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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Nobody: 4:38pm On Jun 10, 2018
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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by package7(m): 4:39pm On Jun 10, 2018
This is just a sign of end time.... move close to your Creator now before is late my fellow brothers. Death is everywhere.

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by makinde851: 4:42pm On Jun 10, 2018
[Do I regret it? Of course I do! More than anything in the world.

As the other person answered, US could be a heaven and could be a hell, depending on how lucky you are!

For me, I came to US back in 2006, I was filled with dreams like Sofjan which for the most part were fine, until I woke up on the most terrible nightmare a person can dream of!

I came as a software engineer in Microsoft. Was a completely law abiding citizen who didn’t do anything wrong at all not even a parking ticket, got married to someone from my home country (Egypt) and brought her with me to US in 2009

Spent a couple of years with her until I got my green card in 2011, my financial life started to go down the drain because she was spending much more than I was making, started to stack dept and moving between jobs, until in January 22 2012, I was coming home back after a fight that she wanted to start and I just left because I didn’t want to fight and I came back, found police waiting for me, got arrested, thrown in jail, found that I am charged with trying to kill her, trying to kill my son, using weapons on them and torturing her for 3 years!

I later received a bail of $250K (which usually us placed only on murder suspects in WA, but I was one of the few lucky ones to receive it on a misdemeanor case) and was released a week later when my friends collected the bail from each others (and they were all common friends between me and my ex-wife who would have never paid a single dime if any of her accusations sound true)

Someone may say “but there were evidence for that, right?” ZIP! Not a single evidence! Even police reports stated clearly there was no sign of anything from her claims, but welcome to US and welcome to WA state!

Later on, I went out to find that she cleared my bank account, took over my apartment (which I bought prior to our marriage), took my car, and I became homeless and jobless, just like that! And on the top of that, I was not allowed to go within 1 mile of my son and they enforced that by adding a GPS device on my ankle that required me to stay at a certain address for at least half of each day!

I spent a couple of months in this mess, prosecutors tried to offer me a deal that I just say I am guilty and I will receive no jail time and nothing except maybe some classes and I kept refusing because I did nothing at all and they kept offering more stuff because they didn’t have a case! I had more than 70 witness on my side, I had actual PHYSICAL EVIDENCE that proves her lies and none of that mattered! Until one day, I receive a call from my sister in law that my ex was in accident and she needed my help and as an idiot, I called and texted her multiple times and I became in violation of the “no contact order” and next day, I went to the police station, gave myself up, thought that I was in that “dreamy” country Sofjan was talking about were the only thing mattered is justice and guess what? I was charged with like 30 different charges with the ability of adding 100 more and the probability of receiving a jail sentence of about 130 years! Yup, you heard it right, 130 years for making phone calls and texts to make sure my ex-wife and son were alright!

I then spent 9 months in jail, during that time, I was not allowed to see my son although the court gave me that right, so I filled a case with the court, the court notified me to send the case documents to my ex directly because I was PRO SE (means I was working on my case myself without a lawyer) and they even gave me a forwarding address to send the docs to.

So I followed the court orders to the letter, forwarded a copy from the case docs to that address from the jail system, and guess what? I Was charged AGAIN for violation of no contact order on a felony basis this time which could send me to jail for 10 years (2 cases and each one carry 5 years max), my new lawyer was pulling her hair off because according to the law, what I did was not a violation by any mean, everyone in the court room, including the judge herself, was saying “where is the violation?” and there was nothing!

A couple of weeks later, the senior prosecutor came back from him vacation, went to my lawyer and basically told her “we had no case, but we can’t release him otherwise he will sue us, so I have an offer for you. He needs to let go of his green card and leave the country and I will drop all charges”! Just complete and basic blackmail! I did that, and just after I left the country, they filed 4 violations for violating my release conditions and leaving the country without permissions and filed 4 warrants for my arrest!

