Carlyscales:
But if them Sabi all these good advice.

Y dem com divorce las Las. Infact celebrating it sef.

My pale n malee wey no Sabi reach half of those still they together after 40yrs

Longetivity of marriage does not necessarily mean that all is well.

That is one thing we forget.

I think their advice was for people who aren’t married yet.
They were already married without doing the proper legwork hence it couldn’t work. In hindsight they said

ifyalways:
Why can't they apply their five marital ying yang into their own lives and live happily ever after ?

That’s literally what the whole post is all about.

I don’t understand why everyone is missing the point.

Maybe they should turn back the hands of time and do the right things that they only realized they should have done before getting married?

I don’t think this post is that hard to understand.

mechanics:
Hmmmm, why did they not practice what they just wrote before they got married?

No matter how you try to beauty disgusting, it still remains disgusting.

So with all this knowledge of the things they've learned, they can't apply them now to save their marriage?


Satan is a liar.

Any reason they couldn't start afresh rather than divorce?

d devil like divorce DAT wat he enjoy in marriage

bukatyne:
Any reason they couldn't start afresh rather than divorce?

nice one dear DAT wat our genaration have become to divorce and marry anyhow. baby mama and baby papa

If those ideas works, why don't you use it now and get back together

Wow! Very very insightful!

bukatyne:
Any reason they couldn't start afresh rather than divorce?

You kuku refused to read their advice ba . They said once values, visions, purpose and everything in between are misaligned, nothing can work. These two are true to self. By the way darling, which church did you recently join fa? May we find truth, peace and wisdom around us. Cheers darling .

Celebrating selfishness and failure and even have the guts to call God into the unfortunate equation after He must have lured you, prompted you to knowing Him and knowing life. Just wasted 13 years of your life and still cannot emerge better.

cococandy:
That’s literally what the whole post is all about.

I don’t understand why everyone is missing the point.

Maybe they should turn back the hands of time and do the right things that they only realized they should have done before getting married?

I don’t think this post is that hard to understand.

Thank you o ma sister... They realised how they shouldn't have gotten together in the first place! Whew...it is well.

ifyalways:
Why can't they apply their five marital ying yang into their own lives and live happily ever after ?

God bless u ma

Carlyscales:
But if them Sabi all these good advice.

Y dem com divorce las Las. Infact celebrating it sef.

My pale n malee wey no Sabi reach half of those still they together after 40yrs

Ur parents know just one thing they never knew, PERSEVERANCE

zomoears:


Trying to make it work. Being conscious of what society will say. Making compromises here and there.

But alas, reality probably dawned on them.

Marriage is not easy. 13 years and they are this civil towards each other? Ask Tonto Dike na if you think it's easy.

When you talk of marriage, please don't mention Tonto, it is an insult.
She goes to ANY length to pull anybody down and play victim card.
She dragged Mercy Johnson more than Churchill, people thought they were dragging a same man. She is naturally toxic and needs help. No SANE Igbo family can accept her.
Churchill just did a hush hush wedding to her because he didn't want his child outside wedlock.

Reference:
Celebrating selfishness and failure and even have the guts to call God into the unfortunate equation after He must have lured you, prompted you to knowing Him and knowing life. Just wasted 13 years of your life and still cannot emerge better.

they haven't wasted anything

bukatyne:


Longetivity of marriage does not necessarily mean that all is well.

That is one thing we forget.

dear all cant be well in marriage no marriage or life is perfect even dose DAT married 1m years will still have issue. a matured person dont run away from evry priblm

This is real trash..teachers where no fit implement their own knowledge

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*spits on their fucking futile advice

sisisioge:


You kuku refused to read their advice ba . They said once values, visions, purpose and everything in between are misaligned, nothing can work. These two are true to self. By the way darling, which church did you recently join fa? May we find truth, peace and wisdom around us. Cheers darling .

Church I recently joined ke?

My point is that if they are civil enough to compose this together, maybe they could still salvage the marriage with compromises.

Well it is true to discover yourself before marriage (I say that a lot here), people change.

For instance, Rihanna is a musician who has evolved to a business mogul and actress. According to some sources, she made more money in her makeup business than music which is her core. Imagine if she was married as only a musician and her husband is not willing to grasp that his waist winding musician is now interested in numbers.

Michelle Obama was a brilliant lawyer who transitioned into a housewife and now an author.

Arole the comedian has added movies under his belt.

Victoria Beckham changed from music into a business mogul. Etc.

No one stays the same so we need to be very flexible.

If on Feb 1st 2018 someone told me that by Mar 2018 I would have a book manuscript, I would have thought the person was crazy.

We need to be flexible and ready to grow with our partners.

martowskin1:
U guys will just go to IG and start looking for copy and paste, is this what NL has turned to?

VERY good and SERIOUS topic here..... Are you mad that its not about tonto and naira marley etc?

bukatyne:


Church I recently joined ke?

My point is that if they are civil enough to compose this together, maybe they could still salvage the marriage with compromises.

Well it is true to discover yourself before marriage (I say that a lot here), people change.

For instance, Rihanna is a musician who has evolved to a business mogul and actress. According to some sources, she made more money in her makeup business than music which is her core. Imagine if she was married as only a musician and her husband is not willing to grasp that his waist winding musician is now interested in numbers.

Michelle Obama was a brilliant lawyer who transitioned into a housewife and now an author.

Arole the comedian has added movies under his belt.

Victoria Beckham changed from music into a business mogul. Etc.

No one stays the same so we need to be very flexible.

If on Feb 1st 2018 someone told me that by Mar 2018 I would have a book manuscript, I would have thought the person was crazy.

We need to be flexible and ready to grow with our partners.

Whew! I understand your argument but our focus is on these two civil people who have been there but emerged to realise that they were not supposed to be in the first place. Changing themselves or the other was just not going to work for them hence the reason they are apparently divorced and co-parenting. There is no much wisdom in trying to force your partner to accept the version of you he didn't bargain for or changing yourself to fit that which he thought he was buying. A simple due diligence while dating would have averted the catastrophe! Anyways, I hope others would learn from them...it is better to call it a day than to die while roughing the nights. May God help us find our right fits.

Ijawwomaninoyo:


When you talk of marriage, please don't mention Tonto, it is an insult.
She goes to ANY length to pull anybody down and play victim card.
She dragged Mercy Johnson more than Churchill, people thought they were dragging a same man. She is naturally toxic and needs help. No SANE Igbo family can accept her.
Churchill just did a hush hush wedding to her because he didn't want his child outside wedlock.

Agreed. Tonto is the definition of toxic. I pity people who admire aspire to be like her.

your divorce ur problem

ifyalways:
Why can't they apply their five marital ying yang into their own lives and live happily ever after ?

There's really no such thing as "happily ever after"... Don't let the fairy tales fool you.

For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel....

Malachi 2:16

cococandy:
That’s literally what the whole post is all about.

I don’t understand why everyone is missing the point.

Maybe they should turn back the hands of time and do the right things that they only realized they should have done before getting married?

I don’t think this post is that hard to understand.

but their advice is useless ?..who ask them for advice ?...

rattlesnake:
Did not blame dem

. Haaaaaaa! Oyibo...

Just say you are tired of fucking each other and leave all other grammar aside.

TSRC:
For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel....

Malachi 2:16

The lord of hate is not even married.

Angelfrost:


There's really no such thing as "happily ever after"... Don't let the fairy tales fool you.

ask d couple DAT were married for 71 years

Great pieces of advice.