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Need Advice From A Lawyer by Kharez(op): 11:34am On May 12, 2018

Not married but living together and have 2 kids. Well, we always have family issues and fights like every other couple, but the problem i am having with her is that any time we are having our small misunderstanding, she always gets physical, insulting and abusive. I always try to walk away during an argument or small misunderstanding with her.

I know it's tempting to answer the question of whether or not we should stay together for the kids with a simple "yes." As a society we tend to think that kids will do better if parents stay together; that's what our grandparents' generation did, or tried to do. A mediocre marriage is better for kids than no marriage, right?

I don't think i can handle it any longer because i'm loosing my cool this days. I earn 80k monthly and i'm willing to leave the apartment for her and kids.

Please much should i give her as child support monthly?

Re: Need Advice From A Lawyer by uboma(m): 12:22pm On May 12, 2018

Knowledge of the ages of the children and the occupation of their mother will be useful here before any sound advice can be proffered.

Re: Need Advice From A Lawyer by Kharez(op): 12:51pm On May 12, 2018

uboma:
Knowledge of the ages of the children and the occupation of their mother will be useful here before any sound advice can be proffered.

Two daughters (5years and 1 year), she works in tincan but she stopped working when she was 3 months pregnant.

Re: Need Advice From A Lawyer by ashjay001(m): 2:20pm On May 12, 2018

Nothing u give, will ever be enough. Esp, with daughters. Have u calculated, how much u spend weekly, on d home? Can u afford to spend that, twice over?(afterall, u will av to run two homes)

Re: Need Advice From A Lawyer by Nobody: 2:53pm On May 12, 2018

i think 20-25k will do since you earn 80k, while she works to support her kids too..... but sha you will be responsible for their school fees and medical.

My opinion....

Try work it out with your wife if you can for the sake of the children.

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Re: Need Advice From A Lawyer by Nobody: 6:09pm On May 12, 2018

What is always causing the problem?

Is separation the only alternative?

Have you tried counselling?

Try to work things out with her, perhaps because you have not wifed her,that's why she is always frustrated and trying to vent it on you (her supposed source of frustration)

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Re: Need Advice From A Lawyer by ahnie: 6:51pm On May 12, 2018

Every thread that grace this family section z about divorce /separation lipsrsealed

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Re: Need Advice From A Lawyer by Aim07(f): 8:19pm On May 12, 2018

Kharez:
Not married but living together and have 2 kids. Well, we always have family issues and fights like every other couple, but the problem i am having with her is that any time we are having our small misunderstanding, she always gets physical, insulting and abusive. I always try to walk away during an argument or small misunderstanding with her.

I know it's tempting to answer the question of whether or not we should stay together for the kids with a simple "yes." As a society we tend to think that kids will do better if parents stay together; that's what our grandparents' generation did, or tried to do. A mediocre marriage is better for kids than no marriage, right?

I don't think i can handle it any longer because i'm loosing my cool this days. I earn 80k monthly and i'm willing to leave the apartment for her and kids.

Please much should i give her as child support monthly?

Before separation, y don't u involve both families, or ur elders that my be of help ,may be in d church or mosque

Re: Need Advice From A Lawyer by Crownofwealth(m): 9:07pm On May 12, 2018

Kharez:
Not married but living together and have 2 kids. Well, we always have family issues and fights like every other couple, but the problem i am having with her is that any time we are having our small misunderstanding, she always gets physical, insulting and abusive. I always try to walk away during an argument or small misunderstanding with her.

I know it's tempting to answer the question of whether or not we should stay together for the kids with a simple "yes." As a society we tend to think that kids will do better if parents stay together; that's what our grandparents' generation did, or tried to do. A mediocre marriage is better for kids than no marriage, right?

I don't think i can handle it any longer because i'm loosing my cool this days. I earn 80k monthly and i'm willing to leave the apartment for her and kids.

Please much should i give her as child support monthly?

hit me up on Obijenkinz@gmail.com lets talk. am a lawyer.

Re: Need Advice From A Lawyer by Crownofwealth(m): 9:08pm On May 12, 2018

ashjay001:
Nothing u give, will ever be enough. Esp, with daughters. Have u calculated, how much u spend weekly, on d home? Can u afford to spend that, twice over?(afterall, u will av to run two homes)

Re: Need Advice From A Lawyer by Kharez(op): 1:10pm On May 19, 2018

Thanks all. tried working out things but she isnt helping matters.

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