Does it end there? Of course not! My ex-wife died in a terrible accident in 2015 (call it Karma) and I found that she was married to someone who she was in relationship with since 5th of January of 2012 (yes, before sending me to jail which all clicked of why she did that) and I just sent him a single message on facebook that maybe it’s better to send my son to me now his mother is dead and he is not his biological father, and guess what? I was charged with a felony of “cyber stalking” !!

So now not only I can’t come back to US, but my entire life outside US is bleeped because there are so many jobs and countries I cant go to because technically, I have warrants and ongoing cases against me in US, and I can’t even come back to US to fight these charges because they won’t give me the visa to do that!

This is USA, the land of justice and dreams smiley. I agreee with you I got this from Quora quote author=lastmessenger post=68341999]The united state has a way of making women forget where they are coming from. I'm not in any way condoning killing buy at the same time it is hard to just stay and watch your hard earned wealth taking away from you because of a biased legal system designed to favour women.
Any sensible man should forget about bringing a woman over to the united states as the uncertainties are much. A lot can go wrong especially if the woman is the selfish type. Some of them are so promiscuous neglecting the man that brought them to US. Imagine your wife jumping from one club to another,calling police to come arrest you just because of a simple argument.
The worst you can do to man is to take away his pride and expect him not to take action. This is the root cause of the killing. In every situation a man wants to be in control of his family and be in charge and be accorded his place.
For me it is not advisable to marry a woman with the hope of bringing her over cos in tbe long run you will be in a very delicate situation.[/quote]

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by meobizy(f): 4:42pm On Jun 10, 2018
This same topic makes front page every other month. I guess it's now a way to test how many new members sign up to the forum.

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by TheKingIsHere: 4:42pm On Jun 10, 2018
They risk prison as after successful serving of jail terms, they will be in control of their wealth again


This is a great idea.
Instead of loosing all ur hard earned money, send the wiitch straight to hell, the come back after servicing years in jail to enjoy ur money.

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by meobizy(f): 4:43pm On Jun 10, 2018
package7:
This is just a sign of end time.... move close to your Creator now before is late my fellow brothers. Death is everywhere.
People killing people is a sign of the end time? Your deity is a failure!

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Rickywowoz: 4:48pm On Jun 10, 2018
Chubhie:
A senior friend of mine who domiciled his wife and kids in the States got a call from his wife that their daughter who is 14 is threatening to call 911 on her cos she banned her from visiting someone.

In this case, An African mother's hands are tied to discipline her daughter else the system would take the daughter away.

At 14, you are not an adult and you are still dependent on your parents. They can ground you if need be. Nobody can do anything about it even the president. If you feel you too old for orders, you get a job and move out of the house.

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by package7(m): 4:49pm On Jun 10, 2018
meobizy:

People killing people is a sign of the end time? Your deity is a failure!
it's obvious you can kill someone you claim to love. wee ree pesin. the dreadful of the Lord is at hand.
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Diso60090(m): 4:51pm On Jun 10, 2018
Mumu Nigerian men grin grin angry


You dey banana island you dey go find girl for ajegule



Wetin do those pretty black American girls there
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by meobizy(f): 4:51pm On Jun 10, 2018
package7:
it's obvious you can kill someone you claim to love. wee ree pesin. the dreadful of the Lord is at hand.
Story.com
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by jaxxy(m): 4:55pm On Jun 10, 2018
Read this b4 on here its an old story bt good for people to be aware of these happenings.
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Nobody: 4:55pm On Jun 10, 2018
Diso60090:
Mumu Nigerian men grin grin angry


You dey banana island you dey go find girl for ajegule



Wetin do those pretty black American girls there

Heh. Those chicks don't play. All thus baby mama davido and Co dey do, they will use child support to kill you in yankee
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by madridguy(m): 4:56pm On Jun 10, 2018
I hustle to go outside the country will still be struggling to keep my wife again, Allah Kwa shocked

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by package7(m): 4:56pm On Jun 10, 2018
meobizy:

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You must be one the devil advocate.
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Nobody: 4:57pm On Jun 10, 2018
MrBrownJay1:


it isnt written on their forehead that they are future rapist, they just believe that when married, their wife is THEIR possession that they can do what they please with....and sadly, since many women want to keep the "Mrs" status at all cost, they bow to these demons.



