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stano2:
Op nice one, i will add one which is COMPASSION
Children should be taught to care, show mercy, and sympathy.
Parents should lead by example and also getting a pet for them will help in teaching them the act of compassion

DKM123:
That it is NOT YOUR TRUTH, doesn't mean it isn't another's truth. Of course they are EXTREME cases of indoctrination. It BEHOVES on the parent to BALANCE it.

I don't care how atheist you are, you cannot deny that Christianity especially has instilled morals, discipline, good conscience, compassion, honesty etc in the minds of kids who were brought up in that line. Some of this kids could have been killers, ritualist, thieves etc especially in a hopeless country like OURS if they hadn't grown in fear of a HIGHER BEING.

On a world wide scale, religion may have done a lot of harm but in third world countries like ours , it is our hope and life saver. Trust me.

P.S. Drug addiction and being a practising Christian are two completely different analogies so it makes no sense placing both on the same scale.

hopefulLandlord:
Teach them the truth on uselessness of prayer. there's been no single study that points to prayer being useful. Templeton Foundation (a religious group) ran a study and found out prayers are useless

Teach your child that he/she would have the same success praying to a milk jug as you do praying to god -- the milk jug sometimes answers your prayer the way you want to, sometimes not and sometimes the answer is delayed just like God. Teach them to take action, stand and fight for what they want rather than fall on their knees and cry to imaginary friends

hopefulLandlord:
You have any statistics to back this up or you're pulling this from your arse? last I checked majority of crimes being committed in Nigeria are committed by Christians and Muslims. Our prisons comprise close to 99% Christians and Muslims. It appears you're too myopic to see that Christianity does nothing for morals. Infact showing children the consequences of their actions, asking them how they'd feel if someone does the same thing to them has been found to be more effective in shaping good morals than threatening them with hell or saying some bearded guy is looking at them from the sky
No difference!

hopefulLandlord:
Teach them the truth on uselessness of prayer. there's been no single study that points to prayer being useful. Templeton Foundation (a religious group) ran a study and found out prayers are useless

Teach your child that he/she would have the same success praying to a milk jug as you do praying to god -- the milk jug sometimes answers your prayer the way you want to, sometimes not and sometimes the answer is delayed just like God. Teach them to take action, stand and fight for what they want rather than fall on their knees and cry to imaginary friends

Daeylar:
I agree with everything except prayer.
Nothing but a complete waste of time.

hopefulLandlord:
You have any statistics to back this up or you're pulling this from your arse? last I checked majority of crimes being committed in Nigeria are committed by Christians and Muslims. Our prisons comprise close to 99% Christians and Muslims. It appears you're too myopic to see that Christianity does nothing for morals. Infact showing children the consequences of their actions, asking them how they'd feel if someone does the same thing to them has been found to be more effective in shaping good morals than threatening them with hell or saying some bearded guy is looking at them from the sky
No difference!

Drugs help them psychologically, helps them cope just like you did prayer. Relying on prayer would make your life a wreck just like relying on drugs would

izzy4shizzy:
You need jesus christ.
He cares for you

hopefulLandlord:
If Jesus Christ cares for you wouldn't be the one telling her Jesus would tell her himself

Bignuell:
Wow...i cant believe at this point in your life, in this time we're in you could say this. No offence though.

DKM123:
No it isn't a waste of time. In fact it is one of the most useful and the best of all the points.

I am not even looking at it from the spiritual angle. I am looking at it form the psychological point of view and how it affects the physical and mental well being.


Do you realise that being a praying Christian brings about the kind of therapy that even a Professor of Psychology or therapist can't give? It gives hope. It gives happiness. It gives contentment. It gives peace of mind. Its unburdening and surreal.

At the end of the day, instead of becoming a drug addict

and ruining your life because you feel empty and unfulfilled and overburdened and hopeless

It would have been better if you were taught (or indoctrinated, which ever way you choose to look at it) as a child to key into the "therapy" of prayers. This may be the best life hack asides education you can give your child.
Some ignorance (as you know it) are actually blissful.

daewoorazer:
10 cogent qualities to instill in your little children.


1. Confidence:

You are on a shopping spree with your son in shoprite but you think you should protect him by speaking to the cashier for him? That’s very wrong by all standards. When he wants anything, tell him how to go by it:

Hello, may I get a bar of chocolate please?

Teach him, there is no age requirement to being able to standup for oneself. How long can you protect them? You don’t even know how soon you gonna leave them. No one is wishing another death here, be a realist for once!

2. Courtesy:

For every little act of help/kindness, let your child know ‘thank you’ doesn’t cost a thing. Your daughter just bought a bar of chocolate, it doesn’t matter if you spent your money to buy it, teach her to say a ‘thank you’, it is free to say, but will earn you invaluable respect from onlookers!

