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Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Nobody: 10:20pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
mikolam: Who said women don't cook in Europe and America? I said cooking isn't the duty of the woman alone in those continents.. almost 65% of American men share bills with their wives and they also share house chores which includes cooking, even though women take greater part of the house chores. (at least they're sharing it) Try and get a visa.. even if it's a tourism visa Travel to USA or Europe.. come back and prove me wrong because you're still living in self delusion. |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Izen: 10:26pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
Daboomb: Guy said brain work They keep coming up with new and ridiculous things. Naaa mehn..... Not marrying a man like you. Not all Nigerian men actually love seeing the ones they love go through all that shi.t alone. "Brain work" What will I not hear? |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Izen: 10:35pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
Cuteamigo1: All this "better at" you're shouting are things that were taught and are things you can learn. Being domestic doesn't come naturally to women, we were taught to be domestic. You think you provide better naturally? Come, let's compare our portfolios so that I can lecture you. Funny thing is, no one is even dragging 50-50 with you. How is that even measurable? The problem is you lots won't even lift a finger. When you do, we won't hear the last of it. "I'm just helping o, it's not my responsibility o", as if it's not your household too. Abeg oga, you'll see your type. Marry her and enjoy. Stop shiting in your pants about the rest of us cos frankly, we don't care about you too. God forbid I marry your type. 1 Like |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by mikolam(m): 10:36pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
Elder001: Ahaha, you are really taking this thread and discussion personal. I won't, you can continue to. However, I will correct your misconceptions. Have you ever traveled out? If you say you have, you will realize that many of these Europeans are polite, of which you are not. So I doubt you have ever or if you did, you only focused on Gender equality when you did. Now back to the discussion, we said the same thing. They share but the women still does most of the cooking here. I believe a man should support his wife in every way possible. However, everyone should have his/her main responsibility. For some families, the man is a house husband (there is paternity leave for men in some parts of Europe). Every family functions differently and we all need to understand that. Now go and read my previous post. If your next response is impolite, I won't reply you and I will wonder if you won't also cause unnecessary issues if elected into political office. (Note: that is if your next response is impolite) 1 Like |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Nobody: 10:41pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
Why not employ your father to do the house work and cook,,since you are looking for man..your father must be a man with cooking experience 1 Like |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Izen: 10:43pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
Daboomb: If you want it to work that way, then we would need to start from the scratch. Because no way in hell will I go through all I went through as a child and a student, the tests, the exams, the projects, the ridicules, the sexual harassment from lecturers just to come and be your housewife. No way in hell. So how about propose that females shouldn't be allowed education anymore so that we can dedicate the rest of our lives to caring for our men. Mr Smart A.ss? Plus, you better be ready to fund whatever lifestyle I choose Shey you said you're wise? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by expert234: 10:52pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
Elder001: You weren't thinking properly before sending this reply, right? 2 Likes |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Nobody: 10:53pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
mikolam: You're confused. and he's asking me if I ever travelled out from Nigeria?. what makes you think I'm presently living in Nigeria? as for your last statement, I want to go into politics to liberate men from stone age mentality. any man who believes cooking is the responsibility of the woman alone is supposed to be in jail not the society. 1 Like |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Nobody: 10:55pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
expert234: where was a rule made that only men should sponsor wedding? ..the way all of you speak ,I wonder the kind of village or country y'all are residing. Footing all the bills alone is also your personal decision.. don't turn anybody into slave because of your decision Because you voluntarily sponsored wedding, purchased gifts or whatever for your wife doesn't mean you shouldn't cook or do house chores. |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by PerfectlyPerfect(m): 11:08pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
Coldfeets:Lolz Sorry o, I was just very pissed off 1 Like |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by tendawarrior1(m): 11:20pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
its not d provision of money DT make a man A responsible one o. Itz that burden of leadership that makes him one. that responsibility of taking decisions that not only affect you but every body around you and getting it right is what makes you are man. its not all about money o. ASK SINGLE MOTHERS THEY NO BETTER. m not talking of baby mamas ooo ehn ehn |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by streetzdreamz(m): 12:48am On Jun 06, 2018 |