if a woman does NOT desire to have sex with her husband (for whatever reason), whether married or not, she is entitled to that. the holy book that teaches you that they become one flesh certainly doesnt teach you to forcefully have sex with your wife, does it?!
There can be no rape in marriage...neither party to such a union owns their members independently from each other....now previous to the union, a smart woman should ensure that her potential mate has no propensity for seizing by force what is rightfully his....now if you're uncomfortable with the spiritual import of the Christian doctrine of marriage...why enter into such a union only to chaffe at its yokes? Such an attitude sparks of mischief and ignorance of spiritual logic.
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by eyinjuege: 4:57pm On Jun 10, 2018
dreality:


It is men like you who destroy the marriage institution. How can a man rape his wife? A woman is supposed to satisfy her husband sexually and vice versa according to the holy books. If you can't satisfy your husband sexually or you are liable to claim rape, then you have no excuse if the man looks elsewhere.

The law isn't about the holy books o.
He has the option of divorcing her if she is starving him sexually. The law will be on his side then, and he can look elsewhere.
Sexual dissatisfaction can be a cause of infidelity in real life, but don't forget if a man is allowed to cheat because his wife is not satisfying him, a lot of women too would be given the grounds to also cheat on their husbands because he is not satisfying them.

TheKingIsHere:


This is a great idea.
Instead of loosing all ur hard earned money, send the wiitch straight to hell, the come back after servicing years in jail to enjoy ur money.

How many years do you think they will do in jail? Possibly life. How much do you think their lawyers will take? They will probably have lost all at the end of the day. If they've not finished paying off their mortgage, they will definitely lose their homes.
They can still be sued in a civil court for compensation by the relatives of the deceased including their children. If convicted in the criminal courts, they can be sued again for all, and will even be in debt at the end of the day.
Murder is not something to joke with.
If you can't commit suicide after committing premeditated murder, just don't do it.
There are many cases of Murder - suicide you can check online. Just save everyone the stress and kill yourself too.

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by KanwuliaExtra: 4:57pm On Jun 10, 2018
Like the so-called Nigerian BEASTS OF MEN OR WOMEN who kill are richer than the Micheal Jordans, Madonnas, Neil Diamonds and Steven Spielbergs of the world. Did they KILL their exes? undecided


Which kain investment or cultural identity is worth ending the life of another, not to mention THE MOTHER OR FATHER OF YOUR CHILD OR CHILDREN? undecided

If you are not compatible, THE MOVE ON.
No need to kill yourselves ke! angry

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by yhungbrowhne(m): 4:59pm On Jun 10, 2018
some men are just useless why will you still be in a relationship when you,know that yoi cant dtand,the,heat.
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Cuteamigo1(m): 5:00pm On Jun 10, 2018
phew, it is an epistle but enjoyed reading it all. back to tge matter, many times i wonder how men cope in the US with laws that mostly favour women. this validates the saying that WE CREATE OUR OWN MONSTERS
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Rickywowoz: 5:00pm On Jun 10, 2018
Yankee101:
Free service notice...
1. Don't take any Nigerian lady to the United States.
2. Naija men don suffer for naija women hand.
3. You train them, take them to school, take student loans for them and run credit card debts but they end up running away
4. They sometimes set naija men up by lying you hit them. 
5. The court here respects children, women, old people and men come last.
6. She'll take your house, car(s) and alimony/child support (till kids become 18)
7. Naija women here instigate new comer naija women on how to clean you out. Especially the naija community in Texas. These women sleep around and leave you in debt
8. If you must bring a woman let her have as much money as yourself (or more). Ensure her assets are within US jurisdiction not in naija so that if she goes to court, worse case everybody go hold im money. Simple

Marry African girls like Kenyans. They will worship you. Naija women never, ever appreciate anything. A man does not mind taking care of his wife and all the bills for 10 years. But if a naija woman pays the bills for just 6months you don become lazy man.

There are exceptions. But because they are rare I no fit advice you to try am. Even if she claim say she born again no trust am. That's just her word.