3. Sex education:

Are you still telling your boy that new borns are delivered via the anus? Continue, ok?

How about he learns the truth from a spoilt girl/aunty?

He is brave enough to ask you what condom means and you are yelling ‘shut up’ at him, don’t forget the internet is at his disposal. He will never trust you enough to discuss sensitive information with you, he’d rather turn to strangers outside. Result is you’ve lost your son, not literally though.

Still on the matter, if your daughter sees her first period and she gets scared crying, you are a special failure, not the ‘F’ type you see in the university though.

4. How to use the PC:

Your child tried using your PC, you caught him but to yell and rebuke him? Really? Which decade do you think you are, or you still think they carry slates and chalk to school?

‘Oh he is gonna spoil my laptop, things are expensive under buhari’

Oh my, you had let him get familiar with computer right from childhood. In Nigeria, the next few years may mean no lecturer will waste his time writing long pages on the board, it’s gonna be a central system of learning, students will have to download notes and assignments. Don’t be your child’s undoing. Let him use that PC or buy him one, just deal with parental control and you are good. Remember cafes still exist, the porn you fear in your home, the cafes are willing to dish!

5. Politics:

Can you recite state and capital? Do you still think akwaibomites are Igbo people? Probs you still think Nasarawa people are Hausa people? Some have never heard there is a region called middlebelt! If you don’t want your children in same shoe you are, you had better expose them now! Let them stand away from the crowd. There is nothing as impressive as when a boy/girl of ten years discusses educative politics outside.

6. How to properly bathe:

Listen, whatever you teach him/her on bathing is what he/she is gonna stick to for the rest of his/her life. If you teach him to be 60% clean, he/she may never pass that level of cleanliness as an adult.

Teach them as young as possible, don’t let any aunty, uncle or cousin bathe them when on vacation/holidays. It will save them, trust me!

7. Sharing:

Teach them to understand everything in life is privilege, and that nothing beats the happiness you feel in sharing. Selfless values are invaluable.

Trust me, the world hates selfish folks and akagums!

8. Pray

Teach them how to pray, tell them to lead family prayers in mornings and in the night.

9. Punctuality

Teach them the importance of this. It will save them as adults. Punctuality is a value that can be mastered over decades, help them by teaching them early!

10. Truth:

It breaks my heart to realize 90% of Nigerian parents will beat their wards for saying the truth. He broke the mirror, told you and the next thing is give him 3 dirty slaps; you are not helping the child neither are you your child.

Let them realize punishment is reduced for saying the truth, but extreme when hidden. It will help them as adults, even beyond the shores of Africa!

This is an addition, please whatever superstitious beliefs you grew up with, never share with your kids. Like seriously?

‘If they eat while standing up, the food will settle down on their legs’.

Children are inquisitive, one day she tries it and realizes you are a big fat liar!

BTW, such superstitions will only render them dull, imagine sharing such shyte in a biology class which already told them food moves through our intestines?





https://naijacomet.com/2018/08/05/10-cogent-qualities-to-instill-in-your-little-children/

DKM123:
I would want to reply you like I did the others on this thread in a civilised manner but I see you are a very arrogant and absolutely idiot.ic Buffon! So nah, I will just give you back insult for insult since that is how you roll. Blaady fuul!

akeentech:
We are in digital age, teach your children digital skills, it helps them not only to survive but to be self sufficient.

If you are still behind on this you can check my signature.

Daeylar:
I agree with everything except prayer.
Nothing but a complete waste of time.

daewoorazer:
10 cogent qualities to instill in your little children.


1. Confidence:

You are on a shopping spree with your son in shoprite but you think you should protect him by speaking to the cashier for him? That’s very wrong by all standards. When he wants anything, tell him how to go by it:

Hello, may I get a bar of chocolate please?

Teach him, there is no age requirement to being able to standup for oneself. How long can you protect them? You don’t even know how soon you gonna leave them. No one is wishing another death here, be a realist for once!

2. Courtesy:

For every little act of help/kindness, let your child know ‘thank you’ doesn’t cost a thing. Your daughter just bought a bar of chocolate, it doesn’t matter if you spent your money to buy it, teach her to say a ‘thank you’, it is free to say, but will earn you invaluable respect from onlookers!

3. Sex education:

Are you still telling your boy that new borns are delivered via the anus? Continue, ok?

How about he learns the truth from a spoilt girl/aunty?

He is brave enough to ask you what condom means and you are yelling ‘shut up’ at him, don’t forget the internet is at his disposal. He will never trust you enough to discuss sensitive information with you, he’d rather turn to strangers outside. Result is you’ve lost your son, not literally though.

