In my third year in the university, my course supervisor invited me into his office. I was dressed in a tight shirt and a pair of jeans that accentuated my curves as usual. It all started as an educative session, and then conversation swerved uncomfortably.

He starts moving closer to me. “What shall I do?” says my mind, panicking. The man’s erection wilts despite his distraught efforts. He moved closer, started rubbing my hair and staring at my breasts.

“This isn’t right sir.”

I finally dared to speak up. He just kept telling me how we humans determine what’s right and wrong and how well things would go for me if I agree to sleep with him. I played him and found my way out of his office.

I don’t know a single person, no matter how cruel the harassment or the assault, who doesn’t feel some of that guilt and shame and wonders:

“Could I have done something differently? Perhaps it was my fault?”

When I saw that, I felt the beginning of what would be months of grief. It was my first realization that the academic system, that I thought was so meritorious, that I wanted to spend my life within was deeply unfair. I wouldn’t receive any justice, and he could go on and harass other women.

Frustrated and upset, I stopped attending his classes. Through hard work, I graduated as a distinctive student from his course.

Source: https://hergists.com/experience-sexual-harassment-university/

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Women should as a matter of fact do their possible best to dress moderately so as to reduce the attention they draw to themselves. There would always be randy lecturers based on the existing standard, so it's not a debate on whether it's right or wrong

Please do not quote me if you have a problem with understanding. I never said the victims of sexual harassment are to be blamed for what they are put through. The thread is about sexual harassment in higher institutions and one mo.ron quoted me and was talking about victims in swimming pools, which is a total deviation from the subject matter.

I'm not justifying sexual harassment by any means and that's why I ended my point by saying what I had said isn't on the basis of whether there's a right or wrong to the issue, since there would always be randy lecturers, so it's a matter of doing your own part as a woman to keep yourself safe since the system is set up in a way that you have almost no backing

Apination:
Women should as a matter of fact do their possible best to dress moderately so as to reduce the attention they draw to themselves. There would always be randy lecturers based on the existing standard, so it's not a debate on whether it's right or wrong

I agree with you.

Apination:
Women should as a matter of fact do their possible best to dress moderately so as to reduce the attention they draw to themselves. There would always be randy lecturers based on the existing standard, so it's not a debate on whether it's right or wrong

their mode of dressing doesn't excuse the crime or the offenders. Its like defending a predator who sexually assaulted a lady on a beach wearing thongs. Quit the slut shaming. I wonder why many lecturers stoop so low in their desperation to push females to the wall when there are loads of lazy girls who are dying to give them the best sex of their lives so as to scale through their courses. It becomes a matter of ego and that's where the bubbles burst. Its meant to be consensual. If she refuses then politely let it slide. Don't fail her deliberately. These things have a way of returning to haunt you. Ask the uniben lecturer or the rest of his kin caught in the act. That she dresses provocatively is not reason enough for you to let loose of your self-control button and go romping like a dog in heat. Enough said.

frbona:
their mode of dressing doesn't excuse the crime or the offenders. Its like defending a predator who sexually assaulted a lady on a beach wearing thongs. Quit the slut shaming. I wonder why many lecturers stoop so low in their desperation to push females to the wall when there are loads of lazy girls who are dying to give them the best sex of their lives so as to scale through their courses. It becomes a matter of ego and that's where the bubbles burst. Its meant to be consensual. If she refuses then politely let it slide. Don't fail her deliberately. These things have a way of returning to haunt you. Ask the uniben lecturer or the rest of his kin caught in the act. That she dresses provocatively is not reason enough for you to let loose of your self-control button and go romping like a dog in heat. Enough said.

Do you have any personal story to share?

hergists:


Do you have any personal story to share?

do I start in a chronological or alphabetical order?

frbona:
do I start in a chronological or alphabetical order?

lol.

Op share your own story, that is someone else's story

Did u all see that? i played him... How? Biko?

