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Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by Nobody:
LeSudAfricaine:
she is stupid
[color=darkblue]now where have you been tongue? Now take a look at this ur South Africa HIV Aids sister kekeNash cheesy, u will know that stupidity is written all over her face [/color] grin grin

Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by LeSudAfricaine: 12:28am On Jul 03, 2018
Saviour22:
now where have you been tongue? Now take a look at this ur South Africa HIV Aids sister kekeNash cheesy, u will know that stupidity is written all over her face grin grin
HiV yawn....
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by Nobody: 12:31am On Jul 03, 2018
LeSudAfricaine:
HiV yawn....
[color=darkblue] but she look like HIV Aids victim now. I'm I right or wrong[/color] tongue tongue
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by LeSudAfricaine: 12:32am On Jul 03, 2018
Saviour22:
[color=darkblue] but she look like HIV Aids victim now. I'm I right or wrong[/color] tongue tongue
I'll entertain once you reason like an adult, for now I have better stuff to do
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by Nobody: 12:34am On Jul 03, 2018
LeSudAfricaine:
I'll entertain once you reason like an adult, for now I have better stuff to do
[color=darkblue] or I'm too much for you. [/color] grin grin
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by LeSudAfricaine: 12:35am On Jul 03, 2018
Saviour22:
[color=darkblue] or I'm too much for you. [/color] grin grin
ok she looks like an aids victim what then?
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by Nobody: 12:39am On Jul 03, 2018
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Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by eyinjuege: 5:12am On Jul 03, 2018
elvido:
its not just about physical hurt, it might be psychological as well..such as verbal abuse, etc, and some emotional Laddies take it seriously.., nd pls dnt think everybody is normal, every1 av is demon yu know
Are you saying verbal and psychological abuse is normal?
There's nothing normal about that please. It's damaging, and no one should live that life (including men and women).
Anyway, she hasn't known better as she married so young, and may probably have no family.
If you think it's normal to be verbally and psychologically abusive, it's not o. I can bet it that the same person is also physically abusive, so many scars and hurts she's hiding.
Infact, very abnormal for a husband to break the wife, and vice versa.
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by Timewilltell2(f): 5:41am On Jul 03, 2018
ekanempatrick28:
pls if its dat 80percent of naija girls are runs girls so who are d hoes. Madam pls dat means british ladies are hoes and slaves cos they work alot same as american ladies baaa
They are all loose women with no traditions and self love, especially these slaves from SA who work to impress men. It's embarrassing that so called African women want so much to be white and adopt their silly cultures.
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by sisisioge: 5:55am On Jul 03, 2018
grin grin grin
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by sisisioge: 5:56am On Jul 03, 2018
I didn't read it grin
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by Timewilltell2(f): 6:01am On Jul 03, 2018
XhosaNostra:
Seems you're obsessed with me smiley I'd be flattered if it wasn't so creepy.

Let me tell you something, sweetheart. Ignoring you doesn't mean you've embarrassed me in any way. I'm not responding to your excessive mentions because you simply bore me. I'm overlooking you, to interact with those who have the mental capacity to be engaging. You're neither captivating nor smart, so to the trash bin you go, you insipid human garbage! I'm not going to stop what I'm doing just to read yet another one of your mindless word vomit. Bye.
An illiterate forming smart grin. Why don't you go interact with your hiv brothers ,no one likes you here . Leave naija guys alone , you desparado from a backward horing nation.
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by Timewilltell2(f): 6:02am On Jul 03, 2018
sisisioge:
I didn't read it grin
You did good , nothing but stupidity as usual, from a fairly used slave forming wife online. SA are very shameless.
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by Timewilltell2(f): 6:03am On Jul 03, 2018
KekeNash:
No YOU embarrased yourself, its clear you are fugly inside out.
Is there anyone as fugly as your pic ? grin grin
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by Timewilltell2(f): 6:05am On Jul 03, 2018
brenister10:
A fool will always be a fool. Its obvious you came from a home where love is a dream.

