GoodMemory:


Realityshot & Extraterrestial

There is no hint in the write-up that suggests businessmen/politicians shouldn't invest in Nigeria. I only mentioned investment in Australia within the narrow context of gaining respect and helping immigrants in Australia.

Businessmen can invest in Nigeria, Australia or anywhere in the world. Proceeds and profits (in dollars) will be injected into Nigerian economy.

I completely agree with you that investing in Nigeria is very important and I think it probably should have been number 1 on the list. Thank you for bringing this to my attention.

Bnimz:
Unlike some other states, in NSW/ACT a warning sign MUST be placed before any fixed or mobile speed camera.. It is the law... This gives some of us peace of mind cos except you are not paying attention to the road, you'll see the sign and slow down.... The only real fear in NSW is being caught by Highway patrol... Cos They can be anywhere at anytime and you often don't see them until its too late.

Mailthaddeus:
Hello guys! I planned entering Australia by next month. Which Airline offers the cheapest flight rate to Australia, Canberra. All useful suggestions are welcome.

Mailthaddeus:
Hello guys! I planned entering Australia by next month. Which Airline offers the cheapest flight rate to Australia, Canberra. All useful suggestions are welcome.

GoodMemory:
A lot has been written about getting a job, settling down in general but little has said on dating in Australia. This is understandable as majority of the immigrants from Nigeria are married and therefore has no reasons to go into that subject.

But there are still some single men and women from Nigeria who have migrated to Australia or are planning on doing so who will benefit from our insight and advice on this subject.

While getting a job, graduating from school etc top the priority list of most immigrants, their social life will inevitably follow when all these have been dealt with and naturally they have to move up the triangle of Maslow’s hierarchical needs.
You are well settled. So what next?

How it affects Men
Someone jokingly said when it comes to dating in Australia, two things are involved. if you are man, you are safe. If you are a woman two things are involved. In as much as I share that sentiment, there are still some grey areas worth looking at and dating for single men is still hard compared to what obtains back home. Studies have shown that interracial racial dating and marriages are on the increase, but it is largely skewed in favour of black men when compared to black women. Caucasian women are more open minded to interracial dating than their male counterpart. Some of the reasons attributed to that are the following:

1. Family orientated culture. A large percentage of white women who date black men admire parts of the African culture which promotes the man to the status of bread winner. Black men are seen as strong, protective and financially more liberal than their Caucasian counterparts.

2. The African American influence. Influence of African Americans in Hollywood cannot be overemphasized. Irresistibly handsome Denzel Washington (my wife’s crush.lol), Terrence Howard, strong and tall Lebron James, Michael Jordan are a few of such men. Their swag, cool way of walking, unique dress sense etc are some of the mannerisms that draw Caucasian women to black men.

3. Some Caucasian women think, though erroneously, that all black men are well endowed with Ray J size of tool.

Nice as it sounds, you are not likely to get women falling over you as you walk the street because to majority of Caucasian women, their preference remains Caucasian men. If you are in your late 20s and 30s you will be surprised at how much attention you will get from 45-60-year-old Caucasian women! If you don’t care, good for you, if you do care, it becomes an issue. It remains a subject of research to reveal why most Caucasian women wait till they are in their middle age before they develop interest in black men!
So, for my Nigerian bros who are single and are planning to move to Australia, note it is not like Nigeria where you would have different girls each day of the weekend. Lol.
You might also struggle to find real love as some women’s intention is to objectify you.

There isn’t much difference attempting to date black women in Australia. Melbourne/Sydney have a very small population of Africans. Majority of them are Sudanese, Ethiopians, Somalians. Unfortunately, these set of people hardly date outside of their “race”. You are left with possibly Kenyans, Ugandans and Zimbabweans. Unconfirmed reports have it that these last set of African ladies prefer Caucasians men to brothers because of the flawed belief that Caucasian men are more romantic than African men. So, bro, if you are thinking of ditching that lovely girlfriend of yours in Nigeria simply because you are relocating to Australia, think twice, it is not as easy as that.