I had none, maybe cause I don't enter lecturers offices.

Apination:
Women should as a matter of fact do their possible best to dress moderately so as to reduce the attention they draw to themselves. There would always be randy lecturers based on the existing standard, so it's not a debate on whether it's right or wrong

This a bad trend.

Don't blame the victims. Is there no harassments even in muslim countries where hijabs are worn?

Blame the perpetrators of the dastardly act.

Blame the lecturers who even go to the extent of trying to sleep with married women.

Didn't you see Prof Akindele's case? So you should blame the girl, a victim?

You shouldn't blame the victims. It's akin to blaming me for charging my phone in a restaurant where it got stolen instead of blaming the thief that stole it.

In the US women are legally allowed to go topless in most states.

Do you now rape them because they walked past with upper body naked?


Do you blame me for leaving my car open or you blame the thief that stole the car?


Do you blame a rich man for being rich or you blame the kidnapper that kidnapped him?


Do you blame the examiner for leaving the hall or you blame the student for cheating?


List goes on.

I went looking for it...and they harrassed me.

Seriously, this is not meant to distract from the fact that females suffer more than males; especially in the institutions of higher learning.

Lectures are arguably sexually harassed than female students.

I know a handful of girls who went to lecturers to seduce them for marks.

Location....Obafemi Awolowo University, ile-ife, Osun State, Nigeria

Year...2012

I went to pay a condolence visit to my female friend who lost her boyfriend to a fresher...We sat together in the school sports complex after having strolled aimlessly for hours...time was around 1am...

She kept on crying and carrying on about how she couldn't believe her boyfriend dumped her for a bloody dirty fresher that stays in Mozambique hall...next thing she put her head on my shoulder and cried for minutes...Me I sha kept telling her sorry as I hoped to leave and go see my own girlfriend who was to meet me around 3am at Motion Ground...yeah I know, it was late right?....but OAU was very safe that time, and fornication and other related activities was done freely, safely and rampantly on any and all parts of the school at crazy odd hours

So that was how this girl while crying and pouring catarh on my fresh white shirt, forgot her hand on my penis area...few minutes later she started rubbing it and didn't stop until my whole Brigade was standing at full attention...i told her to stop but she never did....she instead climbed ontop of me and rubbed her groin on mine...before I knew it,we had sex on the school football field ...

The girl then started laughing, saying she now feels much better and won't mind us doing it again the next day..I said nothing, escorted her bavk to her hostel and then went back to my own hostel, took my bath and sprayed plenty deodorant, and went out again to see my girlfriend...I never said anything about what happened earlier to her...

Funny thing is....i and that girl kept seeing each other low-key till we graduated....Now she is married to the same guy who dumped for for a fresher that year..

Did she sexually harass me ....Yes

Did I protest.....Yes

Did I enjoy the sexual aftermath of the harassment.....Maybe

Does the fact that I possibly enjoyed the sex resulting from the harassment make the harassment right?.....NO

mine wasn't sexual harassment as such. there was this female lecturer who taught us constitutional law back then in 200 level. each time I called at her office, she always complained of tiredness and ask me to massage around her neck. she is very endowed chestwise. that was how it all started o..... quote me for more details. lol

There is no such thing as sexual harassment!
Women are whoreee and enjoy every bit of it!
It's just that our laws are biased and favour these useless creatures.
If Nigeria was a sensible country rape would be legal!

Below are some steps you can take if you are dealing with sexual harassment at school.

Tell the harasser to stop.

Promptly let a person know that his or her behavior makes you uncomfortable.

Document the abuse.

Consider confronting the harasser via a letter.

Report the harassment.

Tell someone.

Do not blame yourself.

............with love from all of us @

I have never been harassed, but I have a girlfriend who was harassed by his supervisor then. I so much beleive she did it with the man cos she banged distinction in her project though she denied doing it.