Goes like you aren't hard to detect
Truth hurts,now move along . Ugly slave defender.
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by crackhaus: 6:38am On Jul 03, 2018
bukatyne:
She has some really good points especially on SM, comparing/competing with friends

Ditto with in-laws/husband's friends not your friends and extreme importance of communication. I like the 'don't assume anything' part.

However, she sounds like the average endurance crew with suffering suffering.

Marriage is not for the selfish sha.

And scary how all the guys are happy with the advice because it teaches women to put up wit their shit.
How on God's earth are you ladies coming up with this conclusion from that? cheesy cheesy

He will hurt you, really really damage you...
The interpretation of this sentence going by the context of her post isn't even close to what most of you are upset about.

The sentences that followed in that same paragraph are enough to reveal her state of mind to anyone reading with objectivity.
Well not surprisingly, you were honest enough to admit she made a lot of good points instead of just throwing out the baby with the bath water.
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by crackhaus:
If your mom is still married to your dad or until his death listen to her. She will save you years of heartache. And she has endured more than you can ever imagine, appreciate her, love on her but don’t let her be the sounding board of your marriage.


Bukatyne, isn't this a good enough summary worthy of note?

Emphasis on the sentences in bold - That can only come from someone with a stable upbringing and no remnants of psychological childhood trauma.

Some weeks ago I made a similar point on one of Kanwulia's threads where I noted that there is absolutely no lesson or mentorship to be received from a divorcee, a baby mama, or someone in her second or third marriage, especially in the area of building a home.
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by XhosaNostra(f): 7:04am On Jul 03, 2018
Timewilltell2:
An illiterate forming smart grin. Why don't you go interact with your hiv brothers ,no one likes you here . Leave naija guys alone , you desparado from a backward horing nation.
Are you feeling threatened? grin
I smell jealousy from you & nothing else. It's not my fault NOBODY wants YOU. Go choke on your own bile, you sour-faced bìtch!
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by sisisioge: 7:14am On Jul 03, 2018
Timewilltell2:
You did good , nothing but stupidity as usual, from a fairly used slave forming wife online. SA are very shameless.
grin grin grin grin

I guess they live in fear of their men. Those moraforkers either kill them or maim them if they do as much as complain.
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by brenister10: 7:48am On Jul 03, 2018
Timewilltell2:
Truth hurts,now move along . Ugly slave defender.
A pig will always go back to the dump site irrespective of how hard you try to change his orientation.
And truth be told, nobody wants you, therefore frustration has set in.

The fact that no one has ever shown you love, faithfulness and care has really beclouded your sense of reasoning

I Just hope you wake from your slumber and your status change from being an hoe to a sensible human being
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by Timewilltell2(f): 7:55am On Jul 03, 2018
brenister10:
A pig will always go back to the dump site irrespective of how hard you try to change his orientation.
And truth be told, nobody wants you, therefore frustration has set in.

The fact that no one has ever shown you love, faithfulness and care doesn't has really beclouded your sense of reasoning.

I Just hope you wake from your slumber and your status change from being an hoe to a sensible human being
Why do you sound so bitter and rejected ? grin. Get off my mentions.
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by brenister10: 7:57am On Jul 03, 2018
Timewilltell2:
Why do you sound so bitter and rejected ? grin. Get off my mentions.
You seem to be pained by the word called agape love. Period!
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by Timewilltell2(f): 7:59am On Jul 03, 2018
sisisioge:
grin grin grin grin

I guess they live in fear of their men. Those moraforkers either kill them or maim them if they do as much as complain.
Lol, exactly . Imagine a country where women pay half the bills in a house hold or date ? grin. And if they don't they get killed. That's where the jealousy comes from , our men are know how to behave like gentleman not sleeping with you for free like these hoes like xhosanostra. In hope that other one with a a foul mouth called lionessza was killed for not wanting to pay or go to work lol. Stupid women with no value .
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by Timewilltell2(f): 8:04am On Jul 03, 2018
XhosaNostra:
Are you feeling threatened? grin
I smell jealousy from you & nothing else. It's not my fault NOBODY wants YOU. Go choke on your own bile, you sour-faced bìtch!
Threatened by an hiv positive dark btch? grin grin. I'm more light skin and beauty than your whole slave liniage. I don't have to lift a finger at my house , I have 3 house girls ( want to apply to be 4th?) And a gate boy. I can shop till I drop, my man pays for it without complaining or trying to kill me for it lol. Can you say such? We both know you have to pay for everything cus your stupid lazy men , don't see value in you , that's why they are all over this forum looking for classy naija queens .
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by dangotesmummy: 8:08am On Jul 03, 2018
cococandy:
She Lost me here.