How it affects Women
Just as black men suffer from racism when it comes to being perceived as threats, black women are worst hit when it comes to open-mindedness in inter racial dating. In a survey conducted by Colorado university, majority of the respondents (white)placed black women at the bottom of their preference list. This is fuelled by age-long bias on the definition of beauty.
Caucasian men’s definition of beauty has been largely in favour of white women’s features. Not minding the current trend of blackfishing, they still consider long and silky, blonde hair, slim/slender physique etc as standard of beauty. They carefully exclude features such as big backside, full lips that are missing in white women as non-attractive. Has anyone ever questioned why beauty pageant is exclusively for slim girls, even in Africa where a substantial number of men find plus size, heavily featured women attractive?

Another reason why Caucasians men still find it reluctant to date black women is the unfair claim that majority of black women are “ghetto”, unrefined, loud and aggressive. Their judgement is tainted by media projection of African American women. This is an unfair generalization of millions of sweet, hardworking, level headed black women out there. Whatever their (Caucasian men) position is on black women’s beauty, it does not invalidate the fact that black women are the most beautiful, attractive, hardworking and considerate among races of women. This my opinion and I am entitled to it.
Sisters might also struggle to find brothers in Australia for the simple reasons that some brothers’ preference remain Caucasian women. It is considered a thrilling experience among some African men to date the great granddaughters of slave masters and colonisers. Little wonder why it is still seen a status symbol to date Caucasian women and flaunt it.

I know my naija women like naija men. (smiles). I know some Nigerian women who cannot touch other African nationals with a 5m pole. On one occasion, we were introduced to a Zambian guy whose wife is Nigerian. All the Nigerian ladies in the gathering cringed and hush fell on the gathering when she mentioned her hubby was Zambian. They would not have reacted that way if the lady was Zambian and the man Nigerian! So, if you are coming with the intention of dating only Nigerian guys, you might be in for a shock as there are few Nigerians here and when you finally meet one, the fact that you are a Nigerian lady may not be enough motivation for him to date you. Nigerian men are not as “patriotic” as the women, so they date anyone from anywhere.
Do not get me started on Asian men….



In conclusion,
1. Do not be quick to dump your girlfriend/boyfriend in Nigeria simply because you are moving to Australia. Dating in Australia is still largely divided across racial lines. I know the distance is far, it would be a good idea to keep tab on him/her back home while hoping one day you will bring him/her over here.

2. Everything I have said above is broad generalization. If you are single be open minded. Who knows, a Vietnamese/Indonesian/Aussie/Nigerian lady or man might be waiting for you here.





NB
Be very careful when it comes to turning down advances from women in the so-called first world countries. Caucasian women have been known to take rejection from black men very badly. A lot of men have been sent to jail from “harassment” and “rape” that never happened. Guys please be careful.

rs172:







At the bolded, i think there should always be recording devices with guys,so it could be use as defence when such accusation come.

It an opinion.

GoodMemory:
A lot has been written about getting a job, settling down in general but little has said on dating in Australia. This is understandable as majority of the immigrants from Nigeria are married and therefore has no reasons to go into that subject.

But there are still some single men and women from Nigeria who have migrated to Australia or are planning on doing so who will benefit from our insight and advice on this subject.

While getting a job, graduating from school etc top the priority list of most immigrants, their social life will inevitably follow when all these have been dealt with and naturally they have to move up the triangle of Maslow’s hierarchical needs.
You are well settled. So what next?

