StrongWoman333:
Teamie you are not being selfish nobody should add to your stress in the name of omugwo. Don't be the one to send her away just apply wisdom, discuss it with your hubby he should be the one to do the talk. Any word you say now, will be twisted behind your back. Just do what your strength can, after she bathe baby, carry her in, lock yourself in the room with enough provisions and water to take when hungry. If she knocks, tell her you are tired and need to catch some sleep cos baby didnt sleep at night . Tell her to feel free and enter the kitchen to cook whatever she wish to eat. You are lucky hubby is not there you don't have to bother about cooking all the time since its just your stomach.

Thanks mama.......

lessonslearned:


Thanks mama.......

Hi mama, let me pitch in a little here.

A 70 year old woman definitely can't do what omugwo entails. She herself is basically an invalid. My own mother only Stayed 2 weeks( I was in the hospital during this time sef) before she sent for her younger sis and left. She told me she's too old to really care for me and my baby which is true cos she suffers arthritis, ulcer and hbp and is 70+. So it's sad that you have to be burdened with someone incapable of giving you relief and rest.


Mama is old please don't be upset with her and her demands and complaints( it's unending actually at that age). You can get a live out maid that will assist you with the chores, whilst mama continues with baby bathing Lolz.

You need rest mbok try and see if you can get a much capable omugwo rep or just endure till she leaves.

God will continue to give you strength and patience.

4realwoman wait till 4 months to starts putting Kam to sit, i read 4 is the ideal age for boys due to one nerve at the spine.

Start with formula before introducing solids like pap


Yes formula and BM is OK till age 6m.

Happy birthday to baby D! I love the hair

Cc graciouscharis

Beautifulrosa hugs sis! All will be well .

Happy birthday to King. God bless him

Graciouscharis:
So today is our first birthday. I’ve been trying to get a shot of him but the boy won’t cooperate.

First, he hid his face and then closed his eyes.
My boy is not in the mood to take pics.

Happy birthday King D. I love you So much.

For a 70years old woman? That's not nice.

StrongWoman333:
Teamie you are not being selfish nobody should add to your stress in the name of omugwo. Don't be the one to send her away just apply wisdom, discuss it with your hubby he should be the one to do the talk. Any word you say now, will be twisted behind your back. Just do what your strength can, after she bathe baby, carry her in, lock yourself in the room with enough provisions and water to take when hungry. If she knocks, tell her you are tired and need to catch some sleep cos baby didnt sleep at night . Tell her to feel free and enter the kitchen to cook whatever she wish to eat. You are lucky hubby is not there you don't have to bother about cooking all the time since its just your stomach.

I see pharmacy stores advertising Combination 3.
I don't know how it works. Maybe you should ask a doctor

zimunachimdi:
Good pm mamas. Trust we are all good.
Giddyperson ,pls ma enlighten me of the contraceptive pills you wanted to go for then. And if it is breast feeding friendly.

Mamas,any idea? Shuk mouth pls.

Talk to your husband again about how she is not so much of a help due to her age. That you wouldn't mind him getting someone that can assist you with chores for now despite mama still being around.

lessonslearned:


Thanks mama.......

Anugod, kontinue congratulations in advance

Na holiday mama come do for your house
Funny enough, they prefer sending them to stay long in daughter -in-law's house cos that one will cook and clean and try to please. Whereas her own daughter will tell her pop and plain that she is tired o

I can only add that probably you should start bathing baby yourself. This way she may know that there is really nothing left for her to do than to end the holiday and go home so you can rest a bit. Pele.

You are a nice person that's why she sends you message up and down and says she won't eat this and that. Oh well, we know it's not easy to care for very old people. Let alone combining that with caring for a newborn. Not the right time for holiday at all

And forget trying to convince your husband. They don't do the extra cooking and chores etc so can't truly understand. Just zero your mind, that it won't be forever.
Don't make her uncomfortable. Just start bathing baby when and if you can cos mama still feels she is helping you

Cc-lessonslearned

FloraEC:


I've never seen cowbell full cream milk

Nne ehh, the thing is confusing me, if I check those nutritional content for back of cowbell, I will jex have temptation to buy it and forget the full cream sumtin

Awesomemama:


Cowell instant filled milk is different from full cream milk

Thanks ma'am for your response

lessonslearned:
Am sorry this night sound selfish but How do you tell your MIL to go back to her house??

She's being here since my baby was 2wks old and sorry to say she's adding to my exhaustion....

All she does is to bathe baby.....
I mean literally bathe baby.....

I cook n clean n do the vigilante business myself....
I even wash clothes myself

Ohk I was not complaining cos she is elderly like in her 70s but she keeps criticizing my cooking....
This is not the way to do this or that.....
I don't eat this or that.....

You must give baby this or that......