“He will hurt you, really really damage you”.

Stop marrying psychos
exactly. Stop marrying narcissist then choke down your toxic opinions on others.
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by Timewilltell2(f): 8:11am On Jul 03, 2018
brenister10:
You seem to be pained by the word called agape love. Period!
You are clearly a child of an ashewo
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by crackhaus: 8:11am On Jul 03, 2018
Timewilltell2:
Lol, exactly . Imagine a country where women pay half the bills in a house hold or date ? grin. And if they don't they get killed. That's where the jealousy comes from , our men are know how to behave like gentleman not sleeping with you for free like these hoes like xho.sanostra. In hope that other one with a a foul mouth called lio.nessza was killed for not wanting to pay or go to work lol. Stupid women with no value .
This is a bad thing?

Isn't that the kind of equality your sisters are fighting for in Nigeria? grin
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by XhosaNostra(f): 8:13am On Jul 03, 2018
Timewilltell2:
Threatened by an hiv positive dark btch? grin grin. I'm more light skin and beauty than your whole slave liniage. I don't have to lift a finger at my house , I have 3 house girls ( want to apply to be 4th?) And a gate boy. I can shop till I drop, my man pays for it without complaining or trying to kill me for it lol. Can you say such? We both know you have to pay for everything cus your stupid lazy men , don't see value in you , that's why they are all over this forum looking for classy naija queens .
LMAO. Yeah, right! Creating a fantasy life for ourselves online, huh catfish? grin
I don't need to prove anything to you. You're a nobody to me & I consider you much lower than the pebble under my shoe, twàt.
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by Timewilltell2(f): 8:15am On Jul 03, 2018
crackhaus:
This is a bad thing?

Isn't that the kind of equality your sisters are fighting for in Nigeria? grin
Nigerian women are smart and know how to do things .
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by Timewilltell2(f): 8:19am On Jul 03, 2018
XhosaNostra:
LMAO. Yeah, right! Creating a fantasy life for ourselves online, huh catfish? grin
I don't need to prove anything to you. You're a nobody to me & I consider you much lower than the pebble under my shoe, twàt.
Lmfao , it hurts to hear the truth right ? Sisisioge come and see this bitter one , jealous of how we live in naija grin. She cleans, cooks , goes to work , fck for free and takes care of children, if she doesn't she will get killed. What better definition for slave. Lol, they stole white men culture now they are slaves. Stupid ugly things.
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by XhosaNostra(f): 8:23am On Jul 03, 2018
Timewilltell2:
Lmfao , it hurts to hear the truth right ? Sisisioge come and see this bitter one , jealous of how we live in naija grin. She cleans, cooks , goes to work , fck for free and takes care of children, if she doesn't she will get killed. What better definition for slave. Lol, they stole white men culture now they are slaves. Stupid ugly things.
Why on earth would I be jealous of how you live when I don't even know how you live? You really are rètarded. Anyway, I'd rather live in a sewer than live in your country smiley
Re: South African Lady Who Got Married At 17 Gives Marriage Survival Tips by Timewilltell2(f): 8:26am On Jul 03, 2018
XhosaNostra:
Why on earth would I be jealous of how you live when I don't even know how you live? You really are rètarded. Anyway, I'd rather live in a sewer than live in your country smiley
Lol, yet you are in a naija forum ? Who is the retard here? grin. Hunting for a naija man who will take care of the home like a man ? Lol. How is getting slept with for free going for you? cheesy.
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