lexy2014:


How does an interview get justice 4a woman who said she was raped?

You get sense at all. who said the interview was justice?

iamjavadem:
I will tell my sister to go to court after consulting a lawyer to see if we can win the case, not tell her to announce it on social media.

What is the meaning of sensitization?
So you need a sooth sayer to tell you she wants the man down!!! and not really about court justice??

stanliwise:
You will remember this comment when you experience one. You guys are the lot participating in stigmatization of rape.

Experience what please?

Adakintroy2:


That's not the only way to heal. She was paid good money by bloggers for this publicity. No one question her motives?
She can get all of that in healing and more in court. Everyone is intwrested in truth not throwing her a pity party.

How una dey take reason sef? She's speaking out because that's on of the proven ways to heal! Tell your beloved rapist pastor to take her to court na!
The way I dey look you, you go say the lady assulted by the adamawa senator which was captured on CCTV should have taken the case to court instead of releasing the CCTV footage to the public! Or you don't feel like defending that senator too?

Timi Dakolo that said he met his wife a virgin. That lie will have impact on his integrity because the internet never forgets...

stanliwise:
God will forgive you for stupidity.

Even this morning I have asked God to forgive me not for being stupid but for being unjust.

sir, I think it will be great if you can display a little level of civility.

There is a procedure set by law to handle the Fatoyinbo sa ga and not hiding under free data to post your corossive mindset.

And for the records, Fatoyinbo cannot go un punished even if he is able to get away with it i he actually committed the crime.

nrexzy:

Experience what please?

never mind. A word is enough for the wise.

Kennydoc:


Simple question for you: if Timi and his wife had sued Pastor Biodun, and a case of rape was instituted against him and a hearing has started, do you think the news won't be all over social media now? Won't everybody by now know that she was raped? The only difference it would have made is that the noise would have been less, and perhaps there wouldn't have been protests. If they needed more victims to join in the suit, how would those victims have known before the commencement of the trails?

You see, Pastor Biodun is under spiritual authority. There are men of God he reveres, and they are the ones that made him to step down. Biodun can lie to the world, even the justice system, but he cannot lie to those people. Those are the people that matter more in this case, and I can bet you that they are already involved. The court alone wouldn't have achieved much, cos Busola didn't have any evidence. Biodun would have denied all the allegations in court. With the involvement of those pastors whom Biodun respects, he cannot but admit his guilt (if he is actually guilty as charged).

Busola and Timi also put their reputation on the line to save others. Don't think they were stupid, and didn't know people like you would come and shame them online. They were very much aware, and I'm sure they are ready to bear the consequences. If speaking out will make Busola heal, it is much more important to her than what people like you will think about her later on. If it will also save one or more other victims from the same predator and men like him, then it would be worth it at the end.

Finally, your attitude is the reason why rape will continue unabated in Nigeria. As you guys keep shaming rape victims, you're discouraging other victims from coming out, thereby fuelling the evil of the rapists. This is clearly rape apology, and it is almost as evil as the actual rape.

In terms of evidence, did busola not say she informed members of her family about d situation & some pastors of coza came to beg her family on behalf of Fatoyinbo?

Timi Should Carry out a DNA Test for those Children

SageMK:


When a woman in your life gets raped and want to pursue justice, refer back to this comment and read it.

shut up joor, mumu. read between the lines next time. dnt rush to comment or reply for cheap popularity. it's not funny

No: Nigerians on social media are mostly monsters like you that’s why it’s an issue. Not because the victims calling out the perpetrator is the issue.

The problem is that you all will always be found on the side of the bad people. History will not favor you. But it’s not too late to change. The inate evil in you that always draws you type long epistles in support of wickedness can be conquered. You just have to try.

IamD18:
The disgrace is yet to even start.

This is what happens when you don't think before bringing your family and sensitive issues on social media for sympathy and judgement.

The earlier people understand that Nigerians on social media really don't give a fvck about you, the better for them. They'll only get entertained with your shiiit.

Reactions, trend, attentions, different judgment, sympathy and pity are what you'll end up getting. You won't get justice, but you'll be popularly be known as a rape victim or a false rape accuser.

Believe me, you'll hardly see a Nigerian husband who'll be foolish enough to allow the whole world know that his wife has been raped before, when he can easily report to the authority.

Common sense, Timi and his wife no get!

Social media isn't a court of law where judgement in cases like this are carried out, it's a world where strangers are always ready to catch trip with your shiits.

AntiWailer:


If your sister come out to say somebody raped her.

I am sure you won't ask all the crazy questions u people ask. Neither will u say she enjoyed it.

