₦airaland Forum

IntrovertedK:
shebi mariage is poverty alleviation scheme to the Igbos. I'm surprised you don't know.

Odogiawa:
He was given this right at Imo state before he met an Akwa Ibom girl,that worsen the whole situation and made him angry that he was not gonna marry any girl from the east... he has no option than to come back to benin....

Xmen149:
Enter Europe ,US .


meet a bae, tell her you want to marry her.

meet the family and they like you(usually invite you to dinner),they be like:he is an honest man,earns a living and can take care of a family.

arrange with a priest and fix a date,wed the fvck out o her.

throw very small indoor dinner party (if you want oh) and have beutiful babies.



meet nigerian babe


after all the wahala

tell her you want to marry her.

meet her family (you must go with gift oh),they will check if you have a car,house or staying abroad(they will surly like you if you have a talking pocket),(bearing in mind this one will train emeka or kunle for us )

U come with immediate family (and goodies)come collect list

choose if you bring everything in list once or not and u must bring am (money go comot)

when you are done,then traditional marriage(an party you go pay).

then white wedding will follow(with party u go pay)

then court marriage(them fit pity you comot party,but u must feed people that went with u)

then go with your wife (and start expecting either Esther,emeka or bayo that will later come and live with you that u must sponsor)

Thenn carry all your inlaw problem for head like gala

Acidosis:
Like wtf?! Please get ready to accept anything your husband throws at you in the name of culture.

You're not a zombie, you can coin and design your own culture. Your village people do not own you.

kentoski:
My guess is the rolling on the ground is an exaggeration, she doesn't mean that literally. Do you really believe that bending the knee to serve your husband wine as the custom demands is a sign of slavery?

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victorian:
I don't av issues with kneeling down and serve ones husband. But Wat she said about rolling on the floor? Haba! is too extreme.
Except she's exaggerating. Even at that it's annoying to hear, roll on the floor ?

Although the list is too much

Acidosis:
Like wtf?! Please get ready to accept anything your husband throws at you in the name of culture.

You're not a zombie, you can coin and design your own culture. Your village people do not own you.

safarigirl:
very lucky.

That is why they are forced into marriage to men that are sometimes twice their age even when they are kids.

Women are so lucky they get to carry pregnancies for nine months and stand the risk of dying when they go into labour.


Women are very lucky o. They have no troubles in life. They don't get blamed for the infertility of their husbands at times. Lucky beings

donbachi:
some tribes really need to work on their lists...it has kept many of their daughters in their fathers houses.

Aonkuuse:
Hahahahahah they don't know nah, but like seriously some people will be doing as if they are selling their daughters out

victorian:
I don't av issues with kneeling down and serve ones husband. But Wat she said about rolling on the floor? Haba! is too extreme.
Except she's exaggerating. Even at that it's annoying to hear, roll on the floor ?

Although the list is too much

thedondada:
Someone also trained the man.

Or is she livestock ?

chiommy123:
. they will still tell you that you are not the first person to performe such rites and clearly you are not. Some people still do beyond the list sef.

chiommy123:
how is it poverty alleviation? 60% of that list belongs to the umunna not her family

milemimi93:
Until you trained a female daughter from infant to adult, then you'll understand why the list is always huge..

ladygudhead:
Please the Umunna join in being 'her family' since you have said they join in owning her. so, it is safe to say the 60% go to her family while other fraction go to her family too. cos as the groom, the ummuna did not follow me come from my home.

chiommy123:
their tradition is quit different from ours. Maybe you are not Igbo cos you will not understand. In Igbo land its not just the parents of the girl that owns her. Hence everyone must partake in her marriage rites

superdude007:
..that's the reason many of them are into drug, ritual and other ungodly things to make money in satisfying their communities as related to marrying their tribe. Wedding is just a day & Marriage is forever.

Odogiawa:
He was given this right at Imo state before he met an Akwa Ibom girl,that worsen the whole situation and made him angry that he was not gonna marry any girl from the east... he has no option than to come back to benin....

Shukazu:
That is not the point

He is telling you that both are tradition...so if you condemned one ,you can't pretend yours is better

chiommy123:
my dear we want something to be done about that list. Honestly I shouted when I saw ours ( its not too high oo) but its not something that one person can change. In my culture the lady in question has no say. Its still the elders, igwes, umuadas and the umunna that can do something about it.

chiommy123:
you maybe right but you may not understand. Its such a big topic to be discussed here.

safarigirl:
where bride price is relatively cheap and there are more landladies than landlords.

Well, as long as okada men and vulcanizers are still getting married from this same east, I will never understand where some of you meet these families that don't budge. Which money is a okada rider using to get married?

chiommy123:
their tradition is quit different from ours. Maybe you are not Igbo cos you will not understand. In Igbo land its not just the parents of the girl that owns her. Hence everyone must partake in her marriage rites

98salan:
imagine the scenerio of paying bride prize to a whole community...jesus wept

chiommy123:
comeon you don't have to be pained like this. Its tradition you know and can't be forcefully changed rather you humbly explain things to them

chiommy123:
why don't you stick with your own traditions and let me stick with mine. A million and one guys and still counting do this everyday without complaining. Am Igbo and am proud of my culture