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Watch as feminists will come masturbating on this senseless thread as if men are the reason behind their woes..

pocohantas:
I been wan ask why Yvonne and her crew dey always react. Then I realised it shouldn't be about them, but the post.

It was a very clever way to distract people from the post.lol.

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Simplep:
Bitter truth.
Most Nigerian men nowadays are very lazy,they don't want to start from the scratch,especially the so called graduates.
That is why I will never marry a jobless man or a man who feel comfortable feeding from people,yahoo boys included because for me they are jobless and lazy.

Will you marry a graduate that is a security guard and earns around 50k a month ? Or you are among those who prefer already made men ?

ornicus:
one can also say that you are meeting men who do this.

I don't meet these men, I just noticed a trend on social media

pocohantas:
Okay, I just saw my Safarigirl make plenty sense. Let me take this back

my dear, please drop your words of wisdom, nothing like too much sense

Simplep:
Bitter truth.
Most Nigerian men nowadays are very lazy,they don't want to start from the scratch,especially the so called graduates.
That is why I will never marry a jobless man or a man who feel comfortable feeding from people,yahoo boys included because for me they are jobless and lazy.

you accuse men of not wanting to start from scratch but then again you dont want to be with men starting from scratch.

I don't really like men with half truth..........

safarigirl:
do men judge themselves by what they can do themselves?

Do men judge women by what they can do?

Men base their own worth on superficial things like the expensive watch they have on, the cars they are driving, the money they have. Go to the profile pictures of most men on social media, they are either flaunting a wrist watch, shoes, a car, money, or some bottles of expensive champagne in the club. I once added up a guy on sociak media, who asked this your question, to tell him that the picture he has up, flaunting wads of cash, is why only women who want money are approaching him.

The kind of people you attract says a lot of you as a person.

Do men judge themselves by what they can do? Or are they more interested in being strangers in their own bodies?

I disagree. An average women trips for what a man can offer not his ability.

This one is shading Abounce!!!


That Alibaba is giving many ladies excuses to cover up their bad conduct in previous relationships and their ridiculous specifications in a husband to be!!!

thebosstrevor:
you accuse men of not wanting to start from scratch but then again you dont want to be with men starting from scratch.

What are you using a woman to do when you are just starting? A serious-minded man should not be looking for a relationship with a woman, when he has not acquired something tangible.

A man that has no laid foundation, should not be looking for a woman to build with him. Relationship is not a must when you are young. Use your youth for something productive

kazyhm:
I disagree. An average women trips for what a man can offer not his ability.

This is what men have been conditioned to think.

Is his ability not something? What do men trip for in women? Is it their own abilities, or what they can offer?

Hamachi:
Parents also need to change the way they train their children. There is something fundamentally wrong the way they treat the male child and the girl child. Until we start to realize that there is nothing like a MALE OR FEMALE CHILD, the problem will persist.

A marriage is a partnership not an EGO TRIP UNION. If the Husband is blessed good, if its the wife good but that does not mean the husband should now become lazy-Gbenga Adeyinka

... Whether you believe or accept it or not, there's a huge difference between the male and the female. And their upbringing, duties and responsibilities are different

safarigirl:
This is what men have been conditioned to think.

Is his ability not something? What do men trip for in women? Is it their own abilities, or what they can offer?

Women have been conditioned to depend on men even if they have the world.........it would never be enough.
If not a woman with a very good job should sustain the family not nagging and complaining about her financial advantage to every Tom, Dick and Harry.

Ali baba said but a half truth. Don't think his position is absolute reality.

solmusdesigns:



Someone should tell these folks : marriage doesnt need love to work

Marriages needs commitment and daily sacrifice from both parties involved

Human beings have been marrying and making families since Hundreds of years Ago 100.000 years before Christ.. and 90% of this marriages were arranged marriages, that started from very young age like 16 to old age and no case of divorce despite differences,

All of a sudden we started forgeting our roles in family building and comuinity building for trival things like love and gender equalities and since 1930s till date things have been astronomically getting bad for the marriage instituition


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... Hope you don't mind a cold iced cream in this chill weather.
You've made a lot of sense

Sterope:
@thebolded, it is a YES


Look at the example he gave. He wasn't talking about being jobless.

Ok

kazyhm:
Women have been conditioned to depend on men even if they have the world.........it would never be enough.
If not a woman with a very good job should sustain the family not nagging and complaining about her financial advantage to every Tom, Dick and Harry.

Ali baba said but a half truth. Don't think his position is absolute reality.

women with goos jobs sustain the family, but how many men want to be with such women?

A lot of families in Nigeria today, are being sustained by women, they will lie that it is their husbands bringing all the money. A lot of you are not conversant with what happens today, you just buy that narrative, because insecure men are spinning tales where there is none.

And no matter how much someone wants to provide for a family, there will be moments when the weight is too much and they need someone to assist, what happens when the other partner cannot? Women have been suffering abuse from male breadwinners for centuries and nobody has said a thing, but men get the same thing they have been dishing for generations for a few years, and they are nagging up and down about being unfairly treated?

