak blessings to yourself.

Also let her know that curses have negative impacts especially from biological parents so if she wants your progress in life she must desist from curses

Also try to work on your attitude to avoid future reoccurence of such

Too toxic for your wellbeing. Stay out of her range.

Your mind would be playing tricks on you. The solution for this is to be a person of integrity, love all men equally and do no harm. let your words and actions align perfectly and watch how fast you evolve beyond the reach of curses.

Practice stilling and calming the mind in a lotus position every morning. this alone is capable of vanquishing even the fear of death from you.

thorpido:
Speak words of blessings to yourself.Those curses will have no place in your life.
It's a good thing you know your mom is depressed and emotional. Try to avoid confrontations with her as much as possible.
You didn't put her in that situation but be empathic.
Explain carefully things to her and avoid arguments much as possible.If you don't have money to contribute,explain why rather than just shun her.
Whatever you can do to help her,like medical treatment,please do.
Work on getting your own place too.

you just spoke my mind. People get scared when they are cursed especially by parents. The truth is, if you u know you are not guilty, those curses will never affect you. Once there is a misunderstanding between me and any person (parents inclusive) and I am not at fault, they can curse till they are exhausted, I don't get bugged.

Cc Maskoff

Going by some assertions here, a child has no rights of his/her own in dealing with the parents.

Well, that's a lie cos every human, adult or child deserves respect. Even the bible that states about honoring ones' parents, also went to admonish parents not to provoke their children to wrath.

Poster, your mum cursing you over some monthly contribution and heated argument speaks more of your mothers' personality, not yours. She has deep issues which she needs to address, but won't, hence the transference of anger. Like a nairalander already said; you didn't put her in that situation but try to be more empathic. That's all.

Do the much you can for her, but never mortgage your life and happiness for anyone. You have a whole life ahead of you to live, so don't let anyone walk all over you and steal your peace. Not even your parents have that right.

Cheers!

You live in a house

There is light bills
Water bills

Food
Security bills
Generator
Etc

You want to live for free and not contribute anything because you have plans

You have frustrated the poor woman and because it is Nigeria where she cannot take you to small claims court she resorted to curses.

These things are very expensive these days. Even when I go to visit people and spend a night or two I ensure I contribute to these Bills but a working adult in Nigeria will want osho free and feel entitled to it

Eketem:
You live in a house

There is light bills
Water bills

Food
Security bills
Generator
Etc

You want to live for free and not contribute anything because you have plans

You have frustrated the poor woman and because it is Nigeria where she cannot take you to small claims court she resorted to curses.

These things are very expensive these days. Even when I go to visit people and spend a night or two I ensure I contribute to these Bills but a working adult in Nigeria will want osho free and feel entitled to it

There is a reason English comprehension is taught in secondary schools in Nigeria. It is for people like you not to go outside and disgrace your teacher.

Maskoff:
This morning my mother and I got into a heated argument. I dont want to go into detail but it had to with finances. I contribute weekly to the house and I'm working, couldnt do so this week as i’ve spent a lot of money. Ive also got my own debt that im paying off, from school. I’m 24. My mother has been in a very emotional state as of lately, and i think it partially has to do with her being lonely. She doesn’t have many friends, shes single and i believe she’s still not over the fact that my dad left her 20 years ago. Shes currently 54 years old. I try my best to relate with her, but i’ve been isolating myself away from her recently due to her over emotional state. She tends to lash out on me, over the slightest things.

Now this morning after stating that i wont be able to contribute she became very angry, and began to lash out. I’m working hard on getting my own place, but right now I have to do my best whilst living with her. We got into a heated argument and she began to reign curses on me, talking about how i will suffer in this life, I will never see peace, saying that i’m dead to her, and so on. I was honestly amazed, i dont take curses lightly. At this point, im just in a state of confusion. I genuinely think my mother is depressed and I want her to get help but at the same time I dont want to have anything to do with her. Her behaviour is driving me further and further away from her, and I cant cope because its affecting my mental state.

If any body can relate please share your stories or advise on what I can do. Those curses have really cut me deep and even after apologising to her for arguing i’m not at peace. Mother to child curses are serious, I'm honestly trying my best.

WhatsApp or call me on 07053280163. I'm 24, male and have been cursed by my mother heavily in a situation similar to yours. I swear to God that i have no crazy motive. just chat me up and i'll tell you some stuff and how the curse was raised (by a redeem pastor).

Words are powerful, much more curses from one's mother. Apologized to her, tell her you will contribute as soon as things fall in places. Ask her to pray for you while you go on your knees. your mum is lonley depressed and broke. Is she working ? Being idle could run her down mentally. And please , no matter your financial commitment, put the house first. While I was till with my parents I make sure I gave my quota every month even when it was not convenient to do so.

If she curse you. Scream back and tell her never curse you to your face again .
Scream like you want people from the next two streets to come .
See wetin go happen.