What am I suppose to say

The Scourge of Nigerian Universities. Personally I feel it's both sides that take the blame. These men have slept with many of your course mates successfully so they are emboldened to push further.

In this digital age that smartphone in your pocket is the single most powerful device you can use against offenders. It can record both audio and video, Getting proof can't be that hard but then again some of these ladies will never tell you the full story. How can you fail a lecturer's course and still agree to meet him in his office, what do you expect from there?

This female lecturer kept tripping for me and giving me greenlight, one day I made a move and grabbed her ass in her office. The rest they say is history

hergists:
In my third year in the university, my course supervisor invited me into his office. I was dressed in a tight shirt and a pair of jeans that accentuated my curves as usual. It all started as an educative session, and then conversation swerved uncomfortably.

He starts moving closer to me. “What shall I do?” says my mind, panicking. The man’s erection wilts despite his distraught efforts. He moved closer, started rubbing my hair and staring at my breasts.

“This isn’t right sir.”

I finally dared to speak up. He just kept telling me how we humans determine what’s right and wrong and how well things would go for me if I agree to sleep with him. I played him and found my way out of his office.

I don’t know a single person, no matter how cruel the harassment or the assault, who doesn’t feel some of that guilt and shame and wonders:

“Could I have done something differently? Perhaps it was my fault?”

When I saw that, I felt the beginning of what would be months of grief. It was my first realization that the academic system, that I thought was so meritorious, that I wanted to spend my life within was deeply unfair. I wouldn’t receive any justice, and he could go on and harass other women.

Frustrated and upset, I stopped attending his classes. Through hard work, I graduated as a distinctive student from his course.

Source: https://hergists.com/experience-sexual-harassment-university/

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Cc: Lalasticlala Myndd44 Seun

Hmm... When you're heading to the Lion's den, you don't wear a cloak dripping of fresh blood.

Don't dangle a sumptuous meal in front of a ravaged dog

Question answered!

D

She shoved my schlong into her wet pussy and I was in sifia pains

u see person penis get up and he was rubbing ur hair watin u suppose do? get up and walk out of his office

Nigerian girls can lie, even the ones that exchange vagina for marks willingly would still say it's sexual harassment.

hergists:
In my third year in the university, my course supervisor invited me into his office. I was dressed in a tight shirt and a pair of jeans that accentuated my curves as usual. It all started as an educative session, and then conversation swerved uncomfortably.

He starts moving closer to me. “What shall I do?” says my mind, panicking. The man’s erection wilts despite his distraught efforts. He moved closer, started rubbing my hair and staring at my breasts.

“This isn’t right sir.”

I finally dared to speak up. He just kept telling me how we humans determine what’s right and wrong and how well things would go for me if I agree to sleep with him. I played him and found my way out of his office.

I don’t know a single person, no matter how cruel the harassment or the assault, who doesn’t feel some of that guilt and shame and wonders:

“Could I have done something differently? Perhaps it was my fault?”

When I saw that, I felt the beginning of what would be months of grief. It was my first realization that the academic system, that I thought was so meritorious, that I wanted to spend my life within was deeply unfair. I wouldn’t receive any justice, and he could go on and harass other women.

Frustrated and upset, I stopped attending his classes. Through hard work, I graduated as a distinctive student from his course.

Source: https://hergists.com/experience-sexual-harassment-university/

Share your story.

Cc: Lalasticlala Myndd44 Seun

this is just
a lie to start conversation. Yahoo blogger.

The world is what it is..... Women are always quick to loud and call them selves victim...

Do u know there are occasions where men are sexualy harassed by women..

But who will believe that, men are always the predators...

In as much I can't argue the harassment on women, we should do well to accept, that a huge % of this act are women fault... Direct or indirectly

Any man that said that ladies get raped or sexually harassed because of her dressing is a he-goat...

If u are a man, you will be a father will you sleep with your daughter because of inproper dressing?

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