You think when some women say they want to make their own money, they are just talking? We know the abuse that comes with dependence. Nobody likes a liability in the long run.

safarigirl:
do men judge themselves by what they can do themselves?

Do men judge women by what they can do?

Men base their own worth on superficial things like the expensive watch they have on, the cars they are driving, the money they have. Go to the profile pictures of most men on social media, they are either flaunting a wrist watch, shoes, a car, money, or some bottles of expensive champagne in the club. I once added up a guy on sociak media, who asked this your question, to tell him that the picture he has up, flaunting wads of cash, is why only women who want money are approaching him.

The kind of people you attract says a lot of you as a person.

Do men judge themselves by what they can do? Or are they more interested in being strangers in their own bodies?

Yes MEN JUDGE THEMSELVES on abilities more than anything that is why men stay longer aa friends. This you know. men have the ability to stay friends for long than females. Its classification that brought about this issue and we know who made this an issue.

Men hardly have issues with esteem until money was placed above ability so what men do now ia make money anyhow to the detriment of other attribute.

Did men suddenly wake up and started flaunting cash or women flooded those with cash which made those without it believe that's what most women want?

I will bring back this call to men that they should not let society drive them off the cliff

Stay in your line, run your race, compete with no one and let no one pressure you into what they want you to be.

safarigirl:
women with goos jobs sustain the family, but how many men want to be with such women?

A lot of families in Nigeria today, are being sustained by women, they will lie that it is their husbands bringing all the money. A lot of you are not conversant with what happens today, you just buy that narrative, because insecure men are spinning tales where there is none.

And no matter how much someone wants to provide for a family, there will be moments when the weight is too much and they need someone to assist, what happens when the other partner cannot? Women have been suffering abuse from male breadwinners for centuries and nobody has said a thing, but men get the same thing they have been dishing for generations for a few years, and they are nagging up and down about being unfairly treated?

You think when some women say they want to make their own money, they are just talking? We know the abuse that comes with dependence. Nobody likes a liability in the long run.

A woman feeding the family nag the husband to death or always remind whoever cares she's in charge. especially in Nigeria so its a public truth.

safarigirl:
women with goos jobs sustain the family, but how many men want to be with such women?

A lot of families in Nigeria today, are being sustained by women, they will lie that it is their husbands bringing all the money. A lot of you are not conversant with what happens today, you just buy that narrative, because insecure men are spinning tales where there is none.

And no matter how much someone wants to provide for a family, there will be moments when the weight is too much and they need someone to assist, what happens when the other partner cannot? Women have been suffering abuse from male breadwinners for centuries and nobody has said a thing, but men get the same thing they have been dishing for generations for a few years, and they are nagging up and down about being unfairly treated?

You think when some women say they want to make their own money, they are just talking? We know the abuse that comes with dependence. Nobody likes a liability in the long run.

OK....now you're coming home.....when you say "a lot of families" that just a trivial statement not a fact. We re all brought up by family and later find out the positions of our parent in terms of responsibility now that we re more mature.......not some emotional reality of our mothers..


Men have been sustaining families from time immemorial without blowing trumpet about it.

Everybody judge men based on their financial capabilities.... So when life happens, men re seen as lazy ....i think men deserves better. I think men re under too much pressure on many levels. Times re changing fast, there's much competition now more than ever and a man must thrive but he can't ve it all.

Ybaby:
The solution to this problem is simple.

Ladies stop giving poor men the puussycat - trust me! Adam was incredibly lazy that Eve had to be created to entice Adam to work.

The only way Lazy men can have a little ambition is if you do not entertain them.

Lazy men are happy to dance soapy - let them! Give the soap and vaseline - only gravitate towards men with means.

Thank you.

Depends on if definition of lazy...

safarigirl:
What are you using a woman to do when you are just starting? A serious-minded man should not be looking fir a relationship with a woman, when he has not acquired something tangible.

A Mann that has no laid foundation, should not be looking for a woman to build with him. Relationship is not a must when you are young. Use your your for something productive

i think this is bias and one sided. but if that is what you want, let it be

basically what you have just written down confirms that the only reason a woman can be with a man is what she can benefit from him, so why shouldnt the man look at her as his property?

so why then should a woman act territorial for a man's hard earn wealth

i also believe a serious minded woman should also look for a job instead of depending on a man for her needs

the reality is this only very few Nigerian women are ambitious.

thebosstrevor:
i think this is bias and one sided. but if that is what you want, let it be

basically what you have just written down confirms that the only reason a woman can be with a man is what she can benefit from him, so why shouldnt the man look at her as his property?

so why then should a woman act territorial for a man's hard earn wealth

i also believe a serious minded woman should also look for a job instead of depending on a man for her needs

the reality is this only very few Nigerian women are ambitious.

why should anyone be in a relationship when they have not built themselves at all?

