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How many of you women are eternally comfortable with having a male partner who's less successful than you? In fact how many of you hope to be richer than your partner ? Would you find it acceptable that you're the breadwinner?

I'll highlight the problem(s).
Number 1: as much of an independent/ feminist that you claim you are. Something within you still finds it disconcerting that you (a woman) should be higher placed than a man. That's a huge disparity in what you claim you stand for. Hypergamy. You need to check it.

Number 2: If you think your husband should be better placed than you, financially especially, then why are you upset that your partner feels exactly the same way? I mean you both are supposed to have similarities in opinions. He's just subscribing to your mentality.

Number 3: You being a successful career woman isn't the major problem. Provided the questions asked above have positive answers, It's that your mindset does not agree to being with a man who allows you have a more successful career than his. So you are unhappy & conflicted.
We're not allowed to tell women what to do. So here's a humble suggestion.
If you want to be a successful career woman, be with a man who's satisfied with it. And don't be upset that you're doing better than he is.

Or just go for one who's more successful. Shikena!

Have you done any study which says women don't want to be more successful than their partners?
Why are you projecting your own thoughts/ feelings on the millions of women?
Why would you have a partner that doesn't wish you success?
We pray for each other to be successful, and a wife/husband's success is the partner's own success too. It should never be a competition between partners on who is more successful, and each should strive to help the other attain the highest possible pinnacle of success.
There are many families where the women are the breadwinners, and they are still living happily with their families and still supporting their men to achieve even better success. That's what a good spouse does.
Same with a successful man who still pushes his wife and helps as much as he can for her to excel and succeed in life even more than himself.
That's a good spouse we should all hope to have

You get time @OP.

Women by virtue of creation love to be pampered and spoiled, that includes some possessive and domineering ones among them.

Feminism is therefore a struggle between the female hormones and the human brain. The brains want to be successful and "be on top", but the hormones want the man to take charge.

Forget everything you've been told in the past. At least 8 out of 10 single ladies out there would certainly prefer to be wife of a renowned billionaire than a daughter to a billionaire or a self-made billionaire.

Exclude the married ones in the poll, they've passed the threshold required to make a genuine first choice.

As long as I am earning my own money and doing my own things I don't care how much he earns. There is nothing wrong with a man earning less than his wife. Comfort is what matters

eyinjuege:
Have you done any study which says women don't want to be more successful than their partners?
Why are you projecting your own thoughts/ feelings on the millions of women?
Why would you have a partner that doesn't wish you success?
We pray for each other to be successful, and a wife/husband's success is the partner's own success too. It should never be a competition between partners on who is more successful, and each should strive to help the other attain the highest possible pinnacle of success.
There are many families where the women are the breadwinners, and they are still living happily with their families and still supporting their men to achieve even better success. That's what a good spouse does.
Same with a successful man who still pushes his wife and helps as much as he can for her to excell and succeed in life even more than himself.
That's a good spouse we should all hope to have

Well written