Apination:
Women should as a matter of fact do their possible best to dress moderately so as to reduce the attention they draw to themselves. There would always be randy lecturers based on the existing standard, so it's not a debate on whether it's right or wrong

Please do not quote me if you have a problem with understanding. I never said the victims of sexual harassment are to be blamed for what they are put through. The thread is about sexual harassment in higher institutions and one mo.ron quoted me and was talking about victims in swimming pools, which is a total deviation from the subject matter.

I'm not justifying sexual harassment by any means and that's why I ended my point by saying what I had said isn't on the basis of whether there's a right or wrong to the issue, since there would always be randy lecturers, so it's a matter of doing your own part as a woman to keep yourself safe since the system is set up in a way that you have almost no backing

martowskin1:
The world is what it is..... Women are always quick to loud and call them selves victim...

Do u know there are occasions where men are sexualy harassed by women..

But who will believe that, men are always the predators...

In as much I can't argue the harassment on women, we should do well to accept, that a huge % of this act are women fault... Direct or indirectly

romenna:
i went to train a set of bankers, one of the staff called me after the training to say she wanted to see me, dis girl disturb my life until she had her way wit me.
im single tho

frbona:
we ain't living in the iron age here. what happened to self control?

Sermwell:
mine wasn't sexual harassment as such. there was this female lecturer who taught us constitutional law back then in 200 level. each time I called at her office, she always complained of tiredness and ask me to massage around her neck. she is very endowed chestwise. that was how it all started o..... quote me for more details. lol

ImaIma1:


Even with my bogus NYSC uniform that swallowed my small stature, my camp commandant still sent soldiers to bring me as his dinner.

Forget dressing, a man that has the intention will go ahead despite the dressing. And men should stop expecting the women to "help them manage their sexual urge or control". They should help themselves and stop blaming others except themselves.

Apination:

Are you sure you read my post before quoting me

tojahh:
2011

Third Year.

Lecturer: I like this your shirt.
Me: Thank you ma'am

Lecturer : Tell your course Rep to see me
Me: okay ma'am

Course Rep: TJ how far?
Me: I soft, wetin dey?

Course Rep: Mrs. Oboh say make you no forge to bring that shirt for her.
Me: Which shirt? This one?

Course Rep: I no know o, but she ask of your number sha, and I give am.
Me: You well so?

*Next Day*

Female Voice: Hello TJ, how are you?
Me: I'm great, Who be this?

Female Voice: Is this how you answer your phone?
Me: Babe no vex, I change phone jor, I no really know who dey talk.

Female Voice: Where's my shirt?
Me: Shirt? Which shirt?

Female Voice: I'm looking at you, come up to my office which the shirt.
Me: Oh ma'am, sorry didn't know you were the one. Sorry ma'am.

*Her Office*
Me: Good Afternoon Ma
Mrs. Oboh: TJ my name is Florence, when meeting like this, address me so.

Me: sensing Green flag* Ma?
Florence: You heard me, how are you doing? What are you doing sitting there? You're waiting for your girlfriends abi? You should be serious with getting the best out of life.

Me: Ma, I wasn't waiting for my girlfriends, I'm waiting for my cousin, she's with my house key, I misplaced my copy of it. And I want to go home.
Florence: Your cousin indeed! (smiles) this time standing up walking to the door. Bolt it and turn facing me, Oya gimme the shirt lemme test it.

Me: Shocked, looking away as she tries to remove her Ankara top, but Ma'am the shirt is not here besides you can't obviously wear it here. In this school that shirt is well known with me. I doubt you can wear it.
Florence: Come and help me remove this zipper my friend, leave talk. Are you the only one with the shirt?

Me: Ma? Zipper? Shirt? Sorry ma, I mean Mrs. Florence (saying things incoherently)
Florence: walking up to be with bossom showing enough of cleavage. I know you like what you're seeing. All these spoilt boys.

Me: blinking at the sight of the purple lace bra, swallowing hard saliva, no ma, I will bring the shirt to you, the shirt is not here. Or I can buy another one for you.
Florence: Don't worry, how much is the shirt, lemme give you money and take it. Now Top is off just bra, with full flesh looking at me.. Remove this Jersey lemme try it on. If it sizes ne good, then you'll know the shirt will enter me.