Both the men and the women going into relationships are doing it for the wrong reasons and that is why thos generation has such a high divorce rate.

Where did I say that women who have nothing should be in a relationship? Or did you just assume that because I said a man who hasn't built himself has no business in a relationship, the same shouldn't apply to women?

Both of my parents were working together. My mother paid fees for two kids, my father paid for only one. The family I grew up in does not encourage a situation where only one person is the breadwinner and the other person lazes around.

If you have nothing, stay away from relationships and build yourself. EOD

somehow:
A woman feeding the family nag the husband to death or always remind whoever cares she's in charge. especially in Nigeria so its a public truth.

It is not a public truth, it is your truth.

Pavarottii:
Depends on if definition of lazy...

If your goal is to fetch a bucket of water from the ocean. yea?

You now see an empty bucket and a table spoon. Yea? Are you following?

You now pick the table spoon and start using it to fetch water to pour in the bucket. Yea?

It will take you over 23 hours, you will be tired, sweaty, weary, hungry but still lazy and unaccomplished and incredibly foolish

Check out the parable of the 10 virgins Matthew 25

Note your potential as a man and understand you do not have a bumbum to twist and all the roofs in the world were fixed there by men not one woman - so roll up your sleeve and get to work on your goals.

As a man your financial clock is ticking!

somehow:
A woman feeding the family nag the husband to death or always remind whoever cares she's in charge. especially in Nigeria so its a public truth.

Absolutely true and I am a woman.

The female ego is a raging bull dog. Never let a woman feed the family except you want her to ride you.

Be the man ! the provider the protector so she can be soft and feminine.

slowice:
Everybody judge men based on their financial capabilities.... So when life happens, men re seen as lazy ....i think men deserves better. I think men re under too much pressure on many levels. Times re changing fast, there's much competition now more than ever and a man must thrive but he can't ve it all.

Joker!

because he got pregnant for 9 months and breastfed the baby for 8 months ....awon alawada.... cover your face and see a doctor for some testosterone shots because I bet you only last 10 secs too.

somehow:
Yes MEN JUDGE THEMSELVES on abilities more than anything that is why men stay longer aa friends. This you know. men have the ability to stay friends for long than females. Its classification that brought about this issue and we know who made this an issue.

Men hardly have issues with esteem until money was placed above ability so what men do now ia make money anyhow to the detriment of other attribute.

Did men suddenly wake up and started flaunting cash or women flooded those with cash which made those without it believe that's what most women want?

I will bring back this call to men that they should not let society drive them off the cliff

Stay in your line, run your race, compete with no one and let no one pressure you into what they want you to be.

This is the summary of this whole issue!!
Men should not let society drive them off the cliff.
Stay in your lane
Compete with no one
And don't let anyone pressure you
Men need to get this


And one was saying that men are lazy, can you imagine. I am sorry for the man that will end up with such a woman

safarigirl:
why should anyone be in a relationship when they have not built themselves at all?

Both the men and the women going into relationships are doing it for the wrong reasons and that is why thos generation has such a high divorce rate.

Where did I say that women who have nothing should be in a relationship? Or did you just assume that because I said a man who hasn't built himself has no business in a relationship, the same shouldn't apply to women?

Both of my parents were working together. My mother paid fees for two kids, my father paid for only one. The family I grew up in does not encourage a situation where only one person is the breadwinner and the other person lazes around.

If you have nothing, stay away from relationships and build yourself. EOD

if this is what you have written at first, you would had made lot of sense.


the bedrock of relationship is when both parties are working, it doesnt necessarily stop divorce but it surely improve the couple financial situation.

safarigirl:
It is not a public truth, it is your truth.

I'm not here to argue blindly. put a poll up and see for yourself.

safarigirl:
What are you using a woman to do when you are just starting? A serious-minded man should not be looking fir a relationship with a woman, when he has not acquired something tangible.

A Mann that has no laid foundation, should not be looking for a woman to build with him. Relationship is not a must when you are young. Use your your for something productive

I wish I could like this 10 times. Women are like cars toyota or ferrari if you have small money carry toyota (moderately beautiful woman) if you have no money at all use Okada ( soap and vaseline) if you are a chairman (sugardaddy) get a ferrari ( very pretty woman). If you are too lazy to get Okada join Bobrisky and let your fellow men do you and give you money. All simple!
If you dare try a short cut go to village (Ike Ogbonna) and bring a Ferrari (Sofia) to the City - A sugardaddy will still steal her from you with your child calling him daddy - moral of the story : as a man double your hustle!

kazyhm:
Women have been conditioned to depend on men even if they have the world.........it would never be enough.
If not a woman with a very good job should sustain the family not nagging and complaining about her financial advantage to every Tom, Dick and Harry.

Ali baba said but a half truth. Don't think his position is absolute reality.

It is not conditioning it is natural. The animals are also like that. Nigeria is over 50 years old no woman has ever been president and I doubt vice president sef. ..... it is a man's world go out there and be a man amongst your fellow men