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omooba969:
Show off.

your opinion

MrBrownJay1:
get rid of the cheat, and be done with the misery..... no matter how wrong the wh0re done you, remember she is still the mother of your kids.

thats if they are truly his kids.

okerekeikpo:
She is a hoe

So any one can use it to farm?

zinizta:
i am trying very hard to be polite...

i doubt you have a girlfriend and if you do you are one of those Nappy wearing grownups who are still strung to their mother's apron hence the level of your maturity. ..


a woman calling anyone baby is not suficient grounds to believe she is SEEING HIM PRESENTLY...

she could be an old flame or ex lover... a proof that the husband hasn't been in on his A game...

why would you wash your dirty linen in the public ?
That man is very smart...in reverse

This is nonsensical, please delete. And to think you are still trying to defend this says a lot about your moral standing! Honestly, a married woman calling another man 'baby' is normal to you? Until she explicitly says 'lover I have sex with' before it can sink in? Are you a hypocrite, a hoe yourself or just being sarcastic? Shame on you!!!! Don't worry, if you are woman, may you see such texts in your husband's phone. Rubbish!

Drealthing:
This is nonsensical, please delete. And to think you are still trying to defend this says a lot about your moral standing! Honestly, a married woman calling another man 'baby' is normal to you? Until she explicitly says 'lover I have sex with' before it can sink in? Are you a hypocrite, a hoe yourself or just being sarcastic? Shame on you!!!! Don't worry, if you are woman, may you see such texts in your husband's phone. Rubbish!

pikin.... grow up.... you are one of those traditional thinking African men... it is 2018 wake up...It is your type whose wife will be nacking the gateman under your nose...

the earlier you free your mind from unreasonable expectations of women the better your chances of not dying by hypertension. ..

mtschewwww... and FYI i am a guy

theDEVILisHERE:
You are describing perverted men not normal men

Normal man/woman is able to stay faithful and moral effortlessly
You all are finding it difficult now cause you all have perverted urselves into sexual overdrive due to greed (over consumption mentality) introduced to you by d devils (non black races)

you can call the men i describe whatever you desire, but the reality is that these sexually miserable men/women are out there, in masses (since Nigerians like to marry donkeys out of desperation)....and if any person believes that all men/women are emotionally strong enough to not stray then i guess we must be living in la la land riding unicorns.

here is the reality: the reason many cheat is the same reason many lie/sin/steal/kill etc (aka WEAKNESS).... and if the world was a perfect place (like you want to pretend) then we wouldnt be here discussing the issue at hand, would we?!

lefulefu:
all the same he should still do a paternity test to know if he's really the biological father.at least he will then know where he stands. Imagine a situation in the future another man comes from nowhere to claim the kids and it was then discovered he aint the real dad.that will be another double blow to him.

the minute a father suspects his partner to cheat he should do that.... but lets say the child was not biologically yours, would you really abandon a kid you have loved/raised/cared/fed/clothed/educated/cherished for years and years?!?! imho, that child is yours, no matter what anybody says.

MrBrownJay1:
the minute a father suspects his partner to cheat he should do that.... but lets say the child was not biologically yours, would you really abandon a kid you have loved/raised/cared/fed/clothed/educated/cherished for years and years?!?! imho, that child is yours, no matter what anybody says.

if the biological father comes out of the blues to claim his child would u have a choice?

zinizta:
pikin.... grow up.... you are one of those traditional thinking African men... it is 2018 wake up...It is your type whose wife will be nacking the gateman under your nose...

the earlier you free your mind from unreasonable expectations of women the better your chances of not dying by hypertension. ..

mtschewwww... and FYI i am a guy

but that guy is right na. What manner of a married woman would be refering to another dude not her husband as baby or sweetheart. Dem no even need to nack for hotel b4 the husband ought to start to suspect.guy if ur wife dey have chats with guys on social media and she quickly switch off her fone when she sights u then bros u better start suspecting. Or are u saying u wont say anything if a man grabs the bumbum of ur wife in public just because he hasnt started having sex with her?