How it affects Men
Someone jokingly said when it comes to dating in Australia, two things are involved. if you are man, you are safe. If you are a woman two things are involved. In as much as I share that sentiment, there are still some grey areas worth looking at and dating for single men is still hard compared to what obtains back home. Studies have shown that interracial racial dating and marriages are on the increase, but it is largely skewed in favour of black men when compared to black women. Caucasian women are more open minded to interracial dating than their male counterpart. Some of the reasons attributed to that are the following:

1. Family orientated culture. A large percentage of white women who date black men admire parts of the African culture which promotes the man to the status of bread winner. Black men are seen as strong, protective and financially more liberal than their Caucasian counterparts.

2. The African American influence. Influence of African Americans in Hollywood cannot be overemphasized. Irresistibly handsome Denzel Washington (my wife’s crush.lol), Terrence Howard, strong and tall Lebron James, Michael Jordan are a few of such men. Their swag, cool way of walking, unique dress sense etc are some of the mannerisms that draw Caucasian women to black men.

3. Some Caucasian women think, though erroneously, that all black men are well endowed with Ray J size of tool.

Nice as it sounds, you are not likely to get women falling over you as you walk the street because to majority of Caucasian women, their preference remains Caucasian men. If you are in your late 20s and 30s you will be surprised at how much attention you will get from 45-60-year-old Caucasian women! If you don’t care, good for you, if you do care, it becomes an issue. It remains a subject of research to reveal why most Caucasian women wait till they are in their middle age before they develop interest in black men!
So, for my Nigerian bros who are single and are planning to move to Australia, note it is not like Nigeria where you would have different girls each day of the weekend. Lol.
You might also struggle to find real love as some women’s intention is to objectify you.

There isn’t much difference attempting to date black women in Australia. Melbourne/Sydney have a very small population of Africans. Majority of them are Sudanese, Ethiopians, Somalians. Unfortunately, these set of people hardly date outside of their “race”. You are left with possibly Kenyans, Ugandans and Zimbabweans. Unconfirmed reports have it that these last set of African ladies prefer Caucasians men to brothers because of the flawed belief that Caucasian men are more romantic than African men. So, bro, if you are thinking of ditching that lovely girlfriend of yours in Nigeria simply because you are relocating to Australia, think twice, it is not as easy as that.




How it affects Women
Just as black men suffer from racism when it comes to being perceived as threats, black women are worst hit when it comes to open-mindedness in inter racial dating. In a survey conducted by Colorado university, majority of the respondents (white)placed black women at the bottom of their preference list. This is fuelled by age-long bias on the definition of beauty.
Caucasian men’s definition of beauty has been largely in favour of white women’s features. Not minding the current trend of blackfishing, they still consider long and silky, blonde hair, slim/slender physique etc as standard of beauty. They carefully exclude features such as big backside, full lips that are missing in white women as non-attractive. Has anyone ever questioned why beauty pageant is exclusively for slim girls, even in Africa where a substantial number of men find plus size, heavily featured women attractive?

Another reason why Caucasians men still find it reluctant to date black women is the unfair claim that majority of black women are “ghetto”, unrefined, loud and aggressive. Their judgement is tainted by media projection of African American women. This is an unfair generalization of millions of sweet, hardworking, level headed black women out there. Whatever their (Caucasian men) position is on black women’s beauty, it does not invalidate the fact that black women are the most beautiful, attractive, hardworking and considerate among races of women. This my opinion and I am entitled to it.
Sisters might also struggle to find brothers in Australia for the simple reasons that some brothers’ preference remain Caucasian women. It is considered a thrilling experience among some African men to date the great granddaughters of slave masters and colonisers. Little wonder why it is still seen a status symbol to date Caucasian women and flaunt it.

I know my naija women like naija men. (smiles). I know some Nigerian women who cannot touch other African nationals with a 5m pole. On one occasion, we were introduced to a Zambian guy whose wife is Nigerian. All the Nigerian ladies in the gathering cringed and hush fell on the gathering when she mentioned her hubby was Zambian. They would not have reacted that way if the lady was Zambian and the man Nigerian! So, if you are coming with the intention of dating only Nigerian guys, you might be in for a shock as there are few Nigerians here and when you finally meet one, the fact that you are a Nigerian lady may not be enough motivation for him to date you. Nigerian men are not as “patriotic” as the women, so they date anyone from anywhere.
Do not get me started on Asian men….