Me: Okay ma, removed my Jersey no singlet, she marvelled, saw her eyes going dim, immediately she held my hand and send it directly to her left breasst pressing her chest against me hard.
Florence: TJ you have a wonderful body and a strong hand, broad chest and others stuff I wasn't hearing.

Me: Ma'am let's not do this please. Please I beg you.
Florence: This is my office, why are you scared? Because of your girlfriend? Because of what? Are you baby?

Me: No ma not any of that, just that you are not even sure I'm STD free neither if you are. What about pregnancy?
Florence: Raising her head fro my chest and laugh softly, what do you take me for? Don't worry I can't take care of us.

Me: If so, then let's not do this, at least not now. I assured
Florence: Reluctantly agreed. And told me she will call me up on Saturday evening.

*

Pharaoh9:
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ImaIma1:


Women should as a matter of fact do their possible best to dress moderately so as to reduce the attention they draw to themselves. There would always be randy lecturers based on the existing standard, so it's not a debate on whether it's right or wrong undecided


Yes I did

Lucifer66:
There is no such thing as sexual harassment!
Women are whoreee and enjoy every bit of it!
It's just that our laws are biased and favour these useless creatures.
If Nigeria was a sensible country rape would be legal!

Lucifer66:
There is no such thing as sexual harassment!
Women are whoreee and enjoy every bit of it!
It's just that our laws are biased and favour these useless creatures.
If Nigeria was a sensible country rape would be legal!

Sermwell:
mine wasn't sexual harassment as such. there was this female lecturer who taught us constitutional law back then in 200 level. each time I called at her office, she always complained of tiredness and ask me to massage around her neck. she is very endowed chestwise. that was how it all started o..... quote me for more details. lol

Apination:

And you saw where I said there would always be randy lecturers, which means it's not necessarily about whether you are dressed in hijab or bikini, but you dressing moderately is simply a security measure on your part and it doesn't stop those lecturers from being who they are

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olamakinde:
you're smart

Starboytwo:
Well my babe came angrily at me and I was surprised cuz some few minutes back I'd successful plant the idea of "me I not get bah and I dey hungry,you know the usual na when sakpa hold boys....she told me she wanna go see Dr.o******in his office, same man was my supervisor and we could go to law restaurant and eat....was waiting and she came out with a different mood than I had expected....

Han Han baby what happen,kilo shele"

"That man Is a bastard...(fuming now)
Babe ki lon shele,which man..I'm not understanding..what happen na..
Long story short Sha,the man fondled,grabbed,or whatever her "boobs....and this is not the first time he had tried...

What....I para,all the hunger left my stomach...is the man mad,his he crazy,man yii ti yah wahrah finally....I was more angry because before meself press that bobi a whole semester finish na him dis man grab for free....well I para finish and was looking at her and she started laying on me blah blah ....so I'm not gonna do anything abi,I will just sit here and shout under tree I cannot do anything abi....it's today she knew I really love her..

Baby you know I love you,but Shay you want me go beat Dr.****** Ni...have you forgotten he is my supervisor Ni,joor nitori olohun maje ki temi baje for this school...I don't want to tay rara....baby I promise you lemme graduate first then we go reason am.....

She left angrily....

Bae,bae wait na....Tor no food for uncaring man....


Might be funny but it happened live and clear....I saw terrible things at my department....Bribe,sex....

EternalTruth:
tho your fiction was well written and suspense thrilled.
yet is don't believe it. no be kids dey nairaland.
na which student fit resist that kind temptation?

hergists:
In my third year in the university, my course supervisor invited me into his office. I was dressed in a tight shirt and a pair of jeans that accentuated my curves as usual. It all started as an educative session, and then conversation swerved uncomfortably.

He starts moving closer to me. “What shall I do?” says my mind, panicking. The man’s erection wilts despite his distraught efforts. He moved closer, started rubbing my hair and staring at my breasts.

“This isn’t right sir.”

I finally dared to speak up. He just kept telling me how we humans determine what’s right and wrong and how well things would go for me if I agree to sleep with him. I played him and found my way out of his office.

I don’t know a single person, no matter how cruel the harassment or the assault, who doesn’t feel some of that guilt and shame and wonders:

“Could I have done something differently? Perhaps it was my fault?”

When I saw that, I felt the beginning of what would be months of grief. It was my first realization that the academic system, that I thought was so meritorious, that I wanted to spend my life within was deeply unfair. I wouldn’t receive any justice, and he could go on and harass other women.