Drealthing:
This is nonsensical, please delete. And to think you are still trying to defend this says a lot about your moral standing! Honestly, a married woman calling another man 'baby' is normal to you? Until she explicitly says 'lover I have sex with' before it can sink in? Are you a hypocrite, a hoe yourself or just being sarcastic? Shame on you!!!! Don't worry, if you are woman, may you see such texts in your husband's phone. Rubbish!

there are some shameless married women.u will see men handling their boobs and smacking their ukwu in public and they will laughing and smiling.... Married woman ooo. Men married to such women get heart sha.

lefulefu:
if the biological father comes out of the blues to claim his child would u have a choice?

if the father comes in and wants to take over raising that child then i will have to step back, but until that man shows up and do whats right for that child, i will continue be the father of that kid (who didnt do anything wrong in this madness)

MrBrownJay1:
you can call the men i describe whatever you desire, but the reality is that these sexually miserable men/women are out there, in masses (since Nigerians like to marry donkeys out of desperation)....and if any person believes that all men/women are emotionally strong enough to not stray then i guess we must be living in la la land riding unicorns.

here is the reality: the reason many cheat is the same reason many lie/sin/steal/kill etc (aka WEAKNESS).... and if the world was a perfect place (like you want to pretend) then we wouldnt be here discussing the issue at hand, would we?!

You are complicating a very simple issue

People cheat cause they have programmed themselves to do so due to perversions and love for such perversions
Same way people kill or steal cause they indulge such deviant behavior

All habits result form u training your mind and body to think and act a certain way

If u don't want to cheat you would not cheat
Even a chronic cheater can stop cheating if he or she is sincere and honest enough to untrained his or herself from such

This is not a LA LA land issue
And certainly not a religious issue cause religion makes u an immoral person

theDEVILisHERE:
You are complicating a very simple issue

People cheat cause they have programmed themselves to do so due to perversions and love for such perversions

WRONG
as much as many cheat because they simply can and desire to do so, the majority cheat because they are weak. many end up cheating because they find themselves in a situation they cant control, their emotion is running wild (often due to alcohol/drugs or temporary euphoric moments) and they become weak thus fall for it. they didnt go out that morning thinking they were gonna cheat on their partner, but it sadly happened. thinking that all people who cheat have no remorse and do so because it is in their nature/desire, is a joke.

Same way people kill or steal cause they indulge such deviant behavior

WRONG AGAIN
many kill out of necessity, out of self defense, out of temporary insanity or simply because they thought that it was the only way out.... dont compare these people with the demons (aka armed robber/ritualist etc) who kill people because thats the nature of their evil profession.
here is a clue: if i come home and see you violating my kids then i would probably kill you, not because i "indulge in deviant behavior" but simply because thats the necessary force i will take to get kick you off my child.... as for thieves, its the same deal, many do so unwillingly due to mental illness. get real bro!

All habits result form u training your mind and body to think and act a certain way

WRONG ONE MORE TIME
see how you call something that could be done mistakenly "once" an habit?! are you saying that people cant cheat/lie/kill/steal once and never indulge in such act again?! are you saying that to cheat/steal/kill/lie you must prepare you body and mind to it, and that it never happens right there and then?!

If u don't want to cheat you would not cheat
Even a chronic cheater can stop cheating if he or she is sincere and honest enough to untrained his or herself from such

WRONG AGAIN
A) remember that some people want/desire to cheat, and they are entitled to their choices...whether we like it or not....and B)
we are humans not robots, therefore we sometimes aim for certain things and dont always achieve it. its called LIFE!but hey, let me ask you a simple question.... are you perfect?! if you answer YES, then i will tell you that "i guess you must be the only man on earth who is"... but if you answer NO, then i will tell you that "you therefore dont practice what you preach bro"

MrBrownJay1:
WRONG
as much as many cheat because they simply can and desire to do so, the majority cheat because they are weak. many end up cheating because they find themselves in a situation they cant control, their emotion is running wild (often due to alcohol/drugs or temporary euphoric moments) and they become weak thus fall for it. they didnt go out that morning thinking they were gonna cheat on their partner, but it sadly happened. thinking that all people who cheat have no remorse and do so because it is in their nature/desire, is a joke.



