Update: Battle For Child Custody For A Deceased Friend

Earlier thread here https://www.nairaland.com/5293255/battle-child-custody-deceased-friend

On the 15th of DEC 2018 I and my husband was involved in a motor car accident along kwale asaba road that left us with fractures ( I broke both of my tights a d my right arm while he broke just a thigh) .admitted at a hospital at kwale n discharged to go to benin to receive treatment from a traditional bone healer two days later he passed on after an injection was administered to him by his younger sister joy akhator Lawrence ( the injection was prepared for both of us but he was administered first). He was immediately rushed to a near by medical center where it was ascertained that he died because of the high dosage of d injection she(joy akhator Lawrence) said was a pain killer. His death by this time was not made known to me till few weeks later when I received a call from my landlord in Lagos saying she's sorry for my loss and that my sister in-law(loveth akhator) called her to tell her of the ordeal and also requested that access been given to her(loveth akhator) to pack my belongings in the apartment since my husband ( Emmanuel akhator) his brother was late. That she wanted to know weather its with my consent. That was where d battle started officially......
They never paid any visits to me or asked after my well being or asked how we r going about the surgeries I had to later go through ( because it got to a point I could no longer take the pains when the traditional bone man was treating me). Instead they went straight to my husband's office in sapele delta state to inform them of his demise and further demanded for what was due to him from the company. They even went on telling his friends and colleagues that am perfectly fine when they ask of my wellbeing not until d day of his funeral (January 12th,2019) when I was not seen on the ground. Then they stated asking many questions till they finally were able to get someone (a friend of mine) that showed them the hospital I was admitted Into......
MeanWhile they have been getting financial support from his office n friends without my knowledge.......

On getting to the hospital his colleagues were shocked at the condition they found me it was then they now told me of the statement made by my in-laws stating I was fine...... That it was my absence at d funeral ground them insisted on seeing me.....

All efforts for his friends to meet with me were thwarted by my in-laws since they were the ones they always go through
.....d night before the funeral my siblings had called me from home ( I was still in the hospital) that my late husband's elder brother (Osazee akhator) and some of their relatives came to our hose to demand for my baby (Success Osose akhator) but they said its late that she will b present in the morning for the funeral but my inlaws said no that they must take her that night and was threatening to drop the corpse of my late husband in my fathers compound. After all the shoits here and there from both families they left that night without my baby...on the funeral day, right from the mortuary that was wen the fight for baby success started till date. According to witnesses around. Success was forcefully taken from my siblings and that was d end.....

Few weeks later I demanded to see my baby at the hospital and asked my younger sister to help me go to my in-laws house (which was not far from the hospital I was) to help bring her for me to at less see but she came back saying the elder sister (loveth akhator) told her that I don't have business with success that success is now their property

Several meetings have been held by both families in their house but it all proved abortive

They became more angry wen they found out that my husband had no entitlement from his company after calling d company 3months after his burial........ Since he wasn't up to a year yet he was not added to d company's policy........ This I think made them hold on to my baby from the beginning thinking she was his next of kin�

They demanded all sort of things and called me all sorts of names . went as far as tarnishing my image n levying all sort of false allegation on me..

With all these I wasn't moved so they decided to permanently hold on to my child .

Those that later showed interest in the case asked them y they haven't returned my 2 year old baby yet to me, they started telling them that they are holding her pending when I fully recovers so as to trick them n make dem back off

My baby they have been using to get financial support from his friends.

Follow up on Twitter via her handle @vera_ogbebor

https://mobile.twitter.com/vera_ogbebor/status/1151126290591866880

Update from the wife

Wow.ma I pray your child is returned to you in Jesus name

Hmm,How r You ma?

I remember your husband's friend opened a thread here concerning this issue last week.Being a mother,taking My kids out of My sight unsettles me ,let alone for an accident victim who also lost her dearest All at once.You then take away the Next closest thing to her.Ifthey claimed they are keeping her till She is back to her feet,Whynot Atleast bring her for visitations..
She needs her baby to heal.
Why are ppl always wicked ?

I really hope someone who is versed in Such issues will Come around this thread.
I will put You and baby Success in My prayers tonight.
Look at the bunkum from Firebrand1

CC:Lalasticlala,pls helpthis woman get justice.

My heart is broken into pieces. I am so sorry that you have to go through all that alone without your child. People can be very mean and wicked however please focus on getting better. Fight till you get back your daughter, she is the only treasure your husband left you. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I will send you PM

It has finally hit front page, good one mods.