Frustrated and upset, I stopped attending his classes. Through hard work, I graduated as a distinctive student from his course.

Source: https://hergists.com/experience-sexual-harassment-university/

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BlackManta:


Sexual harassment will happen whether a lady is dressed well or not.

What excuse will you make for ladies in hijab who get harassed in Muslim countries

You are tempting him and also accusing him for his actions "like your father the devil is doing".

MrPRevailer:


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I don't support Harrasment talkless of Sexual harrasment.

If the devil tempt you with evil will you overcome it? NO. And yet he will accuse you for doing it before God.

So why you tempt a man with your unclothedness and blame him.

Most men don't masturbate unless they watch pornography or wickedly erotic happens. So why bring it to their faces when YOU KNOW it creates a surge of hormones. You are tempting him and also accusing him for his actions "like your father the devil is doing".

Bible said "if eating/drinking before your brother will cause him to fall do not do it. Why cause your brother to stumble for whom Christ died for"? 1 Cor 8:13
Romans 14:21

It was when Eve saw the fruit that she desired it. All those while she NEVER desired it until the devil made her LOOK WELL. Now you as a spectator, do u blame Eve or the devil for the fall of man?

Let the women stop doing devil's work for him. Tempting and blaming.

MrPRevailer:


Fash20 gypsey Vizzy4u rkennyking frbona speedyconnect3 BruncleZuma Oweku

I don't support Harrasment talkless of Sexual harrasment.

If the devil tempt you with evil will you overcome it? NO. And yet he will accuse you for doing it before God.

So why you tempt a man with your unclothedness and blame him.

Most men don't masturbate unless they watch pornography or wickedly erotic happens. So why bring it to their faces when YOU KNOW it creates a surge of hormones. You are tempting him and also accusing him for his actions "like your father the devil is doing".

Bible said "if eating/drinking before your brother will cause him to fall do not do it. Why cause your brother to stumble for whom Christ died for"? 1 Cor 8:13
Romans 14:21

It was when Eve saw the fruit that she desired it. All those while, she NEVER desired it until the devil made her LOOK WELL. Now you as a spectator, do u blame Eve or the devil for the fall of man?

Let the women stop doing devil's work for him. Tempting and blaming.

EternalTruth:
tho your fiction was well written and suspense thrilled.
yet is don't believe it. no be kids dey nairaland.
na which student fit resist that kind temptation?

ImaIma1:


Even with my bogus NYSC uniform that swallowed my small stature, my camp commandant still sent soldiers to bring me as his dinner.

Forget dressing, a man that has the intention will go ahead despite the dressing. And men should stop expecting the women to "help them manage their sexual urge or control". They should help themselves and stop blaming others except themselves.

Starboytwo:
Well my babe came angrily at me and I was surprised cuz some few minutes back I'd successful plant the idea of "me I not get bah and I dey hungry,you know the usual na when sakpa hold boys....she told me she wanna go see Dr.o******in his office, same man was my supervisor and we could go to law restaurant and eat....was waiting and she came out with a different mood than I had expected....

Han Han baby what happen,kilo shele"

"That man Is a bastard...(fuming now)
Babe ki lon shele,which man..I'm not understanding..what happen na..
Long story short Sha,the man fondled,grabbed,or whatever her "boobs....and this is not the first time he had tried...

What....I para,all the hunger left my stomach...is the man mad,his he crazy,man yii ti yah wahrah finally....I was more angry because before meself press that bobi a whole semester finish na him dis man grab for free....well I para finish and was looking at her and she started laying on me blah blah ....so I'm not gonna do anything abi,I will just sit here and shout under tree I cannot do anything abi....it's today she knew I really love her..

Baby you know I love you,but Shay you want me go beat Dr.****** Ni...have you forgotten he is my supervisor Ni,joor nitori olohun maje ki temi baje for this school...I don't want to tay rara....baby I promise you lemme graduate first then we go reason am.....

She left angrily....

Bae,bae wait na....Tor no food for uncaring man....


Might be funny but it happened live and clear....I saw terrible things at my department....Bribe,sex....

gypsey:
Rubbish! if you make yourself Available to be harrassed, you will be harrassed. Nigerian women are the easiest, flash some cash in their faces they will be happy to be harrassed as much as one wants.


It's only when they didn't get what they wanted from the "harrasment" they claim they ve been or are harrassed


Believe it or not I know!