WRONG AGAIN
many kill out of necessity, out of self defense, out of temporary insanity or simply because they thought that it was the only way out.... dont compare these people with the demons (aka armed robber/ritualist etc) who kill people because thats the nature of their evil profession.
here is a clue: if i come home and see you violating my kids then i would probably kill you, not because i "indulge in deviant behavior" but simply because thats the necessary force i will take to get kick you off my child.... as for thieves, its the same deal, many do so unwillingly due to mental illness. get real bro!



WRONG ONE MORE TIME
see how you call something that could be done mistakenly "once" an habit?! are you saying that people cant cheat/lie/kill/steal once and never indulge in such act again?! are you saying that to cheat/steal/kill/lie you must prepare you body and mind to it, and that it never happens right there and then?!



WRONG AGAIN
A) remember that some people want/desire to cheat, and they are entitled to their choices...whether we like it or not....and B)
we are humans not robots, therefore we sometimes aim for certain things and dont always achieve it. its called LIFE!but hey, let me ask you a simple question.... are you perfect?! if you answer YES, then i will tell you that "i guess you must be the only man on earth who is"... but if you answer NO, then i will tell you that "you therefore dont practice what you preach bro"

?@$$!¥€!!?

This is not necessary

OK let me be brief with this

In your pure state you know what is right and what is not right
Now do what is right
It is that simple, YES IT IS THAT SIMPLE

Never bend or make excuses for what is not right cause it would still remain "not right"
Don't sweat it

safarigirl:
I hope sexual satisfaction can save this marriage since men are purportedly more interested in sex than values. I wonder how many marriages great sex has saved

Whatever it is a man desires in his wife sexually, he can get it if he teaches her. Even the freaks in bed, na pesin teach them. Nobody was born a freak in the bed, abi?

A lot of marriages have been saved by great sex dear. A lot.

It's not just sexual satisfaction.

The need for satisfaction comes in various forms. It could be assurance of a full stomach whenever he comes home, assurance of a clean home, an understanding and supportive wife, need for children andd of course great sex.

The needs vary and they could be mutually exclusive.

A man might become obsessed with being successful in business or career, to the detriment of family at home. Wife may begin to complain about neglect.

A man might be the homely kind, always trying to show love and receive same from the wife, wile not being too well-to-do. Wife may still complain.

But in the few years that I've roamed Nigeria's part of Earth, I've still come to realise that sex plays a great great role in cementing marriages. I'm very sure of that. Believe me, no matter how faithful a man may be, if the wife leaves him to be constantly dissatisfied sexually, there is a great chance that he will seek relief outside. Conversely, if he receives "sufficiently" (the term is relative) from the wife, it'll be difficult (not impossible) for him to cheat on her.


P.S. I don't think every wife can be taught great sex by the hubby. If she decides to be stuck up, she'll be stuck up and remain so.

lefulefu:
but that guy is right na. What manner of a married woman would be refering to another dude not her husband as baby or sweetheart. Dem no even need to nack for hotel b4 the husband ought to start to suspect.guy if ur wife dey have chats with guys on social media and she quickly switch off her fone when she sights u then bros u better start suspecting. Or are u saying u wont say anything if a man grabs the bumbum of ur wife in public just because he hasnt started having sex with her?

Good point...

these things happen...

my first comment on that thread was the man was being hypocritical...

1. why bring up this matter in the public ?

2. why not be patient enough to collect evidences to support that mere suspicion?

A smarter way is to have skepticism about every evidences until you have sufficient grounds and basis and even then be intelligent about the way you go about it as she is the mother of your kid....