These in-laws go hear am

Child kidnapping case

You have every right to be in custody of your child. Damn tradition.
First option :
First of all, report a murder case to the police force. If the sister of your deceased husband actually injected him with what killed him she is guilty of murder but at least manslaughter because of mens rea. She risks being sentenced to life imprisonment alongside those who conspired . When they know she is going in for a potential death through hanging or life imprisonment, you call for a meeting to drop the case with conditions that you or your family members will pick up the case if they ever threaten you or you die prematurely and you should take custody of your child since it is already reported to the police. An undertaking may be signed . Your family members also have to invoke fear so your deceased husband's family know you have a strong backing. If you go through a civil procedure ,that is, filing a suit for custody in court ,it may take 10 years coupled with the fact that you will be in pains as they will have nothing to lose and will keep your daughter throughout these years. But the Murder case will make the police hold their own daughter for possible hanging which will make them kneel down to negotiate.
The irony is that the act of the sister killed her brother
but the belief is that the widow was responsible for the her husband's death. Oh! How barbaric are archaic rituals.

Second option.
Contact a hitman like myself to eliminate everyone who first of all killed your husband and thereafter took your child. I have passion for my job and would love to do it without charge for you.

A mother would choose the first option and a thug like myself would definitely act the second. It's in your hands.

My 2 cents.

Only in Nigeria you will see, boy & girl friend snacher, husband snacher, land grapper, child trafiking, one chance

M

Hhh

LadySarah:
Hmm,How r You ma?

I remember your husband's friend opened a thread here concerning this issue last week.Being a mother,taking My kids out of My sight unsettles me ,let alone for an accident victim who also lost her dearest All at once.You then take away the Next closest thing to her.Ifthey claimed they are keeping her till She is back to her feet,Whynot Atleast bring her for visitations..
She needs her baby to heal.
Why are ppl always wicked ?

I really hope someone who is versed in Such issues will Come around this thread.
I will put You and baby Success in My prayers tonight.
Look at the bunkum from Firebrand1

CC:Lalasticlala,pls helpthis woman get justice.

To think the family members are even here on Nairaland justifying their deeds.... Hmm. I hope human right activitists take this up....

She has an Esan last name so I suspect she is either from the tribe or married into it.
This case go long as it is tradition there for the groom’s family to take a first child of their deceased son.
I don’t think the tradition is restricted to only them because I’ve heard of Igbos seizing an offspring from their deceased child’s union.
She should head to the court because I’m surprised in this day and age things of this sort still happen.
Another hope she can give herself is the child coming back to her in the next 16 - 18 years.

Y take a baby from the mother, how can they be this inhumane to a woman that just lost her hubby, the height of wickedness...

Only in AFRICA

People wicked for this life oh
I hope you get a good lawyer and have your kid returned to you.
Mehn, that is why marriage is serious business. Because not only do you have to make sure you marry a good person, you also have to make sure their family members are at least decent human beings.

Please take this off social media abeg. What if they harm your child

I will advise the women to get well first b4 fighting for custody.
It is a simple case. Just walk into any FIDA office close you. They are women lawyers that fight for the oppressed women for free.

On another note, I will everybody on this thread to support FIDA financially. Those women fight for noble cause.

For the single, check the family of the spouse you I tend to settle down with as it is very important when the chips are down.

ednut1:
Please take this off social media abeg. What if they harm your child

They will die in prison

Any slowpoke family member that comes to defend this their act of broad day light wickedness is a certified bastard... And that person will die a worse death. To even be using the baby to seek for help when they are not taking care of the money shows that they all want to die early. Greedy hungry bastards that are full of shit

Benin people are notorious for being arrogant, heartless and wicked. So despicable!

meobizy:
She has an Esan last name so I suspect she is either from the tribe or married into it.
This case go long as it is tradition there for the groom’s family to take a first child of their deceased son.
I don’t think the tradition is restricted to only them because I’ve heard of Igbos seizing an offspring from their deceased child’s union.
She should head to the court because I’m surprised in this day and age things of this sort still happen.
Another hope she can give herself is the child coming back to her in the next 16 - 18 years.

Not true about igbos.

meobizy:
She has an Esan last name so I suspect she is either from the tribe or married into it.
This case go long as it is tradition there for the groom’s family to take a first child of their deceased son.
I don’t think the tradition is restricted to only them because I’ve heard of Igbos seizing an offspring from their deceased child’s union.
She should head to the court because I’m surprised in this day and age things of this sort still happen.
Another hope she can give herself is the child coming back to her in the next 16 - 18 years.

Igbos rarely seize kids, who wan feed the pikin? They can insist the mother stays closeby, except she wants to remarry, then she is expected to return the child to their father's people.

This baby is too young to be separated from her mother

overdrive:



Not true about igbos.

Yet it has happened to people I know who married from the tribe.

2mch:

They will die in prison

no be person give the husband injection Is she in jail now

safarigirl:

Igbos rarely seize kids, who wan feed the pikin? They can insist the mother stays closeby, except she wants to remarry, then she is expected to return the child to their father's people.

This baby is too young to be separated from her mother

...and the difference between that and seizing is what?

I will advise this lady to take this issue to twitter, tag @segalinks, @drjoeabah @rugedman and @maziamadi

Chei see fine family broken , what do they intend to do with the baby?