I think it's time I have my house back.....

Nne, cuz of her age endure... All this old people can be a handful but if u put her in the shoes of your mom, u have no option than to overfeed her with that love and care without complaining too much..

It's not easy, especially with your new baby but since u already have a routine, just stick to it. Finish up, lock yourself in the room and have a good sleep when baby is sleeping..

HIH?

Naomi14:
For a 70years old woman? That's not nice.

Since she is selective of what to eat and criticising her cooking. You cant be stressing a new mother with those words.

Good morning mamas,am going to derail small.
I have a jumia gift card which I want to sell cos I need d cash.Is valid till July 2019.Abeg,anyone wey d buy 4 jumia,come buy dis gift card.Wanted buying units with it but not possible.Is just 3600.Thanks

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lessonslearned:
Am sorry this night sound selfish but How do you tell your MIL to go back to her house??

She's being here since my baby was 2wks old and sorry to say she's adding to my exhaustion....

All she does is to bathe baby.....
I mean literally bathe baby.....

I cook n clean n do the vigilante business myself....
I even wash clothes myself

Ohk I was not complaining cos she is elderly like in her 70s but she keeps criticizing my cooking....
This is not the way to do this or that.....
I don't eat this or that.....

You must give baby this or that......

I think it's time I have my house back.....

Hubby doesn't stay with us.... He works in a separate place so even when I try to say am stressed he but keeps saying he's mother is very considerate.....
Now she's blaming me cos D'S has cough and catarrh because I refused her plenty plenty things when he was fine........

I went to get some drugs for him today she didn't say she was sick oh.... Now I just cook finish she now saying she couldn't sleep last night she has malaria I should go get drugs......
Why she nor talk when I go buy medicine for afternoon....
When am I supposed to rest ehn

**END OF RANT**

she can't be with u forever, do the little u can. Remember she is an old woman, so see her as your mother too. Patience is a virtue. I was once in ur shoe, its not easy but we gat to endure.

StrongWoman333:
Teamie you are not being selfish nobody should add to your stress in the name of omugwo. Don't be the one to send her away just apply wisdom, discuss it with your hubby he should be the one to do the talk. Any word you say now, will be twisted behind your back. Just do what your strength can, after she bathe baby, carry her in, lock yourself in the room with enough provisions and water to take when hungry. If she knocks, tell her you are tired and need to catch some sleep cos baby didnt sleep at night . Tell her to feel free and enter the kitchen to cook whatever she wish to eat. You are lucky hubby is not there you don't have to bother about cooking all the time since its just your stomach.

Madam, this is harsh o. 70 years old woman fa., remember she is an old woman.

Though, they might not be doing that to their own daughter, but as a wife, patience should always be our watchword.

I experienced this same thing she is talking about, though hubby is with us. My husband twin sister will even come from her house to greet her mother, in the process, she will send me to the market to go buy soup ingredients for her to take home, me wey just born o. Instead of the mother to correct her, she will tell me to go quickly and come back on time. you can imagine that, my husband is always angry at them. Though they don't do that when he is at home, but whenever he is not around. How did he know? he met me on my way to the market one day and aske where I'm going to, I told him his sister sent me to the market. She frown face whenever she is eating, its either my rice is undone or soup no sweet. So many attitudes she put on then but I endured because she won't stay forever.

The day she left, it was as if they pour Ice water on my body. Since then, my hubby said she won't come to his house for omugwo again, that old people are just burden to new mothers.

So, lets be patient with them biko.

Mothers in the house I greet everyone I observed that any time I give my 14months old baby Ewedu with any solid when she wants to poo I see those ewedu particle in her poopoo. do I need to be concern of I shld rest my mind

PS: I hv some lovely baby girls shoes that I want to sell I a giveaway price very reasonable price. contact me if you are interested.

comtem2011:
Madam, this is harsh o. 70 years old woman fa., remember she is an old woman.

Though, they might not be doing that to their own daughter, but as a wife, patience should always be our watchword.

I experienced this same thing she is talking about, though hubby is with us. My husband twin sister will even come from her house to greet her mother, in the process, she will send me to the market to go buy soup ingredients for her to take home, me wey just born o. Instead of the mother to correct her, she will tell me to go quickly and come back on time. you can imagine that, my husband is always angry at them. Though they don't do that when he is at home, but whenever he is not around. How did he know? he met me on my way to the market one day and aske where I'm going to, I told him his sister sent me to the market. She frown face whenever she is eating, its either my rice is undone or soup no sweet. So many attitudes she put on then but I endured because she won't stay forever.

The day she left, it was as if they pour Ice water on my body. Since then, my hubby said she won't come to his house for omugwo again, that old people are just burden to new mothers.

So, lets be patient with them biko.