nairaland,same ol forum sandwiched with both sane and insane humans,trying hard to shove their shitty personal opinions down your throat!!!! ion give two hot fudge if your husband pummels you daily in your marriage,neither would I care if he helps out with chores or watches u get sick due to an overload of burdens and chores,I see women who serves as the bread winner of the house, bear all the burden in the family and still ends up getting battered by the man,same way Ive seen two understanding humans,helping out each other in all spheres of their marriage,your life your damned choice!! to each his own....that big mouth screaming bloody murder should keep her opinion to herself,and prolly relay it to the man who intends to marry her, I wonder how this sh*t passes as a news piece though. |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by godofuck231: 3:39am On Jun 06, 2018 |
LivingFree: I no want |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Cuteamigo1(m): 5:50am On Jun 06, 2018 |
Izen:yawwwwn. good ridance to bad Rubbish. i will find my type and we will live happily ever after. 1 Like |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by expert234: 6:51am On Jun 06, 2018 |
Elder001: You are confused, like the neurons in your brain are disjointed. For your information, paying dowry makes me the LORD over the woman. I call the shot in my home. I decide who does what, what I want to do and what I don't want to do. I won't be surprised if you say husband should pay their wives for caring for kids. 2 Likes |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Daboomb: 8:12am On Jun 06, 2018 |
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Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Daboomb: 8:26am On Jun 06, 2018 |
Elder001: It takes a self-destuctive, pussy-whipped, Sissy of a 'de-balled specimen' masquerading as a Man, to make the statement bolded above. When did 'Stupidity' become 'Civilisation'? No wonder he has been yarning Opata all along. FYI: Stop this rubbish about ' l am Mr. Europe or America', how many days did you spend there that you wont even allow those who hold multiple citizenship to hear word? 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Daboomb: 8:40am On Jun 06, 2018 |
Izen: Women like you who have been PSYCHOLOGICALLY DAMAGED, cannot be anywhere near me, not to mention being my wife! I dont take-on garbage, l leave such ones for @Elder001 or what did he call himself. Your past and present burdens are what damaged your 'mentality'. I have sisters and many of the female gender who are better read and prosperous in life but dont make issues of cooking for themselves and their family because they did not suffer ' mental and psychological damage', when growing up! I mentioned earlier that women who are well educated and rich, e.g. Mrs Alakija, Dora Akinyilu of blessed memory, e.t.c still cook for their husbands and dont scatter their marriage because of that! Caryy your Sorry-Ass, damaged mentality elsewhere. Dont even imagine your tyoe anywhere near me! Impossicant, as we say. Any damaged woman who is whinning because of her home chores should feck-off her marriage or not marry at all. It is not by force to be Mr. Smart. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Daboomb: 8:52am On Jun 06, 2018 |
drakeli: You forgot to add that in the Western countries which you all troop to, the Man is basically a slave in his own house! he has been reduced by women (and his wife in particular), to a shrivelling, fearful House boy who duties is to pander to the whims and caprices of the same woman he lives with and if by chance he chose to complain a little, she will use the Police to hound him and throw him out of the house (his house that he has a mortgage on!). That my friend is not marriage where love exists! It is a 'union of mortal enemies' and the result is what we read everyday - When the Man cannot take anymore of the sh*t and pilloring, he sets himself and the motherfucker on fire! I really feel sorry for 'Men in the Western world'. Nigeria is far ahead on that level even though the likes of the foolish ones on this thread are desperately trying to import such nonsense into the nigerian family space. No wonder they have given themselves the right to 'marry their own gender' (Male- male, Female-Female), even adopt babies or surrogate them! The Westerners have destroyed their own family life on the 'excuse of freedom to do whatever l like' and they are not a standard to adopt or envy. Take that to the bank. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Daboomb: 9:00am On Jun 06, 2018 |
Demure1: So it is archaic if in my house, l have roles l do and my wife has roles she does, without any competition from each other? You see why l said most of you are a sorry excuse of "damaged goods"? I am married for God knows how long, my wife is well educated and 'financially made' even though she does not need it and you know what? Like the likes of Alakija (Mrs), she still cooks and does her household chores without whinning like all you cry-babies. Get a life of get out of your marriage because y'all not marriage materials, just a bunch of whinning, over-fed rabbits. 1 Like |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Maximus85(m): 9:19am On Jun 06, 2018 |
lekonso: Smh |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by mystery22: 9:21am On Jun 06, 2018 |
Elder001:I am probably sure you are a she-male,I can't help but blame ur parents for bringing a stinking transgend**like you into this world.worthless pig.male feminist by the time feminist finish dealing with you, I pray your case will be worst than that of eboue, stupid asslicker. 2 Likes |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by ugotex85: 11:25am On Jun 06, 2018 |
Rachelsblog:You accepted to work for an organization for no profit as you said (that is, without pay), and the job is so cool to you, I'm still quoting you. Now you are demanding that your husband should pay you for cooking, after exhausting your strength working for another boss without pay. Young lady raise up your two hands and shout My Father, my Father! Any coconut tree they tied my brain, catch fire in Jesus name. 1 Like |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by drewxx88(m): 12:28pm On Jun 06, 2018 |