Save yourself from had I known abeg. 

If you fit marry white lady. She go clean you if una separate but she go contribute equally. So no lele.

The naija women here just dey dey wait for who to advice on how to clean their man....especially all these nurses.
1m likes for you. I think the worst mistake any naija guy will make abroad is to marry a Nigerian lady. I would rather have 20 babymama than marry a naija girl. Two of my friends are married to Zimbabwean girls, and happy with their relationships. I don't understand why naija girls are like this. Chai

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Boss13: 5:02pm On Jun 10, 2018
Stevenson1:
Many Nigerian men can attestify to this. The system is not favourable to men that side. it's unfair man!!! I'm not supporting Domestic violence or Murder but men deserves attention and equal judgement in Western Countries too. like WTF... just read yesterday how court awarded a man 10million dollars for imprisoning him on false rape charges for 25 years as he was later found innocent and released. My question now is, what about the lady who claimed the man raped her, where is she now? wasted 25years out of a man's life. some women are lovely but when you see the wicked ones, please, please and please no hard man on the case just run for your life.

The problem actually is the men. The men refuse to organize and ensure fairness. There is a silent gender war going on in the West. Feminist are slowing suppressing men and they would succeed because Western men are weak.

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Chubhie: 5:03pm On Jun 10, 2018
Rickywowoz:
At 14, you are not an adult and you are still dependent on your parents. They can ground you if need be. Nobody can do anything about it even the president. If you feel you too old for orders, you get a job and move out of the house.
Her mother wanted to beat/flog her and she asked her to try it and she calls 911. The mum became weak at how she suddenly lost power and control.

She remembered the power she used to wield over her daughter in Africa with nostalgia.
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Pataricatering(f): 5:08pm On Jun 10, 2018
GogobiriLalas:
If they have become one flesh...how is it possible to rape her...can a man rape himself?
when u get married ehn or if you are married now - try this experiment - let your wife eat every meal for the two of you ! Since you are really one flesh - every time your wife is eating for both of you - you will feel full ( despite not eating ) because you and your wife are one flesh ! Try it for two months and see how fat and fresh you will be ! By the end of the two months you will know whether or not you and your wife are one “ flesh “ or two separate individuals joined together in marriage !

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by MrBrownJay1(m): 5:11pm On Jun 10, 2018
GogobiriLalas:
There can be no rape in marriage...neither party to such a union owns their members independently from each other....now previous to the union, a smart woman should ensure that her potential mate has no propensity for seizing by force what is rightfully his....now if you're uncomfortable with the spiritual import of the Christian doctrine of marriage...why enter into such a union only to chaffe at its yokes? Such an attitude sparks of mischief and ignorance of spiritual logic.

sadly the LAW thinks otherwise and disregard fully what you just wrote... and men who think that they own their wive's body should rightfully end up in jail.

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by omooba969(m): 5:11pm On Jun 10, 2018
RuthlessLeader:

If you have a daughter would you like it if someone talks of her like this

Baseless!

If your daughter doesn't behave, you will have to start serious prayers or else...

You know the rest so please shelf your sentiments ok.
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Chubhie: 5:14pm On Jun 10, 2018
Rickywowoz:

1m likes for you. I think the worst mistake any naija guy will make abroad is to marry a Nigerian lady. I would rather have 20 babymama than marry a naija girl. Two of my friends are married to Zimbabwean girls, and happy with their relationships. I don't understand why naija girls are like this. Chai
I've been hearing kepu kepu about Zimbabwean ladies.
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Nobody: 5:14pm On Jun 10, 2018
if you want to live long as a man in the west never marry another hustler called Nigerian women.

Nigerian women abroad can never be trusted basically even Nigerian women back home,our value system basically has changed with time

Wives betraying husband once abroad.

After they complain about Nigerian men mentality or African men mentality of having a family.anything African is inferior to the so called Nigerian women abroad.

i have never seen Asians behaving like that,they come with the sense of family,husband and wife,submissive wife and supporting husband,the family life is always intact.