What is all this 70yrs talk all about sef? OK let me tell you my own. My MIL is 75 yes 75 and weak being a farmer in the village all her life no more hair on her head. My own mum is late. Do you know that my MIL did hot water massage for me for 1 week without being told? I gave birth through cs she massaged my back cos the spinal Anastasia was paining me when I came back from the hospital. Massaged my breast so I can lactate well, massaged my swollen legs and apply rob. There were times she will be doing those and I will be crying in the bathroom missing my mum. Sometimes she almost cried with me to console me. My husband also did the massage but most times it was my MIL. Mil bathe baby, sweep house in the morning and pack clothes in the sun. The only thing she dosnt do is wash baby clothes or mine, cook, and clean.I do all that. MIL also lift my leg to put on chair when its time for me to breastfeed. Though I know she can be naughty at times but her good deeds supersedes her bad so I hardly complain and ignore cos I know I'm still lucky to have her and its not easy. I also take the baby to her at 4 or 5am so I can at least sleep and she brings baby in 2hours time when it is time to suck or bathe that is after she must have done all the pampering for baby not to cry...

Your in-laws are not considerate esp that your sis in law though I don't know the kind of relationship you people had but as for me, I don't think I will take it its good to be patient but also good to stand your ground. As for me, I hardly talk I like to swallow things even if they are killing me but my reaction alone go send strong message and the person go fear. . Daughters in law should not suffer in the name of omugwo abeg.

Liftedhands:
Beautifulrosa hugs sis! All will be well .

Thank you

Breastmilk is the perfect food, gentle on their tummy, no potential allergens, nothing, just perfect
Formula is intermediate some babies react some don't - milk of which various brands exist with various natural and synthetic nutrients and supplements
Solids, such as pap is a whole other territory entirely - millet, guineacorn, soyabeans, jero, plus all sorts of grains - some people add ginger...etc etc
Introducing solids from exclusive feeding is jumping the gun in my opinion, A baby actually only needs milk for the first 6 months. Thats it, nothing else. A baby who was always combi fed can cope easier with solids at 4 plus months (so far the baby is sitting ok oh). Exclusive babies need more time

I always advise breastmilk and formula only for the first 6 months
If you have any specific reason to introduce solids (impatient mummy/baby not seeming satisfied) start at 5 months with age appropriate cereals only

Hope this helps

rvpbae:


If i understand you correctly, are u saying exclusive breastfed babies shouldn't be introduced directly to pap? Any reason in particular? Or is it about the age?

My son would be 4 months soon and i planned on introducing pap to him then. Do i need to start with formular first, say till 5months, then do pap? Or just start pap at 4months?

I think patience is still the advice we can give to the concerned party.. Although it's not easy but we won't tell her to send her mother in law out.
Strength differs when aged people are concerned. My grandma is 79, she bath my baby and back her. Atimes she even wakes up to do vigilante with us (my mum and I. As I came to spend some time with my parents)
But then, my Dad's elder sister who is 72 can't go thru such cos she is no longer strong,she has arthritis and her back is bent already. She was even saying she will follow me back to Lagos but my Dad didn't agree ooo. Cos she will become another baby for me to take care.
So we can't compare this aged ones just as we can't compare our strength with one another. May God help us all

Cc: StrongWoman333

MumIbeji:
I think patience is still the advice we can give to the concerned party.. Although it's not easy but we won't tell her to send her mother in law out.
Strength differs when aged people are concerned. My grandma is 79, she bath my baby and back her. Atimes she even wakes up to do vigilante with us (my mum and I. As I came to spend some time with my parents)
But then, my Dad's elder sister who is 72 can't go thru such cos she is no longer strong,she has arthritis and her back is bent already. She was even saying she will follow me back to Lagos but my Dad didn't agree ooo. Cos she will become another baby for me to take care.
So we can't compare this aged ones just as we can't compare our strength with one another. May God help us all

Cc: StrongWoman333

Hmnn it is well.

hunniesuzie:

Breastmilk is the perfect food, gentle on their tummy, no potential allergens, nothing, just perfect
Formula is intermediate some babies react some don't - milk of which various brands exist with various natural and synthetic nutrients and supplements
Solids, such as pap is a whole other territory entirely - millet, guineacorn, soyabeans, jero, plus all sorts of grains - some people add ginger...etc etc
Introducing solids from exclusive feeding is jumping the gun in my opinion, A baby actually only needs milk for the first 6 months. Thats it, nothing else. A baby who was always combi fed can cope easier with solids at 4 plus months (so far the baby is sitting ok oh). Exclusive babies need more time

I always advise breastmilk and formula only for the first 6 months
If you have any specific reason to introduce solids (impatient mummy/baby not seeming satisfied) start at 5 months with age appropriate cereals only

Hope this helps

It does. Thank you so much.