I understand the guilty conscience where u rapists try to tell urself a rape is not actually a rape.

They shout go and report to Police. A lady ran to the police station after a rape and the policeman on duty ask to see the pussssy raped.

So if the only way to heal is speaking about their experience. If u dnt know what these victims go through, Just shut the fck up.

Tokunbo Ajayi died due to this kind of shame sluting rape victims.

As for the rubbish Buhari analogy, Get well soon.

Saying if its your sister or grandmother that was raped doesnt change the fact that there is a process to justices, no one will make a lawyer whose daughter was raped the judge of such case, becos verdict will be clouded with emotion.
Anywhere in the world when crime is reported ,questions are asked becos that is the only way to establish the truth ...interrogate all parties involved.
Some of you think you know so much buh you know nothing ...trauma is not something anyone can hide, victims traumatized by rape,are alway bitter & aggressive towards gender of interest i.e be it a male or female, a vivid look into busola dakolo live are there even any likely signs of trauma. so what does she need healing for,
Maybe or perhaps she dated the pastor n that secret is about to be exposed ... maybe !!
The best way to judge the case is to put yourself in that busola scenario, if the way she acted would be the way you would av acted tew ..then you av the right to call it a rape

psucc:
Even this morning I have asked God to forgive me not for being stupid but for being unjust.

sir, I think it will be great if you can display a little level of civility.

There is a procedure set by law to handle the Fatoyinbo sa ga and not hiding under free data to post your corossive mindset.

And for the records, Fatoyinbo cannot go un punished even if he is able to get away with it i he actually committed the crime.

Sorry if see my comment as uncivilized.
What do you mean by "prayer and the truth will come out in your last response "?
What gives you the impression that the way she goes about it is not Godly.
Be guided... God will not do what he has made man capable of doing.
You people are the one stigmatizing this situation.

stanliwise:
never mind. A word is enough for the wise.

Abeg ur dey articulate before u Yan Ni? Abi u just wan dey form wise

stanliwise:
You get sense at all. who said the interview was justice?

U don't need 2 condescend 2d level of mediocrity to express urself. If u are touting d busola interview as d Bible of this case, how has it resolved d case?

BlueRayDick:


Smh.

Helen Paul was birthed through a rape incident. Today she is happily married while some people from the purest family lineage are yet to get any man look their side.

You people think all men are docile and think like some barbaric 19th century iiidiots?

The world is moving abeg

Thanks my friend, but note that in every Helen Paul's story there are over a hundred others that are suffering..

I am not arguing with u, but if u knw about traditional marriage things, u will understand...

blowjohn:



Letting it out how?
She got married.
Had kids.
She's enjoying the good life




Suddenly she remembered she got raped?

Because it never goes away.

This is why Nigeria is a destroyed shithole country

just look at the mentality of the animals I share a country with

It is now public knowledge that she was raped, so what?

why should a tape victim be even stigmatized in the first place?

Anyone doing that is sick in the head

most Nigerians are sick in the head so I am nit surprised

Timi and his family will continue to live the quality of life MOST NIGERIANS who are "stigmatizing" and shaming them will only dream of, or watch on T.V.

Regardless of what any one thinks, life continues

Timi is a good man for standing and supporting his wife.

las las you move to a civilised country and jettison this shithole if the stigma too much
afterall your kids are USC

thorpido:
This one knows nothing about rape,it's effects on the victims and how letting it out is the greatest path to healing.

Perhaps,he is a rapist himself.

Silence enables rapists.

Abi. Especially where the victim lied cos according to timi, he found his wife as a virgin.

How does her being raped make her the bad person here and not the person who did it?

If you see her in 10 years time and the first thing you think of is her virginity or lack of it, it shows you still have a million years of growing up to do. Who cursed you folks like this?

How’s it more important than the bad fellow allowed to be in power?

So y’all have gone from “he didn’t do it. She’s lying” to acknowledging that he might have done it but the. She’s the one to be ashamed for what he did?

May it never be well for anyone who lets evil thrive in the way that you all do. Including you.

SenorFax:
Nobody knew anything about the rape before ooo,

Now the whole Nigerians home and abroad knew how she was disvirgined. Be careful how you seek justice, you might end up humiliating yourself. Especially when you are know by celebrities.

If you see her in 10years time, the first thing that will come to ones mind is "that's the lady that was raped". She just completely stigmatized herself, with the help of Nigerians.

andrew444:


Sorry if a woman in my life have been raped previously before I met her it's a past tense and I am not bringing it to the public and I will tell her to forget about that ,everybody have their past .