Elder001:all you do is spew profanities over opinions of others that differs from yours who sounds like the bastard here ,a man who stands his ground and runs his home like a man or a sissy who cant differentiate helping a wife out and her doing her wifely duties run your hole how you like PS don't quote me a again am not fond of hurling insults about it shows just how poor your upbringing was ... |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by chinene1(f): 1:33pm On Jun 06, 2018 |
drewxx88: Protection and provision? So those that don't/ can't protect or provide are .....? It really cracks me up. if we are to go by this then no man should seek assistance from his wife/women in his life for financial assistance. He should carry the burden of providing and protecting alone. In Nigeria today, where an average family needs two or more sources of income to be comfortable, it is close to impossible. If the woman shares the burden of providing and protecting then the man should also share the burden of running the home. Someone can't have an opinion in peace. And to think we have more challenging problems to address in marriage, someone is busy assigning domestic chores upandan. P.S do you know that some certain tribes in Africa, like the Hausa's had female warrior queens as well as Asante of Ghana? The Serer tribe in West African, the Ovambo people, Nubians were also ruled by women. So I ask, are the warrior women against nature since I am sure washing plates was the last thing on their mind or are there no men in the tribes or are they forbidden to provide and protect, or were they created without the DNA that is meant to make them provide and protect? |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by drewxx88(m): 1:43pm On Jun 06, 2018 |
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Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by drewxx88(m): 1:43pm On Jun 06, 2018 |
chinene1:your referring to queen Amina of zazzu yes I know about her but help is different from role reversal now.I know women well to do with high paying jobs who still cook for their husbands and take care of their home cos they don't trust domestic helps before you hear stories like the man is screwing the maid ,like you said her opinion is hers we are just airing ours and rubbing minds... |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by chinene1(f): 1:55pm On Jun 06, 2018 |
drewxx88: This is far from airing minds. It has become a bashing thread for people who applaud her views by those who don't support it. Its all about choice. For the fact, a woman prefers a partner and not a master is her choice. My dad cooks even while my mum is home. She has never hand washed his clothes either. Before both retired my dad took care of all the expenses and mum supported by adding her money to the feeding allowance to get all the kinds of foods he likes to eat. Till date, my dad pumps water, cooks and when he is finished with his meal, clears the dishes to the kitchen if no one is close by, cleans sometimes and even goes shopping. He does all this while my mum is around. She either joins him or gets busy doing something else. |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by drewxx88(m): 2:03pm On Jun 06, 2018 |
chinene1:yes I noticed the whole bashing part that's why I chose to reply your comment cos you didn't seem like you were taking sides I don't speak for everyone just myself id help if and when I can cos in my own home mum did all that and still lives with my dad even now that we've all moved out ...P.S don't take all the comments to hrt cos nobody can be like you 100℅ that's why the world is diverse look for like minds are relate with em ... |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Demure1: 3:05pm On Jun 06, 2018 |
Daboomb: Learn how to engage in constructive arguments without using derogatory words,. I said "archaic" cause thats my own worldview in terms of traditional gender roles. This isn't someone whinning, this is me saying not everyone restricts themselves to a role. It may not be same to you, then fine but understand your type of marriage isn't everyone's type too. While growing up i Was told to washed cars while my big brothers did nothing, and they were called to cook while i did nothing. My parents only called on who they have in sight and in proximity to them. If they see you, they call you, simple. It helped me and my siblings in life because we weren't restricted to those roles. While in school I could change my bulb or fixed the socket all these my friends couldn't do. You keep saying competition would arise when roles aren't defined, maybe in a marriage where both parties refuses to see each other as a team and true love and respect for each other is lacking. That's why we are called to selflessness in marriage, when you know you are working for and not against yourselves, you won't even notice who imputed more. Yes sometimes I work more and sometimes my husband works more depending on who gets home early, has night shifts,who has more projects, and travels etc and sometimes it's equal but nobody is whinning. If he gets home first he prepare dinner doesn't take juice and snacks while waiting for me to get back to fix something up. When i get home first i also prepare the meals, Now for me and some out there that's marriage. We don't necessarily need to have the same worldview. We don't have the same upbringing, lifestyles, exposure etc. You kept mentioning alakija, that has plethora of cooks, and only cook together with enough cooks at her beck and call when she is around, which is once in a while . She doesn't cook 365 days and when she does" sometimes", she does it with her cooks and she is never alone in the kitchen like most women. Damaged goods, rabbits? Like really?, watch your languages please, counter arguments with points not insult. There was no where I insulted you or spoke to you brashly, well sorry I spoke to you. Have a nice day. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Nobody: 5:22pm On Jun 10, 2018 |
nabegibeg: Who deceive you say your comment funny? Na the insecured fools wey like your talk like blind mices? You are the one eyed fool in the country of the blind and your fellow fools are just as lost you. Chinkos toys calling themselves men? It's good hell will be filled with more of your type. Go and claim superiority with the devil in your section of the fiery pit.
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