3.do you know the going ons in that marriage ? do you know if the man is cheating too... maybe she decided to have our own side bf as a sort of revenge....

conclusion: in marriage worse things than this happens trust me...but you have to be a man about it... handle your business discreetly and not putting private matters on social media....

that dude is immature and irresponsible IMO

p.s this is 2018...sex is not a big deal... till they invent vagina meter, nack no be biggie... many girls don do foursome, party,orgy and yet look innocent and loyal ...dem no dey write am for face

zinizta:
Good point...

these things happen...

my first comment on that thread was the man was being hypocritical...

1. why bring up this matter in the public ?

2. why not be patient enough to collect evidences to support that mere suspicion?

A smarter way is to have skepticism about every evidences until you have sufficient grounds and basis and even then be intelligent about the way you go about it as she is the mother of your kid....

3.do you know the going ons in that marriage ? do you know if the man is cheating too... maybe she decided to have our own side bf as a sort of revenge....

conclusion: in marriage worse things than this happens trust me...but you have to be a man about it... handle your business discreetly and not putting private matters on social media....

that dude is immature and irresponsible IMO

p.s this is 2018...sex is not a big deal... till they invent vagina meter, nack no be biggie... many girls don do foursome, party,orgy and yet look innocent and loyal ...dem no dey write am for face

u made a very good point.the guy ought to have strong evidence on ground b4 he made his move. Now if it was a white guy who was suspecting his wife of infidelity,he would hire a private detective to monitor his wife and gather strong evidence against her of which he would use against her during the divorce procedings. Yea its like he also had his own fling cos i saw another thread where the guy was flaunting his new catch on his social page.so lets say both of them were cheating in their marriage.as for the social media thing the madness of social media has taken over all of us.

lefulefu:
u made a very good point.the guy ought to have strong evidence on ground b4 he made his move. Now if it was a white guy who was suspecting his wife of infidelity,he would hire a private detective to monitor his wife and gather strong evidence against her of which he would use against her during the divorce procedings. Yea its like he also had his own fling cos i saw another thread where the guy was flaunting his new catch on his social page.so lets say both of them were cheating in their marriage.as for the social media thing the madness of social media has taken over all of us.

that my friend is the story of the majority of Nigerian marriages...

if a paternity test was to be conducted nationwide...sadly, so many nigerians would be bastards....plain truth!!!!! so many lies and hypocrisy. ..

zinizta:
that my friend is the story of the majority of Nigerian marriages...

if a paternity test was to be conducted nationwide...sadly, so many nigerians would be bastards....plain truth!!!!! so many lies and hypocrisy. ..

sadly on the bastard issue u might be right cos the way some married women flirt around will even make single slayqueens look like learners. We havent mention what some do with their pastors in the name of counselling.

Pastorpreneur

lefulefu:
sadly on the bastard issue u might be right cos the way some married women flirt around will even make single slayqueens look like learners. We havent mention what some do with their pastors in the name of counselling.

lefulefu:
sadly on the bastard issue u might be right cos the way some married women flirt around will even make single slayqueens look like learners. We havent mention what some do with their pastors in the name of counselling.

you get....

women are like pets... you have to pet them always... especially if you want the truth from them...

never deal with a woman with aggression... be subtle...this is the 21st century, it is a woman's world now. ..they don't really need a man to survive... the successful ones at least so as a man you have to be emotionally intelligent...and if you are convinced she is cheating for no 'good reason' quietly replace her...

zinizta:
you get....

women are like pets... you have to pet them always... especially if you want the truth from them...

never deal with a woman with aggression... be subtle...this is the 21st century, it is a woman's world now. ..they don't really need a man to survive... the successful ones at least so as a man you have to be emotionally intelligent...and if you are convinced she is cheating for no 'good reason' quietly replace her...

gbam! If she's cheating then qieutly break up with her without making a drama out of it.i very much agree with that.

lefulefu:
gbam! If she's cheating then qieutly break up with her without making a drama out of it.i very much agree with that.

women are everywhere nowadays...just be successful and dem go suck your brain die.... and somewhere some place one boy or man dey commit suicide because of woman. ...mtchewwwww