₦airaland Forum

dia4iam:
I completely agree with you with a little addition. Secret101; Saving alone does not make a difference. It is stacking the cash and re-investing that makes the money grow wings.

I concur , but it isn't easy

a lot of sacrifices and self denials would be done

jeff1607:
I concur , but it isn't easy

a lot of sacrifices and self denials would be done

As expected.This op being especially lucky to have a partner in success sailing the stormy waters with him. Talk about marriage goals lol.

jeff1607:
people are doing great things with that same amount and you are here complaining.

hope reality doesn't hit you hard when you start using pension to pay school fees

I ve a business already.... Thanks for ur concern

jeff1607:
it is possible, if one can't manage a small amount , when a larger sum comes he or she will say the same story.

some guys earn 200k monthly but can't boast of any savings and yet they complain it's too small

In other words, a guy earning 20k without any other source of income can get married and manage the small amount so that he will be able to handle a bigger amount?

The guys that earn 200k and still misuse it are either living above their means or cannot handle money. That is another story.

dia4iam:
As expected.This op being especially lucky to have a partner in success sailing the stormy waters with him. Talk about marriage goals lol.

yes oo

nwanneni:

I swear you are wicked

ImaIma1:
I swear you are wicked

Na dem."i must marry" people.

i blame you o.p keep ur person life private sir, nairaland is not the solution to your problem and with wat u even wrote there is no problem only thats ur wife bro dey para cos there is no much money in the house nothing more. common to most women.

emerald16:
My wife has been really helpful from when we started dating, she has actually taken me from grass to grace and helped me from a self contained to a 3bedroom flat. She has been helping with house expenses for over a year now, I do work but my salary is very small, just around 60k. She is into business which flourished so much but it's a little down for now. She helped made our marriage possible by contributing far more than i. She is every woman's dream and is even poised to help me secure a better job and a side business.
I have also contributed my part in helping her grow her business though not financially but through technical support, expert advice and more as she just started her business the very month we started dating but though in a small way with very little capital.
I feel I have over burdened her with my own problem and she is carrying way too much on her shoulders cos her parents and siblings are also depending on her.
I felt a pinch of her fustration when I asked her if she could help transfer a little sum of 200 naira to me for airtime, she was about doing it when I told her I actually wanted to send the amount as airtime to my dad,then she flared up saying she will take care of me, herself and even my parents! I felt bad and terrible cos I rarely ask her for money to send to my people except on very rare occasions which are but a few.
I kept mute and didn't feel like talking to her and we haven't exchanged a proper conversation since last night when it happened. What do I do? Even when I try to initiate a conversation, she doesn't seem interested

Which business is she into

joinnow:
Which business is she into

That's not the point

emerald16:
That's not the point

The business she is into is a point.
If she's making so much from the business which is obviously more than the 60k you make, it will be wise of you to put more human resources into that business. Join her in the business and work hard to make it grow more.

Grow your wife business together but never take it over from her.

Weldone sir...

Una no get work you and your wife

emerald16:
Thanks guys please I don't want this on front page

Useless comment

Don't understand you ,as a guy-man ,you don't tell a lady everything ,besides it can't be that bad you can't get #200 ,well leave her for a while ,she come around ,...


Women are not meant to give ,GOD created them to collect ,even in sex ,they collect ,...

double your hustle dude. 60k work no dey make sense these days.
My gf broke up with me cos I was earning 50k per month, I had to double up.
So you should look further.
about your wife. Just initiate a conversation. Start with anything. Not necessarily about what cause the issue. Goodluck man

Just look at u..dont kill the woman with burden and go and apologize

Give me her number.. This is the right time.

For the first time nl did not see any fault in the woman.the woman is tired of oga.apologize.she is loosing interest in you.soon love will start fading.if you are not careful you will not know when you people will become living like strangers.women hate men who can not man up to their responsibilities

Haba, I'm not sure why I'm pained to see this on the front page.

Small money like 200 made her flare up?
Yet husbands have taken care of their wives,sons,her parents, his parents, his and her siblings without grumbling or complaining. Oh yes,its a man's job according to society but once he defaults,hell comes down. No wonder men die young around here.
No one ever appreciate the men folk and all they do!

I keep asking myself,who really ends up enjoying the institution called marriage?

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You know the burden. Yet you borrowed to give to someone else?

Where do ladies meet all these weird men?

Human beings!!!

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Just talk to her and tell her sweet words.

baba na life be that pls ..................pls pray to God

tee59:
Your wife is the head of your family in as much as she takes the major financial responsibility of that house. It can be frustrating at times, saddling the burden of the both families. She's a strong woman and must be appreciated. You need to make more money to take back your leadership role in your home. I know, there are some decisions both of you need to make but if your wife disagrees, it won't work out.Your wife can not be totally submissive to you, let be frank here. You're too lazy to make more money.

You made sense until this.

There's more to making money than meets the eye. In Nigeria, the people making so much are mostly thieves and corrupt politicians (although quite a few are legit). Still its not right to tag someone you don't know as lazy. You don't know where or how he works. Or do you? Its a temporary thing and tomorrow, the roles could be reversed and he may start making so much more than the wife is making now. Does that mean the wife is lazy? Hope you get my point?

luminouz:
Small money like 200 made her flare up?
Yet husbands have taken care of their wives,sons,her parents, his parents, his and her siblings without grumbling or complaining. Oh yes,its a man's job according to society but once he defaults,hell comes down. No wonder men die young around here.

not this husband.ok

Rosarie:
not this husband.ok

Lol..thanks rosarie but nigga is trying ok?
U have no idea how hard it is out there in naija now!!!!
To be a man no easy at all!

Though I must add that the wife is a keeper!! She is so very fvcking rare these days. She tried for the guy to be honest. Its just temporary frustration from her, it will pass!!! I know just how hard she has tried!

Abeg Carey una wahala. Comot jare who cares

Did I just read 200 or 200Mil?

emerald16:
My wife has been really helpful from when we started dating, she has actually taken me from grass to grace and helped me from a self contained to a 3bedroom flat. She has been helping with house expenses for over a year now, I do work but my salary is very small, just around 60k.

She is into business which flourished so much but it's a little down for now. She helped made our marriage possible by contributing far more than i. She is every woman's dream and is even poised to help me secure a better job and a side business.

I have also contributed my part in helping her grow her business though not financially but through technical support, expert advice and more as she just started her business the very month we started dating but though in a small way with very little capital.

I feel I have over burdened her with my own problem and she is carrying way too much on her shoulders cos her parents and siblings are also depending on her.
I felt a pinch of her frustration when I asked her if she could help transfer a little sum of 200 naira to me for airtime, she was about doing it when I told her I actually wanted to send the amount as airtime to my dad,then she flared up saying she will take care of me, herself and even my parents! I felt bad and terrible cos I rarely ask her for money to send to my people except on very rare occasions which are but a few.

I kept mute and didn't feel like talking to her and we haven't exchanged a proper conversation since last night when it happened.

What do I do? Even when I try to initiate a conversation, she doesn't seem interested

#200 recharge card!!! Seriously? U're a damn b*TCH man!

Lol

chinchonglee:
Hw is she d one catering for u wen u earn 60k monthly..

Wetin u dey use ur 60k do?


Wen i said i rather remain single for life dan get married wit a 60k income u pple thought i woz joking baa.