I initial plan was to do EBF, still on it sha but i want to start shedding my baby weight and I'm scared that it will affect my milk supply. My DS sabi suck, as in he sucks a loooot

StrongWoman333:
What is all this 70yrs talk all about sef? OK let me tell you my own. My MIL is 75 yes 75 and weak being a farmer in the village all her life no more hair on her head. My own mum is late. Do you know that my MIL did hot water massage for me for 1 week without being told? I gave birth through cs she massaged my back cos the spinal Anastasia was paining me when I came back from the hospital. Massaged my breast so I can lactate well, massaged my swollen legs and apply rob. There were times she will be doing those and I will be crying in the bathroom missing my mum. Sometimes she almost cried with me to console me. My husband also did the massage but most times it was my MIL. Mil bathe baby, sweep house in the morning and pack clothes in the sun. The only thing she dosnt do is wash baby clothes or mine, cook, and clean.I do all that. MIL also lift my leg to put on chair when its time for me to breastfeed. Though I know she can be naughty at times but her good deeds supersedes her bad so I hardly complain and ignore cos I know I'm still lucky to have her and its not easy. I also take the baby to her at 4 or 5am so I can at least sleep and she brings baby in 2hours time when it is time to suck or bathe that is after she must have done all the pampering for baby not to cry...

Your in-laws are not considerate esp that your sis in law though I don't know the kind of relationship you people had but as for me, I don't think I will take it its good to be patient but also good to stand your ground. As for me, I hardly talk I like to swallow things even if they are killing me but my reaction alone go send strong message and the person go fear. . Daughters in law should not suffer in the name of omugwo abeg.

Do not compare your MIL to someone else's!
Everyone wasn't born or built the same!

Your MIL is 75+ and can lift you up with one hand, great!

Hers can't and is needy! Awesome!.

We should deal with them with respect and remember that one day we too will become MILs too!

@ the mama that was letting off steam


Just breathe
Do what you can and leave the rest
Please do not be rude to mama
Na old age de do her. Biko. Forgive her

StrongWoman333:
Since she is selective of what to eat and criticising her cooking. You cant be stressing a new mother with those words.

Nne at that age they are a handful especially if they have any health challenges on top.
If you see what I passed through when my mom came to do omugwo for me, you will pity me.
She is diabetic and have hbp.
She only bath baby if she has the time.I cook,bath baby sometimes and wash her own clothes sometimes.
She even told me that she takes her dinner by 6:30pm because of her health.So I make sure I met her needs coupled with my toddlers.
The most challenging part is that she knocks at my door as early as 6 in the morning not minding the fact that I do vigilante,her reason is to check on baby, but I noticed that she only want to come to gist with me.
I was so exhausted.
I endured because she is my mom and I love her.I understand her.
She is back to her base now.
Just endure,it will not be forever.

@booqee
Anyone who says a baby needs exercise needs to be castrated and sent into the pit of hell. Nansense and ingredient
Mtcheeeew


Your baby is adorable

beautifulrosa:
Gud morning mamas, how you all doing?

My story is so so sad.
Pls who ever has a 6month old and got pregnant?
I tried everything possible o. Used postinor sef, yet this one happened.

And no pls, am not ready at all, at all.
If anyone has been in the same situation and can offer some sort of help. No need typing it here.
Just pm me. Thank u.

I conceived when my baby was 5+ months, they are 3 and 2 years old now. It may be tough but you will pull through. God is your strength.

zimunachimdi:
Good pm mamas. Trust we are all good.
Giddyperson ,pls ma enlighten me of the contraceptive pills you wanted to go for then. And if it is breast feeding friendly.

Mamas,any idea? Shuk mouth pls.

lol I didn't finally make up my mind apparently.

I know my mum was on one that the name starts with C, maybe its the combination 3 someone mentioned. I know I was researching one and was almost falling for it a while back but I can't remember the name now or the details of what i even found then. Pls other mamas on pills should enlighten

Sansa143, why are you reminding me of 4th TT when I'm about to start 1st TT

greatp80:


Nne at that age they are a handful especially if they have any health challenges on top.
If you see what I passed through when my mom came to do omugwo for me, you will pity me.
She is diabetic and have hbp.
She only bath baby if she has the time.I cook,bath baby sometimes and wash her own clothes sometimes.
She even told me that she takes her dinner by 6:30pm because of her health.So I make sure I met her needs coupled with my toddlers.
The most challenging part is that she knocks at my door as early as 6 in the morning not minding the fact that I do vigilante,her reason is to check on baby, but I noticed that she only want to come to gist with me.
I was so exhausted.
I endured because she is my mom and I love her.I understand her.
She is back to her base now.
Just endure,it will not be forever.

Hmn OK. May God preserve them for us Cc. lessonslearned