Still on the matter, if your daughter sees her first period and she gets scared crying, you are a special failure, not the ‘F’ type you see in the university though.

4. How to use the PC:

Your child tried using your PC, you caught him but to yell and rebuke him? Really? Which decade do you think you are, or you still think they carry slates and chalk to school?

‘Oh he is gonna spoil my laptop, things are expensive under buhari’

Oh my, you had let him get familiar with computer right from childhood. In Nigeria, the next few years may mean no lecturer will waste his time writing long pages on the board, it’s gonna be a central system of learning, students will have to download notes and assignments. Don’t be your child’s undoing. Let him use that PC or buy him one, just deal with parental control and you are good. Remember cafes still exist, the porn you fear in your home, the cafes are willing to dish!

5. Politics:

Can you recite state and capital? Do you still think akwaibomites are Igbo people? Probs you still think Nasarawa people are Hausa people? Some have never heard there is a region called middlebelt! If you don’t want your children in same shoe you are, you had better expose them now! Let them stand away from the crowd. There is nothing as impressive as when a boy/girl of ten years discusses educative politics outside.

6. How to properly bathe:

Listen, whatever you teach him/her on bathing is what he/she is gonna stick to for the rest of his/her life. If you teach him to be 60% clean, he/she may never pass that level of cleanliness as an adult.

Teach them as young as possible, don’t let any aunty, uncle or cousin bathe them when on vacation/holidays. It will save them, trust me!

7. Sharing:

Teach them to understand everything in life is privilege, and that nothing beats the happiness you feel in sharing. Selfless values are invaluable.

Trust me, the world hates selfish folks and akagums!

8. Pray

Teach them how to pray, tell them to lead family prayers in mornings and in the night.

9. Punctuality

Teach them the importance of this. It will save them as adults. Punctuality is a value that can be mastered over decades, help them by teaching them early!

10. Truth:

It breaks my heart to realize 90% of Nigerian parents will beat their wards for saying the truth. He broke the mirror, told you and the next thing is give him 3 dirty slaps; you are not helping the child neither are you your child.

Let them realize punishment is reduced for saying the truth, but extreme when hidden. It will help them as adults, even beyond the shores of Africa!

This is an addition, please whatever superstitious beliefs you grew up with, never share with your kids. Like seriously?

‘If they eat while standing up, the food will settle down on their legs’.

Children are inquisitive, one day she tries it and realizes you are a big fat liar!

BTW, such superstitions will only render them dull, imagine sharing such shyte in a biology class which already told them food moves through our intestines?





https://naijacomet.com/2018/08/05/10-cogent-qualities-to-instill-in-your-little-children/

24biznes:
where is your Signature please am a newbie

Moji12:
thanks op very informative, sex education very important, I could remember a day my son bumped into me while dressing n he was shocked i dint v a pen!s that he was going to buy me one, he was 2+ den,i laffed it off sat him down n explained to him. I wanted to stop him from using my tab cos he's becoming too advanced bout it n I was becoming rather uncomfortable despite dat it's not affecting his education in anyway but due to how people used to complain that he's too young to expose him to gadgets atleast now I can ignore their naivevity. Na sharing of things we r still battling with cos he's d only now but he's getting there unlike wen he will never allow other kids touch his toys but now he gives dem d smallest. Every other thing is cool bout. D punctuality na die, "mummy b fast is getting late" even in d morn lol. Thanks once again

stano2:
Op nice one, i will add one which is COMPASSION
Children should be taught to care, show mercy, and sympathy.
Parents should lead by example and also getting a pet for them will help in teaching them the act of compassion

daewoorazer:
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You are welcome but
Your boy gave me a good laugh!
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CAPSLOCKED:
MANY PEOPLE BELIEVE THAT ATHEISTS ARE IMMORAL, AND THAT NOT BELIEVING IN A GOD MAKES YOU WORSE THAN THE DEVIL. WHEREAS THE DEVILS WE'VE EVER KNOWN (IN HUMAN BODIES) ARE MOSTLY THE CHRISTIANS AND MUSLIMS AROUND US.
MOST ADULTERERS, CULTISTS, POLITICIANS, KIDNAPPERS, DRUNKS, CHILD MOLESTERS, WOMEN BEATERS, SHRINE GOERS, SARS, TERRORISTS ETC ARE EITHER CHRISTIANS OR MUSLIMS. THEN I WONDER WHAT PEOPLE LEARN FROM THESE TWO "GREAT" RELIGIONS.

hakeem4:
Well good point, I don’t really see the importance of number 8 though