African women are quick to say African men mentality because of STATE WELFARE,forgetting that a child without a father will become burden to the society.

you will hear them say tell our Nigerian men, leave your African men mentality in Africa before coming abroad.very sad in my opinion.it shows inferiority complex.

What about the women,they bring their African mentality to america and cause havoc because they think the law will support them.what a betrayal.

In my opinion,Nigerian women are just for sex not marriage,i have researched why our men die young and are hypertensive and i came to the conclusion our women are the cause.

AVOID NIGERIAN WOMEN WITH ALL YOUR STRENGTH

THEY ARE DESTINY DESTROYERS

PLS FIND YOURSELF ANOTHER AFRICAN LADY TO MARRY,THEY KNOW HOW TO TAKE CARE OF US ESPECIALLY THE HARD-WORKING NIGERIAN MEN.

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Nobody: 5:15pm On Jun 10, 2018
Solution: do not marry outside ur tax bracket.
Do not fly down to Nigeria to marry anyone. U are just a meal ticket.
Date together for a long time before marriage
Sign a pre nup is u want to fly down and marry one of these ladies waiting for someone to get them out of poverty.
Most importantly, hustle harder than her and don't expect her to share her income with u.

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Nobody: 5:21pm On Jun 10, 2018
I read this about two years ago on Punchng. Anyway thanks for reposting it here in NL
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by CSTR1003: 5:23pm On Jun 10, 2018
The moment I step in to the United States, marrying a Nigerian becomes very unlikely.

I am used to them all my life, I need to try something else.

Those Latinas/hispanic women look very appetising.

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Sweetland: 5:24pm On Jun 10, 2018
sassysure:
The problem is that our men carry naija mentality go obodo oyibo.
In nigeria, it's very common to see a wife that goes to work at the same time with husband ( let's forget children for now),once they are back from work, husband will retire and leave the super human to cook, clean and wash.
Some will boil water too and set for his bath. After this, if she is unlucky to have married a beast in the bedroom that's how he will arrange her body in the name of love making.
That is the qualification of good wife. Once u protest, the exposure has corrupted your mind.
I wonder why they don't marry Nigerians born there.
Cos they know they can't meet up as nobody is ready to worship anybody.
Go to nigeria and see how men abuse their wives. More than 50% of the ever smiling ladies u see in churches are living in marital abuse.
The system is so patriarchal.
thank you so much for your honest view. The average Nigerian man needs to change for good. The way women are treated is so bad. They carry that entitlement mentality to the west and feel it will work for them. No way. They have Nigerians over there but they will prefer to come back here to Nigeria to pick slaves for themselves in form of wives and when that slave refuse to be a slave anymore, yawa go gas.
Some of our ladies are also worthless gold diggers who have nothing but pain to offer to the man that will be unfortunate to marry them

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by omooba969(m): 5:25pm On Jun 10, 2018
Yankee101:
Free service notice...
1. Don't take any Nigerian lady to the United States.
2. Naija men don suffer for naija women hand.
3. You train them, take them to school, take student loans for them and run credit card debts but they end up running away
4. They sometimes set naija men up by lying you hit them. 
5. The court here respects children, women, old people and men come last.
6. She'll take your house, car(s) and alimony/child support (till kids become 18)
7. Naija women here instigate new comer naija women on how to clean you out. Especially the naija community in Texas. These women sleep around and leave you in debt
8. If you must bring a woman let her have as much money as yourself (or more). Ensure her assets are within US jurisdiction not in naija so that if she goes to court, worse case everybody go hold im money. Simple

Marry African girls like Kenyans. They will worship you. Naija women never, ever appreciate anything. A man does not mind taking care of his wife and all the bills for 10 years. But if a naija woman pays the bills for just 6months you don become lazy man.

There are exceptions. But because they are rare I no fit advice you to try am. Even if she claim say she born again no trust am. That's just her word.

Save yourself from had I known abeg. 

If you fit marry white lady. She go clean you if una separate but she go contribute equally. So no lele.

The naija women here just dey dey wait for who to advice on how to clean their man....especially all these nurses.

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