I can't go and be fighting for something I know nothing about all in the name of I love my wife,it's a past tens as we will continue to live happily unless she chooses to be sad inside her mind

broda, i wish to knw u one on one for this response. u are too sensible. infact uve made my day already. people get sense for nairaland i swear

It will be unbearable to you and your own

Duru009:
Timi doesn't know what he has done to his family. In 4 or 5 years time he will certainly know.

The stigma alone in time to come will be unbearable !!

You’re looking at as hoe?

Do you usually leave your brain in your locker before you log in?

victorian:
Timi Na confirmed mumu. He truly disgraced his family.

Later his eyes will clear.

People wil looks at his wife as a hoe , we are even looking at her as one already. The celebs supporting him are just supporting shiit to trend.

Him mumu Na confirmed numero uno! This is the beginning of his end . What a pity

nrexzy:


Abeg ur dey articulate before u Yan Ni? Abi u just wan dey form wise

All I am saying is that you people are the ones stigmatizing the rape stuff. What do you mean that people shouldn't speak publicly about rape. we are in 21st century for God sake. Educated people like us should know better and learn to see the importance of sensitizing rape and fighting against it.

ornicus:
the more i read rubbish like this, the more pressure i feel to emigrate from this country. my children are growing up around children of idiots like these and it is a struggle to impart the right values onto them.

you better move your kids from that poisonous environment

too many fools in one continent

Indeed regrettable

ornicus:
the more i read rubbish like this, the more pressure i feel to emigrate from this country. my children are growing up around children of idiots like these and it is a struggle to impart the right values onto them.

This story cuming on social media must have been timi dakolos idea. because the lady stayed silent all this wyl.why now?wat is the end game here?

andrew444:


Sorry if a woman in my life have been raped previously before I met her it's a past tense and I am not bringing it to the public and I will tell her to forget about that ,everybody have their past .

I can't go and be fighting for something I know nothing about all in the name of I love my wife,it's a past tens as we will continue to live happily unless she chooses to be sad inside her mind

You are very very stupid and senseless. It shows you lack knowledge. I won't be surprised that this comment comes from a low life.
Tell a rape victims to forget about it? Have you heard of psychological pain? I doubt it. Your likes thrive on PDP vs APC.
It's your type that endorsed stigma associated with rape victims and people suffering from mental disorder.

ericsmith:




Saying if its your sister or grandmother that was raped doesnt change the fact that there is a process to justices, no one will make a lawyer whose daughter was raped the judge of such case, becos verdict will be clouded with emotion.
Anywhere in the world when crime is reported ,questions are asked becos that is the only way to establish the truth ...interrogate all parties involved.
Some of you think you know so much buh you know nothing ...trauma is not something anyone can hide, victims traumatized by rape,are alway bitter & aggressive towards gender of interest i.e be it a male or female, a vivid look into busola dakolo live are there even any likely signs of trauma. so what does she need healing for,
Maybe or perhaps she dated the pastor n that secret is about to be exposed ... maybe !!
The best way to judge the case is to put yourself in that busola scenario, if the way she acted would be the way you would av acted tew ..then you av the right to call it a rape

All these Ur assumptions are empty.

I have counselled several rape victims and they dnt have to behave the way u read it in the book or the way one girl u know behaved.

The most common I av seen is silence, lost sense value and depression. They can keep quiet about it for a very long time until they see some one who is ready to listen.

A friend narrated au she was raped multiple times by several uncles as a child.

I am the only person she ever told and until she narrated and cried several times, she could not heal.

So once again, SHUT UP.

AntiWailer:
F00lish idiot.

This is why the environment kept enabling rapists

The disgrace, the shame

The victim's life end up being messed up

Is anyone stopping Busola from going to court? Is anyone stopping her from seeing the police?

timi dakolo is a f**l quote me anywhere and any day he is still a f**l......celebrity dont play victim this man has successfully put an end to his career because he gonna be a victim for life......my broda if now me we die with the secret since you nor fit talk am before i marry you or we divorce...now me pipo one dey send simpathy msg GOD FORBID...the case is fading gradually soon he will be reinstated as coza senior pastor again and anytime you hear timi you mind just flash....so he married a victim of rape....

seanwilliam:
broda, i wish to knw u one on one for this response. u are too sensible. infact uve made my day already. people get sense for nairaland i swear

Wait before your day is made completely, have you heard of "unfinished business"? It is one of the greatest cause of depression among people today. when an event or a situation occur in your life and the effect keep haunting you for a long time. if not readdressed properly, sanity will be a stranger to you.
As for Timi, he should make sure his wife is telling him everything, so that he has nothing to fear.