In conclusion,
1. Do not be quick to dump your girlfriend/boyfriend in Nigeria simply because you are moving to Australia. Dating in Australia is still largely divided across racial lines. I know the distance is far, it would be a good idea to keep tab on him/her back home while hoping one day you will bring him/her over here.

2. Everything I have said above is broad generalization. If you are single be open minded. Who knows, a Vietnamese/Indonesian/Aussie/Nigerian lady or man might be waiting for you here.





NB
Be very careful when it comes to turning down advances from women in the so-called first world countries. Caucasian women have been known to take rejection from black men very badly. A lot of men have been sent to jail from “harassment” and “rape” that never happened. Guys please be careful.

GoodMemory:

Nice as it sounds, you are not likely to get women falling over you as you walk the street because to majority of Caucasian women, their preference remains Caucasian men. If you are in your late 20s and 30s you will be surprised at how much attention you will get from 45-60-year-old Caucasian women! If you don’t care, good for you, if you do care, it becomes an issue. It remains a subject of research to reveal why most Caucasian women wait till they are in their middle age before they develop interest in black men!
So, for my Nigerian bros who are single and are planning to move to Australia, note it is not like Nigeria where you would have different girls each day of the weekend. Lol.

salford1:

Imo, the reasons why older women go for blackmen are:

1.They are either divorce and now have freedom to explore the forbidden.
2.They are seeking a black man to compliment lack of good sex from their husband, sometimes in agreement with the husband. (Influence of porn-the believe that blackmen have stamina and are endowed)
3. Revenge for heartbreak.
4. Fat women that whitemen call whales.
5. Women who think themselves ugly and have low self confidence.
6. Some are just very liberal minded and dont care about race. They are simply colour blind.

The younger slim girls would ideally not date a blackman except she is very liberal minded. The blackguy also has a very high chance just as a whiteguy if he was born in the country or grew up there.

Younger white girls that would easily go for a black guy with the exception of point 6 above are mostly the fat ones rejected by whitemen. Whitemen love slim girls so much.

Law9:
HAPPY NEW MONTH EVERYONE.

teewhysafe:
Thanks for sharing

MsDidou:
Dear Chidike, Good evening. Please I have been trying to reach you. I heard you are the PR guru for propery manager/valuer/Estate management and the likes �. Kindly do well and give me a contact to reach you on as soon as you can. Thank you.

chidike:
Some of you may have read my grant testimony on the other thread, so I will skip that part. I worked as an Auditor with a Big4 in too much time to get back to me. Kiwi's are really nice and welcoming. Those days I'll be walking on the street and see a black person, we must acknowledge each other oh (lol). New Zealand is also beautiful, rented could have lived in NZ and gotten NZ passport but Australia is the bigger of the two countries.

2. I felt NZ is

4. My brother lives there, I thought I might as well be close to family.

I just want to say to anyone who is already living in Australia or coming from Naija. Mehn, apply for jobs in NZ, you just might be lucky. I met people while in NZ who also got jobs from Naija, so don't write it off. Also if I had a family, I definitely would have stayed back in NZ, in my opinion it has a more wholesome feel and good for raising a family which might be better than Australia. Next time I will share my "settling in" story for Australia (moved to Melbourne 6 months ago), stay tuned �

Oh by the way I went shopping for Nigerian stuff I Melbourne a few weeks ago. I walked out looking at my tiny bag with items that cost me about a hundred bucks, lol (see receipt for items bought, don't ask me what I cancelled ��‍♂️)

P.S. excuse my typos

stepo707:
Do one put referees:available on request in Australian CV just like we use on our Nigeria CV or we need to list the name of referees.
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